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Saudi Girl, 12, Drops Push To Divorce

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RIYADH (AFP) – A 12-year-old Saudi girl unexpectedly gave up her petition for divorce from an 80-year-old man her father forced her to marry in exchange for a dowry, Saudi media reported Tuesday.

Despite support from human rights lawyers and child welfare advocates, the girl and her mother, who originally sought the divorce, withdrew the case Monday in a court in Buraidah, in Al-Qasim province, newspapers said.

The girl told the court that her marriage to the man was done with her agreement, according to Okaz newspaper.

"I agree to the marriage. I have no objection. This is in filial respect to my father and obedience to his wish," she said.

Saleh al-Dabibi, a lawyer supplied by a charity group to help the girl, said her mother did not inform him of the change of heart, Okaz said.

An unnamed official of the government's Human Rights Commission, which was originally asked by the mother to help in getting the marriage annulled, told Arab News they too were surprised by the mother and daughter dropping the case.

The influential daughter of King Abdullah, Princess Adela bint Abdullah, expressed concern over the girl's marriage.

"I, personally, and many specialists in social and education fields, share the opinion" that it is in violation of children's rights, Al-Riyadh newspaper reported.

"A child has the right to live her childhood and not be forced to get married. Even an adult would not accept that," she said.

According to reports, the girl's father, who is separated from her mother, arranged her marriage to the 80-year-old last September in exchange for a dowry payment of 85,000 riyals (22,667 dollars).

The case caused an uproar after Al-Riyadh newspaper first reported it in early January, saying the marriage had been consummated and quoting the girl as pleading to the journalist to "save me."

Her mother, who is unidentified in local reports, petitioned the court to annul the marriage and charged that the girl had been raped.

The case was to be heard Monday, but reports said the mother dropped the complaint ahead of the hearing.

Saudi Arabia has no law against child marriage, and clerics and religious judges justify the practice based on Islamic and Saudi tradition.

But human rights officials have been pushing for a law that would set a minimum marriage age of 16 or higher.

In January, senior cleric Sheikh Abdullah al-Manie told Okaz that the Prophet Mohammed's marriage to a nine-year-old girl some 14 centuries ago cannot be used to justify child marriages today.

Manie, a member of the Council of Senior Ulema (scholars), said that circumstances are different today from when the Prophet Mohammed married young Aisha.

Aisha's marriage "cannot be equated with child marriages today because the conditions and circumstances are not the same," he said.

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"I agree to the marriage. I have no objection. This is in filial respect to my father and obedience to his wish," she said.

I am not surprised with your final decision, little girl. Your father owns you. You are his property. You were indoctrinated to 'respect' and 'obey' your owners, oh little girl.

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this is just sick minded people for overall respect to the parents of course but what would this 80 yr old man want with a twelve yr old honestly does this man really beleive in Allah my goodness my twelve yr old daughter is sitting beside me as i am posting.

sorry but i must correct this statment not to be rude or anything but you know i am a guardian for my children and a teacher for them but i do not own them as they were a gift from Allah as to whom we all belong and shall return to our creator

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Islamically, I cant see anthing wrong; the girl formally agreed to the marriage so I dont know what the fuss is about.

ok islamically but my 12 yr old does not always make rational decisions she still plays so much even at 12 she loves to draw and swim and things she is still a little girl who is innocent in her heart . what would an 80 yr old man possibly want with a 12 yr old Ya Allah only Allah knows and he knows best for all things still i dont feel good for her...

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ok islamically but my 12 yr old does not always make rational decisions she still plays so much even at 12 she loves to draw and swim and things she is still a little girl who is innocent in her heart . what would an 80 yr old man possibly want with a 12 yr old Ya Allah only Allah knows and he knows best for all things still i dont feel good for her...

Nonetheless - she is allowed to make that decision. It may not be rational, I dont know the situation, but there are 22 year olds that dont make rational decisions either.

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I think this has more to do with this child claiming she was forced into this marriage (being very clear about her discontent before) and hastily withdrawing her request for divorce amidst a backdrop of "obedience" and other loaded terms that seem too scripted and contradictory to have come from this child. Most likely she has been pressured/threatened by someone (no points for guessing the identity) and so it isn't a matter of the decision being rational but whether or not the decision was even her own.

this just proves that wahabbism is mental disorder!

It isn't really wahabism though, is it? I can name several shia scholars that have taken brides who are either teens or pre teens. It happens all over the world (particularly in the East) and especially in regions where there is widespread poverty. A child bride can be very lucrative. The only reason this particular story has gained any attention is because the girl in question actively sought out a divorce and was vocal about her discontent.

Wahabi, Shia, Catholic (this happens in South America too) - people use religion as a crutch.. a mere tool to shield themselves from the greater ethical debate on an issue and get what they want.

The problem is that people are not prosecuting pedophilia done in the name of religion. You can prosecute the guy in Mexico who sold his daughter for beer, meat, and 10,000 dollars (fuzzy on the details) but you can't persecute this pedo who holds the holy Quran in his filthy hands and dares anyone to breath a word of reproach.

Islam is not evil but these men use it to fuel evil. Raping a child= evil. I don't want to get into a discussion on relativism with anyone here- that is just pure evil.

I am not surprised with your final decision, little girl. Your father owns you. You are his property. You were indoctrinated to 'respect' and 'obey' your owners, oh little girl.

I don't think she did this because she was indoctrinated to "respect" and "obey," but because an immense amount of pressure was put on her. She put up a good fight and has shown too much courage and free will to be labeled her father's "property."

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Saudi Arabia: Rights Group Hires Lawyer in Child-Marriage Case

The state human rights body has hired a lawyer to review the case of a girl whose mother sought her divorce from an 80-year-old man. The girl, believed to be 12 years old, from Buraidah, was married to her father’s cousin late last year for a bride price of $23,000, said a lawyer, Sultan bin Zahim. This is the first time the Human Rights Commission has intervened in a child-marriage case, a move that activists hope may be a step toward the introduction of a minimum age for marriage. http://www.nytimes.com/2010/02/09/world/middleeast/09briefs-Saudi.html?ref=middleeast

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(salam)Sad :(She will probably need to wait till his death for freedom.

yes :( but i am sure that will happen very soon :angel:

Wishing for a person to die who has married legally with the consent of the girl and has paid the dowry? What about people who rape young girls in western society and those maulanas who fool young girls while teaching them quran in the east?

I am not surprised with your final decision, little girl. Your father owns you. You are his property. You were indoctrinated to 'respect' and 'obey' your owners, oh little girl.

She has done wrong obeying her parent? It can be small in your eyes but great sacrifice in Allah's

A hadith of the prophet says that you can never repay your parents debt unless you free them from slavery

Nice judges in SC

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Wishing for a person to die who has married legally with the consent of the girl and has paid the dowry? What about people who rape young girls in western society and those maulanas who fool young girls while teaching them quran in the east?

She has done wrong obeying her parent? It can be small in your eyes but great sacrifice in Allah's

A hadith of the prophet says that you can never repay your parents debt unless you free them from slavery

Nice judges in SC

Exactly.

Yes, it is an early spring – late winter relationship – but true love is not concerned with the temporal.

She did well – $23,000 is a good dowry (you can almost but a car for that amount) considering she is not even fully grown and probably cannot cook and clean efficiently yet….possibly is not of child bearing maturity either. She probably is not even strong enough yet to help the old guy out of his chair.

Her husband was well aware that he procured a work in progress, but yet, he still paid well as he has faith in her ability to meet the challenge. Faith and trust – what better foundation is there for a marriage?

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