Marriage Of Shia Girl And Sunni Guy

[miqdadnaqvi]

i want to know the ruling/fatwas of Meraja's regarding a shia, syed girl that wants to marry with a sunni guy(non-syed).

plz! help me to find the ruling.....

[Guest newsbot]

I don't know where to find it, but such marriages regardless of whether the girl is syed, should be avoided. the primary concern is whether your faith is weakend plus imaan of children should be considered aswell.

Edited January 16, 2007 by newsbot

[Guest syeda4ever]

i want to know the ruling/fatwas of Meraja's regarding a shia, syed girl that wants to marry with a sunni guy(non-syed).

plz! help me to find the ruling.....

According to Ayatullah Sistani, you can marry a sunni only if you dont get misled.. and if you have a fear of being misled by that guy, eg, if you think he would try converting you into sunnism, than it is not permissibble to marry him.. Althought, you should try to convert him to shism.. :)

I hope i have helped..

[Bonafide Hustler]

According to Ayatullah Sistani, you can marry a sunni only if you dont get misled.. and if you have a fear of being misled by that guy, eg, if you think he would try converting you into sunnism, than it is not permissibble to marry him.. Althought, you should try to convert him to shism.. :)

I hope i have helped..

ok i got a question about this following Sistani thing

I understand that people have high respect for him, but i was wondering after gaining peoples respect over all this time, are people at the point where they are blindly following his fatwas?

I mean i dont care how good ur track record is, each ruling and fatwa should be looked at on an individual basis, and you should only follow a sistani or who ever u follow rulings and fatwas if they make sense to u.

I jus see too many people who follow him, do it blindly now, as if to say, we are jus going to do what he says

[Yousif]

salam

some people trust his judgement , some ppl dont believe in a fatwa completely but follow it just as a precaution because they arent sure , and its also allowed to do ijma' on an issue where you arent really convinced of ur marja's answer

and as far as i recall all marja's agree with sayed sistanis fatwa in this case except i think the fear of being misled , is that ur love for him will affect ur eman ... him trying to convert u , is nothing unexpectable , just if ur faith is weakened thats the problem , wahabis try all the time we still stand strong ;)

[Oranje]

i want to know the ruling/fatwas of Meraja's regarding a shia, syed girl that wants to marry with a sunni guy(non-syed).

plz! help me to find the ruling.....

its wrong as she is a syed (ayatollah hassan abatahi refer to http://www.abtahi.com/ ), if the guy was a syed himself it wouldnt be a problem

Edited January 16, 2007 by Oranje

[Guest SayedM'sSister]

Salam

^are you implying sayeda girls are not allowed to marry non sayed shias or just non sayed sunnis?

Wasalam

[Oranje]

Salam

^are you implying sayeda girls are not allowed to marry non sayed shias or just non sayed sunnis?

Wasalam

sometimes people are so..

anyway how slow do u want me to go?

yes thats what im saying my marja hassan abtahi says it also

[Guest SayedM'sSister]

^Salam

Well then brother your marja is the ONLY marja that states this :) Now you learned something new.

Wasalam.

[Oranje]

^Salam

Well then brother your marja is the ONLY marja that states this :) Now you learned something new.

Wasalam.

you have emphasized only, since when did majority matter?

[Guest SayedM'sSister]

Salam

You speak it like because your marja says it that is the ruling of shia'ism. when all the great 3ulama' (shia) give a fatwa, and one great 3alim gives the opposite, the general ruling for that issue is taking from the majorities perspective, therefore, yes it does matter.

Wasalam.

[Oranje]

Salam

You speak it like because your marja says it that is the ruling of shia'ism. when all the great 3ulama' (shia) give a fatwa, and one great 3alim gives the opposite, the general ruling for that issue is taking from the majorities perspective, therefore, yes it does matter.

Wasalam.

did you know there are more sunnis then shias? did u know there are more christians then muslims?

[Ibn al-Hussain]

What happens when they both go for Umrah/Hajj; and the Sunni doesn't do Tawafun Nisa; do they get own3d?

[al-syedia]

the same ol question

[Yousif]

salam

ijma' of shia scholars , is different than majority of sunnis or non muslims over muslims

[miqdadnaqvi]

According to Ayatullah Sistani, you can marry a sunni only if you dont get misled.. and if you have a fear of being misled by that guy, eg, if you think he would try converting you into sunnism, than it is not permissibble to marry him.. Althought, you should try to convert him to shism.. :)

I hope i have helped..

thank you sis.

can you gimme the onlin reference?

[Guest syeda4ever]

You can go to sistani.org.. you will find all type of questions there..

:)

[Guest syeda4ever]

^ Ayatollah Sistani's site has some more new questions and it is updated! So you can get your answers there..

Allah HAfiz

[Bonafide Hustler]

Salam

You speak it like because your marja says it that is the ruling of shia'ism. when all the great 3ulama' (shia) give a fatwa, and one great 3alim gives the opposite, the general ruling for that issue is taking from the majorities perspective, therefore, yes it does matter.

Wasalam.

how can u say tht, majority isnt always right, jus cuz theres more catholics doenst mean they are true

[Guest syeda4ever]

how can u say tht, majority isnt always right, jus cuz theres more catholics doenst mean they are true

But Bro they know more than us thats why most of the people listen to them. If any of thier rulings were wrong than no one wud follow or listen to them.

They are fair enough, thats why we trust them.

[Ibn al-Hussain]

What happens when they both go for Umrah/Hajj; and the Sunni doesn't do Tawafun Nisa; do they get own3d?

[Guest SayedM'sSister]

salam

ijma' of shia scholars , is different than majority of sunnis or non muslims over muslims

[yahossein]

(bismillah)

(salam)

If there were no children to be had, there wouldnt really be a problem. The man would follow his way, and the woman his way. The real issue, and point that there is no way round, and this doesnt need a marja to tell you this, is when the children are born. How would they pray? According to the Sunni school of law (Hanafi, Maliki, Hanbali, Shafi) or Shia school (Jafari)? When would they break there fast, 15 mins later or earlier? Would they accept the Imams or not? Would they accept the khalifa or not? Would they do mourning at Ashura or not? Would you send them to a sunni maddrasah at an early age or not? The children would be so confused , and probably end up following the parent who spends more time with them or pushes them more into something. Just an impossible situation. Both sides deep down would want their child to follow their way, and the child wouldnt know what to do.

(wasalam)

[Jenna]

i wouldnt do it just for the sake of the children in the future, wouldnt want to risk it

[IbbzCurious]

wallah its sad whenever i see this topic, through personal experience having liked someone from a particular school of thought, i realised that shia and sunni is usually not compatible because eventually both sides have differences in beliefs, those who are pious and believe in both schools of thought are not usually compatible, and those who are very liberal with their faith just marry without understanding the complexities involved i guess.

[Philip]

You know what? I don't even know any real live Shias .. Outside SC that is .. Why did I open my mouth .. They say birds of the same feather flock together. So somebody like me should probably not marry somebody who calls themselves "Shia" or "Suni". Just Muslim like me :. In my way. Our way together. Same principles, same morals, same priorities. .. Become one.

Anyway, wish all Shia and Suni and Sufi and Christians and Jews and Buddhist etc. Peace love harmony respect coexistence and sustainable interdependence.

Allah guide us all,

Salam

[Ace Abbas]

It is permissible, just not recommended. Because afraid that the children will become confuse in choosing their sects.

[Philip]

Yes I understand .. However for my family we don't even think/talk/mention the word "sect" .. Even though we fully respect Shia and even maybe more than other divisions .. Religion actually isn't even a topic of discussion in our family. My parents never ever talk about it, and my father converted to islam just to marry my mom .. So hes not even Muslim strictly speaking. This was the most fertile ground for me to independently develop spiritually. And i have my own unique interpretation of everything .. Including that I take the best of all in the name of the One.

And marriage with somebody like me is an impossibilty for most .. So I am the weird one here.

Salam peace

[nirma1230]

nice conversion, thank you to start such a help full topic

wedding

[Banooota]

I think the answer to this question is subjective, and it depends a lot on the two people getting married...

I would be worried that the husband would enforce sunni beliefs, but thats just me! :)

fi aman illah

[Philip]

I think the answer to this question is subjective, and it depends a lot on the two people getting married...

I would be worried that the husband would enforce sunni beliefs, but thats just me! :)

fi aman illah

+1

Anybody forcing their beliefs on us should be avoided. Hopefully everyone in this forum will be happily married to their opposite-gender soul mates in the same direction toward al Haqq :) soon ya Rabb .. And the ones who are already in this situation .. Meaning a blessed marriage .. I hope they reach new levels of trust, harmony, joy and love in God's way. I am betting on wife in Jannah isA .. Don't have any expectations of this dunya.

Salam alekum

Edited June 23, 2011 by Philip

[Masooma Mustafa]

ok i got a question about this following Sistani thing

I understand that people have high respect for him, but i was wondering after gaining peoples respect over all this time, are people at the point where they are blindly following his fatwas?

I mean i dont care how good ur track record is, each ruling and fatwa should be looked at on an individual basis, and you should only follow a sistani or who ever u follow rulings and fatwas if they make sense to u.

I jus see too many people who follow him, do it blindly now, as if to say, we are jus going to do what he says

 

 

when u r sick.. u go to the doc. and u trust his proscription blindly cz u trust his yrs of hard work.. he is the master in his field as he worked hard..

 

u need to build a house, u find the architecture the engineers n u blindly follow what material or what specific angle they will use to build cz they know.. yrs of hard work in their feild.

 

u hav electric issues... u trust the eletrician cz he is pro in his field.. u get him whatever equipment he wants to fix ur problem.. cz he knows..

 

when we have a problem with our religion... we find it awkward n nonsense to follow a marja... i wonder why... has he not studied his whole life...to make our life easier...

 

we can trust ppl with worldly issues on which our life depends on... but cant trust someone for faith... #HumanLogic

[alina92]

 

 

 

when u r sick.. u go to the doc. and u trust his proscription blindly cz u trust his yrs of hard work.. he is the master in his field as he worked hard..

 

u need to build a house, u find the architecture the engineers n u blindly follow what material or what specific angle they will use to build cz they know.. yrs of hard work in their feild.

 

u hav electric issues... u trust the eletrician cz he is pro in his field.. u get him whatever equipment he wants to fix ur problem.. cz he knows..

 

when we have a problem with our religion... we find it awkward n nonsense to follow a marja... i wonder why... has he not studied his whole life...to make our life easier...

 

we can trust ppl with worldly issues on which our life depends on... but cant trust someone for faith... #HumanLogic

 

 

 

Um, no.  You do not (or rather, should not) trust the doctor, architect or electrician blindly. Despite having studied extensively in their fields, they are still human and capable of making mistakes. Years of experience in their field and working hard does not make people infallible. No one is infallible. 

 

If you have doubts about something that your doctor, architect, or electrician is doing or has said to you, you ask them about it. If the explanation that they provide you satisfies your doubts, then yes, you take their word for it. However, if you are not satisfied with their explanation and still have doubts, you most certainly do not have to blindly trust that they are right. You are quite free to (and should) get a second opinion and ask another doctor, architect, electrician, etc.