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I am a Shia Muslim woman and have recently started my first year in college. I am away from home during the week and go home every weekend. Right as college started, I had a personal experience that was very difficult for me, and caused me to become depressed and second-guess my thoughts and actions to an extreme degree. It has been about a month and a half since then, and I have developed very unwanted thoughts that spontaneously pop up into my head. I would not want to go into too much detail about them, but they are extremely digusting, sexualized thoughts that I do not want at all. I know this is shaitan whispering, and I believe he is doing so at this time when I am very vulnerable. I say istighfar, Ash Shadu La Illa Ha Il Allah, Muhammadan Rasulillah, Inna Lillahi Wa Inna Ilayhi Rajioon, Allahuma Sali Ala Muhammadin Wa Ali Muhammad as much as I can. Prior to this, I never had thoughts this disgustng. It's as if I have no hold on what pops into my mind, and shaitan is trying to take control. I have sought refuge in Allah, and alhamdulillah He has given me power to control these thoughts more, but they haven't gone completely away. I feel so disgusted with myself to the point that I feel guilty even saying the name of Allah (s.w.t.) or our Rasulillah (s.a.w.w.) or our Imam (a.s.). AstaghifurAllah. I have no one to talk to about this and need help please. I feel that I'm going insane. Any helpful advice is welcome. Thank you.

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I happened to browse SC today and I am glad to pinch in or two.

When I was relatively younger I too wanted to know what practices I could do so that I am 'more or less' protected from my own evil doing, evil whispers, & evil thoughs that will hamper the progress of my day.

So below is my recipe that I practice until today. You can do 'em any time you want but with wudu preferably.

At the vey least, I practice without fail these formula after Fajr solat. Sometimes after 'Asr solat, if time permitting.

1. Surah Kafiroon 4X

2. Surah Ikhlas 11X ... well I do 100X when after Fajr ... anyway 11X is OK

3. Surah Falak 3X

4. Surah an-Nass 3X

5. Sura Fatiha 3X

6. La Hawla wa la quwwata illa billah hil 3alliyil 3adzim .... 3X or more is better

7. Ayatul Kursi (Surah Baqara 255-257)

Now, if you want to raise the gear, I suggest you read Sura Baqara continuosly in yr house.

I mean, you dont hv to finish reciting in one sitting or in one day. Just recite as many pages after each solat. When you have completed the sura, repeat again.

Alternately, play a non-stop recording of recitation to Surah Baqara in yr house/room ...

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There is no need for you to feel bad about your thoughts, unless youre consciously feeding them it really isnt your fault. We cant control our thoughts with force and getting fixated on not having bad thought might just make it worse. From personal experience, my best advice is to consciously turn your thoughts to God, as you have been doing and as raficsulejmanovic suggests. Any way you can find to turn your thought to a positive subject, so as to re-focus or divert attention, rather than trying to squash or prevent the unwanted thoughts, will help. Please dont feel guilty, i think the guilt is actually another way for the unwanted and destructive thoughts to settle on fertile ground and flourish. So please try to think compassionately towards yourself and remind yourself that your intention is to do right (your post is evidence for you if you need it) which is what is most important.

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Wlecome to the club sister. Many of us including myself had such experiences when was in teenager phase of life.

What worked for me was three things, all done in paralle; one I was very deligent about wajib salat and wajib sawm, second I used to consciously read tons of Islamic books, I read pretty much all the translated work from Ansarian publication back then, and third was company of good momineen friends (notice good friends not the run of the mill currupted individuals) and no gender mixing.

It was hard, it was tough, I used to live alone so was much more suseptible to do sins, but I'm convinced these things saved me.

By the way, let me predict something for you, as you supress these thoughts, soon you will also get extreme depressing (some people call it borderline suicidal) thoughts come to mind. People also tend to start thinking gross stuff about the holy ones.

Bottom line, thoughts of sexual promiscuity are one of the toughest test in teenage years. You save yourself now and you will be proud of yourself for the rest of your life. You slip in this stage once, and you will regret forever.

Good thing is this will all pass in 4-5 years or until you get married inshAllah.

Edited by Waiting for HIM

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shaytan and God swt, can't or will not control you. You are an independent human been wich makes choices. You want to go left? Or right? Anything you want you can do without an external control.

So stop pretending that you are limited.

If you want to stand up now and go to the mosque. Then do it. Nobody can stop you.

Free your mind of this so called limitatiob and make the choices you want. Because it is possible.

Ya mahdi as

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(bismillah)

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “The religion of Islam is easy, and whoever makes the religion a rigour, it will overpower him. So, follow a middle course (in worship); if you can’t do this, do something near to it and give glad tidings and seek help (of Allah) in the morning and at dusk and some part of the night” [al Bukhari]. Scrupulosity is when the individual is overpowered by their devotion and practice of their faith. The scrupulous individual will focus excessively on a few specific rules and rituals while neglecting other aspects of the religion. It often involves mistakenly thinking that innocent or unavoidable things are sin and so feeling needlessly guilty. When scrupulosity turns to obsessive thoughts, it can generate upsetting, uncontrollable blasphemous thoughts or images about God, or exalting the devil.

 

Just as some people with OCD feel compelled to keep checking locks or washing their hands, others might feel compelled to obsess over blasphemous thoughts that they hate or to keep doubting their salvation. Due to the doubting nature of scrupulosity, it has been also been called “pathological doubt”. OCD sufferers will take a simple act of locking a door, switching off the oven, or seeking Allah’s forgiveness, and then worry abnormally over whether they did it correctly. They feel driven to keep seeking assurance far beyond what is rational.

 

Scrupulosity is considered a hidden disease due to the fact that it can fill people with such false guilt that many are unlikely to admit to it, while others have no idea that they have an unhealthy sense of guilt and so suppose there is nothing wrong with them.

 

In Islam, such unwanted thoughts are called wasawis (plural of waswasah), which are whispered into the minds and hearts of people by Shaitan (Satan). These wasawis play a significant role in many mental disorders that involve anxiety and cognitive distortions. Although wasawis can affect individuals regardless of age, sex, faith, or creed, the nature, content, severity, and influence of these thoughts varies in individuals. For some, they only cause mild anxiety and worry, while others are more severely affected to the point of becoming spiritually, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and socially paralyzed. Recurring thoughts about catching germs, being unclean, and questioning one’s faith appear to be the most common form of OCD amongst Muslim men and women but those suffering from scrupulosity, the unwanted thoughts tend to be more debilitating.

 

In the process of wasawis, Shaitan doesn’t care about the thoughts and doubts he sets buzzing around in our heads. Shaitan knows we will not be judged for the thoughts he has implanted in our heads because they are his thoughts, not ours. It is an impossible task to stop unwanted thoughts from coming in our minds. While we are busy battling unwanted thoughts from our mind, Shaitan accomplishes his goal of distracting us from the essential teachings of Islam. The goal of every Muslim should be to strengthen our faith and connection to Allah and not waste time avoiding certain thoughts or feelings.

Shaitan will try and distract us from his real schemes and instead focuses our attention on past sins instead of present forgiveness.

 

 

 

Shaitan will also try and trick us into becoming so preoccupied with needlessly worrying about dishonoring God with words that we do not even mean, that we don’t notice that we are dishonoring God by not believing the extent of His love and forgiveness, even towards those of us who feel certain we are the worst sinners ever to walk this planet. No matter how terrible the words or images that invade our mind are, we are not “sinning”. Shaitan will also try and entice us to fear Quranic verses that apply only to people who until their dying day stubbornly refuse to repent from their deliberate sin/backsliding and refuse to seek forgiveness. Shaitan’s hope is that we become so alarmed by the few words in the verses that do not apply to us that we lose sight of the enormous number of joyous verses that do apply – those promising salvation to everyone who repents and believes in Allah and His messenger. Shaitan’s dirty trick is to put despicable thoughts in our mind and then blame us or Allah for it. Allah isn’t fooled into blaming us for Shaitan’s trickery and we shouldn’t be fooled either. Just like we can’t stop Shaitan from being Shaitan, we can’t stop thoughts of temptation from popping into our thoughts. All we can do is stop ourselves from being deceived by the thoughts.

All in all, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is an anxiety disorder. It is fear/anxiety that keeps us hounded by doubts, guilt feelings or unwanted thoughts that keep repeating in our minds. It is the very nature of deceiving spirits to foster and exploit fear for their evil purposes, and their highest goal is to fool us into losing faith in our religion.

 

Treatment of Scrupulosity

Like other forms of OCD, scrupulosity responds to medication and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). About 60%–80% of patients show some degree of response to treatment. The neurotransmitter serotonin appears to be involved in the pathology of OCD. Medications that boost the level of serotonin in the brain such as SSRI’s (e.g. clomipramine, fluoxetine, sertraline, paroxetine, fluvoxamine, and citalopram) are the most effective in treating OCD.

Cognitive-Behavioral therapy (CBT), specifically Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) has been successfully used for the treatment of OCD. ERP focuses on the fact that compulsions provide only a temporary reduction of the anxiety produced by obsessions. The only way to experience more permanent relief is to habituate (get used to) the anxiety caused by the obsession, without performing the compulsion. The key factor of ERP is habituation. While this type of therapy typically causes some short-term anxiety, this facilitates long-term reduction in obsessive and compulsive symptoms. Facing the negative, unwanted thoughts will create anxiety. It is highly unpleasant, but they must disregard their fears in order to benefit from treatment. Facing their anxiety is an unavoidably unpleasant experience, but they must continually force themselves to stay close to God, even though their fears of rejection and divine displeasure are immense. As the person with scrupulosity begins to face his/her fears, he/she may experience a temporary increase in anxiety but with continued support and medication, the anxiety will decrease and symptoms will improve

When overwhelmed by unwanted thoughts:

  • Keep in mind, first and foremost, Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì has prescribed a balanced approach to Islam and reassured us His mercy and forgiveness are ever so near. So if fear, anxiety, or condemnation comes upon us, it is not from God. It is simply a dirty trick of Shaitan trying to get us to take our eyes off the infinite saving power of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì.
  • When unwanted thoughts or fears hit, do your best not to let the attack distress you. Let it wash over you, keeping as calm and unconcerned as you can. The thoughts or images won’t hurt you, and God does not accuse you. Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì knows best, even better than you do, that these thoughts are not yours. Temptation usually takes the form of thoughts being satanically placed on our minds, and temptation is not sin.
  • When you reach the point where you don’t react to the unwanted thoughts of doubt, oppressive guilt feelings, and spiritually repulsive thoughts, the attacks themselves will lessen. Psychological fact: Anxiety is a driving force behind Obsessive Compulsive Disorder so if you are not anxious about the thoughts, you’ll notice a significant reduction in the attacks. Spiritual fact: When Shaitan is thoroughly convinced that he can no longer use such things as unwanted thoughts to annoy you, or undermine your faith, he will eventually begin to tire of that approach and only try it now and again, just to check that you have not reverted to being concerned by such attacks.
  • We give pleasure and power to Shaitan when we fall into his trap of supposing that his plan is to get us to think or feel wrong things. Shaitan’s main goal is to get us distracted so he can ambush us.
  • Shaitan’s evil scheme is not to entice us to think or feel anti-God things but to fool us into denying the saving power of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì by us forgetting Allah’s power to continually forgive every person who repents and puts faith in him.

Daily Exercises:

  • When unwanted thoughts creep in your mind, catch them and write them down. Right below the thought, challenge the thought by asking if that is a true thought. Is it 100% true about you? Below that write down,
    “it’s just a thought”.
  • Practice daily affirmations such as “I’m doing the best that I can”, “My thoughts are just thoughts and only have power over me if I give them power and I choose not to empower these unwanted thoughts”, “I put my trust and faith in Allah’s mercy and forgiveness”. The affirmations might not feel true for you but repeating them daily will help you replace the negative thoughts with the positive affirmations, thereby lessening the power of the negative unwanted thoughts.
  • Practice deep breathing exercises and repeat to yourself “I am safe and with Allah’s blessings, Shaitan can’t hurt me”.
  • Actively get involved in a deeply engrossing activity that you enjoy such as exercising (yoga, running, biking, etc.) or playing a board game where you are not focused on the negative thoughts.
  • Force yourself to smile. This simple act will automatically make you feel happier and relax. Your mind is incapable of having a good and bad thought at the same time. When you smile, you force your mind to focus on the positive rather than the negative.
  • Work with a mental health professional to address the symptoms of scrupulosity. Past traumas (like sexual/physical abuse) and unsavory conduct and lifestyles of the past that may be responsible for severe guilt leading to OCD, must be dealt with in therapy with a trained mental health professional.

(salam)

Edited by Mohaimen

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(bismillah)

Such thoughts often indicate love for the material world that sometimes takes us away from Allah. I have been through this experience and it hurts, but it CAN be overcome. First of all,no one can achieve such a high level of perfection as to drive away the whispering of their nafs.  Though my advice is humble and pales in comparison to what the other members have written, it may still be of some importance. Most important: IGNORE THESE THOUGHTS. You heard me, the more you cry over what you are thinking, the more easy it will be for these thoughts to be imprinted on your mind. The more you fret, the more Satan lights up in delight. Just focus on your deen (which is what Shaitan wants us to go away from by fretting over such thoughts) and whenever such thoughts happen to, you know, "Flare Up", engage your mind in something else. If such evil thoughts manage to escape the shackles you have placed them in, do not fret over them and treat them as a mistake that WILL NOT occur again. Do regular Tawba and Istighfar. I shall narrate to you what I read in the book "Imam Se Mulaqat"(Meeting our Imam(aj)). The book says that one way to enlighten our soul and drive away Satan is to engage in sincerely mourning for Imam Hussain(as). You have to visualise his position and attempt to feel his pain. Their have been reports of people who continued mourning for more than one year and found it easier to concentrate in Salaat and in driving away Shaitan(la) from their minds (not completely of course, no human can do that). To weep for our Imam sincerely shows the purity of our heart and not the sensitivity of our nerves. Remove the veil of "Hubb-e-Dunya" and emulate the practices of the Ahle Bait(as) to your full ability. Also, the following Amaal are helpful(taken from the same book with a true story of an old man who performed these Amaal to successful results):

 

1)  Read Dua-e-Tawassul and sincerely wish to eradicate excessive love for the material world

 

2) Do not neglect Tahajjud and pray with the intention of wishing to be closer to Allah

 

3)Before sleeping at night go into Sujood and recite 100 times the prayer of Hazrat Yunus(AS):

     La Ilaaha Illa Anta Subhanaka Inni Kunto MinaZalimeen

 

Alhamdulillah, your anxiety shows that you are sincere and truly wish to be closer to Allah. PERSEVERE and you shall succeed. May Allah grant you success. Ameen. :)


(bismillah)

 

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “The religion of Islam is easy, and whoever makes the religion a rigour, it will overpower him. So, follow a middle course (in worship); if you can’t do this, do something near to it and give glad tidings and seek help (of Allah) in the morning and at dusk and some part of the night” [al Bukhari]. Scrupulosity is when the individual is overpowered by their devotion and practice of their faith. The scrupulous individual will focus excessively on a few specific rules and rituals while neglecting other aspects of the religion. It often involves mistakenly thinking that innocent or unavoidable things are sin and so feeling needlessly guilty. When scrupulosity turns to obsessive thoughts, it can generate upsetting, uncontrollable blasphemous thoughts or images about God, or exalting the devil.

 

Just as some people with OCD feel compelled to keep checking locks or washing their hands, others might feel compelled to obsess over blasphemous thoughts that they hate or to keep doubting their salvation. Due to the doubting nature of scrupulosity, it has been also been called “pathological doubt”. OCD sufferers will take a simple act of locking a door, switching off the oven, or seeking Allah’s forgiveness, and then worry abnormally over whether they did it correctly. They feel driven to keep seeking assurance far beyond what is rational.

 

Scrupulosity is considered a hidden disease due to the fact that it can fill people with such false guilt that many are unlikely to admit to it, while others have no idea that they have an unhealthy sense of guilt and so suppose there is nothing wrong with them.

 

In Islam, such unwanted thoughts are called wasawis (plural of waswasah), which are whispered into the minds and hearts of people by Shaitan (Satan). These wasawis play a significant role in many mental disorders that involve anxiety and cognitive distortions. Although wasawis can affect individuals regardless of age, sex, faith, or creed, the nature, content, severity, and influence of these thoughts varies in individuals. For some, they only cause mild anxiety and worry, while others are more severely affected to the point of becoming spiritually, mentally, emotionally, psychologically, and socially paralyzed. Recurring thoughts about catching germs, being unclean, and questioning one’s faith appear to be the most common form of OCD amongst Muslim men and women but those suffering from scrupulosity, the unwanted thoughts tend to be more debilitating.

 

In the process of wasawis, Shaitan doesn’t care about the thoughts and doubts he sets buzzing around in our heads. Shaitan knows we will not be judged for the thoughts he has implanted in our heads because they are his thoughts, not ours. It is an impossible task to stop unwanted thoughts from coming in our minds. While we are busy battling unwanted thoughts from our mind, Shaitan accomplishes his goal of distracting us from the essential teachings of Islam. The goal of every Muslim should be to strengthen our faith and connection to Allah and not waste time avoiding certain thoughts or feelings.

Shaitan will try and distract us from his real schemes and instead focuses our attention on past sins instead of present forgiveness.

 

 

 

Shaitan will also try and trick us into becoming so preoccupied with needlessly worrying about dishonoring God with words that we do not even mean, that we don’t notice that we are dishonoring God by not believing the extent of His love and forgiveness, even towards those of us who feel certain we are the worst sinners ever to walk this planet. No matter how terrible the words or images that invade our mind are, we are not “sinning”. Shaitan will also try and entice us to fear Quranic verses that apply only to people who until their dying day stubbornly refuse to repent from their deliberate sin/backsliding and refuse to seek forgiveness. Shaitan’s hope is that we become so alarmed by the few words in the verses that do not apply to us that we lose sight of the enormous number of joyous verses that do apply – those promising salvation to everyone who repents and believes in Allah and His messenger. Shaitan’s dirty trick is to put despicable thoughts in our mind and then blame us or Allah for it. Allah isn’t fooled into blaming us for Shaitan’s trickery and we shouldn’t be fooled either. Just like we can’t stop Shaitan from being Shaitan, we can’t stop thoughts of temptation from popping into our thoughts. All we can do is stop ourselves from being deceived by the thoughts.

All in all, Obsessive Compulsive Disorder is an anxiety disorder. It is fear/anxiety that keeps us hounded by doubts, guilt feelings or unwanted thoughts that keep repeating in our minds. It is the very nature of deceiving spirits to foster and exploit fear for their evil purposes, and their highest goal is to fool us into losing faith in our religion.

 

Treatment of Scrupulosity

Like other forms of OCD, scrupulosity responds to medication and cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT). About 60%–80% of patients show some degree of response to treatment. The neurotransmitter serotonin appears to be involved in the pathology of OCD. Medications that boost the level of serotonin in the brain such as SSRI’s (e.g. clomipramine, fluoxetine, sertraline, paroxetine, fluvoxamine, and citalopram) are the most effective in treating OCD.

Cognitive-Behavioral therapy (CBT), specifically Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP) has been successfully used for the treatment of OCD. ERP focuses on the fact that compulsions provide only a temporary reduction of the anxiety produced by obsessions. The only way to experience more permanent relief is to habituate (get used to) the anxiety caused by the obsession, without performing the compulsion. The key factor of ERP is habituation. While this type of therapy typically causes some short-term anxiety, this facilitates long-term reduction in obsessive and compulsive symptoms. Facing the negative, unwanted thoughts will create anxiety. It is highly unpleasant, but they must disregard their fears in order to benefit from treatment. Facing their anxiety is an unavoidably unpleasant experience, but they must continually force themselves to stay close to God, even though their fears of rejection and divine displeasure are immense. As the person with scrupulosity begins to face his/her fears, he/she may experience a temporary increase in anxiety but with continued support and medication, the anxiety will decrease and symptoms will improve

When overwhelmed by unwanted thoughts:

  • Keep in mind, first and foremost, Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì has prescribed a balanced approach to Islam and reassured us His mercy and forgiveness are ever so near. So if fear, anxiety, or condemnation comes upon us, it is not from God. It is simply a dirty trick of Shaitan trying to get us to take our eyes off the infinite saving power of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì.
  • When unwanted thoughts or fears hit, do your best not to let the attack distress you. Let it wash over you, keeping as calm and unconcerned as you can. The thoughts or images won’t hurt you, and God does not accuse you. Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì knows best, even better than you do, that these thoughts are not yours. Temptation usually takes the form of thoughts being satanically placed on our minds, and temptation is not sin.
  • When you reach the point where you don’t react to the unwanted thoughts of doubt, oppressive guilt feelings, and spiritually repulsive thoughts, the attacks themselves will lessen. Psychological fact: Anxiety is a driving force behind Obsessive Compulsive Disorder so if you are not anxious about the thoughts, you’ll notice a significant reduction in the attacks. Spiritual fact: When Shaitan is thoroughly convinced that he can no longer use such things as unwanted thoughts to annoy you, or undermine your faith, he will eventually begin to tire of that approach and only try it now and again, just to check that you have not reverted to being concerned by such attacks.
  • We give pleasure and power to Shaitan when we fall into his trap of supposing that his plan is to get us to think or feel wrong things. Shaitan’s main goal is to get us distracted so he can ambush us.
  • Shaitan’s evil scheme is not to entice us to think or feel anti-God things but to fool us into denying the saving power of Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì by us forgetting Allah’s power to continually forgive every person who repents and puts faith in him.

Daily Exercises:

  • When unwanted thoughts creep in your mind, catch them and write them down. Right below the thought, challenge the thought by asking if that is a true thought. Is it 100% true about you? Below that write down,
    “it’s just a thought”.
  • Practice daily affirmations such as “I’m doing the best that I can”, “My thoughts are just thoughts and only have power over me if I give them power and I choose not to empower these unwanted thoughts”, “I put my trust and faith in Allah’s mercy and forgiveness”. The affirmations might not feel true for you but repeating them daily will help you replace the negative thoughts with the positive affirmations, thereby lessening the power of the negative unwanted thoughts.
  • Practice deep breathing exercises and repeat to yourself “I am safe and with Allah’s blessings, Shaitan can’t hurt me”.
  • Actively get involved in a deeply engrossing activity that you enjoy such as exercising (yoga, running, biking, etc.) or playing a board game where you are not focused on the negative thoughts.
  • Force yourself to smile. This simple act will automatically make you feel happier and relax. Your mind is incapable of having a good and bad thought at the same time. When you smile, you force your mind to focus on the positive rather than the negative.
  • Work with a mental health professional to address the symptoms of scrupulosity. Past traumas (like sexual/physical abuse) and unsavory conduct and lifestyles of the past that may be responsible for severe guilt leading to OCD, must be dealt with in therapy with a trained mental health professional.

(salam)

  Excellent piece of advice!   :)

Edited by azhar-karbalai72

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