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Thoughts (2010-2016) [ARCHIVE]


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Normally I'm asleep at this time, but I don't know why I'm not drifting off into sleep. I stayed like one hour with my eyes closed, and I never slept?

It is because of your name.

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My husband is looking for a place for us to live. Can I get a few quick duas that he finds us a good and suitable one? Thanks.

Inshallah sis, may you find a home where you enjoy lots of barakah, harmony and happiness

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Someone please start an interesting new topic, my laptop is running a disk check that is probably going to take the whole night by the looks of it, so there is no work to be done at the moment.

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wow, i dunno if I slept or not, but its 5:23 am...

 

This is like a weekly occurrence for me. I don't know how many hours I've lost just laying in bed, drifting off into thoughts; sometimes with little conscious control, but awake nonetheless. Most of the times though its just because my brain refuses to shut down. I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

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I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

Do Tasbee7, trust me without even realizing it, you'd find your self asleep.

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This is like a weekly occurrence for me. I don't know how many hours I've lost just laying in bed, drifting off into thoughts; sometimes with little conscious control, but awake nonetheless. Most of the times though its just because my brain refuses to shut down. I keep thinking and thinking and thinking.. till the alarm rings.

http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=8TDcGYmEgyM

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Sorry to hear that sister.

 

I think you should still complain to his family, I am sure they are not that cold to just ignore your complaint.

Done that - they've seen it too, but like i said, to them its a family issue that needs to be resolved between me and him without intervention.

 

its part of life now for me. ive learnt to accept it and move on.

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Done that - they've seen it too, but like i said, to them its a family issue that needs to be resolved between me and him without intervention.

 

its part of life now for me. ive learnt to accept it and move on.

I am sure your husband has a conscience, complain to him in detail.

 

First reminding him of how much you care for him, tell him you only have him in this world and then explain to him how he has mistreated you and ask him if he can be nicer to you.

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I am sure your husband has a conscience, complain to him in detail.

 

First reminding him of how much you care for him, tell him you only have him in this world and then explain to him how he has mistreated you and ask him if he can be nicer to you.

Done that a million times already. He has someone else in mind and is apparently only living with me because of the kids. And the abuse entails when he gets frustrated over not being able to be with the other woman.

 

That paired with drugs and porn makes a deadly combination. There's only so much you can do to help a man in his state.

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Done that a million times already. He has someone else in mind and is apparently only living with me because of the kids. And the abuse entails when he gets frustrated over not being able to be with the other woman.

 

That paired with drugs and porn makes a deadly combination. There's only so much you can do to help a man in his state.

Oh wow I see, do you really need to be with him?

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Would it not be best to pursue separation?

It's not easy Khalil... my elder son is very attached to his father. and getting a separation doesnt come easy - even if you go to the court its a very long process with all sorts of blame games and fights over child custody.i dont think i am stable enough in the head to bear all that anymore..

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Salaam apo,

may Allah help you. do you know any of his friends who he's really tight with? maybe you can tell them your problem and try knocking some sense into him?

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@apo

 

can you manage to break some of his bones next time he hit you?

haha - that laugh was much needed. i dont want my children to have such a bad memory of me - but come to think of it, that might be a way out :)

Salaam apo,

may Allah help you. do you know any of his friends who he's really tight with? maybe you can tell them your problem and try knocking some sense into him?

i know his friends and its thanks to them that he got hooked on to drugs. the decent fellows have all left him. 

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haha - that laugh was much needed. i dont want my children to have such a bad memory of me - but come to think of it, that might be a way out :)

 

 

There was a lady in my friend's neighbourhood who used to put her husband's head between her knees and then hit him on his back and bum with shoes.

we laughed so much on this.

 

Honestly, your children will be affected more if they will witness the abuse throughout their childhood. Teach them that nobody has a right to harm your body and if some one does that then he deserves punishment. Teach them that values are far more important than any relationship. 

 

Quran says that you should only forgive someone if they have a will and chance to get better in their bad acts. otherwise if your forgiveness makes them more courageous in carrying out their oppression then you must fight ( it is not exact translation, its translation+commentary in my own words)

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Star, lol poor nan :P 

 

I remember a few years ago my younger brother went to get cereal out of the pantry. He opened it and just stood their for a few seconds not saying anything but with a slightly confused look on his face. So I'm staring at him thinking: Is he ok...? He then reaches in and says, turning towards me with a jug of milk, "what the hell is this doing in here?" :LOL: 

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My friend/co-worker put on an Obama interview. Listening to him speak makes my blood boil so much. It has ruined my plans to take a nap. Got dang it

 

I can't think of a more worthless man on God's green earth. His mouth keeps moving and yet nothing he says has any substance. I'm not even talking about this from an ideological perspective (calling Hezbollah terrorists, calling Iran "anti-semitic," saying a million times: we need to prevent Iran from getting a nuclear weapon, praising the sanctions for forcing Iran to come to the table, etc...). I am just talking from a perspective of: this guy lacks any sincerity in anything he says. He is an empty suit.

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