Article: The Muslim Marriage Crisis

[coldcow]

http://muslimmatters.org/2013/09/27/muslim-marriage-crisis/

 

Not bad.  Makes many valid points.  Gives you some things to consider whether you're looking to get married, or looking for someone else.

[coffee.and.books]

Read a large portion of it - It draws a very cold image of marriage in Islam - inshaAllah the organizations that aid marriages become more effective.

 

The part about the hijab is very true - many Iraqi men in my community now specifically ask for a non-hijaby - and that places a pressure on the hijabi ladies. I've lost count to how many women have taken off their hijab - I'm sure the removal of the hijab is an indirect trend from the mens' selection process.

 

Sad - sad...  

[ShiaBen]

I looked at the beginning of the article. The part about the women in the 30ies (In Farsi they use the adjective "Torshide").

 

I've seen a few in my family and I've seen them a lot in Iran as well recently.

 

The problem could vary. Sometimes it is the girl (i.e. wants someone who is rich and well-educated at the same time).

 

In Iran, those that are well-educated, tend to have modest income, while those that are rich, tend to not be educated/have degrees as they're strictly successful businessmen who don't need it.

 

In other situations it is not so much the girl's problem. It could be the girl's retarded mother who ends up scaring off potential suitors by making ridiculous comments or suggestions and engaging in ridiculous inappropriate discussions that paint red flags in the potential suitors minds.

 

This article is about American Muslims so the problems are different. Racism/prejudice depends on what the individual expects. If someone has strong ties with the cultural background of their parents, obviously their options will narrow down. Then there's the issue of family interference. Income differences etc.

[islamicsoldier]

This is an interesting article

[Ali_Hussain]

At any Muslim marriage event, there are more females attendees than males. The ISNA marriage banquet sold out for the women's section weeks in advance, while men strolled in at the last minute. Al Rahmah Marriage Bureau in Baltimore has two women for every man in its database.

 

wow, I would have thought it was the other way around, on the websites, there always seem to be two or three times as many men than women.

Edited October 22, 2014 by Ali_Hussain

[coldcow]

At any Muslim marriage event, there are more females attendees than males. The ISNA marriage banquet sold out for the women's section weeks in advance, while men strolled in at the last minute. Al Rahmah Marriage Bureau in Baltimore has two women for every man in its database.

 

wow, I would have thought it was the other way around, on the websites, there always seem to be two or three times as many men than women.

 

My assumption would be that there are lots of Muslim men that want to fool around online with girls, and either aren't serious about marriage, or are just flat out perverts.  It's very similar to how you see videos popping up of "men" in Muslim countries assaulting or harassing women in the streets.  In the streets they've got strength in numbers.  Online they've got anonymity.  Either way they think they can get away with doing things they don't have the guts to do by themselves in person.

 

So.  Women tend to not do those kind of things and aren't into such things online.  So the ones that show up to these events and register at online site are probably serious about marriage.

 

That's my opinion.