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So how would you servive if you dont work?

Have you done something indirectly to her, for her to sabatage your work? Maybe something has happened to her in the past and shes taking it out on you.

I dont see what the problem is your just doing your job to provide for her lol.

And what if their non muslim , if you live in their country then you will interact with them.

I keep getting different versions of why she is unhappy. Ofcourse the fact that she'd want me to be of a specific religious benchmark remains. But I have been told there are others as well. The other day, in a fit of anger, she told me that she wanted to marry a convert or a khoja (im neither) and that she was forced by her mother to do marry me.

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The other day, she told me that working as an interfaith activist in not correct. As it means interaction with non-Muslims. She believes we should all sit and wait for the Imam as. I am afraid this thinking will permeate to my kids. They will grow up ignorant of the world.

why didn't you discuss the nature of your work before you guys actually married? anyways you mentioned that your wife is a good Mu'mina, have a look at these sahih hadith brother, i think it's best advice in ur situation.

The prophet (peace be upon him and his family) has said '' A Muslim must not hate his wife and if he be displeased with one bad quality in her, then let him be pleased with another that is good''.

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Salam Alaikum Brothers and Sister

I remember having conversations about jealousy in a woman. with a person who came up with hadiths similar. I agreed with the muslim man but then something occured with him where he let himself get out of control. then I used simple words from Islamic Laws and Islamic books about how what he was doing was wrong.

I mentioned that sex without marriage is haram, looking at naked women that are not your wives are haram. The muslim man said to me in frustration that he knew the Islamic law more than I and that the problems is not having knowledge he was wrong but that his desires were too strong and he did not know how to control it.

I suggested that is what marriage is for then he asked what happens if u marry the wrong woman the I answered according to books I read (Islamic) about waiting until Allah provides then the man stated " that's the problem I can not control my desire long enough to wait "

I realized I seemed heartless quoting things I read to a person who was truely wanting to do the right thing but could not. One day that same man mentioned something about Jealous women then I explained to him what I learned about that in the same way he explained his uncontrollable desire for sex I told him jealousy is as strong for some women as sex as is strong for some men and it is uncontrollable for those feeling it. Jealousy is a form of Kufr but Zena is also a form of Kufr and pornograpy all acts of kufr. The question is when you have this Spiritual illness how to cure it? When a person is sick we visit them and pray for their recovery

inshallah.

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Unlike many strong shia brothers and sisters on this site, I simply cannot sit and memorize a hadith and pretend to understand and follow it for a while until the reality of the situation comes back to bite me. Some of you guys can do this, I cant. I also feel there is difference of perception. My work, which I believe is purely within the boundaries of religion, will not and must not be stopped because my wife wants to be certain way. I had to admit, things tend to get worse, but then things get better. We have ZERO sex life, because we dont find each other attractive. We have very different view on religion, she believes in the Sharia and she doesntc care if she understands it. I do not want to do everything in life blindly. Herein lies the problem, she some times consciously makes an effort to sabotage my work. And I was looking for someone to understand the importance of having a balance in life . this creates a problem. Oh btw she's threatened to divorce me if id want to marry again. So im stuck with a woman who I know is in essence a good girl, who follows religion but is a total contrast to a woman who should be by my side. Taking life in stride.

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Unlike many strong shia brothers and sisters on this site, I simply cannot sit and memorize a hadith and pretend to understand and follow it for a while until the reality of the situation comes back to bite me. Some of you guys can do this, I cant. I also feel there is difference of perception. My work, which I believe is purely within the boundaries of religion, will not and must not be stopped because my wife wants to be certain way. I had to admit, things tend to get worse, but then things get better. We have ZERO sex life, because we dont find each other attractive. We have very different view on religion, she believes in the Sharia and she doesntc care if she understands it. I do not want to do everything in life blindly. Herein lies the problem, she some times consciously makes an effort to sabotage my work. And I was looking for someone to understand the importance of having a balance in life . this creates a problem. Oh btw she's threatened to divorce me if id want to marry again. So im stuck with a woman who I know is in essence a good girl, who follows religion but is a total contrast to a woman who should be by my side. Taking life in stride.

Sounds like you would both be better off with someone else.

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Unlike many strong shia brothers and sisters on this site, I simply cannot sit and memorize a hadith and pretend to understand and follow it for a while until the reality of the situation comes back to bite me. Some of you guys can do this, I cant. I also feel there is difference of perception. My work, which I believe is purely within the boundaries of religion, will not and must not be stopped because my wife wants to be certain way. I had to admit, things tend to get worse, but then things get better. We have ZERO sex life, because we dont find each other attractive. We have very different view on religion, she believes in the Sharia and she doesntc care if she understands it. I do not want to do everything in life blindly. Herein lies the problem, she some times consciously makes an effort to sabotage my work. And I was looking for someone to understand the importance of having a balance in life . this creates a problem. Oh btw she's threatened to divorce me if id want to marry again. So im stuck with a woman who I know is in essence a good girl, who follows religion but is a total contrast to a woman who should be by my side. Taking life in stride.

This could get really bitter which will make the rest of your life bad. You will also have no children. This is not what is a marriage.

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So my mother says I must try to salvage marriage. And I keep telling her what is the point, I do not want children with a women who might teach them how to piss on the infidel all the time and never embrace the reality.

i don't think i could put up with that either, if there is something i can't stand, yet it is a very common issue in our community, is ignorant people who want to be ultra-religious on everything yet they have absolutly no idea why they are being ultra-religious, that realy annoys me!! 'ZERO' sex life even before kids probably seals the deal....get out of this marriage and maybe both of yous wil meet the right people.

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how can u even consider this a problem in your marriage? sheesh...some ppl make the smallest things into problems..just delete all the females....why shuld it matter..she is ur wife and she has full rights over u..

I advise you to read on, The problem is a bit worse than that as we discover on post no. #49 on this thread.

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