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What a strange question. If someone murders someone, it's better than if they raped and then murdered them right?

Masturbation is a Major Sin. It is like doing Zina with oneself. Spirituality, regular Namaz with complete sincere devotion, and Quran recitation is the solution. This is what i understood from "Jihad

if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

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What a strange question. If someone murders someone, it's better than if they raped and then murdered them right?

I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

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if i masterbate like three times a day, how bad is it really? better than having sex with a kafir right?

i often say this is similar to saying 1 day in hell is better than 2. ya you may be right, but is that what you really want? but understand that it's reported that Imams say don't look at how big or small the sin but look at who you're disobeying.

this disconnection from Allah should be enough to keep you away from these sins iA. ponder over this.

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I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

iA and there are plenty of ways of dealing with this. watch what you lay your eyes on. understand you'll be tested. if it was easy, believe me everyone would be in the masjids lining up. this is the way of the world. i think once we better understand this the more successful we can be in following our deen iA. if you need a more personalized reply, feel free to message me any time. try you best. Allah knows best those who strive in his way and who is better to reward than HIM?

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I have the same problem but i just abstain myself from doing masturbating everyday....... like i masturbate on average 2 a week bcoz I am afraid of Allah (s.w.t) When i wanna masturbate i have this feeling of fear inside and i can feel my good deeds get lost in my bad deeds....... So My brother all you have to do is fear Allah and abstain yourself as much as u can.......... Trust me u can not let go of Masturbation at once I noe this bcoz i've done that!!!!

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I have the same problem but i just abstain myself from doing masturbating everyday....... like i masturbate on average 2 a week bcoz I am afraid of Allah (s.w.t) When i wanna masturbate i have this feeling of fear inside and i can feel my good deeds get lost in my bad deeds....... So My brother all you have to do is fear Allah and abstain yourself as much as u can.......... Trust me u can not let go of Masturbation at once I noe this bcoz i've done that!!!!

I think most of you heard the famous saying, it was said on Mt. Sinai to Prophet Musa(a.s) when he was speaking with Allah(s.w.a). It is recorded in Bihar Anwar and the source is Imam Sadiq(a.s). It is a long ahadith, but there is one part that says 'The good deed is rewarded seven times and the penalty of one sin is perdition'. In other words, if something is haram, it is a sin, and the main consequence of sin is seperation from Allah(s.w.a). And since Allah(s.w.a) is the source of all hope, goodness, strength, hapiness, etc, when you are seperated from the source you in fact have nothing and depression is a physiological response to this but the spiritual response is much worse. So try to avoid any and every sin so that you will have security against seperation. That is the best way I can explain it.

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I'm sorry brother, but where I live, in a town of kafirs, where no Muslims live, its hard. especially with all this western culture around me. inshallah i will stay on the Straight Path.

umm. me 2 and i know alot of [edited - be careful not to backbite] masturbate, they do it because their cool? im in the puberty age, and i have refrained from this sin, alhamdullillah, i hope the same for you inshallah

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Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

If you actually read the article, you'll know it says more than just that it's wrong.

It has become a serious problem for many, and SC's playing it's part on helping such people.

It might also benefit people who are not trapped in the habit, as they can help others.

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Im disturbed to see such posts. i dont know about the policy of this website n other users thinks but i dislike such topics mentioning masturbation, eevery 1 knows its wrong.

Whenever such a topic (that is, a topic concerning sexual morality) comes up, people always say things like "SHHH! how dare you talk of such a ghastly matter?" or "This is taboo!"

This is exactly why many Muslims today suffer from a lack of sexual education. How else will we educate ourselves if we don't discuss it with others? By reading books? I think people are more inclined to discuss matters rather than read about them. There's NOTHING wrong about discussing an issue because it is a part of Islam. Are we in any way disrespecting our religion by doing so?....... doubt it.

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Man, specially teenagers, should know about the dangerous effects of masturbation (istimna) and the islamic view of it. Yeah, you think that everybody knows that it is haraam, but for example, myself didn't know until 13. I think that masturbation and pornography are two issues that affects almost all youths nowadays. We should, at least, warn about these. Making it a taboo won't make them disappear.

Good point. Items such as sex education is taking place for students who are 11-13 years of age, it is targetted to them that early, Islam needs to deal with the issue way, way before.

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Man, specially teenagers, should know about the dangerous effects of masturbation (istimna) and the islamic view of it. Yeah, you think that everybody knows that it is haraam, but for example, myself didn't know until 13. I think that masturbation and pornography are two issues that affects almost all youths nowadays. We should, at least, warn about these. Making it a taboo won't make them disappear.

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someone i know(not gonna mention) masturbates. i told him its haram. he said no. then he said because it cleanses the sperm. where the hell did he get that from

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Salam,

From Ayatollah Sistani's "Jurisprudence made easy"....

What about masturbation?

- It is haraam. You must avoid it. It suffices to mention that, in some narrations, Imam Ja'far as-Sadiq (a.s.) , described it as a form of adultery.

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Imam Ali(a.s) Once a person was caught masturbating and was brought to Imam 'Ali. The Imam punished him by beating on his hands until it turned red; then he made arrangement for his marriage on government's expenses. (Wasa'il, vol. 14, p. 267; vol. 18, pp. 574-5)

Marriage and Morals in Islam by Sayyid Rizvi

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I think our scholars need to address this issue in a bit more detail. I don't think that fatwas re: 'mastubation is haram' help resolve the issue. Honestly speaking, its hard to justify them when people have little support from Islamic societies. In the example above, Imam Ali a.s (The Islamic State) arranged for the person's wedding. We should ponder why. And it appears that Imam Ali a.s punished him because either halal means were available and that person did not avail them or he committed an indecent act in a public place. Contrary to that, we have many teenagers today hoping to become momineen (the way Prophet and Imams expect) but they face dillemas; they are unable to find practical halal means to help themselves. So what should they do ? If God of Islam is Just, why would He punish someone for committing an indecent act when that guy cannot find any other way except for a far worse crime such as adultery ?

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I think our scholars need to address this issue in a bit more detail. I don't think that fatwas re: 'mastubation is haram' help resolve the issue. Honestly speaking, its hard to justify them when people have little support from Islamic societies. In the example above, Imam Ali a.s (The Islamic State) arranged for the person's wedding. We should ponder why. And it appears that Imam Ali a.s punished him because either halal means were available and that person did not avail them or he committed an indecent act in a public place. Contrary to that, we have many teenagers today hoping to become momineen (the way Prophet and Imams expect) but they face dillemas; they are unable to find practical halal means to help themselves. So what should they do ? If God of Islam is Just, why would He punish someone for committing an indecent act when that guy cannot find any other way except for a far worse crime such as adultery ?

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Definitely, the parents and Sheikhs of our communities are seriously neglecting their duty in this regard.

Consider: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5aSNGxaRr0

But most of the time we either avoid this issue, or we tell the youth "just wait til you can get married", without solving the issue.

Yes, they should be patient until Allah(swt) enriches them out of His Bounty, but we need to help facilitate the marriages of the youth who have proven themselves to be mature and responsible.

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Definitely, the parents and Sheikhs of our communities are seriously neglecting their duty in this regard.

Consider: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q5aSNGxaRr0

But most of the time we either avoid this issue, or we tell the youth "just wait til you can get married", without solving the issue.

Yes, they should be patient until Allah(swt) enriches them out of His Bounty, but we need to help facilitate the marriages of the youth who have proven themselves to be mature and responsible.

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This is why I have advocated for certain things for a long time, but haven't had much success. I have been less active in this lately, because I have been really busy with my own life and family. Some of the khums money that is collected in the US and Canada needs to go toward addressing this problem. There are many ahadith that show the legitimacy of this means of distributing khums, such as the one cited above by br. InshahAllah. We don't have an Islamic State, but we have some resources. There are services that could be made available to our youth such as 'real' marriage services where brs and sisters are brought together and worked with and counseled on an individual basis to find the right mate for them. This should be done 'offline' in order to preserver the dignity of the br and sis and carried out by experts who are trained in counseling and are moimin/a and familiar with the Sharia regarding marriage. This takes time, expertise, and $ and services like Shiamatch, although better than nothing are not in any way beginning to address the need for more comprehensive services. Br and sis shouldn't have to rely only on 'aunties', high cost match makers, Shiamatch, or once a year events. Also, low cost / subsidised housing should be made available thru the community for young couples who lack the means to afford housing. This issue needs to be addressed, but the will doesn't seem to be there, although the resources are.

I agree that just tell someone 'masturbation is haram' is not adequate and will not solve their problem. I am trying and I know others are trying to get a more comprehensive solution for these brs. May Allah(s.w.a) help us.

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Masturbation is Haram. Find a Christian girl and perform temporary marriage. And if you can't do even do that and you know you will fall in the masturbation sin, then do a temporary marriage with a prostitute.

Do you hear what you are saying? "Don't fall into the sin of masturbation perform mut'ah with a Christian girl or prostitute." This is why I don't like the practice of nikah mut'ah. It's a loophole for perversity. It openly condones what Islam forbids. It blatantly corrodes the sanctity of the marriage contract. Marry a harlot temporarily just to have sex with her indeed. That's a fine prescription against masturbation indeed.

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Do you hear what you are saying? "Don't fall into the sin of masturbation perform mut'ah with a Christian girl or prostitute." This is why I don't like the practice of nikah mut'ah. It's a loophole for perversity. It openly condones what Islam forbids. It blatantly corrodes the sanctity of the marriage contract. Marry a harlot temporarily just to have sex with her indeed. That's a fine prescription against masturbation indeed.

It's better for someone to do something halal (heck even makrooh) than to do something completely forbidden, especially given how hard our society has made it for young men to get married early. Of course getting permanently married is 100x better than the other options but as you can see our Ummah is far from being ideal, what else do they do? In your opinion what else is a good cure for masturbation?

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It's better for someone to do something halal (heck even makrooh) than to do something completely forbidden, especially given how hard our society has made it for young men to get married early. Of course getting permanently married is 100x better than the other options but as you can see our Ummah is far from being ideal, what else do they do? In your opinion what else is a good cure for masturbation?

I think men, young and old, today need to stop being such pansies and show some self restraint for the good of their souls. I mean come on, sex for one is not that great, if it was then we wouldn't have to do it more than once. For two I don't think that the temptation is such that we should prescribe having sex with a prostitute under false pretenses and enter into a false marriage with said woman. It's called being a man and getting over it. The Muslim community out of any body should realize the importance of self-discipline, it's not that hard to not masturbate, I mean it's really not and it's completely absurd to go through these perverse loopholes as a means to relieve yourself. I mean, if you see an attractive woman, so what? Woopie de doo Basil! The more you sexualize the presence of women and strongly reinforce these notions with things like mut'ah the bigger the problem is going to become. You know what else is forbidden? Adultery and despite this guise of legality the practice of nikah mut'ah specifically for sex in response to masturbation is still adultery, in my opinion. You don't have any honest intentions with this woman, especially if said woman is a [Edited Out], it's strictly about sex and is in direct response to not being able to control your own self sexually. I don't see much difference between this and going out to a pub, picking up some Christian girl and having sex with her. The only difference I see is having this piece of paper that says "oh, yeah, we are married, see, it says so right here, so everythings good." It probably doesn't say in the contract "I'm marrying a [Edited Out] and or non-Muslim woman just so I can make sex with her because I am a child and can't control myself like a man," does it? It's a hollow charade and it's completely perverse. Not to mention the possibility of diseases (most prostitutes aren't that clean) and pregnancy. In short it's called being a man and being a Muslim man. If a person honestly can't help themselves and it's such a problem that it interferes with their daily life then they do indeed have a problem and should go seek counseling and therapy otherwise stop being a whiny baby because you can't have your candy.

Go out, watch a movie, hangout with friends, read a book, smoke a nice cigar or pipe. There is millions of other things to be enjoyed other than sex and if you really want that female contact why not just talk to a woman? Hangout, be friends, why does it always have to be about sex? Why are women forever objects of sex? They are human, they have personalities, it is possible to enjoy the company of a woman without having sex with her or thinking about having sex with her. Shocking I know, but it is totally possible and what's more it's totally halal. Not to mention it could eventually lead to a legitimate relationship were one wouldn't need to consider going through these sick loopholes.

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This is why I have advocated for certain things for a long time, but haven't had much success. I have been less active in this lately, because I have been really busy with my own life and family. Some of the khums money that is collected in the US and Canada needs to go toward addressing this problem. There are many ahadith that show the legitimacy of this means of distributing khums, such as the one cited above by br. InshahAllah. We don't have an Islamic State, but we have some resources. There are services that could be made available to our youth such as 'real' marriage services where brs and sisters are brought together and worked with and counseled on an individual basis to find the right mate for them. This should be done 'offline' in order to preserver the dignity of the br and sis and carried out by experts who are trained in counseling and are moimin/a and familiar with the Sharia regarding marriage. This takes time, expertise, and $ and services like Shiamatch, although better than nothing are not in any way beginning to address the need for more comprehensive services. Br and sis shouldn't have to rely only on 'aunties', high cost match makers, Shiamatch, or once a year events. Also, low cost / subsidised housing should be made available thru the community for young couples who lack the means to afford housing. This issue needs to be addressed, but the will doesn't seem to be there, although the resources are.

I agree that just tell someone 'masturbation is haram' is not adequate and will not solve their problem. I am trying and I know others are trying to get a more comprehensive solution for these brs. May Allah(s.w.a) help us.

^ Mashallah! May Allah(swt) reward you!

The Muslim Congress is coming up in a few months; I think this is a good place to bring up this issue because of the personalities that will be there.

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It's better for someone to do something halal (heck even makrooh) than to do something completely forbidden, especially given how hard our society has made it for young men to get married early. Of course getting permanently married is 100x better than the other options but as you can see our Ummah is far from being ideal, what else do they do? In your opinion what else is a good cure for masturbation?

BTW I should note that although I have referenced "makrooh" for the act of going to a prostitute, this is highly debatable and I have heard it is either makrooh or completely haram (depending on the scholar), so please refer to your marja before getting the wrong idea.

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lol @ muta with a christian woman, "masturbation is a terrible crime, but go right ahead and do muta with an ahle kitaab girl, thats fine"

am i the only one thinking something isnt right here?

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