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Hello,

I am new to the forum, and it is very informative, I noticed you had this sub forum and I wanted to ask a few questions. I would ask my parents, but they are difficult to communicate with about certain topics, and I have no one to really ask. Anyway lets get to the point:

In Islam I do not understand this concept of marriage... I was born and raised in the United States so I grew around girls and guys mixing and talking etc. The problem is not talking to girls, but I have gotten to a point where girls who are not too religious and do not wear the head scraf are so much easier to speak to about anything. Am I planning to get married, of coarse not any time soon, I am not ready maturity wise and religion wise. I grew up in a religious house hold but religion never really caught on until recently, and as I am becoming more and more religious I am having a difficult time talking to girls as I come off as flirty and I know this is haram. So when I am talking to girls, I am so used to flirting and joking that I get carried away, and I have to stop myself. But when I hear people tell me one day I need to get married so I do not commit any sin, I agree, but how is it possible to marry someone you don't know and haven't talked to. I don't know maybe I am just being ignorant of my own faults...

Thanks.

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Hello,

I am new to the forum, and it is very informative, I noticed you had this sub forum and I wanted to ask a few questions. I would ask my parents, but they are difficult to communicate with about certain topics, and I have no one to really ask. Anyway lets get to the point:

In Islam I do not understand this concept of marriage... I was born and raised in the United States so I grew around girls and guys mixing and talking etc. The problem is not talking to girls, but I have gotten to a point where girls who are not too religious and do not wear the head scraf are so much easier to speak to about anything. Am I planning to get married, of coarse not any time soon, I am not ready maturity wise and religion wise. I grew up in a religious house hold but religion never really caught on until recently, and as I am becoming more and more religious I am having a difficult time talking to girls as I come off as flirty and I know this is haram. So when I am talking to girls, I am so used to flirting and joking that I get carried away, and I have to stop myself. But when I hear people tell me one day I need to get married so I do not commit any sin, I agree, but how is it possible to marry someone you don't know and haven't talked to. I don't know maybe I am just being ignorant of my own faults...

Thanks.

When you reach a higher level of spirituality, looks and beauty wont matter to you. You should consider marrying a muslimah who really practices Islam and is punctual with her prayers and everything. Ofcourse you need to be better in all aspects, religious, financial. moral etc. Keep in mind that marriage is like choosing a partner who would make you get closer to Allah (swt). So before even thinking about marriage, get yourself in that position which would benefit her and eventually your children.

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