Dua for marrying a specific person

[three.transporter]

SalamunAlaikum,

Please suggest me some dua for getting married to the Girl I love. We both are in love and seeking for prayers and specific duas so that our parents can be agreed smoothly and we can marry.

Thanks a lot in advance.

[smak786110]

hmmmm....

Isnt it haraam to get in love before marriage and having relationship ?

:)

anyway...past is past....

For urgent wishes, recite Ziyarate Ashura for 40 days ... it gives miracles !

:)

[sukaina_08]

(salam)

As smak said, ziarat ashura is a good one (http://www.duas.org/ashura/z_ashura.htm), and so is dua talabil hawaa-ij (http://www.duas.org/talibh.htm). It's a tough situation when parents/family/community aren't approving of your desire to marry, especially when their reasons are based on culture as opposed to Islam.

[dingdong]

Read salatul Lail for a few months. Either Allah will grant you your prayer, or you will fall in love with Allah and forget about all the fake loves. ;)

[maqnouteh]

All the best bro :)

Hope u have already prayed salatul Istikhara. He who prays Istikhara never regrets. You'll see matters progressing in the way thats best for both of u Inshallah

[Your-Best-Friend]

Are these mouring days/months for the discussion on this/such type of topics?

[wayfarer.]

Are these mouring days/months for the discussion on this/such type of topics?

I would say NO.

[Amber110]

The only love in this month should be for Imam Hussain

[Princessa]

hmmmm....

Isnt it haraam to get in love before marriage and having relationship ?

:)

anyway...past is past....

For urgent wishes, recite Ziyarate Ashura for 40 days ... it gives miracles !

:)

If it's haram to get in love before marriage, then why did Allah create love at the first place?

Sorry, but I have to say it's lame to claim that it's haram to fall in love. Love can happen anytime, any place and when you least expect it.

[wayfarer.]

If it's haram to get in love before marriage, then why did Allah create love at the first place?

it was created in the first place so that it occurs after marriage...

Sorry, but I have to say it's lame to claim that it's haram to fall in love. Love can happen anytime, any place and when you least expect it.

um...only in the movies. I think you're mistaking lust/crush/infatuation for love.

[Amber110]

it was created in the first place so that it occurs after marriage...

um...only in the movies. I think you're mistaking lust/crush/infatuation for love.

Thats right I think people mistake infatuation/lust/crush with love :wacko:

[Muna]

Thats right I think people mistake infatuation/lust/crush with love :wacko:

love before marriage is possible, if love means knowing of a person who has qualities and behaves in a way that you respect and admire so much that you want to be with that person, cant i love something about a person before i'm married to them so much so that i'm falling in love with them . . . i think you're associating love with intimacy which isnt the case

Edited January 18, 2009 by Muna

[BabyBeaverIsAKit]

Are these mouring days/months for the discussion on this/such type of topics?

Let's not get carried away. It may not be optimal, but realistically, these are probably good times to think of marriage. Here are my reasons:

1. Aunties can check out the girls for their sons during Muharram and see how they really look, without all the make-up and fancy clothes.

2. This is a month when we should be praying more than ever-- and this includes praying for marriage.

3. Muharram is when the largest crowds of Shia Muslims gather in mosques, probably more so than Eid.

4. Married people do not cease to have intimacy or flirting or enjoying each other's beauty for 2+ months, so why should single people stop looking for 2+ months?

5. These days, it's hard enough to get married, and if you're already in your late 20's (as a lot of unmarried females are in our community, unfortunately), shutting down the marriage market for 2+ months is a lot.

6. It's even more urgent if one would sin less if they were married.

You don't have to get married in Muharram or even make it official, but marriage isn't just about enjoyment, marriage is also about a family-- something that Imam Hussain A.S. definitely valued. I'm not saying it's optimal. In a perfect world, as soon as someone went on the marriage market, they would get married and have their new family before Muharram. Unfortunately, today it's hard to get married, and the clock is ticking for a lot of people. Of course, we should definitely still mourn-- that should definitely be a priority during this time period.

Edited January 18, 2009 by BabyBeaverIsAKit

[LaraAyach]

If humans could control when and under what circumstance love happened, then it wouldn't be a natural human emotion that God has given us the ability to feel. I think maybe what you mean is that it's haram to act on love (physically express your love) until you're married, which of course I agree with.

[seyedmusawi]

talk to your parents

[jund_el_Mahdi]

^I think he has, that's why he's here asking for help.

[Ali.0009]

Read salatul Lail for a few months. Either Allah will grant you your prayer, or you will fall in love with Allah and forget about all the fake loves. ;)

I agree. All things are false in this world, there is only one true love and that is of Allah, the truth. Love the truth. May Allah gives peace to your heart.

[Toffee]

Salam. I have to say that the brother is very determined and if it is good for you to be united then surely you will be have faith in Allah swt and make sure you read regular prayers and du'as good luck.