Muta Is Recommended?

**SoRoUsH** · November 4, 2009

(salam)

I just encountered the following website,

http://www.*******.org/hadiths/marriage/risalat-al-muta---shaykh-mufid

and read all of the hadiths.

It seems to me that Muta is recommended and indeed Mustahab, if one could do it. But one shouldn't insist on it.

So, I have a few questions.

1) If it is mustahab, why not insist on it?

2) Why is it mustahab? doesn't it in a way encourage sexual desires, which in turn may weaken the discipline of the soul?

3) It is permitted to do muta (have intercourse) with thousand women?

4) are all the hadiths in the above website sahih? or hasan?

Thank You

**SoRoUsH** · November 9, 2009

More questions...

7) A child born in a Muta marriage is considered legitimate, correct?

8) If so, does the child have the same rights, as a child who is born in a permanent marriage?

9) If there are differences in the rights of a child born in Muta and the child born in permanent marriage, what happens when the parents of the child, choose to transform their marriage from temporary to permanent? Will the child suddenly gain new rights?

Thank you

asher · November 16, 2009

(bismillah)

(salam)

It talks about same topic,if want to join.Most welcome but it's basically in urdu

(wasalam)

**SoRoUsH** · November 16, 2009

(bismillah)
(salam)
It talks about same topic,if want to join.Most welcome but it's basically in urdu
(wasalam)

(salam)

I don't speak Urdu.

(wasalam)

**SoRoUsH** · November 21, 2009

Thank you brother.
Could you please name these scholars?
(salam)
More questions...
7) A child born in a Muta marriage is considered legitimate, correct?
8) If so, does the child have the same rights, as a child who is born in a permanent marriage?
9) If there are differences in the rights of a child born in Muta and the child born in permanent marriage, what happens when the parents of the child, choose to transform their marriage from temporary to permanent? Will the child suddenly gain new rights?
Thank you

Anyone?

spot · November 22, 2009

[salam to brothers and sisters.

I have a question re mutaa.

I found out my husband was having an affair on the internet. I read some of the emails and he asked her to be his temporary wife before speaking about very intermit things. She agreed.

What I am trying to say is, how can Mutaa be halal and is mustahab, If your husband and wife find out that their partner is doing this behind their back.

It gives the man more power , when his wife finds out he just has to say this is halal.

Ok fair enough, but what happens to our relationship. We have 3 young girls and i no longer has any trust in my husband at all.

Do you believe it have been nearly 1 year since i caught him and i am close to severe depression.

I am very sad about this because I feel i can not speak to anyone who is muslim as I am feared their answer will be, "hey your husband did nothing wrong". I feel like my marriage has suffered tremendously . I have become so paranoid , that everytime he is on the computer, everytime he leaves the house, i think he is doing something.

Please someone respond to me, as i am devestated , My husband says it was harmless fun but also says islamically he did nothing wrong, and if he chooses tommorow to marry another wife i have no say.

alimohamad40 · November 22, 2009

Salaam:

Anyone?

About which scholars allow the formula to be read in other languages I need to revise the books to tell you...

Your questions:

7) A child born in a Muta marriage is considered legitimate, correct?

yes

8) If so, does the child have the same rights, as a child who is born in a permanent marriage?

Yes

9) If there are differences in the rights of a child born in Muta and the child born in permanent marriage, what happens when the parents of the child, choose to transform their marriage from temporary to permanent? Will the child suddenly gain new rights?

as far as I know the difference is for the couple only not for the children. As far as children are concerned the rights are the same whether they are mut3a or permanent marriage children,

here i will copy paste some thing i wrote about the rights within temporary marriage.... maybe some parts of it is relevant :

If you prefer the Arabic language then inform me and i will paste the Arabic version of the same thing.
1) About the rights the difference is that there is no compulsory nafaqah (maintainance)for the mut3ah wife
2)The mut3a wife doesn't have the "1 out of every 4 nights right" that a permanent wife has..
3) she doesn't inherit her husband as far as I remember but this doesn't mean that their kid doesn't inherit or doesn't qualify for nafaqah... the kid both Inherits his parents and qualifies for Nafaqah.
4) a temporary marriage just like a permanent one can only be contracted with a single female.
5) The Muslim man is allowed to contract temporary marriage with the muslims and the people of the book (the Unitarians) but not with polytheists.
6) The maximum time for temporary marriage can not exceed the expected lifetime of the people i.e. maximum 99 years
7) the temporary marriage doesn't End by termination or divorce but expires after a set due date.
8) the period could be forgiven earlier than the expiry date upon the agreement of the husband and wife.
9) its compulsory to agree about a dowry of a tangible value and a time period for the marriage otherwise if not specified it would be a permanent marriage.
10) Just like permanent marriage after the expiry of the temporary contract the woman needs to observe An Iddah if the marriage was consummated and the Iddah for temporary marriage is two cycles or 45 days in other cases. (with permanent marriage and divorce it is 3 cycles)
11) temporary marriage just like permanent makes Tahreem (prohibition) this means if a man married a woman even for 1 minute then her mother becomes prohibited on him forever and the same with the father of the husband he would be forbidden on the mut3ah wife forever. ( So mut3ah is a much better method for prohibition than the breastfeeding the adult method which the sunnies prescribe,
As a live example a friend of mine prohibited his wife on me by marrying me to his daughter by mut3a for a few minutes... I dont see or talk to his daughter but we used the temporary marriage for prohibition which made his wife like my mother cause I visited them too much )
12) other applications of temporary marriage, it could be applied instead of the haraam engagements that take place all over the world which last for years without any marriage contracts and in many times result in fornication and other ugly acts.
13) as for the Issue of the marriage formula and the witnesses you might hear alot of rumors but i will tell you the real story: in the Shia school of thought All types of marriages Do not require any witnesses, and Divorce Requires two just male witnesses or one male and Two female witnesses., in the sunnie school its the exact opposite, Divorce Requires no witnesses and Marriage requires 2 witnesses.
14) In comparison to Misyar,Mysyaf,Misbar, Misfar and Zawaj urfi and Zawaj friend the temporary marriage is the most merciful cause its the prescription of god not the human. All the other man made bid3ahs have faults. example is mut3a doesn't include the deception which is prescribed in misyar, in misyar the husband is not allowed to tell the wife of his future intention to divorce her and then suddenly he uses divorce to terminate the permanent contract.
The other type of misyar which is used for polygyny is the one where the husband puts a condition that the wife gives up her right to the nafaqah... under the shia school of thought putting a condition that disables the permanent wife's right to the compulsory nafaqah is regarded an Invalid condition.
comparing with Zawaj urfi where secrecy is used the temporary marriage and permanent marriage are both encouraged to be announced not secret.
comparing with other man made temporary marriages in mut3ah the clear time of contract is stated and there are no surprises or deceptions.
15) the unique thing about the mut3ah marriage is that its the only marriage that is mentioned in the quraan and the sunnah and all these new names like misyar and misbar and misyaf and urfe and friend could not be found in the quraan or the sunnah.

alimohamad40 · November 22, 2009

Salaam:

[salam to brothers and sisters.
I have a question re mutaa.
I found out my husband was having an affair on the internet. I read some of the emails and he asked her to be his temporary wife before speaking about very intermit things. She agreed.
What I am trying to say is, how can Mutaa be halal and is mustahab, If your husband and wife find out that their partner is doing this behind their back.
It gives the man more power , when his wife finds out he just has to say this is halal.
Ok fair enough, but what happens to our relationship. We have 3 young girls and i no longer has any trust in my husband at all.
Do you believe it have been nearly 1 year since i caught him and i am close to severe depression.
I am very sad about this because I feel i can not speak to anyone who is muslim as I am feared their answer will be, "hey your husband did nothing wrong". I feel like my marriage has suffered tremendously . I have become so paranoid , that everytime he is on the computer, everytime he leaves the house, i think he is doing something.
Please someone respond to me, as i am devestated , My husband says it was harmless fun but also says islamically he did nothing wrong, and if he chooses tommorow to marry another wife i have no say.

yes Islamicly he did nothing wrong and if you oppose then Islamicly you are doing a sin because its his god given right and the jealousy of the female is described as kufr by Imam Ali In Nahjulbalagha.

you have absolutely no say in his marriage to some one else because that is a matter between other people ( him and his other wife) and if you prevent him from m marriage and he falls into sin then you will bear a share of the sin.

If he has a need for second wife then by Islam he is obligated to seek marriage and is wajib on him. if anyone prevents him from the wajib then its just like preventing some one from praying.

if your marriage is suffering then you are the reason for that because you are rejecting the law of god and if you insist on rejecting god's law then you will be digging your own grave by challenging god.

majority of the prophets and imams had multiple wives and their wives did not wreck the family just because they got new wives.

**Maryaam** · November 22, 2009

[salam to brothers and sisters.
I have a question re mutaa.
I found out my husband was having an affair on the internet. I read some of the emails and he asked her to be his temporary wife before speaking about very intermit things. She agreed.
What I am trying to say is, how can Mutaa be halal and is mustahab, If your husband and wife find out that their partner is doing this behind their back.
It gives the man more power , when his wife finds out he just has to say this is halal.
Ok fair enough, but what happens to our relationship. We have 3 young girls and i no longer has any trust in my husband at all.
Do you believe it have been nearly 1 year since i caught him and i am close to severe depression.
I am very sad about this because I feel i can not speak to anyone who is muslim as I am feared their answer will be, "hey your husband did nothing wrong". I feel like my marriage has suffered tremendously . I have become so paranoid , that everytime he is on the computer, everytime he leaves the house, i think he is doing something.
Please someone respond to me, as i am devestated , My husband says it was harmless fun but also says islamically he did nothing wrong, and if he chooses tommorow to marry another wife i have no say.

(wasalam)

If this is not what you expected, it is understandable that you are upset and confused. However, Islamically, he can have a different mutah every hour – and if this is where he wants to put his energies – it is his choice. If he is providing housing, clothing and food for you and his children, as he should, he is doing all that is minimally required of him. As for the impact of his actions, only time will tell...it is his road to travel.

But, YOU need to lift your depression and sadness. If his actions are upsetting you – you need to remove your thoughts from them by making an active life for yourself that is meaningful and rewarding and that cannot be impacted by his actions. You cannot change him, but you can definitely change how you react to him. This will take concentrated effort – but you can do it!! You have a basic human right to be happy.

Find the good in this situation. Perhaps the good in this situation is the motivation to be stronger.

Be the best you can be; make it a number one priority to care of your health. The better the shape you are in, the better you can cope with stress. If you are anxious and depressed, your children will be upset. If you are strong and healthy, your daughters will view you with pride and emulate your lifestyle – another bonus!

These three things will make you stronger physically and mentally:

Eat well – think about the nutrition of everything that you put in your mouth – is it deserving of you :P? If not, put it down.

Exercise, exercise, exercise!!! – find a formal program for motivation to start (aerobics, pilates, yoga, etc) and as a way to meet other women so that you can start an informal program (meet for walks, hikes, swimming, etc.)

Self study - Read and immerse yourself in an area that you always wanted to explore. Let it be an ongoing interest that you have a hunger to know more and can also be used to distract you when you are feeling weak and upset.

All of this will give you more confidence to find your own direction now and in the future. What he does to satsfy himself outside of your marriage to him, will impact you less and less.

Edited November 22, 2009 by Maryaam

**Maryaam** · November 22, 2009

^^^^

Forgot to add to the above –

Part of taking care of yourself, is to make sure that all monies earned by you or given to you as gifts are housed in bank account in your name only, as all monies accrued by you are for your choice of use.

Leave this money in case you need it.

Allah will protect you. Practice the rights given to you.

Edited November 22, 2009 by Maryaam

**SoRoUsH** · November 22, 2009

(salam) brother Alimohamad

Thank you for your reply.

The following caught my eyes.

"The Muslim man is allowed to contract temporary marriage with the muslims and the people of the book (the Unitarians) but not with polytheists."

I don't remember reading anywhere the distinction between Unitarian Christians and Trinitarian Christians.

The Christians during the era of our prophet (pbuh) were Trinitarian, and though Quran condemns the trinity, it still acknowledges them as "the people of the book."

Could you please let me know how you arrive at such conclusion? or where in Islamic traditions/texts such distinction with regard to Muta is made?

Thank you

Shi'ite Sherni · November 22, 2009

Salaam:
yes Islamicly he did nothing wrong and if you oppose then Islamicly you are doing a sin because its his god given right and the jealousy of the female is described as kufr by Imam Ali In Nahjulbalagha.
you have absolutely no say in his marriage to some one else because that is a matter between other people ( him and his other wife) and if you prevent him from m marriage and he falls into sin then you will bear a share of the sin.
If he has a need for second wife then by Islam he is obligated to seek marriage and is wajib on him. if anyone prevents him from the wajib then its just like preventing some one from praying.
if your marriage is suffering then you are the reason for that because you are rejecting the law of god and if you insist on rejecting god's law then you will be digging your own grave by challenging god.
majority of the prophets and imams had multiple wives and their wives did not wreck the family just because they got new wives.

Men jus CAN'T relate to it from a womans point of view...!!!

I am aware that Our Prophet (pbuh) and Our Imam (as) had several wives....but did they not stick to jus the 1 when they were married to Bibi Khadija sa and Bibi Fatima sa....??....

Women want their husbands to be faithful and be satisfied with them....and at times it does feel like double standards...

If youve got a wife whos husband isnt providing the necessary intimacy she doesnt have that privilege to go elsewhere...... unless its through a divorce....

Janaat · November 23, 2009

However, Islamically, he can have a different mutah every hour – and if this is where he wants to put his energies – it is his choice. If he is providing housing, clothing and food for you and his children, as he should, he is doing all that is minimally required of him. As for the impact of his actions, only time will tell...it is his road to travel.

Hi maryam,

I dont have much knowledge about muta, and i would like to learn more about this but it just seems so wrong for a guy to

engage in temporary marriage every other day or hour if he wants to.

Does the same rule apply for women?

I mean how can this be islamicaly right, I understand that if theres one thing a women can't bare, its when she

finds out her husband has found someone else or is sexually engaged with another female, especially

when you have been married to this guy for the longest time and have 3 children.

I would just ask for a divorce if I found out my potential-husband was engaged in muta. Unless

someone can really convince me right now why muta is allowed.

Thanks

alimohamad40 · November 23, 2009

Salaam

(salam) brother Alimohamad
Thank you for your reply.
The following caught my eyes.
"The Muslim man is allowed to contract temporary marriage with the muslims and the people of the book (the Unitarians) but not with polytheists."
I don't remember reading anywhere the distinction between Unitarian Christians and Trinitarian Christians.
The Christians during the era of our prophet (pbuh) were Trinitarian, and though Quran condemns the trinity, it still acknowledges them as "the people of the book."
Could you please let me know how you arrive at such conclusion? or where in Islamic traditions/texts such distinction with regard to Muta is made?
Thank you

you are absolutely right i didn't mean to make a distinction between Unitarians and Triniterian Christians.. ahlulkitab is both of them and the rule is applicable to ahlulkitab which includes both.

I call them Unitarian because god asked us to call them that even though they have diverted off UNITY by introducing Trinity. but they are still called monotheistic because their bible clearly states the idea of ONE GOD

Even the muslims contradict Unity in many issues but we still call them monothestic

For example the Sunnies shape god and the Shias give the prophet and the infallibles the attributes of god (like controlling every atom in the existence) .... But they are still considered monotheistic people who are falling into problems which are hopefully fixable.

regarding which scholar allows the formula to be read in other language , as far as I remember one of them is Fadallah but do not Quote me on that...

alimohamad40 · November 23, 2009

Salaam

Hi maryam,
I dont have much knowledge about muta, and i would like to learn more about this but it just seems so wrong for a guy to
engage in temporary marriage every other day or hour if he wants to.
Does the same rule apply for women?
I mean how can this be islamicaly right, I understand that if theres one thing a women can't bare, its when she
finds out her husband has found someone else or is sexually engaged with another female, especially
when you have been married to this guy for the longest time and have 3 children.
I would just ask for a divorce if I found out my potential-husband was engaged in muta. Unless
someone can really convince me right now why muta is allowed.
Thanks

no one can convince you because you made your mind already...

to convince you we must ask your religion... what religion are you?

If you say Muslim following the shia school of thought then based on the shia school of thought its allowed and encouraged....

If you say why? the answer will be a long story,,, but i am ready to give you answers if your willing to be logical and discuss with logic and evidence rather than emotions and personal opinions.

remember what Imam Ali said in Nahjulbalagha "the jealousy of the female is Kufr and the jealousy of the male is Emaan" so women who cant bear their husband marrying again fall under the KUFR category because they are rejecting god's law.

god knows what the man needs and what the woman needs.

salaam

**Maryaam** · November 23, 2009

Hi maryam,
I dont have much knowledge about muta, and i would like to learn more about this but it just seems so wrong for a guy to
engage in temporary marriage every other day or hour if he wants to.
Does the same rule apply for women?
I mean how can this be islamicaly right, I understand that if theres one thing a women can't bare, its when she
finds out her husband has found someone else or is sexually engaged with another female, especially
when you have been married to this guy for the longest time and have 3 children.
I would just ask for a divorce if I found out my potential-husband was engaged in muta. Unless
someone can really convince me right now why muta is allowed.
Thanks

Salam Janat

We are OT on this thread - so this will be my last post here.

There are many threads on here about mutah – so feel free to spend your day reading them :)

Mutah is halal and for men and women. It is halal for a woman, if she is not already married – and observes idaah.

It is halal for a man to have as many mutah as he wants, at any time. Some men interpret halal = wajib, and spend more time aggressively defending their “rights” than nurturing promising relationships and marriages... As I said before – this is their choice and their road to travel.

However, all behaviours, halal or not, have a consequence.

I don’t know if your husband is in need or not – but from what you said, he doesn’t appear to be concerned about how this hurts your relationship and family (Big red flag). I would also be concerned about what else he is up to as sexual behaviour escalates. It is your right to be concerned and kept informed, as you need to protect yourself against diseases he may bring home....and any woman that would freely engage in quickie mutah, has probably had her own share of relationships and hence the probability increases.

Men can become addicted or go for the next level of thrill. As long as this is shrouded in mutah – it is perfectly halal – but is not necessarily healthy. He may find it fun now, but as indicated by some men on this forum, it can be an empty way of life.

Talking to strange women on the internet that progresses to a level of intimacy that requires mutah, takes up hours of your time that could be devoted to his daughters, who will quickly grow up and be gone and to his wife, who had chosen to support and to love him through the good and the bad, for now and in their long future together.

Yes, you can ask for a divorce – it is better if you put in your marriage contract about the right to divorce if he takes another wife – but you can still do it. Having said that, I know that it would be difficult for a woman with three children to make it on her own; sometimes it is better to remain (at least for the time being) and refocus your life and re-evaluate your relationship with your husband.

I was trying to help you take your energy of sadness, despair and paranoia and turn it 180 degrees into something positive for yourself and for your girls. Your emotional well being needs to be sufficiently separated from him so that his behaviours do not negatively impact you. You have no choice over what he does ...but lots of choices over your quality of life and you can make it productive and happy – mentally, physically and financially.

Edited November 23, 2009 by Maryaam

Janaat · November 23, 2009

hmm thanks for the reply, and uhh i am not married lol.

but this mutah thing is really bringing me down, and i will search some old posts and if despite trying realy hard

i am still not fully convinced, i'm not sure if shiaism is really right for me.

Thanks

spot · November 28, 2009

Salam Janat
We are OT on this thread - so this will be my last post here.
There are many threads on here about mutah – so feel free to spend your day reading them :)
Mutah is halal and for men and women. It is halal for a woman, if she is not already married – and observes idaah.
It is halal for a man to have as many mutah as he wants, at any time. Some men interpret halal = wajib, and spend more time aggressively defending their “rights” than nurturing promising relationships and marriages... As I said before – this is their choice and their road to travel.
However, all behaviours, halal or not, have a consequence.
I don’t know if your husband is in need or not – but from what you said, he doesn’t appear to be concerned about how this hurts your relationship and family (Big red flag). I would also be concerned about what else he is up to as sexual behaviour escalates. It is your right to be concerned and kept informed, as you need to protect yourself against diseases he may bring home....and any woman that would freely engage in quickie mutah, has probably had her own share of relationships and hence the probability increases.
Men can become addicted or go for the next level of thrill. As long as this is shrouded in mutah – it is perfectly halal – but is not necessarily healthy. He may find it fun now, but as indicated by some men on this forum, it can be an empty way of life.
Talking to strange women on the internet that progresses to a level of intimacy that requires mutah, takes up hours of your time that could be devoted to his daughters, who will quickly grow up and be gone and to his wife, who had chosen to support and to love him through the good and the bad, for now and in their long future together.
Yes, you can ask for a divorce – it is better if you put in your marriage contract about the right to divorce if he takes another wife – but you can still do it. Having said that, I know that it would be difficult for a woman with three children to make it on her own; sometimes it is better to remain (at least for the time being) and refocus your life and re-evaluate your relationship with your husband.
I was trying to help you take your energy of sadness, despair and paranoia and turn it 180 degrees into something positive for yourself and for your girls. Your emotional well being needs to be sufficiently separated from him so that his behaviours do not negatively impact you. You have no choice over what he does ...but lots of choices over your quality of life and you can make it productive and happy – mentally, physically and financially.

spot · November 28, 2009

Hi

This is to Maryam

Thankyou so much for your extremely kind and thoughtful words, I honestly took them into deep consideration and am trying to apply as much of them as I possibly can.

It is so different seeing a females reaction to mutah compared to a male.

for example that guy who had his say that "if my marriage fails its my fault" . What a loser, god help him with his wife !!!!!!!!!

Yes mutah is halal, but till now noone has evidance of consequences if the partner does find out. Keeping in mind it is halal to do this behind the partners back.

Okay what are the consquences when things are found out. If there is nothing wrong with this , why not have it out in the open, why all this secrecy.???

I believe that the shia men have taken full advantage of this law, and if they have no problem engaging in mutah every hour, don't put your family through this torment.

I will find it so hard to teach my girls that hey if when you marry you find out your husband is engaging in mutah this is completely normal, just go ahead your daily lives.

I want to know one woman who has absolutely no problem with her husband doing mutah. Give me one women who is living a happy and trusting relationship after knowing what her husband is doing.

And to all you guys whos reply to me was get over it , it is all your fault. tell me, if your sister was married and this happened to her, are you telling me you would not at all feel upset for her or disappointed with her husband.

Your pathetic if you think this is not going to have a massive impact on her life.

Imagine walking down the street with your husband and there are women with whom he is having a relationship with pass you by, are you telling me this is not morally wrong??????????

If your husband leaves home for mutah, he is taking that time away from his current wife and his current children.

SO to all the males that take part in mutah i will not say good luck!!!!

You know I once met a girl who told me that this guy who used to fix her computer , asked her a say this phrase in arabic , she said it and then they had a sexual relationship. This was while his wife was home with the kids , thinking that her husband was working. That is sick.

This girl that was doing the mutah with the guy, fully new his wife and said she was gorgeus and a very sweet person. I asked her "how could you do this ". Her response was hey sex came to me , why turn it down".

I could go on for hours about how negative this is. but guys will never think with their heads and the consequences, they will only think in the moment and if it feels good , well what the hell why not!!!!!!!!!!!!

alimohamad40 · November 28, 2009

It is so different seeing a females reaction to mutah compared to a male.
for example that guy who had his say that "if my marriage fails its my fault" . What a loser, god help him with his wife !!!!!!!!!
I will find it so hard to teach my girls that hey if when you marry you find out your husband is engaging in mutah this is completely normal, just go ahead your daily lives.
I want to know one woman who has absolutely no problem with her husband doing mutah. Give me one women who is living a happy and trusting relationship after knowing what her husband is doing.
Your pathetic if you think this is not going to have a massive impact on her life.
Imagine walking down the street with your husband and there are women with whom he is having a relationship with pass you by, are you telling me this is not morally wrong??????????

the prophets and imams were wrong for having more than one wife? and God makes the morally wrong acts ligitimate in his religion?

which religion do you follow?

Janaat · November 29, 2009

We are not saying the prophets and imams are wrong.

What we're saying is that alot of men take advantage of mutah, and mostly do it because of lust and they just simply want more sex.

I dont think thats right. Especially, it would have a really bad impact of the mans family and children.

3ashiqat-Al-Batoul · November 29, 2009

Hi
This is to Maryam
Thankyou so much for your extremely kind and thoughtful words, I honestly took them into deep consideration and am trying to apply as much of them as I possibly can.
It is so different seeing a females reaction to mutah compared to a male.
for example that guy who had his say that "if my marriage fails its my fault" . What a loser, god help him with his wife !!!!!!!!!
Yes mutah is halal, but till now noone has evidance of consequences if the partner does find out. Keeping in mind it is halal to do this behind the partners back.
Okay what are the consquences when things are found out. If there is nothing wrong with this , why not have it out in the open, why all this secrecy.???
I believe that the shia men have taken full advantage of this law, and if they have no problem engaging in mutah every hour, don't put your family through this torment.
I will find it so hard to teach my girls that hey if when you marry you find out your husband is engaging in mutah this is completely normal, just go ahead your daily lives.
I want to know one woman who has absolutely no problem with her husband doing mutah. Give me one women who is living a happy and trusting relationship after knowing what her husband is doing.
And to all you guys whos reply to me was get over it , it is all your fault. tell me, if your sister was married and this happened to her, are you telling me you would not at all feel upset for her or disappointed with her husband.
Your pathetic if you think this is not going to have a massive impact on her life.
Imagine walking down the street with your husband and there are women with whom he is having a relationship with pass you by, are you telling me this is not morally wrong??????????
If your husband leaves home for mutah, he is taking that time away from his current wife and his current children.
SO to all the males that take part in mutah i will not say good luck!!!!
You know I once met a girl who told me that this guy who used to fix her computer , asked her a say this phrase in arabic , she said it and then they had a sexual relationship. This was while his wife was home with the kids , thinking that her husband was working. That is sick.
This girl that was doing the mutah with the guy, fully new his wife and said she was gorgeus and a very sweet person. I asked her "how could you do this ". Her response was hey sex came to me , why turn it down".
I could go on for hours about how negative this is. but guys will never think with their heads and the consequences, they will only think in the moment and if it feels good , well what the hell why not!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hello, that would be me :)

Took a long time to get to this stage, from being completely opposed to the idea of sharing my husband, wanting him to be completely mine, to accepting that when i am not there there is no problem in satisfying his desires. Actually i encourage it.

If that makes me some weird freakish female then so be it :)

alimohamad40 · November 29, 2009

We are not saying the prophets and imams are wrong.
What we're saying is that alot of men take advantage of mutah, and mostly do it because of lust and they just simply want more sex.
I dont think thats right. Especially, it would have a really bad impact of the mans family and children.

you are directly implying that they are bad when you attack their lifestyle and say that its an immoral lifestyle...

there is nothing wrong with "more sex" its one of the traits of the prophets as the hadeeth mentions. It protects many women from forincation and from becoming public property and keep the man clean and away from forincation and pornography and masturbation, homosexuality and other sexual corruptions which are a cancer in our societies today.

your saying alot of men do it for lust? of course part of marriage is lust what about the first wife don't they marry her for lust ? how come lust is only mentioned when its mut3ah or second marriage? lust doesn't take place in first marriage ?

Spot and Jannat read the following words from our imams:

Imam as-Sadiq (as) said: "Indeed, Allah the Exalted and Glorified has not given [or allowed] possessiveness to woman. Evil woman are possessive, and believing [mu'min] woman are not. However, Allah the Exalted and Glorified has given [or allowed] possessiveness to men, because it is allowed for a man to have up to four wives or his slave girls, whereas a woman is only allowed her husband. Therefore, if she desires another husband along side of him, then she is a fornicator before Allah."