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[starlight]

Frustrating day full of roadblocks, acted impulsively on on occasion and now thoroughly regretting it.

[guest2k16]

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Edited July 26, 2015 by Rosiee

[Sumerian]

Normally I'm asleep at this time, but I don't know why I'm not drifting off into sleep. I stayed like one hour with my eyes closed, and I never slept?

[notme]

Normally I'm asleep at this time, but I don't know why I'm not drifting off into sleep. I stayed like one hour with my eyes closed, and I never slept?

It is because of your name.

[Sumerian]

It is because of your name.

 

maybe

[notme]

My husband is looking for a place for us to live. Can I get a few quick duas that he finds us a good and suitable one? Thanks.

[starlight]

My husband is looking for a place for us to live. Can I get a few quick duas that he finds us a good and suitable one? Thanks.

Inshallah sis, may you find a home where you enjoy lots of barakah, harmony and happiness

[guest2k16]

Normally I'm asleep at this time, but I don't know why I'm not drifting off into sleep. I stayed like one hour with my eyes closed, and I never slept?

Do Tasbee7, trust me without even realizing it, you'd find your self asleep.

[Musa Sadr]

maybe

Read maybe that will help you fall asleep

[starlight]

Someone please start an interesting new topic, my laptop is running a disk check that is probably going to take the whole night by the looks of it, so there is no work to be done at the moment.

[Sumerian]

wow, i dunno if I slept or not, but its 5:23 am...

[Brained]

wow, i dunno if I slept or not, but its 5:23 am...

 

This is like a weekly occurrence for me. I don't know how many hours I've lost just laying in bed, drifting off into thoughts; sometimes with little conscious control, but awake nonetheless. Most of the times though its just because my brain refuses to shut down. I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

[notme]

I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

Do Tasbee7, trust me without even realizing it, you'd find your self asleep.

[mina]

This is like a weekly occurrence for me. I don't know how many hours I've lost just laying in bed, drifting off into thoughts; sometimes with little conscious control, but awake nonetheless. Most of the times though its just because my brain refuses to shut down. I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8TDcGYmEgyM

[apofomysback]

Why don't you ask your family and his family do help fix his abusive manner?

One - i dont have a family.

Two - his fmily doesnt like intervening in family issues.

[Khalilallah]

One - i dont have a family.

Two - his fmily doesnt like intervening in family issues.

Sorry to hear that sister.

 

I think you should still complain to his family, I am sure they are not that cold to just ignore your complaint.

[apofomysback]

Sorry to hear that sister.

 

I think you should still complain to his family, I am sure they are not that cold to just ignore your complaint.

Done that - they've seen it too, but like i said, to them its a family issue that needs to be resolved between me and him without intervention.

 

its part of life now for me. ive learnt to accept it and move on.

[Khalilallah]

Done that - they've seen it too, but like i said, to them its a family issue that needs to be resolved between me and him without intervention.

 

its part of life now for me. ive learnt to accept it and move on.

I am sure your husband has a conscience, complain to him in detail.

 

First reminding him of how much you care for him, tell him you only have him in this world and then explain to him how he has mistreated you and ask him if he can be nicer to you.

[apofomysback]

I am sure your husband has a conscience, complain to him in detail.

 

First reminding him of how much you care for him, tell him you only have him in this world and then explain to him how he has mistreated you and ask him if he can be nicer to you.

Done that a million times already. He has someone else in mind and is apparently only living with me because of the kids. And the abuse entails when he gets frustrated over not being able to be with the other woman.

 

That paired with drugs and porn makes a deadly combination. There's only so much you can do to help a man in his state.

[Khalilallah]

Done that a million times already. He has someone else in mind and is apparently only living with me because of the kids. And the abuse entails when he gets frustrated over not being able to be with the other woman.

 

That paired with drugs and porn makes a deadly combination. There's only so much you can do to help a man in his state.

Oh wow I see, do you really need to be with him?

[apofomysback]

I dont think so.

 

But getting separated doesn't come easy too.

[Khalilallah]

I dont think so.

 

But getting separated doesn't come easy too.

Would it not be best to pursue separation?

[apofomysback]

Would it not be best to pursue separation?

It's not easy Khalil... my elder son is very attached to his father. and getting a separation doesnt come easy - even if you go to the court its a very long process with all sorts of blame games and fights over child custody.i dont think i am stable enough in the head to bear all that anymore..

[Noorelhussain]

It's not easy Khalil... my elder son is very attached to his father. and getting a separation doesnt come easy - even if you go to the court its a very long process with all sorts of blame games and fights over child custody.i dont think i am stable enough in the head to bear all that anymore..

 Your in my duaas sister.. I hope for the best for you InshaAllah..

[Purged]

Salaam apo,

may Allah help you. do you know any of his friends who he's really tight with? maybe you can tell them your problem and try knocking some sense into him?

Edited July 27, 2015 by Purged

[AnaAmmar1]

@apo

 

can you manage to break some of his bones next time he hit you?

[apofomysback]

@apo

 

can you manage to break some of his bones next time he hit you?

haha - that laugh was much needed. i dont want my children to have such a bad memory of me - but come to think of it, that might be a way out :)

Salaam apo,

may Allah help you. do you know any of his friends who he's really tight with? maybe you can tell them your problem and try knocking some sense into him?

i know his friends and its thanks to them that he got hooked on to drugs. the decent fellows have all left him. 

[AnaAmmar1]

haha - that laugh was much needed. i dont want my children to have such a bad memory of me - but come to think of it, that might be a way out :)

 

 

There was a lady in my friend's neighbourhood who used to put her husband's head between her knees and then hit him on his back and bum with shoes.

we laughed so much on this.

 

Honestly, your children will be affected more if they will witness the abuse throughout their childhood. Teach them that nobody has a right to harm your body and if some one does that then he deserves punishment. Teach them that values are far more important than any relationship. 

 

Quran says that you should only forgive someone if they have a will and chance to get better in their bad acts. otherwise if your forgiveness makes them more courageous in carrying out their oppression then you must fight ( it is not exact translation, its translation+commentary in my own words)

[starlight]

This morning Mom asked me to take her to the bank and shopping, so I took a couple of hours off from work and came home early.

It took her quite long in the bank while me and my two kids waited outside in the car. Despite the airconditioner running, it got a little hot and stuffy, nevertheless the kids were perfect angels and waited patiently for grandma to get money from the bank.

It had been a while when Mom finally emerged from the bank clutching her grey leather wallet with the money inside and she decided the kids deserved a treat for being so good  and announced she would  buy everyone ice cream. We made a stop at the supermarket near our home to get ice cream to eat later at home since kids seemed tired.

  Soon after we reached home, and I handed Mom the bag with icecream and asked her to quickly put it in the freezer while I unbuckled the kids and brought in the rest of the shopping.

Once inside, we washed, changed, I gave the kids their lunch and they went to sleep ... so just now I thought I would enjoy my share of the ice cream  while kids slept and all was peace and quiet, so I open the freezer door and there, lying on the on top of the frozen kebabs was the grey leather wallet..........................!!!!

Edited July 27, 2015 by starlight

[AnaAmmar1]

LOL. reminds me of a line of an urdu poem ^

 

Sharab seekh pe dali kabab sheeshay ma

Jab se dekha tera Qadd o Qamat

Edited July 27, 2015 by AnaAmmar1

[Ali Musaaa :)]

Star, lol poor nan :P 

 

I remember a few years ago my younger brother went to get cereal out of the pantry. He opened it and just stood their for a few seconds not saying anything but with a slightly confused look on his face. So I'm staring at him thinking: Is he ok...? He then reaches in and says, turning towards me with a jug of milk, "what the hell is this doing in here?" :LOL: 

[This statement is false]

Give me a word, and I will make a thread from it.

[starlight]

Give me a word, and I will make a thread from it.

corpulence :P

[baradar_jackson]

My friend/co-worker put on an Obama interview. Listening to him speak makes my blood boil so much. It has ruined my plans to take a nap. Got dang it

 

I can't think of a more worthless man on God's green earth. His mouth keeps moving and yet nothing he says has any substance. I'm not even talking about this from an ideological perspective (calling Hezbollah terrorists, calling Iran "anti-semitic," saying a million times: we need to prevent Iran from getting a nuclear weapon, praising the sanctions for forcing Iran to come to the table, etc...). I am just talking from a perspective of: this guy lacks any sincerity in anything he says. He is an empty suit.

[Khalilallah]

What can I say...

Edited July 27, 2015 by Khalilallah