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I'm here because I need help. I get sexual aroused a lot in Ramadan for some reason (I am fasting btw), so I masturbate but I manage to convince myself to stop after a few minutes (Ejaculation does not occur). So it's been annoying for the past days, so I got a random idea which I think is wrong but that's why I'm asking:

After that I'm done with Fu'tur(eating when the Salaat al Maghreb & Al Aisha comes), I thought I will masturbate to ejaculation and perform ghusl so that I don't have to keep masturbating all the time ... I'm pretty sure it's wrong but I don't know what else to do. I was in the mosque reading Qu'ran with some of the people there, then all of a sudden when I come home I get the idea of watching porn.. I did it which was crazy afterwards, I thought about it. I usually read 8 pages of Qu'ran after it occurs and I read 2 pages of Qu'ran daily. But this time I thought I won't read because it was a lot of pressure so please answer my question: Am I allowed to do what I was thinking or not? I have no problem with people, I don't swear or anything, masturbating and porn are my only 2 problems... Thanks.

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I'm here because I need help. I get sexual aroused a lot in Ramadan for some reason (I am fasting btw), so I masturbate but I manage to convince myself to stop after a few minutes (Ejaculation does not occur). So it's been annoying for the past days, so I got a random idea which I think is wrong but that's why I'm asking:

After that I'm done with Fu'tur(eating when the Salaat al Maghreb & Al Aisha comes), I thought I will masturbate to ejaculation and perform ghusl so that I don't have to keep masturbating all the time ... I'm pretty sure it's wrong but I don't know what else to do. I was in the mosque reading Qu'ran with some of the people there, then all of a sudden when I come home I get the idea of watching porn.. I did it which was crazy afterwards, I thought about it. I usually read 8 pages of Qu'ran after it occurs and I read 2 pages of Qu'ran daily. But this time I thought I won't read because it was a lot of pressure so please answer my question: Am I allowed to do what I was thinking or not? I have no problem with people, I don't swear or anything, masturbating and porn are my only 2 problems... Thanks.

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Brother I ask Allah that he guides us all to His path. Brother, what you are describing is absolutely haram, one cannot masturbate under any circumstances (generally). We are currently being blessed by Allah because of His gift of the Month of Ramadhan. This is a month of mercy where Muslims should have taqwa of Allah and worship Him. Brother, masturbating under any circumstances is bad, and this is especially so in the Month of Ramadhan.

When one is committing an act that Allah has forbidden, such as masturbation, they should realize that Allah is watching over them and can see that they are disobeying Him. He knows what we do in public and in secret. And then, when the angel of death comes and takes our soul, we will be asked "why did we do our sins" and we will have no answer. And may Allah forgive us all, ameen.

Would you rather feel pleasure (from masturbation), which lasts for God knows how long (say 5 minutes), or would you rather be admitted into the Gardens of Paradise that Allah has promised for those who believed in Him. An everlasting peaceful and beautiful life is much better compared to our short decades that we spend on the earth. Keep this in mind when you are about to perform this evil act.

With regards to sexual desires, Allah has given us options so we can satisfy them without disobeying Him. And this is of course marriage. And Allah has blessed us with two types of marriage, namely permanent or temporal, to suit our situation and needs. Instead of satisfying yourself through haram means, why not get married? If one is not able to get married in their current situation, then rely on Allah to help you stay away from sin. In the Quran Allah tells us that the momineen say, ÊæßáÊ Úáì Çááå and inshallah Allah makes us from among them. Also remember that Allah is with those who are patient. With the help of Allah we must have taqwa (God-fearing), Sabr (patience), and niyyatun saliha (a good intention).

May Allah help and guide us all, Wassalam

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<p>Salaam brother, you can think of the desire to masturbate as actually evidence that you are actually on the right path.... of course when one sets out on the right path there will be numerous obstacles and forces that present itself just to take you off the path. Remember also that desires like to build up on top of eachother, of course when you have a mountain load of them the impulse is harder to avoid so try and not think about those thoughts during the day or else they will pile up.....remember that the YOU that truly exists is the ONE that does not need any satisfaction of desires, so when feeling impulses, try and step away from the situation and the more you stop thinking about it the less the impulse will come to you because you are creating power over it, of course ask Allah for help as well.......type in google help with masturbation, there are tons of support forums....just try and do it less and less every day and soon Inshallah the problem will go away as you build willpower and strength....also try working out to burn off that testosterone ;)</p>

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On 8/14/2011 at 7:12 PM, 14infallibles said:

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Brother I ask Allah that he guides us all to His path. Brother, what you are describing is absolutely haram, one cannot masturbate under any circumstances (generally). We are currently being blessed by Allah because of His gift of the Month of Ramadhan. This is a month of mercy where Muslims should have taqwa of Allah and worship Him. Brother, masturbating under any circumstances is bad, and this is especially so in the Month of Ramadhan.

When one is committing an act that Allah has forbidden, such as masturbation, they should realize that Allah is watching over them and can see that they are disobeying Him. He knows what we do in public and in secret. And then, when the angel of death comes and takes our soul, we will be asked "why did we do our sins" and we will have no answer. And may Allah forgive us all, ameen.

Would you rather feel pleasure (from masturbation), which lasts for God knows how long (say 5 minutes), or would you rather be admitted into the Gardens of Paradise that Allah has promised for those who believed in Him. An everlasting peaceful and beautiful life is much better compared to our short decades that we spend on the earth. Keep this in mind when you are about to perform this evil act.

With regards to sexual desires, Allah has given us options so we can satisfy them without disobeying Him. And this is of course marriage. And Allah has blessed us with two types of marriage, namely permanent or temporal, to suit our situation and needs. Instead of satisfying yourself through haram means, why not get married? If one is not able to get married in their current situation, then rely on Allah to help you stay away from sin. In the Quran Allah tells us that the momineen say, توكلت على الله and inshallah Allah makes us from among them. Also remember that Allah is with those who are patient. With the help of Allah we must have taqwa (God-fearing), Sabr (patience), and niyyatun saliha (a good intention).

May Allah help and guide us all, Wassalam

Mashallah thank you for this quote.

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I used to suffer horribly from sexual urges too, infact so much so i could not please my wife the way i knew i could due to masturbation. So much so i lost her to horrible urges which form from wanting to masturbate.

I can tell you now, that by masturbating not only will it prevent you from being able to 100% please the woman you love (whoever that may be), it will also impact upon your male organ in respect to how hard it will stand and for how long - Literally.

I have learnt that masturbation not only inhibits how strong your soul is to certain desires, but also clouds your judgement and makes you physically weaker. Effectively speaking, the more you do it the worst it will get.

I have abstained from masturbating for over 8 months now, i have never know myself to be so strong in the gym, nor so controlling with my urges and what i desire. The testosterone within me has risen and i know this for a fact due to the way my body has morphed physically. So abstaining from masturbation has so many benefits other then the obvious (which become obvious once you abstain for more then a month).

I sometime get urges to, although they are quite literally 80% lesser then what i used to get. I keep these urges at bay in the hope that inshallah i am saving myself for the woman i love and that with her it will be worth it as my love is so much stronger for her due to abstaining from such sins.

I know for fact from personal experience, that masturbation will cloud your love for the woman you want (or think you want).

Imagine a scenario so painful - That you perform self abuse (masturbation) once your wife has gone to bed. You then go to contradict your inner self and perform ghusl, only for when you return to your beautiful wife's bed, she wants you like never before and asks you to make love to her, only for you to be unable to perform for her, or even stand to attention. That is just a minor punishment to face, but one which is so painful to accept until you truly realise why we are forbidden to perform masturbation and you learn to inshallah completely abstain from performing it upon yourself.

'And those who do not find the means to marry should remain chaste until

Allah gives them resources by His grace.'

A.

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Salam, If you are still reading and willing to try it, I came across this excellent post from a brave and resolute brothers of ours over Shia Chat:

http://www.shiachat....ot-freed-of-it/ <- its under Brother's Forum

In fact I've found this approach of the brother to help stop any addiction (smoking, flirtation w/t girls/boys, over spending, addictive shopping, watching as not lowering your gaze, any kind of fetish, over love for materials, cars, money).

I really love the underline idea -

1. Make your covenant with Allah,

2. Rid yourself of CHOICE to commit that sin

3. Know the repercussions of breaking that covenant [consecutive fast for two months]

4. Overcome the initial pain of committing to that covenant and then fill your life with peace and bliss

I read some hadith about "tasting the taste of Iman - halavat ul iman", I believe if you follow this brother's approach, you will literally feel that feelings.

This is Ramadhan, make it your ally and rid yourself of this satanic habit.

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SIMPLE, BE WITH SOMEONE ALWAYS AND MAKE SURE IF YOU CANT FIND SOME ONE WITH THAN MAKE YOURSELF VERY BUSY MAYBE PRAYING (IF YOU ARE A TRUE MUSLIM). IF YOU KEEP COMMITTING THE SAME MISTAKE AGAIN AND AGAIN YOU TEND TO BE A ...... YOU KNOW WHAT. ANOTHER WAY USE CHILLY OR PERFUME IT WILL BURN YOUR DESIRE OUT FOR A WHILE.

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On 8/15/2011 at 12:39 PM, AbuLayla said:

Mashallah thank you for this quote.

Brother(s)

I used to suffer horribly from sexual urges too, infact so much so i could not please my wife the way i knew i could due to masturbation. So much so i lost her to horrible urges which form from wanting to masturbate.

I can tell you now, that by masturbating not only will it prevent you from being able to 100% please the woman you love (whoever that may be), it will also impact upon your male organ in respect to how hard it will stand and for how long - Literally.

I have learnt that masturbation not only inhibits how strong your soul is to certain desires, but also clouds your judgement and makes you physically weaker. Effectively speaking, the more you do it the worst it will get.

I have abstained from masturbating for over 8 months now, i have never know myself to be so strong in the gym, nor so controlling with my urges and what i desire. The testosterone within me has risen and i know this for a fact due to the way my body has morphed physically. So abstaining from masturbation has so many benefits other then the obvious (which become obvious once you abstain for more then a month).

I sometime get urges to, although they are quite literally 80% lesser then what i used to get. I keep these urges at bay in the hope that inshallah i am saving myself for the woman i love and that with her it will be worth it as my love is so much stronger for her due to abstaining from such sins.

I know for fact from personal experience, that masturbation will cloud your love for the woman you want (or think you want).

Imagine a scenario so painful - That you perform self abuse (masturbation) once your wife has gone to bed. You then go to contradict your inner self and perform ghusl, only for when you return to your beautiful wife's bed, she wants you like never before and asks you to make love to her, only for you to be unable to perform for her, or even stand to attention. That is just a minor punishment to face, but one which is so painful to accept until you truly realise why we are forbidden to perform masturbation and you learn to inshallah completely abstain from performing it upon yourself.

'And those who do not find the means to marry should remain chaste until

Allah gives them resources by His grace.'

A.

This was one of the best and satisfactory replies I saw on internet on why you should not masturbate !!

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I am to facing this problem and i hate when i do this i want to stop and need to but unfortunately i havent. I have only been doing it for a month but can i please have advice on how to stop an what to do to help

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On 5/12/2020 at 8:46 PM, Guest ...... said:

I am to facing this problem and i hate when i do this i want to stop and need to but unfortunately i havent. I have only been doing it for a month but can i please have advice on how to stop an what to do to help

See this video if it helps ..

 

 

Also, the reply from the brother above has really helped me stop doing any such kind of sin. This is the best response to help you stop such sin.

 

I am pasting the reply below for you to read and think on it :

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I can tell you now, that by masturbating not only will it prevent you from being able to 100% please the woman you love (whoever that may be), it will also impact upon your male organ in respect to how hard it will stand and for how long - Literally.

I have learnt that masturbation not only inhibits how strong your soul is to certain desires, but also clouds your judgement and makes you physically weaker. Effectively speaking, the more you do it the worst it will get.

I have abstained from masturbating for over 8 months now, i have never know myself to be so strong in the gym, nor so controlling with my urges and what i desire. The testosterone within me has risen and i know this for a fact due to the way my body has morphed physically. So abstaining from masturbation has so many benefits other then the obvious (which become obvious once you abstain for more then a month).

I sometime get urges to, although they are quite literally 80% lesser then what i used to get. I keep these urges at bay in the hope that inshallah i am saving myself for the woman i love and that with her it will be worth it as my love is so much stronger for her due to abstaining from such sins.

I know for fact from personal experience, that masturbation will cloud your love for the woman you want (or think you want).

Imagine a scenario so painful - That you perform self abuse (masturbation) once your wife has gone to bed. You then go to contradict your inner self and perform ghusl, only for when you return to your beautiful wife's bed, she wants you like never before and asks you to make love to her, only for you to be unable to perform for her, or even stand to attention. That is just a minor punishment to face, but one which is so painful to accept until you truly realise why we are forbidden to perform masturbation and you learn to inshallah completely abstain from performing it upon yourself."

 

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Salam,

There are 3 main enemies that can influence the human to do sins  and the possibilities to control:

1. The enemies from outside the body.  Examples of these enemies are Medias and other humans.  If we live in western world where nakedness is considered acceptable and widely available in the internet. Even watching a news can be a problem. 

Solution: train our faculties of seeing and hearing. Filter it.  We can hear but we don't listen.  We need Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) to create that filters.  Read doas taught by Prophet and Imams.  There are all filters.  Filters are readily available. Or keep ourselves busy with productive works...sports, house repairs, learn computer programming or new softwares or participate in hot discussions in SC...learn something new.

 

2. The enemies from outside that can enter the souls.  That enemies are syaitans. We don't see but they are coming without invitation.  Very weak but very slick. 

Solution: we have to directly seek refuge from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).  Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) promised that Syaitans can't enter the heart of Mukhlasseen.  The clear example:  we should read "aauuzibillahi minas Syaitani rajeem". I seek refuge in Allah (directly) from Syaitans.  This is a generous gift from Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)..BUT HOW MANY of us read it before reading Bismillah in all our actions.

 

3.  The enemies originated from our ownselves.  These enemies are "unsettled Souls".  All Souls in a body has power to exert their will power in human.  There are specific souls that control many faculties in human such as intelligence,  desire (sexual, eating), emotion...  These souls have free wills that make us human and without souls we are cripple.  Imam Ali (عليه السلام) said that "The best action is you force yourself to do it".  The inner us can control the Souls.  The inner us derives consciousness from the Ruuh that Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has installed in every human.  Comes with the Ruuh are Wills of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى)...or His Light (the Inner us).  Make this Light to control the Souls.  This is the same Light that Syaitans are afraid of and the same thing when we say "aauuzibillahi...".

 

See! ALLAH (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) has given us all the weapons and methods to control the self.

Reliance on Allah' (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) Will and Help is the only way to control the Souls (nafs)..until the souls reach to the level of peaceful and satisfied with the will of Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى).  In return Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) makes us fully control our sexual desire or all other desires.  If we cannot the self after trying sincerely   Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will make way for us to find the halal ways.  Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) will not burden any souls beyond what they cannot handle.

Wallahualam...

May Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) reward us with Laylatul Qadr and be with our living Imam(عليه السلام).

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