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Mutah Experiences

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1st. Ofcourse you don't mean me.

2nd. Mutah is marriage. Why doesn't everyone talk about his marital life with his/her wife/husband, or past experiences after divorce or so? Because marriage stays between the two. Temporary or not temporary, experience is to be stayed between the two.

Because no one goes around questioning or criticising permanent marriage, or trying to say it's obsolete or for perverts or disgusting, or just about lust or anything of the sort.

Muta'a has this absurd taboo in the community. Lots of misconceptions. This is about taking this taboo topic that people have huge misconceptions about, and tactfully showing some real examples of this form of multifaceted human relationship.

I'm not sure what's so hard to understand about that.

No one is revealing any particularly intimate details. It's pretty broad strokes material that is perfectly acceptable for public discussion.

Edited by kadhim

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On 1/18/2012 at 6:33 AM, hameedeh said:

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^ You've convinced me, brother. I'm gonna shorten my mutah experience and not tell anything romantic. :)

 

You just did so in your story haha :D

Anyhow, your story among others is one of the reasons I like converts more than born-Shias (no offence intended here), because they almost always more devout and dedicated. I wish you all the best in raising your family Inshallah.

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I hope this doesn't sound weird, considering that I'm a guy, but the Mut'ah experiences of Ruqaya and Hameedeh made my heart melt.
People being able to have meaningful human companionship that makes them happy and fulfills their emotional needs rather than being sad and alone should make everyone's heart feel warm. Edited by kadhim

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You just did so in your story haha :D

Anyhow, your story among others is one of the reasons I like converts more than born-Shias (no offence intended here), because they almost always more devout and dedicated. I wish you all the best in raising your family Inshallah.

Don't jump the gun bro, Sister Hameedeh's husband is a born-Shia and he appeared to be such a sincere Momin as well.

Again no offense intended, born-Shias are coming with a legacy of their ancestors being Muslims too, so its an added hasanat if they are practicing momin since Islam is running in blood as well as in brains. Revert or Born, both kind of Muslims are worth more than the gold in friendship once they are practicing Momins. Obviously as far as having a high status in front of Allah, blood lines do not matter at all, the only criterion there is "taqwa".

(bismillah)

(salam)

Alhamdulillah, we were at the same university and had two classes together, so we would talk to each other before and after our classes. I was a Christian and found out he was a Muslim.

Sister Hameedeh, mashAllah Allah bless you that you found such a practicing momin. You must have done really good to be rewarded with such a nice companion. As far as identity, I think I know your husband.. I won't say more bcause that would reveal my identity... But your husband is one of the finest Momins I've known.

Edited by Waiting for HIM

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On 1/18/2012 at 0:22 PM, Waiting for HIM said:

Don't jump the gun bro, Sister Hameedeh's husband is a born-Shia and he appeared to be such a sincere Momin as well.

Again no offense intended, born-Shias are coming with a legacy of their ancestors being Muslims too, so its an added hasanat if they are practicing momin since Islam is running in blood as well as in brains. Revert or Born, both kind of Muslims are worth more than the gold in friendship once they are practicing Momins. Obviously as far as having a high status in front of Allah, blood lines do not matter at all, the only criterion there is "taqwa".

Sister Hameedeh, mashAllah Allah bless you that you found such a practicing momin. You must have done really good to be rewarded with such a nice companion. As far as identity, I think I know your husband.. I won't say more bcause that would reveal my identity... But your husband is one of the finest Momins I've known.

(bismillah)

(salam)

I'm sure you don't know my husband because we don't live anywhere near you, whoever you are. 

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On 1/18/2012 at 9:44 AM, Replicant said:

You just did so in your story haha :D

 

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brother, I hope you're kidding. I deleted everything vaguely romantic, because I didn't want anyone to cry. :blush:

As we have seen in this topic, mutah is used differently by different people. It can be as simple as two people become mahram to each other so that they can shop for furniture for their apartment or eat dinner together without fear that they are committing sin.

I really think people could print parts of this topic and show it to their family. They might say, "Wow, I never thought that mut'ah could be so practical and beneficial, but now that I think about it, I realize that everything that Allah SWT has done for mankind is practical and beneficial."

Or maybe they might just say, "Alhamdulillah." That would be lovely. :)

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(bismillah)

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Alhamdulillah, we were at the same university and had two classes together, so we would talk to each other before and after our classes. I was a Christian and found out he was a Muslim. He explained that Muslims don't date, but if they want they can get married temporarily. He said later they can marry permanently OR break their temporary marriage IF they can't get along. He never tried to hold hands, hug or kiss me, so I knew he was a complete gentleman. His piety was impressive, and this made me more interested in him and his beliefs. I felt that I could trust him and he would never harm me.

He shared a house off campus with three other guys, and I lived in the woman's dorm with another girl. He and I used to go for a walk and just talk, to get away from our roommates. We set the time of our mut'ah marriage as four years. We thought this would be long enough for both of us to earn our bachelor degree. Four years made me feel secure that he was not just using me for a few days or a few weeks. I'm sure that if he had wanted a shorter time, less than one year, I would have been reluctant to marry him by mut'ah. We both agreed on the four years time limit and everything was good. On the weekends we began looking for an apartment. After six months of mut'ah marriage, we found a place near the campus and started living together.

Our life became really pleasant. I no longer had to say goodbye in the evening and watch him walk away. We walked to the university in the morning and came back to the apartment for lunch. We went to the university in the afternoon and came back later. We had homework to do, of course. We had chores to get done, but it wasn't difficult because we helped each other. We cooked dinner together and saved half of it to eat for lunch the next day. After dinner we would sit and talk about anything we wanted, but usually it was about Islam.

Sometimes we would discuss the Bible and the Qur'an. He was always patient to answer questions that I had about Islam. He translated some of the writings of Dr. Ali Shariati for me. I particularly liked his translation of the Four Prisons of Man, because it was not like anything I had read before. Later on, we bought his Hajj book and I thoroughly enjoyed reading that in English. One day I was ready to say my shahada and after I repeated the words, he took me to the sink and taught me how to take ablution. Then he taught me how to pray. Elahy shukr!

To make a long story short, we were married permanently and now we have three sweet kids, mashAllah. If my experience sounds like a fairy tale, I can only say that Alhamdulillah, it was, because my husband was a momin. Ok, that is all. Don't ask me any personal questions! I've said too much already. I want to remain anonymous at ShiaChat! I just wanted to explain to those who don't believe in mut'ah that it is halal and is a blessing for couples.

This story was beautiful! (I can't emphasise more on how much I was moved by it) You truly deserve to be called Ummul Shiachatters! :D

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On 1/18/2012 at 3:21 PM, Khadim uz Zahra said:

This story was beautiful! (I can't emphasise more on how much I was moved by it) You truly deserve to be called Ummul Shiachatters! :D

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brother, thank you for the compliment. I almost deleted my post, due to worry that I offended anyone. Then I saw people clicked the Like This button, so I didn't delete it. Now it is too late for me to delete it, because you quoted the whole thing. :blush:

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On 1/18/2012 at 4:29 PM, hameedeh said:

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brother, thank you for the compliment. I almost deleted my post, due to worry that I offended anyone. Then I saw people clicked the Like This button, so I didn't delete it. Now it is too late for me to delete it, because you quoted the whole thing. :blush:

I don't think there is anything in there to offend anyone but, if you still want to delete it, I can delete my post as well (you can tell me through a PM).

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(bismillah)

(salam)

First time heard of good Mut'ah experience. To be honest and with no offence towards any muslim girls, but I have never had good experience about them regarding relationship no matter how good man I have to be to them. That's why I only rely especially now only in Allah (SWT) to find good spouse.

Another thing is that I have never had a chance to do Mut'ah, so very difficult to say anything about it :D

Edited by sayedamir2000

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