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Asalamu Alaykom sisters =)

I want to ask you all how do you find life with Hijab, & what you feel about being covered all day everyday?

I do wear the hijab (al-hamdullilah), & i've had it on for a few months now. In the beginning I loved the idea of

Covering up for modesty & following Gods ruling, as well the idea woman are looked at more than just a pretty face/body.

Well, I can honestly say that I have ups & downs with the hijab. For one thing Living in a western country makes it hard when having to

be different & resist the temptation to want to let loose & live like "normal". That's what I was use to before hijab, I wasn't a bad person

& treated others well, & was bubbly, happy & enjoyed my life not thinking about how my hair & clothes made a difference? Anyway, when I

read about the hijab I did become inspired at that time. Now after wearing it for so long I feel like I'm missing out on life, for no point, becos I don't

find people understand the hijab as they should... Muslim & non Muslim alike still mistreat woman, & Muslim woman will never be perfect

As they are only human. So all this so called modesty & talk about treating woman as equal

is unrealistic! This world & ppl is too corrupted for this idea to work. We are human after all, modesty & respect should be understood & acted upon

instead of wearing a hijab & expecting a change... It doesn't help? I feel like a hypocrite.

I don't know why I'm being so negative? May god forgive me :( But it's how I truly feel, and I wanted to share it Here

so that maybe I find someone who is going thru the same thing?

I honestly miss my hair & my individuality, & my freedom to be able to do what I want (eg. Be loud

and kid around without sumone judging me about having to be a "Perfect Muslim Hijabi."

I dislike that my clothes are boring & I blend in with all other Muslim woman in the area (who don't necessarily act Muslim, & who are not very open minded.)

Please understand I'm not against the IDEA of hijab, the fact that it stands for modesty, purity, strength, freedom etc... I'm only trying to convey that my experience I have found

That the hijab in this day & age is not going to work UNLESS woman fully isolate themselves from society & live in their homes without any tv, radio & outside influence. I can

never be like that, I'm too much of a positive happy open minded person to shut myself out and unsocialise. I'm not perfect but I still try to do my best in religion.... I'd prefer being that than a hypocrite in hijab. This reminds me of imam Ali saying.. " the sin which makes u sad & repented is more loved by Allah swt than the good deed which turns u arrogant."

God knows best. May He forgive me for my ignorance :(, & guide us all to the straight path inshallah!

Wassalam.

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k Honestly same story here... i feel yea ... i'm in the similar situation n i just started wearing it ...to b honest i' feel uncomftroble wearing it ... living in a westren country for more then 10 years not wearing hijab n now i just strted wearing it in university .... thou i really don't c the point ... sometimes i think sure, it's a safety n a securiety of women from men but hey has n e one ever thought that why the heck should us women suffer wearing a hijab... i'm srry but let's face it girls some of don't like wearing it .... n i'm honest here ... the reason why i'm wearing it cuz the sake of Allah(swt) otherwise i woudn't... i srsly feel like no freedom at all... like i'm physically outside but mentaly i feel like i'm in those dayss wear the womens use to stay home all life long... i'm srorry for my ignorance but tuba tuba i'm sefenately not against it but sometime i do think abt this ... it's hard for some of who live in westeren countries ...who go to universety... some of us don't have that much tolarence ...lol ...like me i can't handle hijab on hot dayzz at all i don't knw how i'm gunnah manage it since i just started wearing it... i'm a winter person n i hate hot days i even have fans on sonwy dayzz ..lol soo imgain it ..how am i gunnah face it wacko.gif i seriously wish there was some alternative for hijab .... i really wish there was...

sorry i really don't mean to desrespect it but i just wrote wat i feel ... trust me it kinda hard... especially wen your not use to wearing it b4 dry.gif i wish my parentes stricly told me wen i was in elementery ... then i wouldn't b having n isuess abt it ... smile.gif n oh yeah sis cupcake i'm just like u n i feel 100% the same way u do... but May Allah(swt) guide both of us

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You don't have to isolate yourself and stay inside the house with no outside influence - our experiences make us what we are! just because you wear a scarf doesn't mean you can't joke around anymore or have a life lol. I understand like wearing the scarf does make you more aware of what people on the outside are thinking and what you should and shouldnt do - as it is a clear outward symbol that you are a muslim, right? whereas before people didn't automatically look at you and think ''muslim'' . BUT that shouldn't stop you integrating with society, in contrast you should put yourself out there more, you can become a sort of spokesperson for muslims and like a representative - with your bubbly personality and happiness that shines out of you and touches other people, you will attract others to you, and bring them closer to at least respecting our religion - you can show them that the stereotypical image of oppressed muslim hijabi women is false (or in a minority) because there you stand, head held tall, getting on with your life, having a future in sight, with your charisma and personality, having the right to think and make decisions, and being happy with what you are :) People will be drawn to you

you can still be individual can you not? A random man on the bus stop once was like - i like your clothes, i really do, so many muslims look dull and wear dark clothes and walk around looking depressed, but not you, you're all happy and bright LOL now i know everyone has the right to wear what they want, but at least walk around with a smile on your face, be approachable.

Do you wear a jilbab? or is it just the scarf with modesty western cothes?

k Honestly same story here... i feel yea ... i'm in the similar situation n i just started wearing it ...to b honest i' feel uncomftroble wearing it ... living in a westren country for more then 10 years not wearing hijab n now i just strted wearing it in university .... thou i really don't c the point ... sometimes i think sure, it's a safety n a securiety of women from men but hey has n e one ever thought that why the heck should us women suffer wearing a hijab... i'm srry but let's face it girls some of don't like wearing it .... n i'm honest here ... the reason why i'm wearing it cuz the sake of Allah(swt) otherwise i woudn't... i srsly feel like no freedom at all... like i'm physically outside but mentaly i feel like i'm in those dayss wear the womens use to stay home all life long... i'm srorry for my ignorance but tuba tuba i'm sefenately not against it but sometime i do think abt this ... it's hard for some of who live in westeren countries ...who go to universety... some of us don't have that much tolarence ...lol ...like me i can't handle hijab on hot dayzz at all i don't knw how i'm gunnah manage it since i just started wearing it... i'm a winter person n i hate hot days i even have fans on sonwy dayzz ..lol soo imgain it ..how am i gunnah face it wacko.gif i seriously wish there was some alternative for hijab .... i really wish there was...

sorry i really don't mean to desrespect it but i just wrote wat i feel ... trust me it kinda hard... especially wen your not use to wearing it b4 dry.gif i wish my parentes stricly told me wen i was in elementery ... then i wouldn't b having n isuess abt it ... smile.gif n oh yeah sis cupcake i'm just like u n i feel 100% the same way u do... but May Allah(swt) guide both of us

can i just ask why do you feel mentally isolated? are you thinking about what others are thinking about when they see you? what is it that's holding you back?

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can i just ask why do you feel mentally isolated? are you thinking about what others are thinking about when they see you? what is it that's holding you back?

mayb cuz i'm not use to this at all i'm wearing this at the age of 19 ..lol all those 18 i have lived a life with no hijab n now i finally decided to wear it n i really do feel uncomftroble ... sister try to understand we all r not the same .. we have diffrent feeling n diffrent way of living life... soo there r ppl out there who don't wear hijab .. there r who wear it but don't want to ... n there who love wearing it ....soo we all r diffrent... n i respect all of u ... mayb things will get better... it's just the beganing ...lol!!nothing is holding me back ... mayb my thinking will change ... u never knw... i'm srry i just overeact on thigs to much... but that's just my habit... that'll never change ..lollaugh.gif

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lol sorry i didn't mean to sound insensitive, im just trying to understand :P i've worn it since i was little so it would feel alien to me if i took it off and started walking outside. But i don't want you to feel like you can't be yourself when you're wearing it - because thats not right, you have to kinda mould into it, and obviously that will take time but keep positive :) and everytime you think hmmm i'm feeling held back, as yourself why - because of your clothing? clothing doesnt change who someone is from the inside :)

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I love the hijab but yes, it becomes a bit too difficult in a country as India..I may cover myself up head to toe when out, but somehow cannot manage that at weddings or even at my home when some guest comes in and you HAVE to treat him well ...I sometimes wish the Hijab rules weren't as strict !

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I feel normal wearing a hijab. I started wearing it at a young age which could be the reason as to why I feel normal and comfortable with it. I'm happy that my parents made me wear a hijab at a young age ( even if I didn't understand why I had to). Now, if I were to take off my hijab it would be embarrassing. I live in the west, England to be precise, and no one even looks at you in a different way if you wear the hijab. Maybe in other cities they do but in London we're a multi-cultural society where everyone is excepted so I don't feel uncomfortable wearing the hijab. When you wear the hijab, people will understand that it's a sign of modesty so they won't cross the boundary between you. You can still be yourself whilst wearing the hijab but you must not act in a way which makes people think that you're acting in an un -Islamic way as you would just be disrespecting the material on your head. Many people think that just because they wear a piece of material over their heads it enough... you don't have to dress dull lol but at the same time you can't wear tight clothes or bright shiny colours which would grab people's attention.

The original poster said that they miss being loud but this is the whole point of hijab ( not to cross the boundary between the opposite sex, I'm assuming you're talking about being loud around males, forgive me if I'm wrong).

No one said that you can't joke around with your friends or anything. If people feel oppressed by wearing the hijab then maybe they haven't understood the true essence and purpose of it. Inshallah people will understand the beauty of hijab! :)

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I am a convert and started wearing hijab just before my 22nd birthday, so I certainly didn't start wearing it young. I felt uncomfortable in it when I first started wearing it, it took several months before it felt natural. When you put it on at first you feel like everyone is looking at you, when they aren't. Plus you're not as experienced with making your hijab look nice and orderly, I know it took me like a year to get a style down that I could keep in order for any period of time.

Non-Muslims who wear their hair in an unusual way or dress differently get similar looks, maybe even worse. I remember that from before I converted and I dressed like a hippie. :) I think I get less looks now. :)

Like Hassanain Rajabali says, hijab is the flag of Islam. Remember that if you wear hijab then ppl associate you with Islam, so make a good impression! I mean that you should live within the bounds of Islamic guidance and keep good manners at all times.

As for not socializing, there are lots of ways to work and organize with other women, you just have to be creative and not let American norms determine how you live. Like you can teach little kids or organize classes for women only, etc.

If you don't feel like hijab is wajib then I think you need to ask yourself how you feel about Islam and Allah in general. If you have doubts about following Allah's guidance then maybe you should try to have a real conversation with yourself and remind yourself that Allah created you and that He knows what is best for you. No offense by this, we all struggle with faith and reliance on Allah.

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I honestly miss my hair & my individuality, & my freedom to be able to do what I want (eg. Be loud

and kid around without sumone judging me about having to be a "Perfect Muslim Hijabi."

I dislike that my clothes are boring & I blend in with all other Muslim woman in the area (who don't necessarily act Muslim, & who are not very open minded.)

I understand how you feel in terms of how people perceive you. I had that problem for a very long time. Both Muslims and non-Muslims are very stereotypical when it comes to girls wearing hijab. Wearing hijab usually means you have to fit into this pre-determined template of how you act, think, dress, what you say...etc. Muslims, and especially Muslim men tend to see you as a super religious girl that you can't talk to, see, touch, or even hear. Many of them even look down on you because of that...they see you as someone so religious that they probably can't connect to you and as a result, don't even talk to you. Many non-Muslims tend to just sympathize toward you probably with the misconception that you were forced to wear the hijab. I've grown up wearing hijab, and even to this day these preconceptions still haunt me.

What I have learned over the years, is that you really have to create your own persona. Your sentiments toward hijab are interrelated with how exactly it is you wear hijab. Girls need to feel good about themselves, they way they dress and, most importantly, their bodes. There is this temptation to not give a [Edited Out] about your body because no one is going to see it. Thats why you have tons of hijabi girls who don't feel like they should have to shave/wax, who are overweight, who dress really scruffy looking...etc.

Even if people can't see your body, there definitely is the need to look good, and feel sexy...not to attract others, but just so that you can feel good about yourself. On top of this, you also have to learn how to dress in a way that makes you feel beautiful. My biggest hijabi fashion tip is to always wear hijab as a fashion accessory, rather than a fashion obstacle. Have fun with the way you wrap your hijab, the way you dress in layers, with jewelry...learn to be creative. I subscribe to 4 fashion blogs that you can take a look at here:

http://stylishmuslimah.blogspot.com/

http://www.stylecovered.com/

http://hegab-rehab.blogspot.com/

http://www.hijabstyle.co.uk/

I am an avid reader of Vogue and Pop...even if the models aren't hijabi, it really does give you some fun ideas on how to dress. Sometimes I take hours just trying to figure out what to wear (you can't imagine how messy my bedroom is lol). To some, this may seem a little over the top, but to me, its important that I do dress nicely because its my way of feeling super confident in myself. You'll find that being confident will allow you to be "bubbly" and super hyper like you used to be. Finding your own fashion style will also you to come off more as an "individual" and beat those stereotypes from both Muslims and non-Muslims. At university there are hijabi girls who are so shy to talk to boys that they call me to come from across campus to speak to a boy who is sitting in the same room as them and ask him a question or tell him something they were too afraid to say themselves.

k Honestly same story here... i feel yea ... i'm in the similar situation n i just started wearing it ...to b honest i' feel uncomftroble wearing it ... living in a westren country for more then 10 years not wearing hijab n now i just strted wearing it in university .... thou i really don't c the point ... sometimes i think sure, it's a safety n a securiety of women from men but hey has n e one ever thought that why the heck should us women suffer wearing a hijab... i'm srry but let's face it girls some of don't like wearing it .... n i'm honest here ... the reason why i'm wearing it cuz the sake of Allah(swt) otherwise i woudn't... i srsly feel like no freedom at all... like i'm physically outside but mentaly i feel like i'm in those dayss wear the womens use to stay home all life long... i'm srorry for my ignorance but tuba tuba i'm sefenately not against it but sometime i do think abt this ... it's hard for some of who live in westeren countries ...who go to universety... some of us don't have that much tolarence ...lol ...like me i can't handle hijab on hot dayzz at all i don't knw how i'm gunnah manage it since i just started wearing it... i'm a winter person n i hate hot days i even have fans on sonwy dayzz ..lol soo imgain it ..how am i gunnah face it wacko.gif i seriously wish there was some alternative for hijab .... i really wish there was...

sorry i really don't mean to desrespect it but i just wrote wat i feel ... trust me it kinda hard... especially wen your not use to wearing it b4 dry.gif i wish my parentes stricly told me wen i was in elementery ... then i wouldn't b having n isuess abt it ... smile.gif n oh yeah sis cupcake i'm just like u n i feel 100% the same way u do... but May Allah(swt) guide both of us

Well I think you really need to evaluate why you are wearing hijab. Muslims have the tendency to go off on a rant about how hijab prevents men from being attracted to women, about how it somehow protects them from sexual abuse or whatever. These really are myths. Hijabi girls do get raped, molested, and sexually abused. Boys do talk about how hot certain hijabi girls are and all of that has nothing to do with the way they dress. For me, hijab has a very different meaning than to many other girls or to many other Muslims...so I'm not asking you to see the way I see things, and I'm not saying I'm "right" or anything...so please don't take it this way.

Historically, in Muslim countries Muslim women have used the hijab as a feminist expression. Dressing in the way they did almost shielded parts of their femininity, and preconceived vulnerability and allowed them to be taken more seriously in the public eye. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, in Egypt and Iran, Muslim women felt deprived of any type of agency within the government and therefore took it upon themselves to wear the hijab as a method of gaining recognition and a voice. They wanted to show society that they were more than just housewives...they were women who had opinions, aspirations and goals but who were largely underestimated and misunderstood. When I read about these women I felt inspired. The sentiments that these women had then really do apply to me and to women at large in both the East and the West. As women in society, we have the challenge of fighting stereotypes and the orthodox. For centuries women have been forced to do more work than any man ever had to do without any recognition or appreciation. Unlike men who are paid for their hours of labour, women are unpaid and are instead expected to do housework and bring up a family instead of pursing their aspirations and dreams. In the Muslim world especially, many women are denied the right to be educated or to pursue a career because theres a need to marry a girl off once shes "eligible". Wearing a hijab is kind of symbolic in that its a feminist expression that fights against these customs, notions and preconceptions. Furthermore, after having lived in different places around the globe hijab for me is a way of identifying myself culturally and religiously. Its kind of my passport. I may not be super religious, I have trouble comprehending many rules in Islam, but I'll never forget who I am or where I'm from.

Oh, and if you're worried about being too hot...make sure you check out those blogs...there are ways to wrap your hijab to keep cool too :D

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Well I think you really need to evaluate why you are wearing hijab. Muslims have the tendency to go off on a rant about how hijab prevents men from being attracted to women, about how it somehow protects them from sexual abuse or whatever. These really are myths. Hijabi girls do get raped, molested, and sexually abused. Boys do talk about how hot certain hijabi girls are and all of that has nothing to do with the way they dress. For me, hijab has a very different meaning than to many other girls or to many other Muslims...so I'm not asking you to see the way I see things, and I'm not saying I'm "right" or anything...so please don't take it this way.

Historically, in Muslim countries Muslim women have used the hijab as a feminist expression. Dressing in the way they did almost shielded parts of their femininity, and preconceived vulnerability and allowed them to be taken more seriously in the public eye. In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, in Egypt and Iran, Muslim women felt deprived of any type of agency within the government and therefore took it upon themselves to wear the hijab as a method of gaining recognition and a voice. They wanted to show society that they were more than just housewives...they were women who had opinions, aspirations and goals but who were largely underestimated and misunderstood. When I read about these women I felt inspired. The sentiments that these women had then really do apply to me and to women at large in both the East and the West. As women in society, we have the challenge of fighting stereotypes and the orthodox. For centuries women have been forced to do more work than any man ever had to do without any recognition or appreciation. Unlike men who are paid for their hours of labour, women are unpaid and are instead expected to do housework and bring up a family instead of pursing their aspirations and dreams. In the Muslim world especially, many women are denied the right to be educated or to pursue a career because theres a need to marry a girl off once shes "eligible". Wearing a hijab is kind of symbolic in that its a feminist expression that fights against these customs, notions and preconceptions. Furthermore, after having lived in different places around the globe hijab for me is a way of identifying myself culturally and religiously. Its kind of my passport. I may not be super religious, I have trouble comprehending many rules in Islam, but I'll never forget who I am or where I'm from.

Oh, and if you're worried about being too hot...make sure you check out those blogs...there are ways to wrap your hijab to keep cool too biggrin.gif

i don't have n e probleme wearing hijab i'm just not use to it ..this is the problem n i regret not wearing it at the young age... ... but u noe it's a start soo i'll have to mange it someohow.... but that doesn't mean i'm gunna take it off ... i choose to wear it so i'm gunnah wear.. Inshallah!!...but as a begainer i think it happens u feel a diffrent chage i yourself.. soo yea.. n abt the hot dayzz ... oh god i don't knw wat i'm gunnah do ..lol!! that's like my major concern nuggeteer.gif ..lol

Edited by lover of imam(a.t.f.s)

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To the sister who asked me whether I wear a Jilab or the scarf with modest western cothes- i wear the latter, I try to be as modest as I can handle, this is what is mentally tiring as I try to fight my own self to do better

when I Know I'm just like any other person ofcourse, and it can be a struggle if you know what I mean?.

But after all I've said, I will never have the heart to take my Hijab off (iA!), I started wearing Hijab at 20 so this is why its hard for me to adjust to such a big change I guess, and I've had it on for 6 months, so inshallah I will be patient & hopefully think positive about this!

Inshallah the hijab will eventually become more a part of who I am, which is what I'm already experiencing anyway as I can't even bring myself to take it off.

Thank you all for your words & support, God Bless you all, relating to all of you makes me feel better about everything :blush:

@ Mehvish, yes its more the preconceptions that are getting to me!... I'm going to be more determined now to fight these & make my own image of what Hijab should be & stands for (& still be in line with Islam). Thank you for those links, I'll definately check them out.

May Allah(swt) help each of you & strengthen our faith & Iman.

Salam

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k Honestly same story here... i feel yea ... i'm in the similar situation n i just started wearing it ...to b honest i' feel uncomftroble wearing it ... living in a westren country for more then 10 years not wearing hijab n now i just strted wearing it in university .... thou i really don't c the point ... sometimes i think sure, it's a safety n a securiety of women from men but hey has n e one ever thought that why the heck should us women suffer wearing a hijab... i'm srry but let's face it girls some of don't like wearing it .... n i'm honest here ... the reason why i'm wearing it cuz the sake of Allah(swt) otherwise i woudn't... i srsly feel like no freedom at all... like i'm physically outside but mentaly i feel like i'm in those dayss wear the womens use to stay home all life long... i'm srorry for my ignorance but tuba tuba i'm sefenately not against it but sometime i do think abt this ... it's hard for some of who live in westeren countries ...who go to universety... some of us don't have that much tolarence ...lol ...like me i can't handle hijab on hot dayzz at all i don't knw how i'm gunnah manage it since i just started wearing it... i'm a winter person n i hate hot days i even have fans on sonwy dayzz ..lol soo imgain it ..how am i gunnah face it wacko.gif i seriously wish there was some alternative for hijab .... i really wish there was...

sorry i really don't mean to desrespect it but i just wrote wat i feel ... trust me it kinda hard... especially wen your not use to wearing it b4 dry.gif i wish my parentes stricly told me wen i was in elementery ... then i wouldn't b having n isuess abt it ... smile.gif n oh yeah sis cupcake i'm just like u n i feel 100% the same way u do... but May Allah(swt) guide both of us

Someone who speaks sense !! omg, i feel so sorry for you .... just take your hijab off and be part of the community and like every other girl with their hair out, seriously , its not for everyone ..... you can still be virtuous without hijab ... don't let your parents or anyone else brainwash you into thinking headscarf is Wajib..... its not really .....

Women should have freedom to decide what they want to wear and do ! Theres no compulsion in religion .... and also , Allah swt doesnt want to put hardship on you ... so my advice is , take the hijab off , you'll get noticed and still be respected and a muslim

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(salam)

Someone who speaks sense !! omg, i feel so sorry for you .... just take your hijab off and be part of the community and like every other girl with their hair out, seriously , its not for everyone ..... you can still be virtuous without hijab ... don't let your parents or anyone else brainwash you into thinking headscarf is Wajib..... its not really .....

Women should have freedom to decide what they want to wear and do ! Theres no compulsion in religion .... and also , Allah swt doesnt want to put hardship on you ... so my advice is , take the hijab off , you'll get noticed and still be respected and a muslim

I feel sorry for you.

Since when do you have to take your hijab of, to be part of the ;community' ? I'm sure she hasn't be brainwashed, I'm sure people do research and have knowledge of understanding in wearing the hijab.

Yes, a women should have a freedom to decide, and there's no compulsion.. however, if she feels it's the correct choice, then what is your point here?

How would you still be 'respected' and a 'muslim' if you don't wear the hijab? I would lose all my respect for someone who doesn't take their hijab seriously.

Eltemase Doa.

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Someone who speaks sense !! omg, i feel so sorry for you .... just take your hijab off and be part of the community and like every other girl with their hair out, seriously , its not for everyone ..... you can still be virtuous without hijab ... don't let your parents or anyone else brainwash you into thinking headscarf is Wajib..... its not really .....

Women should have freedom to decide what they want to wear and do ! Theres no compulsion in religion .... and also , Allah swt doesnt want to put hardship on you ... so my advice is , take the hijab off , you'll get noticed and still be respected and a muslim

What a disgrace and an insult, the "shia". Please stop posting and embarrassing yourself further. I knew how clueless you were from the very first topic you created here.

And you have the profile picture of Karbala and speak of Imam al-Sajjad (as)!!! When Rasulallah (saw) and the Ahlul Bayt proclaimed the hijab as the FLAG of Islam! That they may be recognized as mu'minat. That Allah swt made the severed head of Imam Husayn (as) recite the Quran so for the people to be distracted and look to the head in amazement, and not to look at the exposed heads of the women!!!!!!

Imam Ali (as) when struck was accompanied by his grieving sons Hasan and Husayn (as), and did not even begin to cry, yet when Sayyeda Zeinab (as) began to weep over her father, he began to weep with her because he knew she and the womenfolk would be without hijab!!!!

You are TRULY lost. Sad and pathetic, and ill informed to the utmost degree.

May Allah swt guide you ya rab.

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I LOVE my hijab :)

It's a great feeling to feel like you are representing the religion of Allah swt and obeying the One who created you!

I have individuality and personality and my hijab is only a reminder of who I truly am: a follower of the Creator!

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Asalamu Alaykom sisters =)

I want to ask you all how do you find life with Hijab, & what you feel about being covered all day everyday?

I do wear the hijab (al-hamdullilah), & i've had it on for a few months now. In the beginning I loved the idea of

Covering up for modesty & following Gods ruling, as well the idea woman are looked at more than just a pretty face/body.

Well, I can honestly say that I have ups & downs with the hijab. For one thing Living in a western country makes it hard when having to

be different & resist the temptation to want to let loose & live like "normal". That's what I was use to before hijab, I wasn't a bad person

& treated others well, & was bubbly, happy & enjoyed my life not thinking about how my hair & clothes made a difference? Anyway, when I

read about the hijab I did become inspired at that time. Now after wearing it for so long I feel like I'm missing out on life, for no point, becos I don't

find people understand the hijab as they should... Muslim & non Muslim alike still mistreat woman, & Muslim woman will never be perfect

As they are only human. So all this so called modesty & talk about treating woman as equal

is unrealistic! This world & ppl is too corrupted for this idea to work. We are human after all, modesty & respect should be understood & acted upon

instead of wearing a hijab & expecting a change... It doesn't help? I feel like a hypocrite.

I don't know why I'm being so negative? May god forgive me :( But it's how I truly feel, and I wanted to share it Here

so that maybe I find someone who is going thru the same thing?

I honestly miss my hair & my individuality, & my freedom to be able to do what I want (eg. Be loud

and kid around without sumone judging me about having to be a "Perfect Muslim Hijabi."

I dislike that my clothes are boring & I blend in with all other Muslim woman in the area (who don't necessarily act Muslim, & who are not very open minded.)

Please understand I'm not against the IDEA of hijab, the fact that it stands for modesty, purity, strength, freedom etc... I'm only trying to convey that my experience I have found

That the hijab in this day & age is not going to work UNLESS woman fully isolate themselves from society & live in their homes without any tv, radio & outside influence. I can

never be like that, I'm too much of a positive happy open minded person to shut myself out and unsocialise. I'm not perfect but I still try to do my best in religion.... I'd prefer being that than a hypocrite in hijab. This reminds me of imam Ali saying.. " the sin which makes u sad & repented is more loved by Allah swt than the good deed which turns u arrogant."

God knows best. May He forgive me for my ignorance :(, & guide us all to the straight path inshallah!

Wassalam.

Salam sister.

I understand how you feel. It's completely normal when you first start wearing the hijab. I began wearing hijab when I was 10 and for 3 years I felt like I was missing out on something, I just didn't know what. I used to miss my hair and my clothes but I went hajj when I was 13 and my perception of hijab changed everything. Trust me sister in the future coming you will appreciate it alot more. I live in Australia and I was born here too, so it's taken alot to keep my hijab on in pride. It's amazing how much respect and pride you feel for yourself knowing that you are doing something for yourself as well as for the Almighty's commands (swt); and its the one thing that unites us muslim sisters.

And you don't have to feel like you can't go on with your daily life, my sister you are free to do whatever you wish within the rules of Allah (swt). You can still go out and enjoy yourself with friends and socialise, and a Muslim sister is not just recognised by the clothes she wears, but her individuality and personality so keep it up! Hijab is not an oppressor and you can't seriously think that becoming a perfect muslim woman is to stay inside and never see the world.

God truly does know best and keep holding on to the rope of Allah sister!

Peace

What a disgrace and an insult, the "shia". Please stop posting and embarrassing yourself further. I knew how clueless you were from the very first topic you created here.

And you have the profile picture of Karbala and speak of Imam al-Sajjad (as)!!! When Rasulallah (saw) and the Ahlul Bayt proclaimed the hijab as the FLAG of Islam! That they may be recognized as mu'minat. That Allah swt made the severed head of Imam Husayn (as) recite the Quran so for the people to be distracted and look to the head in amazement, and not to look at the exposed heads of the women!!!!!!

Imam Ali (as) when struck was accompanied by his grieving sons Hasan and Husayn (as), and did not even begin to cry, yet when Sayyeda Zeinab (as) began to weep over her father, he began to weep with her because he knew she and the womenfolk would be without hijab!!!!

You are TRULY lost. Sad and pathetic, and ill informed to the utmost degree.

May Allah swt guide you ya rab.

Nice one! So true

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I've hidden some recent posts, pending review.

Given the direction this thread is taking, I am locking it, because there is another current one that addresses the key issues in a more informed way. Here's a link:

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