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Question: Who wants to get married.

Answer: Me :D insha'Allah

Nooooo, this is too scary, I know now the three of you are doing something!!! how can you do that?!?!? the first one with Dr Death was an easy one..but this??? changing the profile itself??? waaaaaaaaaaaay cool..heheh

and the cute little dancing bird is...CUTE

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I wanna get married because any other way of life is unnatural, anti-social, and a disease. Why I would make a good husband? Because I would not take my wife for granted. I have been deprived of marri

yellow billed magpie
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Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at thi

Dawud Miqdad al-Amriki
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I remind us all inshallah Imaam 'Ali (as) said: "Do not marry the woman you love, rather love the woman you marry." :yaali:

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same thing with me. WHen I get married, it'll be to a syed becuase my parent won't even consider the idea of my marrying a non-syed shia muslim, even though i really don't care too much. why are syeds so arrogant about something they did nothing to work towards and were given simply because of the grace of God. it doesn't make sense to me.

Salaam sister, that is sad to hear, I feel for you. InshAllah I hope everything works out, but you really should try to point out a saying from Ahle Bayt (as) to your parents that "The one who is most loved by us is the one who does not claim relation to us yet is completley obedient to Allah SWT, and the one most detested by us is the one who claims relations to us yet is disobedient to Allah SWT".

P.S. I am a syed, and I feel very honored and thankful to Allah SWT for giving me this heritage, but I know very well that it does not give me any superiority over any other muslim. If anything, I believe it gives me a LARGER responsibility to be a better muslim as per the hadith above. The arrogance of some fellow "Syeds" does shock me time to time. I knew a Syed guy here in Canada once who almost never prayed and easily ate at non-halal restraunts yet was adamant that he marry a syed girl and therefore didnt get married until he was over 30.

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Salaam sister, that is sad to hear, I feel for you. InshAllah I hope everything works out, but you really should try to point out a saying from Ahle Bayt (as) to your parents that "The one who is most loved by us is the one who does not claim relation to us yet is completley obedient to Allah SWT, and the one most detested by us is the one who claims relations to us yet is disobedient to Allah SWT".

P.S. I am a syed, and I feel very honored and thankful to Allah SWT for giving me this heritage, but I know very well that it does not give me any superiority over any other muslim. If anything, I believe it gives me a LARGER responsibility to be a better muslim as per the hadith above. The arrogance of some fellow "Syeds" does shock me time to time. I knew a Syed guy here in Canada once who almost never prayed and easily ate at non-halal restraunts yet was adamant that he marry a syed girl and therefore didnt get married until he was over 30.

Wa'Alaikum Salaam,

well, i'm not really in any sort of disadvantage at the moment because i'm not planning on getting married any time soon. But, if my mom had her way, I would be married by now. So, the conversation about my marrying a syed came up because of a discussion we were having on the status of my marriage. :D

I would somewhat understand the arrogance if there was something that i actually did in order to gain this status. But, Syeds are just blessed with a good name. They should not be arrogant for the sake of their name, and out of respect. I totally agree with you on the honor. But, people should think of it as a blessing they don't deserve, but were given out of the grace of God.

Whereas marriage used to be a persuit of companionship, we've turned it into a game with convoluted rules that always change and where someone inevitably loses.

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I think I'm a little bit scared to get married. I keep thinking what if things won't work out and things turn out very different than you had in mind? Or what if the person you're marrying turns out to be very different after you get to know him even better after marriage? What if you can't handle the responsibility as a wife? I can list many more...

or should I post in the 'who doesn't want to get married' thread :P

Read this :)

http://www.shiamultimedia.com/books/english/Ayatullah%20Jafar%20Subhani%20-%20Youth%20&%20Spouse%20Selection.pdf

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I think I'm a little bit scared to get married. I keep thinking what if things won't work out and things turn out very different than you had in mind? Or what if the person you're marrying turns out to be very different after you get to know him even better after marriage? What if you can't handle the responsibility as a wife? I can list many more...

or should I post in the 'who doesn't want to get married' thread :P

I'd like that thread! I think we're on the same boat...haha

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I think I'm a little bit scared to get married. I keep thinking what if things won't work out and things turn out very different than you had in mind? Or what if the person you're marrying turns out to be very different after you get to know him even better after marriage? What if you can't handle the responsibility as a wife? I can list many more...

Valid concerns and which you should keep in mind when you start considering a partner seriously. Don't let them overwhelm you though. (BTW, you need to be more open to marriage at this age and try to enter into it soon. Hopefully, your parents are the kind who believe in early marriage and will take the responsibility of looking out for someone suitable for you).

And do read the book Mushu linked to.

Good book even with that poor English translation. Not surprised that I can relate to incidents in it what with the two stories of my life (w.r.t. marriage) depicted so well there.

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i wish to get married because:

it completes half my religion and pleases Allah (swt)

will prevent shaytaan from trying to tempt me

Will allow me to grow with someone in love and spiritually and learn from them

Will enable me to fulfil my desires

To have children and carry on the family name

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Salam u alaykom,

well I got married with my ex-wife (divorced now) since wanted to get independent and stop the part of my mind thinking for an appropriate spouse!

Now, I strongly suggest u all please please please DO NOT RUSH INTO it and DO NOT GET EMOTIONAL about it!

assalam u alaykom

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maybe it will be nice to have a sub section here for people who would like to get married can express their interest. i.e. brothers post a lil about themselves and leave a contact so sisters can add them should they seem interested ...

.... jst dnt see how it will work/moderated. :donno:

... khair something to ponder on.

:yaali:

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Salaam.

Being the youngest in the family I dont think my turn will ever come! I mean by the time all my sisters are married I will probably be old!

ur lucky u get the experience of ur sisters...and when its ur turn u will probably think twice think twice abt "getting married"....coz marriage definetly aint a "bed of roses"...:)
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