Who Wants To Get Married?

hkmohamad · February 11, 2012

I want to get married becuase i feel that when i do it will change my life completely , and i would be fulfilling the other needs as an muslim person.

why i would be a good husband is that because i would actually love my wife and do the best for my family no matter the suituation is.

salam

ThE-Samz · February 12, 2012

loll i would love to help, but im all the way in Australia loll its abit to far haha

ah, thats too bad. anyways thanks for the reply. :dry:

Dawud. · February 12, 2012

You want to know why none of you can get married, because of threads like these.

muslimah1 · February 12, 2012

^^^^ who said we can't get married?

February 12, 2012

everyone make your lists and send it to Muslimah1@yourmatchmaker.com. :P

muslimah1 · February 12, 2012

^^^ LOLLLLLLL

Dawud. · February 12, 2012

^^^^ who said we can't get married?

YOU can.

They (i.e. 90% of the single young brothers on this forum) cannot.

muslimah1 · February 12, 2012

YOU can.
They (i.e. 90% of the single young brothers on this forum) cannot.

LOLL haram for that 90%

February 12, 2012

YOU can.
They (i.e. 90% of the single young brothers on this forum) cannot.

Pshhh I haven't even started looking to get married. I can get married when I choose to.

muslimah1 · February 12, 2012

Pshhh I haven't even started looking to get married. I can get married when I choose to.

of course you can :)

(my comment is not sarcastic even though it sounds it its not lol)

Inception · February 12, 2012

Please don't tell me the girls now want Bollywood music to start playing in the background, as everything suddenly becomes slow motion while her hair blows in the wind when she first sets eyes on her future husband?

what??? they took away the Bollywood music...how am I to recognize my future husband now??? would hip hop do???

Edited February 12, 2012 by Inception

bi_ithnillaah · February 12, 2012

I think for the majority of us we all have the same reasons to want to get married. The problem is what makes us as individuals ready to get married? I've wanted to get married since I was 16. But honestly I am so happy that I didn't marry so young. Alhamdulillah I have grown so much in these years and being married may have stunted that personal growth for me. Ideally it shouldn't, and even if you are a very mature teenager, I would still suggest waiting until you're at least 20. It's difficult to fight desires but it pays off in the end. Don't let puppy love and your hormones get in the way of good sense. (and this is a reminder to myself too)

The next issue then is how do we go about finding the right person, not just do we want to get married and why are we good enough.

I'd say SC is probably not the best place to look (in case anyone is doing that right now), although I have known of some successful online marriages when the families were involved from the start. Just a word of caution to anyone with the intention of looking online, because it seems this thread could easily go in the other direction too, where we have non-mahrams privately messaging each other just to flirt when they find out someone else is single too.

AlphaMale_ASAD · February 12, 2012

I think for the majority of us we all have the same reasons to want to get married. The problem is what makes us as individuals ready to get married? I've wanted to get married since I was 16. But honestly I am so happy that I didn't marry so young. Alhamdulillah I have grown so much in these years and being married may have stunted that personal growth for me. Ideally it shouldn't, and even if you are a very mature teenager, I would still suggest waiting until you're at least 20. It's difficult to fight desires but it pays off in the end. Don't let puppy love and your hormones get in the way of good sense. (and this is a reminder to myself too)
The next issue then is how do we go about finding the right person, not just do we want to get married and why are we good enough.
I'd say SC is probably not the best place to look (in case anyone is doing that right now), although I have known of some successful online marriages when the families were involved from the start. Just a word of caution to anyone with the intention of looking online, because it seems this thread could easily go in the other direction too, where we have non-mahrams privately messaging each other just to flirt when they find out someone else is single too.

Islam suggests you marry young. That's the correct and only way to do it. And any other way is false and shouldn't be said to influence others feel me?

bi_ithnillaah · February 15, 2012

How are you defining young because 20 isn't exactly old. We talking 9, 15, 18?

AlphaMale_ASAD · February 16, 2012

Soon as she is a woman.

Inception · February 16, 2012

Salaam aleykom

I think we should turn this thread into serious discussion, and I suggest Muslimah1 give us direct advices how to find a partner..

well, we have her email address now, dont we???? hehehe

yellow billed magpie · February 21, 2012

Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)

Legendary · February 21, 2012

Salam-this is an interesting topic-I am a convert to Shia Islam,and feel I have much going against me in terms of marriage...My problem is this-I am 36 years old...Probably too old to have kids at this point:( So my criteria for a husband is WAY different than most of what I have seen on here, but for the same reasons. I want to complete the other half of my deen. Besides that, what I would like in a husband is for him to be a true follower of Ahl Bayt-he HAS to be rightly guided,as I am still learning ( I am absolutely devoted to Islam and am pursuing it with all my might) He HAS to have good aklaq, and be patient and loving,and perform his daily prayers!!!.Preferably older than myself by x amount of years. I believe the main emphasis of the marriage should be Allah سبحانه وتعالى,and his main priority MUST be to llive and conduct himself in the manner that is pleasing to Allah and for us to be involved with the Islamic community around us. I want to have someone I can support emotionally. I want to support him in his goals and endeavors. A partner to live, love, and learn with and from..I will stand next to him through thick and thin, and even sleep on the floor at the hospital if,God forbid, something happens to him Heck, I'll even work on his car with him, and help him fix things around the house (I grew up on a farm,lol) I know how to treat a man,and know they need time to themselves also.I do not nag or complain-its just not in my nature.Because of my age, I am beginning to get concerned, but THANK GOD I DID NOT MARRY BEFORE I FOUND ISLAM:), Allah(swt) knows best, and inshaAllah, I will not end up alone:) He IS all merciful:) And he knows my heart and intentions-peace to all and may Allahs(swt) blessings be upon you all and your potential/future mates:)

May Allah bless you the best naseeb

Inception · February 21, 2012

to YBM

Assalaam aleykom

Mashallah, you are truly a BELIEVER ...InshaAllah you will find what you seek..

about age, my mom got my little sis when she was 42 :) I know what statistics say but it doesnt mean you should forbid yourself to have a baby, or 2..

May Allah send you a very good husband and give you twins already first time so you dont worry about it anymore..inshaAllah inshaAllah

cheers

yellow billed magpie · February 22, 2012

to YBM
Assalaam aleykom
Mashallah, you are truly a BELIEVER ...InshaAllah you will find what you seek..
about age, my mom got my little sis when she was 42 :) I know what statistics say but it doesnt mean you should forbid yourself to have a baby, or 2..
May Allah send you a very good husband and give you twins already first time so you dont worry about it anymore..inshaAllah inshaAllah
cheers

Salam-thank you for your kind response-It brought a smile to my face:) its funny you mentioned twins because recently (maybe 2 months ago)I found out that my grandmother had a twin brother:) Dont know why my mom never bothered to mention this to me til 36 years later,lol, but yeah, ANYTHING is possible, Allahs(swt) will permitting, and even MORE so with twins being in my genetics, hahaha! Wait-that may be TOO much of a blessing at one time! A good husband AND TWINS? I would be SERIOUSLY blessed with such an event:) And greatful to Allah(swt) Have a blessed day:)

Inception · February 22, 2012

Salaam

wawa after 36 years?! hehe, but there you go, you have it in your genes

I don't have it in my genes and still know that Allah (swt) can make it happen..inshaAllah..but first the good husband ehhehe