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Women in the Nahjul Balagha: A Psychological Perspective

Author: Maryam Moin al-Islam

 

 

The difference between men and women according to Imam Ali (P) from the psychological perspective

One of the other important principles, which should be considered about women, and therefore, one should refer to Imam Ali (a.s), is the physical-psychological differences between men and women.

 

The intellectual and emotional differences between men and women

One of the undeniable differences between men and women relates to the intellect and feelings. Of course, it should be noted that by intellect, it means theoretical intellect, since in practical intellect, women are not less than men and they are even sometimes better. In other words, theoretical, analytical, philosophical, hypothetical, and socio-political intellects are wider and stronger in men.

In general, pure reason, mathematics, and pure theoretical intellects are more active in men than women, but practical intellect which relates to human perfection and progress is equal in men and women.[1]

Though the world of intellect, feelings and vision of women are different, these matters have no role in evaluating human beings. Practical intellect, which relates to human’s perfection and progress, is equal in men and women. Deduction, inductive reasoning, and solving mathematical equations are only skills, not human values.

And if men and women are different in this view and the quantity of such power is not equal in them, it does not mean at all that one is superior to the other especially because men and women are equal in perceiving life, divine knowledge, and the development of morals and determination, which are related to practical intellect. Perceiving some of the fine emotional realities are easier for women than men, and women are even more powerful in such perceptions. [2]

Anyway, one of the differences between men and women relates to reasoning faculty and psychologists have given attention to it.

M. S. Lamber says: “In a woman the reasoning faculty is imperfect since her powerful emotions amuses her deceitfully. Although women are clever and can perceive things fast, their minds have no connection and adherence in social matters.” [3]

One of the differences, which Imam Ali (a.s) has noted in describing the extent of intellect between men and women, is the matter of imperfect intellect in Sermon 80 [Nahj al-Balaghah]. As we told before, this imperfection does not mean imperfection of value at all. It only means that women are weaker comparing to men in subjects related to theoretical and pure matters, and such an imperfection has no serious repercussion on the perfection and progress of women in superiority fields.

Besides, the difference in the extent of theoretical intellect, the other difference between men and women, exists in their feelings and emotions. It is natural that women are more emotional because of their motherhood and fellowship mission. This matter by itself is so valuable for women since instincts and emotions in a human being are the origin of any activity and motion. As psychologists have interpreted, the main engine for permanent activity in a human being is emotions and feelings and their type, intensity, and weakness has a special effect on individual and social life of a person.

One should search for the key of prosperity and misery of a person in the good or poor condition of his feelings. MacDegal says: “Regulation and equilibrium of emotions and feelings is a basis for the perfection of personality and the personality of an individual originates generally from the intensity and weakness of his feelings.”

Since emotions and feelings are more powerful in women, therefore, the intellectual cognition of women is influenced more by the emotions and feelings. However, men are influenced less by their feelings and thus women are more powerful in emotional matters. As a result, men and women need each other to fill these vacuums. Men need women because of their emotions and women need men for their intellect.

In other words, the intellectual imperfections of a woman are compensated by the intellectual perfection of a man and the emotional imperfection of a man is compensated by the emotional perfection of a woman. As the human life and his perfection require both intellectual and emotional perfection, man and woman together make a complete human unit.

Imam Ali (a.s) in Nahj al-Balaghah says explicitly: “Women are in shortage of wisdom and faith.”

This is not a value or quality imperfection. It is only because of the powerful emotions of women and their effects on perceptions and this matter leads to the imperfection of intellect in women. [4]

The difference in the scope of obligations and responsibilities between a wife and a husband

One of the existing differences between men and women as Imam Ali (a.s) has pointed out, is the difference in the field of obligations and responsibilities.

As we explained in the previous chapter though the pure intelligence and universal intellect is more powerful in men, the bigness of a man’s skull, the heaviness of his brain, and the power of his theoretical intellect cannot mean that they are nearer to the Divine realities and thus can perceive the realities of existence better. Even one can say that men see life and perceive realities based on their theoretical intellect and senses, but women have more immediate and intuitive knowledge while men perceive the realities by empirical and acquired knowledge. A man stares at the realities in the mirror of her nature. [5]

Since the intellect has been referred to as the practice of religion and practical virtue in most of the traditions and the remarks of infallible Imams (a.s) and what makes a human superior in the Divine portal is his virtue and that virtue is developed by the pious deeds, the weakness and limitation of the theoretical intellect in women won’t do any damage to their faithfulness and devotion, but women are able to communicate with Allah faster and better because of their delicate and direct soul which they have in life.

Men and women are equal in perceiving life, divine knowledge, and the development of morals and determination, which relate to practical intellect. Perceiving some of the fine emotional realities are easier for women than men, and women are even more powerful in such perceptions.

In general, one should say that it is a difficult task for a man to reach the practical virtue and moral perfection due to his powerful instincts, sensual inclinations and also the possession of rigid, irresistible, and inflexible morale which leads to egotism, selfishness, haughtiness, etc. Therefore, men have to suffer more hardships and mortifications. Women are inclined to virtue and divine faith comparing to men due to their weaknesses and limitations in their instincts and sensual inclinations and because of their fine and flexible morals. Though their level of thinking, intellectual faculty and speculative philosophy is less than that of men, women have great emotional aptitude and direct connection with life instead and are able to pass the ways of virtue, practice, commitment, theosophy, and obedience easier. Women can pass the way of the divine proximity better by the way of theosophy and intuition. [6]

Surely, psychologists also have discussed about the matters related to the women’s internal insight and their abilities to communicate better with the creatures and the Creator, but it is not possible now to talk about their theories in detail. There is an agreement between psychologists and theoreticians on this matter that women are more powerful in faithfulness and devotion due to their internal insight. M. S. Jina Lambrouz, the well-known psychologist, says: “Insight is the internal visual faculty of a woman and this hidden vision can see the result of an event before its happening and inspires her. A woman’s insight is a compass which saves her from misleading.” [7]

“Suzan Vieh”, a specialist in pharmaceutical plants, points out this and says: “All over the world men are trying to reach the internal insight and communication by the way of internal thinking while a menopausal woman reaches this level normally. [8]

To show that women were pioneers in Islam and their qualities, it is enough to say that many women accepted the religion before their husbands, and perceived its realities by the inferences and believed in it firmly while not only many men refused to accept and had doubt about it but also they tried to extinguish its light. This matter shows that women were intelligent, genius, and pioneer in piety and religiousness. Malik ibn Anas in Al-Muwatta has also said that some women had accepted Islam while their husbands had been infidels. Some of them are as follows: The daughter of Walid ibn Mughayrah who was the wife of Safwan ibn ‘Ummayah and became a Muslim before her husband, and Ummi Hakim who was the daughter of Harith ibn Hashim and the wife of Akramah ibn Abi Jahl and accepted Islam before her husband. [9] 

Imam Ali (a.s) knew the imperfection of women’s faith during their menstruation period due to the abandonment of the ritual prayer and fasting. This does not mean that the belief structure of a woman is imperfect. However, because of special physical-psychological situation of women in the period of menstruation, some of the obligations and responsibilities are not asked from them. Thus, the range and quality of the obligations of the women and men are different. Surely, this abandonment of the ritual prayer and fast may harm their beliefs and to compensate for such imperfection and deficit, Islam recommends communicating with Allah by invocation, supplication and recitation the Qur’an. During the special time of ritual prayer, it is suggested that women perform their ablutions, pray sitting on their prayer mats, and fast after the glorious month of Ramadan to compensate for those days that they cannot fast.

As such, this decrease of pressure in obligations and her deliverance is because of her special condition and a woman can prevent from its bad effects on her faith by praying and communicating with Allah. It does not mean that generally, women are imperfect in their faith, and Imam Ali (a.s)  has confirmed this imperfectness due to the abandonment of ritual prayer and fast during that period. How is it possible that women enjoy the goodly life based on the interpretation of the Qur’an and can possess all the spiritual perfection that men can enjoy but are imperfect in the structure of beliefs and personality?

 

The difference between men and women in excitements and tensions

One of the other mental differences that exist between man and woman relates to excitements, and psychologists believe that women will be excited faster comparing to men. Thus, their reactions towards events and happenings are different.

Professor Rick says: “Men and women are generally different in form and manner, besides the feelings and the extent of excitements aren’t alike and will never show the same reactions towards the events and happenings.” Jina Lambrouz says: “What make a woman to take a decision are her cordial emotions and not her intellectual preliminaries. [10]

Anyway, the speed of getting excited in a woman compared to a man is a mental difference between them, which has effects on the women’s reactions, and decisions.

Thus, Imam Ali (as) has highlighted this mental difference and has recommended: “Don’t stimulate the women’s feelings and emotions even if they offend your honors and reputations.”

The stimulation of women’s feelings and emotions may make them perform actions against the intellect and law and show unreasonable reactions because the speed of excitements makes her intellectual and sensual faculties weak and this weakness has a great effect on the women’s actions and decisions. Thus, Imam Ali (as) has recommended not making women so much excited that can lead to unreasonable behaviors.

 One of the other mental differences between men and women from the view point of psychologists and specialists is their difference in tolerating difficult and strenuous responsibilities and problems. John Gary, the famous American psychologist says: “Since a woman has a wide and open vision, others’ needs disturbs her very soon. Women concentrate on different subjects at the same time and one of the factors which disturbs women is basically because they quickly lose the power of determining the priority of affairs and they cannot decide which one to solve first. It soon leads to tension and disturbance and suddenly they feel they are incapable of doing anything. But the soberness and calm intelligence which men possess unbelievably leads to their efficiency and determination.” [11]

That’s the reason that psychologists believe that if the affairs imposed on women are more than their endurance, they will lead to mental metamorphoses. It is highly recommended that women are not forced to tolerate difficult tasks and strenuous affairs so as not to result in stress and tension.

Imam Ali (as) noted this point more than 1400 years ago and said to Imam Hassan (as) in his testament: [12]

“Don’t hold a woman responsible for more than is her capacity. Since she is a flower not a person responsible for income and expenditure.” And as it was referred already, Imam Ali (as) has recommended: “Don’t impose the heavy burden of life on women.”

 One should search for the key of prosperity and misery of a human in the good or poor health of his feelings.

The differences between men and women in the stages of  decision making and consultation:

One of the other mental differences between men and women is the difference in making a decision. As we explained before, the concentration of men and women and the open vision of women in arriving at a decision, play an important role. Women can find different solutions to deal with a problem while they are not able to concentrate and arrive at a decision. And also since women want to establish relationships with others they are more inclined to let others participate in their decision making.

On the contrary, men are able to arrive at a decision very fast because of their good concentration on problems. They first decide and later they are ready to change their decisions based on others’ information. This matter creates the difference between men and women in consultation.

As we said Jina Lambrouz says: “What makes a woman take a decision are her heart felt emotions not her intellect.” [13]

  Thus, the intense emotions and feelings that can have effects on men for decision making also have effects on women. But women often make a decision based on their feelings and emotions before taking into consideration the intellectual aspects only because of the predominance of these intense emotions and feelings. Therefore Imam Ali (a.s) said to Imam Hussain (a.s) in his testament: “Avoid consulting with a woman because her will and resolution is weak and feeble.” [14]

Surely it doesn’t negate any consultation with women since there are pious women who are mature intellectually and deserve to be consulted with.

Thus, Imam Ali (a.s)  said: “Avoid consulting with a woman except whose perfect intellect has been tested and proved.” [15]

The limitation of the theoretical intellect in women does no harm to their faithfulness and devoutness, but women are able to communicate with Allah faster and better than men because of their delicate and direct soul.

The difference between men and women in love-making and the need for affection:

  The word “love” has two different meanings for men and women. What a woman infers from love is excessive generosity and immense devotion, but men don’t devote themselves even in their most intense situations. They never want to devote themselves to women, but women love purely and limitlessness. They even forget themselves in love-making.

Mr. Jina Lambrouz says: “Women incline towards love and life matters. Women are others- oriented and are satisfied with tolerating labor which leads to the happiness of others and they are ready to suffer any pain. But men don’t care if their actions are useful for the others and they are only searching for their own satisfaction.” [16]  That is the reason that a woman is ready to grant anything she has in the way of love and affection towards her husband. She does her best to make her husband’s heart her own. When she receives less affection, she becomes kinder to attract the attention and affection of her husband.

One of the psychologists: “The best sentence that a man is able to say is “I love you darling” [17]  It will cause an irreparable damage if this essential desire of a woman isn’t considered. A woman is only alive to be a lover, and paying attention to her is the essence of life.” [18]

Imam Ali (a.s) says: “The women’s aim is men.”

Imam Sadiq (a.s) mentions women’s desire for affection and to make this affection valuable and respected. Concerning this essential desire of women he says: “ Affection towards women is the morals of the Prophets (a.s).” [19]

The woman’s role in a family is one of the most important roles since she is responsible for two main and vital tasks in the family: motherhood and communal duties. These two roles are the most essential and vital roles in establishing a healthy society.

 A woman is the manifestation of tranquillity and cordiality which are two main factors for the establishment of mental health in an individual and eventually the society. A family is the best place for men and women’s perfection and has important effects on the development and promotion of a society. A woman is the pivot of a family.

That is the reason that fulfilling the task and duty of a woman in her family has been counted as struggle in the way of Allah by Imam Ali (a.s) : “A woman’s holy struggle is the virtue of how to treat her husband.” [20]

Besides marital duties a woman is also responsible for the task of motherhood in training the children. We will contend ourselves with some glorious remarks of Imam Ali (a.s) on this topic:

 Concerning breast feeding of an infant and its role in training the child’s personality Imam Ali (a.s)  says: [21]  “No milk has the greatness and abundance of the mother’s milk.”

Imam Ali (a.s) pays so much attention to the effects of feeding an infant with his mother’s milk and the effect on the establishment of the personality and belief structures that, he would recommend others to pay attention to this point. He says: “To feed an infant with milk one should be as choosy as he is when he wants to get married, since feeding can change the nature and personality.” [22]

Imam Ali (a.s) believes that the mother’s role in the establishment of the moral virtues is very essential and says: “Moral virtues show the purity of heredity and the excellence of a family’s roots.” [23]

He also says: “Whose family’s roots are honorable, no matter if he is present or absent, his virtue and admirable qualities are with him always.” [24]

And also he says:

“Admirable habits and reasonable ethics are because of a person’s admirable heredity .” [25]

The collection of Imam Ali’s (a.s) wise sayings shows the important and central role of a mother in the training of healthy children with admirable moral virtues which is one of the most effective services in a society.

 

A Woman’s Role in the Society from the View Point of Imam Ali (a.s)

Since social systems are strongly tied to human life in the program of the Islamic system of the government and in this governmental design a woman has a special place since the social life is one of the important areas of promotion and elevation of a human towards perfection. Islam doesn’t prevent a woman’s perfection after providing them with honor and rank.

Though natural responsibilities and innate reactions of women limit their occupation (Jihad, governing and judging,}  the political arena is open to them for their activities and social partnerships. As the Prophet (SAW) has asked them to participate in social activities such as allegiance, prohibition of evil, political affairs and other social activities.

As it is pointed out women because of their special mental structures are more in danger of injury, and plots of conspirators than men are. One of the characteristics of a woman is her spiritual delicacy as well as her powerful emotions. Though this delicate morale is required for training and fulfilling her motherhood role, it should be kept under control and should be under intense training and caring, since it is always in danger of unreasonable, oppressive, and illogical exploitation and abuses.

History has shown that women have been more in danger of political abuses than men. What Imam Ali (a.s)  pointed out in the social activities of women is the extent of their weakness against injury and that they should be careful not to be abused since impostors and opportunists are lying in wait.

 Sermon 80 of Imam Ali (a.s)  after The Battle of the Camel explains the interests of women, and uncovers a reality which should be observed in events since it is a guide. It shows the level to which conspirators will go to create hostility.

Imam Ali (a.s) says: Admirable habits and reasonable ethics are because of a human being’s admirable heredity. 

The factors which increase the social vulnerability of women from Imam Ali (a.s)’s point of view:

1. The effects of their feelings and emotions on their intellectual judgments.

2. The intense excitements and reactions of women.

3. Their deficiencies in faith due to the abandonment of ritual prayers and fasting during the menstrual cycle. (The same had been pointed out in the Prophet’s (SAW) remarks.) [27]

4. Women’s aesthetic sense.

5. The feeling of wanting others and extensive communications.

As it was said these five characteristics in women make them more vulnerable in their social and religious affairs. And the collection of Imam Ali’s (a.s) remarks are just and advisable to women and those who are involved in running the society.

Nowadays it is proved in psychology that a woman who loses and devotes her own peace of mind and body because of attracting the attention of her man, is basically sick, depressed, and anxious. [28]

That is the reason that Imam Ali (a.s) has notified his son, Imam Hassan (a.s) , the necessity of controlling this sense of devotion and communication.

To sum up, from Imam Ali’s (a.s) point of view there is no hindrance in women’s social activities as both  lady Fatima (SA) and his daughter, lady Zainab (SA) had such activities.

In the government of Imam Ali (a.s) there were also ladies who were determined and firm. Those who tried to revive the Islamic values and to guard Imamate, guardianship, and Islam. Those who were firm and powerful against the plots of conspirators. One can refer to Zargha bint Adovi who was among Imam Ali’s (a.s) soldiers in the Battle of Siffin, encouraging people to help Imam Ali (a.s) She composed many eloquent poems and articles.

Among the companions of Imam Ali (a.s) one can find Soudeh, the daughter of Ashtar  Hamedani. Her properties and that of her tribe had been plundered by the soldiers of Muawiya. She went to the court of Muawiya and asked for her properties. Muawiyah reminded her of the poems which she had composed against him in the Battle of Siffin. She replied: “Of course, these poems are mine and a person like me won’t abstain from the truth because of fear.” She then confessed the love of Imam Ali (as). [29]

There were also almost 20 women among Imam Ali’s (as) companions in the Battle of Camel.

References:

1. See ‘Allamah Muhammad Taqi Ja‘fari, Sharh Nahj al-Balaghah

2. Asiyah Firuzehchi, Professor Ja‘fari and Islamic Personality of Women: A Book Review, p. 12.

3. Dr. Mahmud Behzad, Theory, Perfection and Psychology, p. 128.

4. Sayyid Mujtaba Rakavandi, Psychology of Women, p 147.

5. Asiyah Firuzehchi, op. cit

6. Sayyid Mujtaba Rakavandi, op.cit. P: 147

7. Jina Lambrouz, Psychology of Women, pp. 20-21.

8. Joan Bouris Anko, Manifestation of a Woman’s Life, p. 231.

9. Women in the Mirror of Perfection, p. 30.

10. Jina Lambrouz, Woman’s Soul, vol. 1, pp. 19-20.

11- Women, Men, Relationships, John Gary, p. 115.

12- Nahjul Balagha, letter no. 31.

13- Woman’s Soul, Vol. 1, p. 19.

14- Nahjul Balagha, letter no. 31.

15- Osul Kafi, Sheikh Koleini, Vol. 5, p. 329.

16- Psychology of Women, translated by Pari Hesam, pp. 5-8.

17- Women’s Rights, p. 89.

18- Philosophic Pleasure, Will Durant, p. 141.

19- Osul Kafi, Sheikh Koleini, Vol. 5, p. 320.

20- Man la Yahzaroho ul Faqih, Vol. 3, p. 429.

21- Wassail ash Shi’a, Vol. 15, p. 175.

22- Ibid. Vol. 25, p. 188.

23- Ghorar ul Hikam. p. 379.

24- Ibid. p. 327.

25- Ibid. p. 379.

26- Zane Rooz Journal, No. 1114.

27- Menhajul Bera’t fi Sharhe Nahjul Balagha, Vol. 5, p. 304.

28- Anger of Our Age, p. 155.

29- A’alam An-Nisa, Vol. 2, p.9.

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MashaAllah very well done!!

Such a amazing and in depth topic for us woman. Well done!

May Allah SWT reward you greatly.

Ma Salaams

Salaam sister,

I am not the author of this piece. It's an interesting read, but I am not sure I agree with many points. It's up for debate. :)

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which points are you in disagreement with? :)

I kind of have a problem with the way the author addresses or attempts to explain certain excerpts of Nahjul Balagha. From among a couple these two explanations bothered me a lot.

[17] -" It will cause an irreparable damage if this essential desire of a woman isn’t considered. A woman is only alive to be a lover, and paying attention to her is the essence of life.” [18]

I mean what is this? I personally find this degrading. Woman are not that shallow. The whole article she builds a theme of how wonderful women are in their creation, but with this one sentence it completely obliterates the idea.

and this...

 But men don’t care if their actions are useful for the others and they are only searching for their own satisfaction.” [16]

 

Way to completely crush the integrity of a man!

 

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I kind of have a problem with the way the author addresses or attempts to explain certain excerpts of Nahjul Balagha. From among a couple these two explanations bothered me a lot.

[17] -" It will cause an irreparable damage if this essential desire of a woman isn’t considered. A woman is only alive to be a lover, and paying attention to her is the essence of life.” [18]

I mean what is this? I personally find this degrading. Woman are not that shallow. The whole article she builds a theme of how wonderful women are in their creation, but with this one sentence it completely obliterates the idea.

and this...

But men don’t care if their actions are useful for the others and they are only searching for their own satisfaction.” [16]

Way to completely crush the integrity of a man!

I believe what the author is trying to say about "woman only alive to be a lover" is May be 2 things

1 a woman was built for a man (love)

2 a woman if given the right attention to their essence of nature is built/ created with love (emotion) not just for the man but her children as well.

As foe the man part I thinks she's trying to say a man has a animal side to them which a man can contain. He must learn to contain this. Man has ego and this is a lot of men's struggle.

As woman deal with emotion I believe each woman can strive to control these emotions. Not every woman can.

Once we right our own nafs then we can start to get closer to Allah. (ego,emotions, jealousy etc)

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There are some gross generalisations in this article and it seems to contradict itself in places (i started to skip read half-way through to be fair). It seems to be supposing that, historically you dont find many female philosophers, scientists or politicians (or at least, less compared to male) because of a natural lack in women, rather than because of a situation that has been environmentally determined/influenced. But, we find in societies where these influences are weakening, that women do have aptitude for the traditionally male dominated interests/professions. Until we can say that there is truly a level playing field regarding insidious discouragement and encouragement (refer to the 'stereo type threat' effect on performance, for instance), we cant know what unbiased capacity women have for these subjects compared to men. All we know is, when women do take a determined interest in these subjects, they can perform as well as any man.

Whoever ms Lamber is, he/she is a mystery to Google. Some of these statements are absurd in there generalisations: 'their minds have no connection and adherence in social matters' – what does that mean?

'Since emotions and feelings are more powerful in women' - ? in what way? Does she mean that women are more likely to come to tears when under stress? That doesn’t mean the emotion is more powerful, it means women are more biased towards certain ways of releasing tention. Anger is an extremely powerful emotion that compromises people abilities to think rationally and increases aggressive behaviour. I would say that stupid decisions made by angry men have arguably caused more damage in the world than a woman inclination to tear up when stressed.

'In other words, the intellectual imperfections of a woman are compensated by the intellectual perfection of a man and the emotional imperfection of a man is compensated by the emotional perfection of a woman. '

Its highly debatable that man (or any human being) has ‘perfect intellect’. Men are just rationally compromised in different ways to women in some instances. For instance, the effect that testosterone has on risk taking is quite well documented.

 

It quotes the 'women are deficient in faith', then goes on to say that their 'internal insight' makes them more faithful (?). It goes on to say that not performing salat in the menstrual period is the explanation for this quote, which doesnt make sense. The only reason women dont pray salat is because theyre told its not allowed, not because of a lack of will to do so. Its an enforced deficiency of worship, not faith. I dont know about anyone else, but not performing salat during this time does not decrease my faith, i just connect in the other ways.

 

The bible supports the notion that women are deficient in faith, as it has Eve as the first to be seduced and the temptress of Adam, but the Quran does not reinforce this perception. Instead you have an equal proportion of blame. This should make clear enough, thats inherently, women are not weaker than men in terms of faith either. Also, statistically men are more likely to be atheists than women.

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There are some gross generalisations in this article and it seems to contradict itself in places (i started to skip read half-way through to be fair). It seems to be supposing that, historically you dont find many female philosophers, scientists or politicians (or at least, less compared to male) because of a natural lack in women, rather than because of a situation that has been environmentally determined/influenced. But, we find in societies where these influences are weakening, that women do have aptitude for the traditionally male dominated interests/professions. Until we can say that there is truly a level playing field regarding insidious discouragement and encouragement (refer to the 'stereo type threat' effect on performance, for instance), we cant know what unbiased capacity women have for these subjects compared to men. All we know is, when women do take a determined interest in these subjects, they can perform as well as any man.

Whoever ms Lamber is, he/she is a mystery to Google. Some of these statements are absurd in there generalisations: 'their minds have no connection and adherence in social matters' – what does that mean?

'Since emotions and feelings are more powerful in women' - ? in what way? Does she mean that women are more likely to come to tears when under stress? That doesn’t mean the emotion is more powerful, it means women are more biased towards certain ways of releasing tention. Anger is an extremely powerful emotion that compromises people abilities to think rationally and increases aggressive behaviour. I would say that stupid decisions made by angry men have arguably caused more damage in the world than a woman inclination to tear up when stressed.

'In other words, the intellectual imperfections of a woman are compensated by the intellectual perfection of a man and the emotional imperfection of a man is compensated by the emotional perfection of a woman. '

Its highly debatable that man (or any human being) has ‘perfect intellect’. Men are just rationally compromised in different ways to women in some instances. For instance, the effect that testosterone has on risk taking is quite well documented.

It quotes the 'women are deficient in faith', then goes on to say that their 'internal insight' makes them more faithful (?). It goes on to say that not performing salat in the menstrual period is the explanation for this quote, which doesnt make sense. The only reason women dont pray salat is because theyre told its not allowed, not because of a lack of will to do so. Its an enforced deficiency of worship, not faith. I dont know about anyone else, but not performing salat during this time does not decrease my faith, i just connect in the other ways.

The bible supports the notion that women are deficient in faith, as it has Eve as the first to be seduced and the temptress of Adam, but the Quran does not reinforce this perception. Instead you have an equal proportion of blame. This should make clear enough, thats inherently, women are not weaker than men in terms of faith either. Also, statistically men are more likely to be atheists than women.

I don't believe the author was saying one way or the other is better. Woman and man was made dif from each other. For both need yo grow closer to Allah but getting a hold of these natural essence and using them.

I will write more later but ill say one mote things and that is tho woman is deficient in faith from prayer this doesn't mean she is less faith it means she will use other means to keep her faith strong.

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I don't believe the author was saying one way or the other is better. Woman and man was made dif from each other. For both need yo grow closer to Allah but getting a hold of these natural essence and using them.

I will write more later but ill say one mote things and that is tho woman is deficient in faith from prayer this doesn't mean she is less faith it means she will use other means to keep her faith strong.

 

You just made 2 statements that contradict each other:  ' tho woman is deficient in faith from prayer' and  'this doesn't mean she is less faith' are saying opposite things. The first statement is saying woman are deficient in faith, the second that women arent. The salat example is not an example of a deficiency in faith, but an example of an imposed deficiency in worship (although intention to worship may not be at all deficient). These are different things. Being forced to abstain from salat for a period does not mean your faith is diminished - the notion is absurd and certainly isnt borne out by my personal experience. Maybe you become plagued by doubt when youre on a period, thats not something i personally relate to and im not aware of other muslim women experiencing this phenomenon.

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You just made 2 statements that contradict each other: ' tho woman is deficient in faith from prayer' and 'this doesn't mean she is less faith' are saying opposite things. The first statement is saying woman are deficient in faith, the second that women arent. The salat example is not an example of a deficiency in faith, but an example of an imposed deficiency in worship (although intention to worship may not be at all deficient). These are different things. Being forced to abstain from salat for a period does not mean your faith is diminished - the notion is absurd and certainly isnt borne out by my personal experience. Maybe you become plagued by doubt when youre on a period, thats not something i personally relate to and im not aware of other muslim women experiencing this phenomenon.

Sister what is the 4 pillars of faith?

Do we lack in one? Yes

I'll explain mo're in depth when I get on my laptop InshaAllah.

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I believe what the author is trying to say about "woman only alive to be a lover" is May be 2 things

1 a woman was built for a man (love)

2 a woman if given the right attention to their essence of nature is built/ created with love (emotion) not just for the man but her children as well.

As foe the man part I thinks she's trying to say a man has a animal side to them which a man can contain. He must learn to contain this. Man has ego and this is a lot of men's struggle.

As woman deal with emotion I believe each woman can strive to control these emotions. Not every woman can.

Once we right our own nafs then we can start to get closer to Allah. (ego,emotions, jealousy etc)

 

 

Salaam,

 

I disagree. A woman was not built for man. A woman is her own, she like any other person in a man's life is a tool to aid him on his journey to Allah, and vice-versa. And so therefore, when a man and woman come together in matrimony it is to assist one another by fulfilling their roles in order to reach their ultimate destination. The second defense you made about the necessity to pay attention to woman due to the makeup of her nature. I think the correlation that you pointed out still doesn't draw any justification to the absurdity (IMO) of what the author included in her article. I mean really, look at what is being said... What happened to this "internal insight" she talks about, I don't think a more vane sentence could have been suggested then what she said. It defeats all other principles of a momins life.

I don't know what she is "trying" to say. But what she said was not what you suggested, sister. What is said is the very opposite. She doesn't even bring up the remote idea of it being a struggle. She just targets the nature of man as being a selfish creature.

 

and I agree with Ruq, there are  a LOT of contradictions. :donno:

 

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Allah knows best to what her intent was when she wrote those 2 sentences. You girls may be right, but I'm one to always look at it from a positive perspective and get something good out of it.

Those 2 sentences make sense in some way, if you look at when she wrote this may be she was talking about the future for both genders (not that its correct). I believe many woman here in the west walk around 1/2 undressed in order to find "love" sadly most (not ALL) men will go after her in a sexual manner (their own satisfaction, with no care)

I'm not sure to if the author was muslim or not, and may be they could see more then we could have in the future to the genders.Again Allah knows best, though if they are not muslim and only gathered a neg. aspect of genders they must not have understood this book at all!

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Allah knows best to what her intent was when she wrote those 2 sentences. You girls may be right, but I'm one to always look at it from a positive perspective and get something good out of it.

Those 2 sentences make sense in some way, if you look at when she wrote this may be she was talking about the future for both genders (not that its correct). I believe many woman here in the west walk around 1/2 undressed in order to find "love" sadly most (not ALL) men will go after her in a sexual manner (their own satisfaction, with no care)

I'm not sure to if the author was muslim or not, and may be they could see more then we could have in the future to the genders.Again Allah knows best, though if they are not muslim and only gathered a neg. aspect of genders they must not have understood this book at all!

Mashallah, I think its a very good trait you have, its always good to extract the positive and leave the negative. :)

But I am not judging the whole article. I was just pointing out that a lot of did not rest well with me. And this is mostly due to the fact that she made unsound statements or included bizarre sources, that could easily be refuted.

 

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