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Masturbation In Islam

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Masturbation is entirely unhealthy. It is a lot better to be patient and fear God, and there are rewards in that.

There is a hadith:

"There will be newer kinds of diseases and problems for man in the later times." I asked: "Why is it so?" Replied: "Because mankind will find newer ways of committing sin."

It is an unnatural and homosexual act, therefore its love will over time make the sinner dislike the natural. It will deplete your physical and spiritual energies and turn you into a pathetic husk. Speaking of the spiritual, meditation and remembrance of Allah is a good way of fighting desire. Get a rosary and never let you free mind wander off. You can chant the kalima tayyiba, darood pak, astaghfar while focusing on your heart and thinking of Allah.

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Agree completely that masturbation is devastating both physically and spiritually. If it was impossible to overcome, then Allah9swt) would not have made it haram.

Once you reject the prevailing culture's assumption that is it natural and acceptable, and then move to fully embrace the Islamic paradigm, you'll realize just how utterly pathetic masturbation is. Are we not strong enough to control our sexual urges? Are we really that weak and feeble?

As brothers have pointed out, there's loads of things one can do to minimize the urges. I'd suggest going to the gym regularly, as i did in the other thread. It will help immensely. Don't listen to garbage music, stop watching c.rap on television and don't lustfully look at women. Do all of the above and your struggle becomes that much easier.

We're in Ramadan, and there's no better time than the present to overcome this disgusting habit.

Edited by Fiasco

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I too am battling this "disease." I know it is totally haram, but I have been masturbating for the past 8-9 years :/

I starting masturbating w/o knowing wat I was doing in the beginning. It felt good, but at that time I didn't even know what I was doing let alone know that it is haram. I used to do it several times a day, then I tried stopping for a while and was successful (a couple of months). And then I started this bad habit again, but I limit myself to nowhere near the frequency of several years back. I need to stop! I have realized that going to the gym and really keeping myself occupied w school work/house work and prayer/zikr has helped me reduce this act. Inshallah I will be able to stop completely in the near future.

I want to get married, but in today's world we are "too young" to get married.

Allah give us the strength to rid us of all these bad habits!

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I found that what effectively cut me off from Choking the Chicken was watching Iranian movies like Mohktar or Nabi Yusuf (as), they melted my heart away such that I began crying in my prayers when I was not able to before. But aside from that, occupying yourself pretty much makes things incredibly easy especially if you're younger and in grade school. Just have one or a group of friends visit you or you go to them and spend most of your free time that you would normally sit alone in your room with them.

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I have realized that going to the gym and really keeping myself occupied w school work/house work and prayer/zikr has helped me reduce this act. Inshallah I will be able to stop completely in the near future.
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I'm now in my 9 month and the desire of masturbation is Gone. Actually when i think of it, it only give me such a feeling that how worthless this action is. And in same time always in my mind comes such a thoughts where God says do not do it.</div>

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How i get rid of it? Removed my Ego, developed Taqwa of God (important) and awareness of God (comes from Dhikr of Allah). Just reading the quranic verses about how haram masturbation is was enough. <br />

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Now i really understand the infallibility of Imams (as) and Prophets (as) <img alt=" :yaali:" class="bbc_emoticon" src="http://www.shiachat.com/forum/public/style_emoticons/default/post-45373-1209287012.gif" title=" :yaali:" /></div>

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Masturbation is Haram. Find a Christian girl and perform temporary marriage. And if you can't do even do that and you know you will fall in the masturbation sin, then do a temporary marriage with a prostitute.

Wht a rubbish post...

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I have read this thread and it has been very helpful MashAllah.

However,

"Masturbation is Haram. Find a Christian girl and perform temporary marriage. And if you can't do even do that and you know you will fall in the masturbation sin, then do a temporary marriage with a prostitute."

Wht a rubbish post...

Why are people disagreeing with the idea of doing Muta with a Christian girl? If she has waited the period and is a believer of the Book, etc. Why is it frowned upon? As for the latter solution with a prostitute: it is definitely true that it would be impossible that a prostitute hasn't had sex for a couple months so it seems unlikely for that solution to work.

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A question just occurred to me, "Is the spouses' masturbation during the intercourse forbidden too?" of course it may need estefta', but thinking about the answer can help us get closer to the intention behind this prohibition.

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Why is your spouse allowed to use her hand instead of you using your own? It has the same actual effect.... And when you reach an orgasm in intercourse in what way is it "healthier" than reaching an orgasm while masturbating.

I have learnt that masturbation is haram and haven't done it for a month and my hormones are about to explode right now. I'm going threw puberty and I live in London so what ever I do doesn't work. I fasted, occupied my self with a lot of things to do, etc and it doesn't make a difference. I also read that you can "lower your gaze" that is a complete joke. Where ever I will look there will be something unless I walk with my eyes closed, if you don't believe me come to London and try it out, plus the image in your head wont magically vanish when you look down.

And when people say get married, heck I will be able to get married when i'm 32! That's when I finish the course I am doing. It takes 14 years and if I get married I will fail it. So with all the obstacles around me to release the tension specially when their at their highest rate is hard to cope with for another 14 years and I can see my self very well having is with another woman.

So what do I do?

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Masturbation is a very unique sin, because sex has been a special behavior for mankind. We know that the one religion which has considered this sin a kabira (Major sin) is shia. What I'm trying to tell you is that to the extent you think yourself a shia, you should try to refrain from committing kabiras, and make sure you will see the result. I recommend you try to rule your mind, to completely aware of the images that are produced in your mind. It is a difficult task and that's why your endeavor is a jihad, a major jihad.

The prophet (s) send a corps to a war. When they were back he said: Welcome to the people of "minor Jihad", but a major Jihad has still remained. They asked: "O Prophet! What is major Jihad?" He said: "Jihad with the Nafs" (ego: the lowest dimension of man's inward existence). Imam Ali (a) said the best jihad is the jihad with the Nafs that lies between his sides.

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sigh... this is exactly why Islamic tradition encourages men to get married early, so that this does not become a problem... however it is not considered acceptable any more

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If one does commit this sin how does he ask for forgiveness from Allah, any specific du'a and should he say this in his prayers or after?

Read this chapter to see how bad fornication is : http://www.al-islam....complete/15.htm

Masturbation is a form of fornication.

Also

Both Imam Muhammad al-Baqir (a.s.) and Imam Ja’far as-Sadiq (a.s.) have informed,

“There is no man who is not to some extent guilty of fornication. The fornication of the eyes is the evil glance, the kiss is the fornication of lips and touching a non-mahram woman is the fornication of hands.”

(Wasa’il ul-Shia)

Read these two chapters on how to repent for sins :

http://www.al-islam....complete/57.htm

http://www.al-islam....complete/58.htm

Edit : To add, dont forget ghusl becomes wajib when you ejaculate. After you ejaculate you cannot pray until you have done ghusl, here are basic rules on ghusl : http://sistani.org/i...&id=49&pid=2403

To go more in depth in the rules check these out :

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2161 - Introduction

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2162 - Rules Regarding Janabat

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2163 - Forbidden acts for those in Janabat

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2164 - Things which are makrooh for Junub

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2165 - Ghusl for Janabat

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2166 - Ghusl Tartibi (sequential)

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2167 - Ghusl Irtimasi (by submerging the whole body)

http://sistani.org/i...&id=48&pid=2168 - Rules about Ghusl

If you need help with anything else just ask :)

(wasalam)

Edited by The_Shia_Terminator

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instead of debating and preaching on this subject how about who ever you are, where ever you are, try and figure out ideas to allow people to get married without the financial and educational constraints. Many people can't get married because of money,status or choice. Broke people do not have large choices which is an injustice in it self. GET your heads rolling in your communities, friends, circles whatever and solve the problem instead of being E-preachers.

Thanks

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instead of debating and preaching on this subject how about who ever you are, where ever you are, try and figure out ideas to allow people to get married without the financial and educational constraints. Many people can't get married because of money,status or choice. Broke people do not have large choices which is an injustice in it self. GET your heads rolling in your communities, friends, circles whatever and solve the problem instead of being E-preachers.

Thanks

It is good to raise awareness, and tell others about it too. If no one told others about masturbation, how it can be dealt with, and the repercussions of it within Islam, then eventually it may lead to people thinking it is a minor sin, or even worse they may not recognise it as a sin.

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lol @ muta with a christian woman, "masturbation is a terrible crime, but go right ahead and do muta with an ahle kitaab girl, thats fine"

am i the only one thinking something isnt right here?

It is Halal to marry Ahlul Kitaab, who said it was Haraam???

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can any body please translate this in english?

I can just read this

"khuda wand alam mein sab se zyada usse naraaz hote hain jo....."?

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I can just read this

"khuda wand alam mein sab se zyada usse naraaz hote hain jo....."?

Khudawand-e-aalam sab se zyada is shakhs par naraaz hotay hain jis ka mutama-e-nazar is ka pait aur sharam gaah ho.

Translation: The Lord of the worlds is most angered from the person whose hub of all attention are his stomach (in reference to eating excessively and a desire to be rich) and private parts.

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Khudawand-e-aalam sab se zyada is shakhs par naraaz hotay hain jis ka mutama-e-nazar is ka pait aur sharam gaah ho.

Translation: The Lord of the worlds is most angered from the person whose hub of all attention are his stomach (in reference to eating excessively and a desire to be rich) and private parts.

thankyou for traanslation,but i dont understand why u added words from your own idea?

desire for getting rich for good work can never be bad, yeah eating excessive and thoughts of private parts can be bad.

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Being very rich = filling up your stomach unnecessarily and possibly unlawfully

We've been taught in ahadith that too much wealth has rarely been of much use and the rich in this world with be the poor ones in the Hereafter since they'll have to give account of everything they spent.

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Translation: The Lord of the worlds is most angered from the person whose hub of all attention are his stomach (in reference to eating excessively and a desire to be rich) and private parts.

(bismillah)

(salam)

Thanks brother :)

i think this will need no translation...

An actual believer is that whose sexual appetite does not overcome him and whose stomach does not shame him.

Imam Ja'far al-Sadiq (as)

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Religious Point:

First of all we should ask ourselves a Question. Why are we here in this world?

Are we here to fulfil our desires? Islam is not a religion for those who are slaves of their desires.

Islam is a religion for those who say we are slaves of Allah alone. Abviously you will need to stuggle hard.

These are the tests which you have to pass to be able to call yourselves slave of Allah.

Have you ever seen the one who has taken his own desires as his

god? Would you take the responsibility of guiding him?[43] Or do you think that most

of them listen or try to understand? They are nothing but animals - nay, they are even

further off the track![44] 25:[43,44] Holy Quran

Benifits of controlling desires:

How would you consider such a person who know something from depth of his heart and is unable to practice it. We call them coward. He is not even faithful to himself.

Those who are faithful to themselves have an ability to excell in every aspect of their life. Control your desires for just few days and notice yourself and your feeling toward everything. You will notice a dramatic change in your approach. Atleast I have noticed a lot of change in my approach.

This is just one thing I have noticed there may be lots of other benifits.

By desires I did not mean sexual desires alone but all the desires that a person may have.

How to Control Desires:

As we see every where haram is very easy and halal is very difficult in our societies. But if we see who are responsible for all this.

Our marriage ceremonies, not looking upon poor, making divisions, racism at extreme, selfishness. If one see in himself everybody have in someway or another indulge in these problems.

If we are involves in ourselves so much and ignoring others, how can we expect from Allah to shower his blessings on us. Each and everyone of us are himself god in his mind. Think harder everyone of us can get his answer. Everybody think that he is better but don't even know himself.

Secondly our religious leader should explain in detail about these deseases.

These are my observations and a little logic. Please forgive me if I am wrong anywhere. I am human and mistakes do happen.

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Religious Point:

First of all we should ask ourselves a Question. Why are we here in this world?

Are we here to fulfil our desires? Islam is not a religion for those who are slaves of their desires.

Islam is a religion for those who say we are slaves of Allah alone. Abviously you will need to stuggle hard.

These are the tests which you have to pass to be able to call yourselves slave of Allah.

Have you ever seen the one who has taken his own desires as his

god? Would you take the responsibility of guiding him?[43] Or do you think that most

of them listen or try to understand? They are nothing but animals - nay, they are even

further off the track![44] 25:[43,44] Holy Quran

Benifits of controlling desires:

How would you consider such a person who know something from depth of his heart and is unable to practice it. We call them coward. He is not even faithful to himself.

Those who are faithful to themselves have an ability to excell in every aspect of their life. Control your desires for just few days and notice yourself and your feeling toward everything. You will notice a dramatic change in your approach. Atleast I have noticed a lot of change in my approach.

This is just one thing I have noticed there may be lots of other benifits.

By desires I did not mean sexual desires alone but all the desires that a person may have.

How to Control Desires:

As we see every where haram is very easy and halal is very difficult in our societies. But if we see who are responsible for all this.

Our marriage ceremonies, not looking upon poor, making divisions, racism at extreme, selfishness. If one see in himself everybody have in someway or another indulge in these problems.

If we are involves in ourselves so much and ignoring others, how can we expect from Allah to shower his blessings on us. Each and everyone of us are himself god in his mind. Think harder everyone of us can get his answer. Everybody think that he is better but don't even know himself.

Secondly our religious leader should explain in detail about these deseases.

These are my observations and a little logic. Please forgive me if I am wrong anywhere. I am human and mistakes do happen.

You make it sound so easy :P but think about it, a teen with raging hormones living at a time where they get bombarded with sexual images and thoughts on a daily basis is overwhelming. Were human and there's only so much someone can take before giving in, scientifically speaking. Now everything you said is right obviously, but it's no way as easy as you put it.

Other things apart from sexual desires can be easier to control since hormones aren't created in your body for the desire. Unless it's a drug addiction almost everything else can be avoidable.

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"We might say, then, that the fixation of a desirable habit increases efficiency arid the fixation of an undesirable habit decreases efficiency."

"The better fixated a habit becomes, the more powerful it seems to him who possesses it."

"As a habit becomes more firmly fixed it requires less attention, effort, and thought. In other words, it becomes increasingly automatic."

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i dont want to get in the debate of how to get rid of this practice,but i would like to say,just leave this habbit and see,u will gain lots of confidence and satisfaction.even u will get closer to Allah subhanu.

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