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You should have gone to that barbecue. You can eat the veggie burgers if you don't eat or drink the haraam stuff then you should be fine.

its haram to put yourself in a position where your surrounded by haram

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Find some muslim friends... there are plenty in the west I promise

my best friend isn't muslim but we share a lot of things in common...

she doesn't go out or drink and she's very tolerant about my faith.. she would buy halal meat when I come over for dinner...and we always have healthy discussions about faith and such..

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My friends never invite me anywhere because now I'm "boring"

I have the same prblm even though i live in Iran. Because they do so many haram things. Or maybe its just me?

I live in a Western society and everyone my age seems to be enjoying themselves except for me. Its Saturday night i'm stuck at home doing nothing. The other day I was invited to a barbecue but of course I didn't go because of the alcohol and the najis food once again blowing a chance to socialize with other human beings.

Thats because uv just changed ur religion, not ur life. Some things will have to change when u change ur religion. Like the guys u hang out with. If u cant hang out with them for religious reasons, find an Islamic community, or a shia one and hang out with them and then, voila! There comes back ur socialistic life, but now, with new ppl, who share ur same kind of thinking basically. U will now be in a community in which u r no longer "booring".

(and get a girlfriend, you'll feel better... just dont go beyond hug, kissing, talking etc)

How is that possible! GF is already haram in Islam! Ur telling him to kiss and hug a La-Ma7ram girl?Unless its muta!

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you know to me being a Muslim in the west is MUCH easier, and happier than being a Muslim is the East.... there r SO SO many things you could do in the west! :D

and if your old friends don't want u.. don't want em 2!! make new ones!! :D

1. find a center near you.. or a few.. and go meet up with new ppl! :Hijabi:

2. go volunteer.. you usually meet really cool people who love to help.. well unless they were forced to be there.

3. go to museums and gallerias.. you don't have to go with anyone.. just go and wander around and ENJOY the art and the history! :D

4. go watch movies in the theater.. you can tell a co worker or a class mate.. or urself.. u'll still enjoy a good movie! :D

5. introduce yourself to people instead of waiting for em to approach..

here's a way if you are a student.. a person would sit next to you Muslim or not.. doesn't matter .. and be like hi I'm ....., what's ur name? and ask if this class was part of their major.. and just make small talks! :D

6. believe that you are interesting and an enjoyable company, and ppl will believe it 2 :D

7.smile and welcome new ppl to your life.. don't be like ... UGH they r not muslims.. they drink whatever.. just take the good for the person and ignore the bad.. you rn't maryying them :P

8. go to social events organised by your work or school.. if they'll drink and dance, etc.. attend the 1st part of it where ppl r stilll not going crazy :wacko:

9. go to private classes or the gym... you can meet ppl sharing the same interests in such classes.. like go to a yoga class for example.. and just talk a bit to the ppl.. and even if you don't make friends.. you'll fill your time :)

10. stay on sc and u might find some cool ppl to friend ;)

SHOUT YAAAAY FOR LIFE and enjoy every bit!! :yaali: :yaali: :yaali:

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its haram to put yourself in a position where your surrounded by haram

Then I guess it's time to move away from all "western" countries and back to the Middle East, Pakistan, etc. Or maybe it's time to become a hermit and move to the woods away from everyone else.

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Then I guess it's time to move away from all "western" countries and back to the Middle East, Pakistan, etc. Or maybe it's time to become a hermit and move to the woods away from everyone else.

LOL who said the middle East is halal? :Hijabi: it's as bad as the western countries only difference people are hiding it, which is actually worse coz there r so many fake ppl acting to be GREAT and really good muslims, but then u find out that they drink and things .... :squeez:

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see thats whats puzzles me how can you so easily class something as haraam? first i get told i can't purchase anything from anywhere where alcohol is sold and now the haraam surroundings?? gosh there are muslims living in the west how do they deal with other than staying locked up or moving to the middle east EVENTHOUGH the same is happening there may Allah (s.w.t) guide all momineen and mominaat

YA Allah HELP xx

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^ don't forget you can't vote (but are allowed to complain when you don't like governemt policy), you can't get into a taxi if the driver has music playing, men can't watch tv if the women aren't in hijab. etc,etc

LOL totally agree and no public transport what are we going to do? like honestly this is a joke

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“This world is not a permanent place, it is a passage, a road on which you are passing. There are two kinds of people here: One is the kind of those who have sold their souls for eternal damnation, the other is of those who have purchased their souls and freed them from damnation” Imam Ali (A.S)

“Anyone who loves us Ahlulbayt must be ready to face a life of austerity”- Imam Ali (A.S)

so true !!

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Hi. I used to not be a practicing Muslim until a few years ago. Ever since I became pious and began to pray and try to follow my religion my life has become so much worse. My friends never invite me anywhere because now I'm "boring". My life is so empty, there is absolutely nothing to do. I live in a Western society and everyone my age seems to be enjoying themselves except for me. Its Saturday night i'm stuck at home doing nothing. The other day I was invited to a barbecue but of course I didn't go because of the alcohol and the najis food once again blowing a chance to socialize with other human beings. No matter how much I try to please Allah he makes me suffer. I have prayed to Allah to reverse my situation, he never seems to answer me. I don't want to be like this my whole life. I cant help it but now I'm beginning to feel blasphemous thoughts and wishing I never was guided and never prayed. Why does Allah do this to us. Does he really expect me to be confined to my room my whole life? Is it Haram to be angry at Allah? I cant control my emotions anymore its like I got the bad end of the deal. I honestly am not a person who usually complains but recently I've had enough I feel like i'm gonna point my finger at the sky and say things I will regret later. Can someone help me please?

Anything good happening to you is from Allah (swt), anything bad is due to your bad choices. :)

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There's a hadeeth saying that Dunya is a prison for the pious muslim and a paradise for the kaffir.

Just be patient . Jannah will come in no time , life goes fast..don't wait your time BBQ in the non-halal way. Staying stuck in the room ,reading quran is way better !

Edited by enlight_warner

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Hi. I used to not be a practicing Muslim until a few years ago. Ever since I became pious and began to pray and try to follow my religion my life has become so much worse. My friends never invite me anywhere because now I'm "boring".

Please...you're breaking my heart.

:huh:

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Asalamualaikum wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuhoo.

Peace be upon you brother or sister,i know what you are going through i have felt the same way.I hope that my advice can be of some help to you.YOu see i too was someone going thru this until  i believed Allah helped me.As a shia counselor once told me, when i felt i had people misjudging me that Allah SWT knows who i am inside, i dont need to prove myself to other people out there.I believe perhaps there are people out there in shaa Allah that you could socialise with,because you see the way i tried to make friends was speaking with most people,seeing who i could have in common with and when i also prayed to Allah, then some people were nice to me and one even hung out with me.Dont distance yourself from society and as the other members are saying, try to find a shia center near you ,try to engage in events and hang out with the people and also talk to them.Perhaps even talk to your local maulana at the center to help introduce you to other people whom you can hang out with, and also try to organize a hangout session,such as boys or girls like you could come one day at the shia center for a big hangout to some mall or outdoor water park or other places.If you still feel sad, why not talk to your mom or dad for advice.Ask them if they have friends which they could visit that could have daughters or sons of your ages to hang out.Thats what happened with me and my dad.Also if possible try to talk to your friends if they dont feel offended that you may not be able to talk about( and i know this could be hard) about certain things but you guys can still have fun such as go bowling, go to the mall, play laser tag, watch a movie to distract yourselves, perhaps there are other topics you can talk about,such as school, perhaps even deep conversations about life in general and you could even talk to them about your situation, about how islam was important to you and how you became pious but you need friends and dont like being called boring.Just make sure you dont offend them and consider this advice with caution if you know your friends because hehe i actually dont.The truth is ,and i also hope i can remember this is ,just try and leave the rest up to Allah,pray to Allah.Even if no one else is, i know, He is there.He is there.OH you beautiful soul.When i was in despair over my situation changing and thought it was going to last, Allah was the one who provided miracles in front of my very eyes, and helped me and my situation changed.I pray to Allah SWT to help you grant you the best of friends whom you can hang out with, the best of people you can rely upon for support and make you truly happy.I pray to Allah for this.Ameen. :D:D:D 

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