Valid Reason For Divorce?

[Mlle. Advice]

salaam

 

 

not another divorce thread, i promise, but i wanna get you guys' opinion on this. do you guys think this is a valid reason for a husband to divorce his wife?? just answer brief yes or no. I'll make the story brief:

 

so i just started university again last week and was catching up with my friend, she's from Morocco. she just told me her older sister back home just got divorced after 3 years of marriage. so here's why: she has a sinus & allergy problem and it started getting worse causing her to get something like chronic bad breath (my friend told me scientific name is Halitosis), then her husband couldn't approach her cuz of her bad breath, on top of that she refused to take medication for her sinuses. so the husband divorced her all together cuz of bad breath making him not stand going near her.

 

is it just me or do I feel this is the most stupidest reason for divorce?? I was shocked and disgusted all at once when she told me this. sinuses/ allergies is not a big deal, millions of Americans have it, it's so so small issue. what have become of Muslims today & this world?? 

 

 

what you guys think?? valid reason or stupid? 

[baqar]

I wouldn't marry a woman with a bad breath either if she insists on not taking medication to address the problem.

[a human]

That is a stupid reason. But it could have been prevented if she took medication. I think if they were actually spiritually compatible he would not have divorced her for such a small reason.

[Marbles]

It may be the stupidest reason but I'm sure there is much more to it than meets the eye. It would be very interesting to know why the woman refused medication and how and why husband failed to persuade her.

 

Now that I have got the template, I can almost write a full short story out of it.

[notme]

I'm in agreement with the crowd here. Yes, it would be a crazy reason for divorce, but unless there were terrible side effects, why would she refuse medication?

[Waiting for HIM]

Yes.. 

 

Knowing the problem and not taking measures (medicine) is an early sign of mental illness (abnormal behavior) and lack of consideration on her part for her husband's wishes (or common sense).

 

Husbands are known to stick with their wives through cancers, Hepatitis Cs (a few years ago this was incurable), chronic problems down there causing a zero physical marital lives as long as women are sincerely doing something about it. Was not the husband's fault in this case.  

Edited February 13, 2014 by Waiting for HIM

[HamzaTR]

Salam. If there was love between them, such things would not be a problem. In fact the husband would not see the 'faults' of the wife and make it an 'excuse' to divorce. And the wife wouldn't reject medication, for she would try to be healthy and look, smell, and breath beautiful for and to her husband. So, no, that is not an excuse for both sides. They just did not have love for each other and did not deserve to stay in marriage. And, right, I think there should be no reason for divorce in a marriage unless cheating. ma salam

Edited February 13, 2014 by HamzaTR

[Mlle. Advice]

Yes.. 

 

Knowing the problem and not taking measures (medicine) is an early sign of mental illness (abnormal behavior) and lack of consideration on her part for her husband's wishes (or common sense).

 

Husbands are known to stick with their wives through cancers, Hepatitis Cs (a few years ago this was incurable), chronic problems down there causing a zero physical marital lives as long as women are sincerely doing something about it. Was not the husband's fault in this case.  

 

wrong , its known that wives are most likely to stick with their husbands in times of need more than the husband ever can. if husbands were known to stick with their wives then why do most of them re-marry another to satisfy himself ?? even you're always saying that.

It may be the stupidest reason but I'm sure there is much more to it than meets the eye. It would be very interesting to know why the woman refused medication and how and why husband failed to persuade her.

 

Now that I have got the template, I can almost write a full short story out of it.

 

i'm not exactly sure why she's refusing medication , my friend didn't address that reason, but the focus was on the cause of divorce and how crazy & stupid it sounds. cuz she herself was SO shocked as well.

Edited February 13, 2014 by Mlle. Advice

[Grief]

(bismillah)

 

wrong , its known that wives are most likely to stick with their husbands in times of need more than the husband ever can.

 

"It is known" :lol:.

 

My grandfather stayed with my grandmother when she had a brain tumor. He never left her side. When she died, I saw him whispering to her dead body.

 

It's just a matter of whether there is love between them or not. If I loved my wife, I could never leave her in the time of sickness. Our Prophet (pbuh) has told us to stay by their side as well.

 

So don't generalize :P.

 

(wasalam)

[Ali Musaaa :)]

I wouldn't marry a woman with a bad breath either if she insists on not taking medication to address the problem.

 

Couldn't agree more. 

[Mlle. Advice]

 

So don't generalize :P.

 

it's the truth , but im not generalizing im just saying what u would most likely find in today's society...if u watched Arabic tv u would definitely know what im talking about......

[Fatima Hussain]

I'm in agreement with the crowd here. Yes, it would be a crazy reason for divorce, but unless there were terrible side effects, why would she refuse medication?

Yeah, I think people are making unnecessary judgments here.  Some medications have VERY unpleasant side effects.  No one in their right mind would say "Oh, I just love my bad breath, why would I change it?"...

Yes.. 

 

Knowing the problem and not taking measures (medicine) is an early sign of mental illness (abnormal behavior) and lack of consideration on her part for her husband's wishes (or common sense).

 

Husbands are known to stick with their wives through cancers, Hepatitis Cs (a few years ago this was incurable), chronic problems down there causing a zero physical marital lives as long as women are sincerely doing something about it. Was not the husband's fault in this case.  

 

Before you jump to the conclusion that she is mentally ill and an inconsiderate wife, have you thought maybe the medication has terrible side effects??  

And then of course there is a possibility that what we are hearing is not true.  Bad breath could have just been what the husband told her or she told people...There could have been problems they did not wish to disclose.

Edited February 14, 2014 by Fatima Hussain

[King]

In all likelihood the marriage already suffered from more deep rooted issues.

[Gypsy]

It's hard to say if this is a valid reason for divorce or not because I think people get divorce when they reach their threshold. And that threshold is very different for everyone.

 

Most of the common reasons for divorce that I've seen in the community are money, interference from extended family (in laws), abusive spouse, different aspiration in life, infidelity, sexual incompatibility ..etc

 

Again, everyone has a different threshold and we just can't predict when someone would not be able to tolerate their marriage. 

Edited February 15, 2014 by Gypsy

[Waiting for HIM]

 

Before you jump to the conclusion that she is mentally ill and an inconsiderate wife, have you thought maybe the medication has terrible side effects??  

And then of course there is a possibility that what we are hearing is not true.  Bad breath could have just been what the husband told her or she told people...There could have been problems they did not wish to disclose.

 

I'm not saying she IS mentally ill. Not taking the medication is the indication of mental imbalance 

wrong , its known that wives are most likely to stick with their husbands in times of need more than the husband ever can. if husbands were known to stick with their wives then why do most of them re-marry another to satisfy himself ?? even you're always saying that.

 

The reason I said what I said was I don't want to read through another "Man Haters" thread here. :)

 

With only two data points into a life of a couple, the OP wanted our opinion and based on these TWO data points, of an otherwise multi-dimensional issue, rest of us are giving our opinions.   

Edited February 15, 2014 by Waiting for HIM

[Mlle. Advice]

I'm not saying she IS mentally ill. Not taking the medication is the indication of mental imbalance

The reason I said what I said was I don't want to read through another "Man Haters" thread here. :)

With only two data points into a life of a couple, the OP wanted our opinion and based on these

TWO data points, of an otherwise multi-

dimensional issue, rest of us are giving our

opinions.

Lol its not meant to be a man haters thread...hahaha why would I do that? not all men are the same. i was just shocked by the story & wanted to know if other ppl would find it stupid like I did?

really, there are lots of man haters threads on SC?? I didn't know that!

[Fatima Hussain]

I'm not saying she IS mentally ill. Not taking the medication is the indication of mental imbalance 

Side effects??  My mum used to take a medication for her bronchitis that made her pee every time she coughed so she had to quit.  The lady might also have tonsil stones due to tonsil inflammation associated with sinus issues that are causing the bad breath.  Some people get lots of them and they can be removed or have tonsils taken out to prevent them.

Edited February 16, 2014 by Fatima Hussain