Jump to content
kaali_daal

How To Stay Humble At Various Times?

Rate this topic

Recommended Posts

Asalam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters.

I have a question about instilling the quality of humbleness in myself. I mean for example if I am playing a certain sport or doing anything really good. The normal action influenced by the Nafs is to feel proud and arrogant, which are qualities disliked by The Almighty. So I wanted to know that if I am good at certain things, how do I become humble. If people say 'you are amazing' and etc, what should be my reply. How do speakers like Hassanain Rajabali, Ammar Nakshwani, Sheikh Jehad Ismail, and others deal with this aspect of their lives. Also what are the characteristics of being humble according to Quran and Hadith?

Thank You.

Take care.

Asalam Alaikum.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The sad reality of the world we live in is that the strong and the arrogant always seem to get the most of everything. However, there is a fine line between confidence/having faith and being arrogant. For example, lets take a scenario of a boxer who has just knocked out his opponent. He could thank God, his family, friends, coaching staff OR he could show his muscles and proclaim that he is the best in the business. Not too difficult to guess that the later type of behaviour could only lead to self-destruction and ultimately humiliation.

Edited by abbas110

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Imam Ali (as):

"(The world) As for its changes, you see a pitiable man becoming enviable and an enviable man becoming pitiable. This is because the wealth has gone and misfortune has come to him"

Imam Ali (as) discusses it eloquently in Khutbat Al-Muttaqeen:

"They are not satisfied with their meagre good acts, and do not regard their major acts as great. They always blame themselves and are afraid of their deeds. When anyone of them is spoken of highly, he says: "I know myself better than others, and my Lord knows me better than I know. O' Allah do not deal with me according to what they say, and make me better than they think of me and forgive me (those shortcomings) which they do not know."

Always be mindful.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

(bismillah)

(salam)

Check out some of the response of our ulema when they are being complimented; it's good inspiration :)

Or, you can learn the easiest response:

"Alhamdulillah"

"Mashallsh brother, you read Quran beautifully" *looks down with a shy smile*"Alhamdulillah"

"That was a beautiful goal brother!" "Alhamdulillah, all the good is from God"

Or if someone does some exaggerated over-the-top compliment of you, you can say "astaghfirallah"

"Mashallah! You are so knowledgeable! You will be the best Ayatollah!!" "Astaghfirallah, we are all students of knowledge"

Of course, you have to be sincere about your humility.

As I said, read the biographies of our uelma for a real lesson in akhlaq:

http://www.al-islam.org/uswat_alarifin/

http://www.al-islam.org/eternalmanifestations/

http://www.al-islam.org/completeman/

was salam

Edited by lotfilms

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

(salam),

The benefits of knowledge can not be comprehended. One of them is that when you are aware of the excellence of particular qualities, the call of Shaytan becomes weaker and weaker, and your will-power to adopt these qualities and please Allah gets stronger and stronger.

Here are some of the ahadith about the excellence of humbleness, etc. Keep reminding yourself about them, and Inshallah very soon, you will be a humble servant of Allah. =)

ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚ

Humbleness

1Ü Úä ÑÓæá Çááøåþ (Õóáóøíó Çááåõ Úóáóíåö æó Âáöåö): ãÇáí áÇ ÃÑì Úáóíßõã ÍóáÇæóÉó ÇáÚöÈÇÏóÉö ¿! ÞÇáæÇ: æãÇ ÍóáÇæóÉõ ÇáÚöÈÇÏóÉö ¿ ÞÇáó: ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ.

1– The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Why do I not see in you the sweetness of worship?!’ They asked, ‘What is the sweetness of worship?’ He said, ‘Humbleness.’[Tanbih al- Khawatir, v. 1, p. 201]

2Ü ÑÓæáõ Çááåöþö (Õóáóøíó Çááåõ Úóáóíåö æó Âáöåö): Åäø ÃÝÖóáó ÇáäøÇÓö ÚóÈÏÇ ãóä ÊóæÇÖóÚó Úóä ÑöÝÚóÉò.

2– The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘The best of people is a worshipper who humbles himself the more his rank increases.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 179, no. 10]

3Ü ÑÓæáõ Çááåö (Õóáóøíó Çááåõ Úóáóíåö æó Âáöåö): ØõæÈì áöãóä ÊóæÇÖóÚó ááøåþö Ýí ÛóíÑö ãóäÞóÕóÉò¡ æÃÐóáóø äóÝÓóåõ Ýí ÛóíÑö ãóÓßóäóÉò.

3– The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Blessed be he who humbles himself before Allah for no deficiency, and who degrades himself without poverty.’[Tanbih al-Khawatir, v. 2, p. 66]

4Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): áÇ ÍóÓóÈó ßÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö.

4– Imam Ali (as) said, ‘There is no sufficiency like humbleness.’[Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 113]

5Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÒöíäóÉõ ÇáÔóøÑíÝö ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ .

5– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘The adornment of the noble is humbleness.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 75, p. 120, no. 11]

6Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ ÒóßÇÉõ ÇáÔóøÑóÝö .

6- Imam Ali (a) said, ‘Humbleness spreads virtue.’[Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 522]

7Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): Úáóíßó ÈöÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö º ÝÅäøåõ ãöä ÃÚÙóãö ÇáÚöÈÇÏóÉö .

7– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘You must be humble, as it is one of the greatest [forms of] worship.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 75, p. 119, no. 5]

8Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ) Ü Ýí ÕöÝóÉö ÇáãõÊóøÞíäó Ü: æãóáÈóÓõåõãõ ÇáÇÞÊöÕÇÏõ¡ æãóÔíõåõãõ ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ .

8– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘It suffices for a man…in his humbleness to know his own worth.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 78, p. 80, no. 66]

9Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ íóäÔõÑõ ÇáÝóÖíáóÉó .

9– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘He who goes to a wealthy person and humbles himself before him because of his wealth, a third of his faith goes.’[Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 228]

10Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ãÇ ÃÍÓóäó ÊóæÇÖõÚó ÇáÃÛäíÇÁö áöáÝõÞóÑÇÁö ØóáóÈÇð áöãÇ ÚöäÏó Çááøåþö¡ æÃÍÓóäõ ãöäåõ Êöíåõ ÇáÝõÞóÑÇÁö Úáóì ÇáÃÛäöíÇÁö ÇÊöøßÇáÇð Úáóì Çááøåþö.

10– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘How good is the humbleness of the wealthy before the poor in seeking what is with Allah, and better than this is the pride of the poor before the wealthy in relying solely on Allah.’[Nahj al-Balagha, Saying 406]

11Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáÑöøÖÇ (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ Ãä ÊõÚØöíó ÇáäøÇÓó ãÇ ÊõÍöÈõø Ãä ÊõÚØÇåõ.

11– Imam al-Rida (as) said, ‘Humbleness is to give to people what you yourself like to be given.’[al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 123, no. 13]

12Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáÚÓßÑíõø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ äöÚãóÉñ áÇ íõÍÓóÏõ ÚáóíåÇ.

12– Imam al-`Aaskari (as) said, ‘Humbleness is a blessing that cannot be envied.’[Tuhaf al-‘Uqul, p. 489]

ãöä ÚóáÇãÇÊö ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö

Signs of Humbleness

13Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáÕøÇÏÞõ (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): Åäóø ãöä ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö Ãä íóÌáöÓó ÇáÑøÌõáõ Ïõæäó ÔóÑóÝöåö.

13– Imam al-Sadiq (as) said, ‘Humbleness is when a man sits in a place lower than his rank.’[al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 123, no. 9]

14Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáÕøÇÏÞõ Úä ÂÈÇÆåö (Úóáóíåãõ ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): Åäø ãöä ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö Ãä íóÑÖì ÇáÑøÌõáõ ÈöÇáãóÌáöÓö Ïõæäó ÇáãóÌáöÓö¡ æÃä íõÓóáöøãó Úáì ãóä íóáÞì¡ æÃä íóÊÑõßó ÇáãöÑÇÁó æÅä ßÇäó ãõÍöÞøÇ¡ æáÇ íõÍöÈóø Ãä íõÍãóÏó Úáóì ÇáÊóøÞæì .

14– Imam al-Sadiq (a), from his fathers (as) said, ‘Humbleness is for a man to be content to sit in any place and not a particular place, to greet those he meets, to leave disputation even if he is right, and to not like to be praised for piety.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 75, p. 118, no. 3]

ËóãóÑóÉõ ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö

The Fruit of Humbleness

15Ü ÑÓæáõ Çááåöþö (Õóáóøíó Çááåõ Úóáóíåö æó Âáöåö): Åäø ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚó íóÒíÏõ ÕÇÍöÈóåõ ÑöÝÚóÉð¡ ÝÊóæÇÖóÚõæÇ íóÑÝóÚúßõãõ Çááøåþõ .

15– The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘Humbleness increases the rank of that person, so humble yourselves and Allah will raise you.’[al-Kafi, v. 2, p. 121, no. 1]

16Ü ÑÓæáõ Çááåö (Õóáóøíó Çááåõ Úóáóíåö æó Âáöåö): ãóä ÊóæÇÖóÚó ááøåþö ÑóÝóÚóåõ Çááøåþõ¡ Ýåõæ Ýí äóÝÓöåö ÖóÚíÝñ æÝí ÃÚíõäö ÇáäøÇÓö ÚóÙíãñ¡ æãóä ÊóßÈóøÑó æóÖóÚóåõ Çááøåþõ¡ Ýåõæ Ýí ÃÚíõäö ÇáäøÇÓö ÕóÛíÑñ æÝí äóÝÓöåö ßóÈíÑñ º ÍÊøì áóåõæ Ãåæóäõ Úáóíåöã ãöä ßóáÈò Ãæ ÎöäúÒíÑò .

16– The Prophet (SAWA) said, ‘He who humbles himself for Allah, Allah will raise him such that he is weak in himself but strong in the eyes of others. And he who is haughty, Allah will degrade him such that he will be small in the eyes of others and big in his own, until he will be more despicable to them than a pig or a dog.’[Kanz al-`Ummal, no. 5737]

17Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ËóãóÑóÉõ ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö ÇáãóÍóÈøÉõ¡ ËóãóÑóÉõ ÇáßöÈÑö ÇáãóÓóÈóøÉõ .

17– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘The fruit of humbleness is love, and the fruit of pride is abuse.’[Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 4613-4614]

18Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ íóßÓæßó ÇáãóåÇÈóÉó .

18– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘Humbleness clothes you in dignity.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 77, p. 287, no. 1]

19Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÈöÎóÝÖö ÇáÌóäÇÍö ÊóäÊóÙöãõ ÇáÇõãæÑõ.

19– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘With the lowering of one’s wing are affairs organised.’[Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 4302]

20Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ íóäÔõÑõ ÇáÝóÖíáóÉó¡ ÇáÊóøßÈõøÑõ íõÙåöÑõ ÇáÑóøÐíáóÉó.

20– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘Humbleness spreads virtue and haughtiness shows up vice.’[Nahj al-Balagha, no. 522,523]

21Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáßÇÙãõ (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): Åäø ÇáÒóøÑÚó íóäÈõÊõ Ýí ÇáÓóøåáö æáÇ íóäÈõÊõ Ýí ÇáÕóøÝÇ º ÝßÐáßó ÇáÍößãóÉõ ÊóÚãõÑõ Ýí ÞóáÈö ÇáãõÊóæÇÖöÚö¡ æáÇ ÊóÚãõÑõ Ýí ÞóáÈö ÇáãõÊóßÈöøÑö ÇáÌóÈøÇÑö º áÃäø Çááøåþó ÌóÚáó ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚó ÂáóÉó ÇáÚóÞáö¡ æÌóÚóáó ÇáÊóøßÈõøÑó ãöä ÂáóÉö ÇáÌóåáö.

21– Imam al-Kazim (as) said, ‘A plant grows on level ground and not on the hard terrain, and similarly wisdom flourishes in the heart of the humble, and does not flourish in the heart of the haughty and overbearing, because Allah made humbleness the instrument of the intellect and haughtiness the instrument of ignorance.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 78, p. 312, no. 1]

22Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ ÇáßÇÙãõ (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): Åäø Çááøåþó áóã íóÑÝóÚö ÇáãõÊóæÇÖöÚíäó ÈÞóÏÑö ÊóæÇÖõÚöåöã¡æáßäúþÑóÝóÚóåõãþ ÈöÞóÏÑö ÚóÙóãóÊöåö æãóÌÏöåö.

22– Imam al-Kazim (a) said, ‘Allah does not raise the humble in proportion to their humbleness, rather He raises them according to His own Greatness and Glory.’[Tuhaf al-‘Uqul, p. 399]

ãÇ íõÓÊóÚÇäõ Èöåö Úóáóì ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö

What is used to Acquire Humbleness

23Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): áÇ íõÓÊóÚÇäõ ... Úáóì ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚö ÅáøÇ ÈÓóáÇãóÉö ÇáÕóøÏÑö .

23– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘Humbleness cannot be resorted to… unless the heart is healthy.’[bihar al-Anwar, v. 78, p. 7, no. 59]

24Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): ÇáÊóøæÇÖõÚõ ËóãóÑóÉõ ÇáÚöáãö .

24– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘Humbleness is the fruit of knowledge.’[Ghurar al-Hikam, no. 301]

25Ü ÇáÅãÇãõ Úáíñø (Úóáóíåö ÇáøÓóáÇãõ): áÇ íóäÈóÛí áöãóä ÚóÑóÝó ÚóÙóãóÉó Çááøåþö Ãä íóÊóÚóÙóøãó º ÝÅäø ÑöÝÚóÉó ÇáøÐíäó íóÚáóãæäó ãÇ ÚóÙóãóÊõåõ Ãä íóÊóæÇÖóÚõæÇ áóåõ .

25– Imam Ali (a) said, ‘It is not appropriate for one who knows the Greatness of Allah to consider himself as great, for verily the elevation of those who know His Greatness lies in humbling themselves before Him.’[Nahj al-Balagha, Sermon 147]

wa (salam)

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Allahu Akbar Allhamdolilah for this reply you all. :cry:

Thank You very much you all. Beta Basim where did you get all that information from. How do you stay humble?

Thank You very much.

Take care.

Asalam Alaikum.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The reply of Imam Hasan (I believe it was) to someone who was praising him excessively was:

"I am better than what you think I am, but less than what you say I am"

But yeah the standard reply should be, I think, all the tawfeeq is from Allah and the result is through hard work. Anyone can do it if they fulfill these two conditions.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
On 4/7/2010 at 1:31 PM, Ya Aba 3abdillah said:

Imam Ali (as):

"(The world) As for its changes, you see a pitiable man becoming enviable and an enviable man becoming pitiable. This is because the wealth has gone and misfortune has come to him"

Imam Ali (as) discusses it eloquently in Khutbat Al-Muttaqeen:

"They are not satisfied with their meagre good acts, and do not regard their major acts as great. They always blame themselves and are afraid of their deeds. When anyone of them is spoken of highly, he says: "I know myself better than others, and my Lord knows me better than I know. O' Allah do not deal with me according to what they say, and make me better than they think of me and forgive me (those shortcomings) which they do not know."

Always be mindful.

True

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites
On 4/7/2010 at 8:16 AM, kaali_daal said:

Asalam Alaikum Brothers and Sisters.

I have a question about instilling the quality of humbleness in myself. I mean for example if I am playing a certain sport or doing anything really good. The normal action influenced by the Nafs is to feel proud and arrogant, which are qualities disliked by The Almighty. So I wanted to know that if I am good at certain things, how do I become humble. If people say 'you are amazing' and etc, what should be my reply. How do speakers like Hassanain Rajabali, Ammar Nakshwani, Sheikh Jehad Ismail, and others deal with this aspect of their lives. Also what are the characteristics of being humble according to Quran and Hadith?

Thank You.

Take care.

Asalam Alaikum.

Using words like alhamdulilah maa shaALLAH إِنْ شَاء َ اللَّه astaghfirullah subhanALLAH are helpful.

The point is that remember and mention Allah in everything that you do it will keep you humble إِنْ شَاء َ اللَّه and submissive.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

×