Monitor Your Teens More

[Cover My Face]

There are millions of videos about fan girls crying over a celebrity, but what makes this video awful, is this girl, whom I'm assuming is Muslim from her name, is crying over wanting to meet some boy band. ( I know that there are a number of non-Muslims out there who have Islamic names,so I'm just assuming she is.) The part I find very tasteless is when this teenage girl saying that she is willing to allow this singer do explicit things to her, just so she can meet him. Whether she is Muslim or not is irrelevant to me, but it did some what ignite a spark in me to caution parents to monitor their teenagers and to try to instill in them more values. This could have been anyone's daughter being taped and put on Youtube, and I'd like to think it would be shameful for any parent to see. It's no different than if you caught your teen texting an explicit picture of themselves. So make sure your children are moving in the correct path, and don't let them post anything on social networks that they might later regret.

 

***I just removed the link, because even though it does make a statement to what I'm saying, I just realized I don't want to link a video to expose the shame of this girl even more. You all don't need to see it, just take the moral of this post and  caution of your teen. Thanks.

Edited January 6, 2014 by Cover My Face

[EthidiumIodide]

Please delete this. The girl has no hijab, she is wailing which narrations from the Prophet have stated is reprehensible, and she discusses graphic intimate actions with a na-mahram.

This is not the result of poor parenting. This is the result of a poor culture. I used to say things like this when I was 17-18, never on video though, and my parents raised me in a way that they thought would make me a strong Shia. But it doesn't matter even you are Nuh AS, if your children go astray, they go astray and especially in this culture, Islamic training can only go so far.

[Cover My Face]

Hi  Ethidiumlodide, I deleted the link even before I read your post,because by posting  the videoI was contradicting my entire point . But I still think  the message in this thread is important so I won't delete my post.  And I agree with you that culture plays a big role for the child and there is only so much parents can do, but they should try harder to  monitor what their children put online . What happens in cyber space, stays in cyber space. That's why it is crucial for parents to take heed.

Edited January 6, 2014 by Cover My Face

[notme]

Monitoring their activity can only go so far. Instilling values is far more important. Teens/adult children may still go astray and do stupid things, but they will remember what they learned and inshallah will come back to their senses.

This is not to say parents shouldn't monitor - they should. But that monitoring and punishing transgressions isn't going to do a thing in the long run if the parents don't teach and lead by example.