Shiamatch V. Shiaspouse V. Heavenlymatch V. Shaadi

[TYE]

Just curious, what are people's opinions of: ShiaMatch v. ShiaSpouse v. HeavenlyMatch v. Shaadi? 

 

How many Shias are on each site?

 

What types of people (particularly in level of being conservative/liberal, being in the U.S.-Canada versus elsewhere) are on these websites? 

 

Has anyone had or heard of anybody having success in finding their spouse on any of these websites?:

 

The links are:

 

http://shiamatch.com/

http://www.shiaspouse.com/

https://heavenlymatch.muslimcongress.org/

http://www.shaadi.com/

 

Salaams,

TYE

[Logical Islamic]

I had a friend who met their spouse on shia-match, two infact.

 

I personally believe it is key to be careful when using the sites, women and men included, make sure you do your research and involve parents from day one and weed out anything strange.

 

If you find a good match it can truly work.

[King]

Try shiachat.com, better watch out for the holier than thou seemingly perfect and pious copy paste hadith hijabis though.

Edited June 15, 2014 by King

[skylight2]

there are probably a 100 or so shias on these online matchmaking sites, and the same ones are everywhere - so it probably don't matter which one you chose the same ones sign up everywhere ... better to try the family network approach, more reliable - and likely more extensive - and probably even safer. 

[Muhammed Ali]

 

Has anyone had or heard of anybody having success in finding their spouse on any of these websites?:

 

 

I know of a few people who met their spouses on these types of sites. These are decent people that I know off. One of them is an Islamic lecturer (I am sure some of you know him). He has amazing amazing akhlaq and is very wealthy and intelligent. Made his wealth outside of lecturing. I was surprised to hear that he and his wife met online, but then I thought about it - how else could they have met? If they relied on the traditional methods then there would be very little chance that they would meet.

 

It's a shame that most in our communities shun the use of technology because of their irrational attitudes. How much easier would it be if all single shia were listed in a good database (these sites do need improving) and could search for their spouses using it? The traditional methods are very difficult to work with.

Edited July 2, 2014 by Muhammed Ali

[Logical Islamic]

On 6/15/2014 at 9:21 PM, Muhammed Ali said:

I know of a few people who met their spouses on these types of sites. These are decent people that I know off. One of them is an Islamic lecturer (I am sure some of you know him). He has amazing amazing akhlaq and is very wealthy and intelligent. Made his wealth outside of lecturing. I was surprised to hear that he and his wife met online, but then I thought about it - how else could they have met? If they relied on the traditional methods then there would be very little chance that they would meet.

It's a shame that most in our communities shun the use technology because of their irrational attitudes. How much easier would it be if all single shia were listed in a good database (these sites do need improving) and could search for their spouses using it? The traditional methods are very difficult to work with.

Let me echoe this:

These days, it's akward for some to go through family, especially for young students or converts. ShiaMatch is excellent if you stay careful and are not naive with it.

[El Cid]

Anyone who wants to venture in this realm should know, success stories don't occur often. It's more of a stroke of luck. Shiamatch or any other similar site is as fruitful as a dating website, any general one. For every one girl, there are a hundred guys. And if you send a proposal to one girl, she's already going through a hundred more before you. These odds are clearly not in your favour. You may have a chance with widows though. So before signing up, read what I just said. So you don't start picking out faults in yourself or your self-esteem lowers. It's not you, it's them. 

[Night_Inshallah]

I was having difficulty registering on shiamatch.com

Why doesn't ShiaChat have a section for those who are looking?

[El Cid]

I was having difficulty registering on shiamatch.com

Why doesn't ShiaChat have a section for those who are looking?

 

Because we're not a dating website and matchmaking is frowned up here. Imagine our sisters being harassed by men looking for "proposals".

[Marbles]

Why doesn't ShiaChat have a section for those who are looking?

 

That would be disastrous.

 

In any case it is against the site rules to solicit marriage. But you can't stop members from chatting up and going off the site to push the matter further, which then ceases to be SC's problem, of which there are a number of examples known to old members, some ending in heartbreak, some resulting in happy marriages, the latest of which is....

 

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Edited June 16, 2014 by Marbles

[Abu Hadi]

On 6/16/2014 at 8:58 AM, Night_Inshallah said:

I was having difficulty registering on shiamatch.com

Why doesn't ShiaChat have a section for those who are looking?

 

If this is done in a respectable manner, and there is no harassment or bad aklaq involved, 

I don't have a problem with it. I can't speak for the other mods but there are many who agree with me on this, and some who don't. 

 

The site itself cannot explicitly have a policy or facilitate this directly because

1) This is not a matchmaking site and 

2) The mod team is not in agreement about whether this is a good idea or not. There are both positive and negative consequences to doing this, some think there are more negatives than positives, and some vice versa.

Like the br said above, there are members here who met thru the site and ended up getting married.

It has happened several or many times depending on who you ask. 

If you do begin cooresponding with someone thru the site with the intention of marriage, check them out offline before you make any commitments and if you don't have the ability to check them out offline

then I, personally, wouldn't go forward with it, IMO. 

[~RuQaYaH~]

I met my husband on a website called singlemuslim.com and alhamdulilah we have been happily married for 1.5years now. The website is not shia specific, however, there are lots of shia's on there and the search function allows you to search by sect. I was on shiamatch aswell but I liked the layout and functionality of singlemuslim better. That said, no harm in putting up a profile in a few different sites to maximise the chance of finding the right person. Obviously, you need to be careful with online platforms and good at identifying the type of person you're looking for but needless to say I would highly recommend it to all who are seriously looking.

[hasanhh]

I know a few who have successful marriages and used web-matching.

 

The big advantage is that you can talk/write with and find some who are 'compatible' without being at risk, especially if you use a library or web café inter-link.

 

I also seriously suggest that since you or anyone else are not likely to find someone close to where your family is, that you hire a private investigator.

 

Check not only for general records but also 'hidden' debt.