People We Sit With.

[Al-Hadi]

(salam)

Alhamdulillah our religion is so in depth, and we have instructions and help for EVERY situation.

People argue that Islam doesn't give people rights, it just makes me laugh because Islam talks about rights in pretty much any given situation.

so here are some rights of people who you simply sit down with, and also the types of people we should sit with.

I think these hadiths can be applied to anyone we just generally are in the company of, not necessarily the people we're literally sitting down with.

The right of someone you sit with:

Imam Zaynul Abidin (as) said: "As for the right of your sitting companion - it is that you lower your wing to him [in humbleness], be fair to him in exchanging words, and do not get up from your sear without his permission, even though the one who sits with you has the right to leave without your permission. Forget his shortcomings and remember his virtues, and do not make him listen to anything other than good."-al khisal p 569 no 1

SubhanAllah! look at the level of akhlaq we have to uphold just to fulfil the rights of a person we are sitting with!

People we SHOULD sit with:

Imam Ali (as) said: "sit with the wise and your intellect will be perfected, your soul will be ennobled, and your ignorance will depart from you."-ghurar al hikam no.4787

The Prophet (saws) said :"Feign poverty and love the poor; sit with them and help them, and shun the companionship of the rich and be kind to them and covet not their wealth"- tanbih al khawatir v2 p 120

Imam Zayn al-abidin (as) said: "Sitting with the righteous brings about righteousness" - bihar al anwar v78 p141 no 35.

People we SHOULDN'T sit with:

The prophet (saws) said: "Beware of sitting with the dead" he was asked "O messenger of Allah, who are the dead? He (saws) said:"Every rich person whose wealth has made a tyrant of him"-tanbih al khawatir v2 p 32

Imam Ali (as) said :"Mixing with the seekers of this world, ruins one's religion and weakens certainty"-Ghuhr al hikam no. 5072

So now we possess some knowledge of people we should associate with.

I offer this advice to you all, though it may be hard to digest.

Evaluate your current friends and ask yourself "do they take me closer to Allah ÓÈÍÇäå æÊÚÇáì? are they deemed wise and intellectual?

if the answer is yes, then say alhamdulillah because you have good friends.

If the answer is no then ask yourself "do they run after the dunya? is all they pretty much talk about materialistic items and affairs? How much have i actually learnt from them?" if the answer to those lead you to the conclusion that they're not the prescribed people to be accompanying, then lastly ask yourself if you think they can change and become someone who fits the category of people you should accompany

I hope this thread helped you.

feel free to ask questions about anything I'VE said (i.e not the hadiths)

(wasalam)

[lalala123]

The Prophet (saws) said :"Feign poverty and love the poor; sit with them and help them, and shun the companionship of the rich and be kind to them and covet not their wealth"- tanbih al khawatir v2 p 120

Unfortunately, I am not in a position that I have to 'feign poverty'! :P

Seriously though, the kindness and altruistic behaviour of the Aimmah (as) knew no bounds. It's just such a beautiful hadith. Made me tingle inside.

Edited October 25, 2011 by lalala12

[Kamranistan]

Subhan'Allah.. My only question to you is..

WHEN CAN I SIT WITH YOU?

p.s. Masha'Allah at the thread

Edited October 25, 2011 by Kamran-Syed

[Al-Hadi]

Subhan'Allah.. My only question to you is..

WHEN CAN I SIT WITH YOU?

p.s. Masha'Allah at the thread

sit with me at any time you want kamran janoo :wub:

lol na in all honesty i think you shouldn't be in each others faces 24/7 because then there is the risk of getting sick of seeing each other, if you keep it in moderation then you crave to see each other and await the time you next meet. which works with the hadith from Ameer al-Mo'mineen (as) where he says the believer should be one who when he is with people, they enjoy his company, and when he is not, they crave his company. or something like that :P also if you're together too much there is the risk of it becoming waste conversation and so if that becomes a norm, of course it falls into the "shouldnt socialise with" category.

Unfortunately, I am not in a position that I have to 'feign poverty'! :P

Seriously though, the kindness and altruistic behaviour of the Aimmah (as) knew no bounds. It's just such a beautiful hadith. Made me tingle inside.

Alhamdulillah, great to see my thread helped someone! The words of RasoolAllah are indeed "tingling". InshaAllah we can adhere to their sayings and advice

[Kamranistan]

sit with me at any time you want kamran janoo :wub:

lol na in all honesty i think you shouldn't be in each others faces 24/7 because then there is the risk of getting sick of seeing each other, if you keep it in moderation then you crave to see each other and await the time you next meet. which works with the hadith from Ameer al-Mo'mineen (as) where he says the believer should be one who when he is with people, they enjoy his company, and when he is not, they crave his company. or something like that :P also if you're together too much there is the risk of it becoming waste conversation and so if that becomes a norm, of course it falls into the "shouldnt socialise with" category.

Alhamdulillah, great to see my thread helped someone! The words of RasoolAllah are indeed "tingling". InshaAllah we can adhere to their sayings and advice

Yeah true I could get sick of you pretty quick.. lool joking.

Alhamdhulilah, such a good thread man, these hadiths are.. Subhan'Allah..

[Thaara S Ali]

The above hadiths is really good , and in my point of view , we should all adopt manners and being genorous to whom we sit with and one should remember Allah when kept talking , even in mafatigh ul ginnah it said , before maghrib if you re siting with someone who put you far away from rememberance of allh then leave him or her and go for preaparation of namaz.

[SD2]

(salam)

JazakAllah Khair for the ahadith bro :D ... it was nice reading it, insha'Allah they will benefit me and others :D

(wasalam)