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Mera Aik Sawal Hai Kay ..........


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(bismillah) Salam to all respected members.Mei sawal karna chahti hoon (khaas kar shaadi shuda khawateen say) ............kuch din pehlay aik mehfil mei shareeq honay ka moqa mila wahan meri aik bohat purani friend say mulaqaat hui ............woh bata rahi thi kay husband bohat achay hain .........mera aur bachoon ka bohat khayaal rakhtay hain .......lekin aik din woh mujh say kehnay lagay .............kay agar meri zindgi mei koi aur aurat aa jaye to tumhara reaction kya ho ga???(.Although he is very nice person as far as i know).Meri nay friend nay jawaab diya agar aap such sunnaa chahtay hain .........to mujhay bilkul bhi acha nahi lagay ga.Shohar sahab nay apni begum ko jawad diya ...................Baaaas Yehi hai tumhara pyaar...............tum loog sirf aur sirf apna hi apna chahtti ho ....................actually tum saab selfish ho.Mei nay sirf tumhain Aazmaaya hai Tum iss mei bilkul CLEAN BOWLED ho gai.Phir Farmanay lagay kay hamaray AIMAA (a,s) nay Aik say ziyada shaadian nahi ki??????Phir tum loog itni possessive minded kuon ho.(Indian Dramay kam dhekha karo)...........Ab aap hi bataye kay meri friend in batoon ka kya jawaab dey ............I know her she is very innocent.Hope to hear from you soon guys.Allah Hafiz.

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Iss dour ke mardoun mein aur humaray Aimaa ke dour ke mardoun mein bohot farq hai. Voh apnay aap ko unke saath patha nahi kyun compare kar raha hai.

Aaj kal ke husbands doosri shaadi ka naam hi sunn ke uchal parthe hain

Doosri shaadi kar lehthe hai leken ye nahi patha hota ke donoun biwis ko equally provide karna hota hai. (I am talking about the majority of men who do this, not all, so no offense to the guys who take care of all their wives)

Auratein naturally hi possesive hoti hai husbands ke liye, voh kyun share kare.

Agar mere husband ne aisa kuch kabhi kaha tho ussi din apnay bags pack kar ke chali jaounghi, aur kahunghi ke karni hai tho kar lo, leken mein yahan nahi hounghi uska istakhbaal karne ke liye.

Apni friend se kaho ke voh bhi aisa koi sawaal kare ussay aazmaane ke liye, dekhte hai ke uska jawab kya hota hai.

I know this reply won't have helped you much, I hope there's more to come that will help, sorry for going on.

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(bismillah) Salam to all respected members.Mei sawal karna chahti hoon (khaas kar shaadi shuda khawateen say) ............kuch din pehlay aik mehfil mei shareeq honay ka moqa mila wahan meri aik bohat purani friend say mulaqaat hui ............woh bata rahi thi kay husband bohat achay hain .........mera aur bachoon ka bohat khayaal rakhtay hain .......lekin aik din woh mujh say kehnay lagay .............kay agar meri zindgi mei koi aur aurat aa jaye to tumhara reaction kya ho ga???(.Although he is very nice person as far as i know).Meri nay friend nay jawaab diya agar aap such sunnaa chahtay hain .........to mujhay bilkul bhi acha nahi lagay ga.Shohar sahab nay apni begum ko jawad diya ...................Baaaas Yehi hai tumhara pyaar...............tum loog sirf aur sirf apna hi apna chahtti ho ....................actually tum saab selfish ho.Mei nay sirf tumhain Aazmaaya hai Tum iss mei bilkul CLEAN BOWLED ho gai.Phir Farmanay lagay kay hamaray AIMAA (a,s) nay Aik say ziyada shaadian nahi ki??????Phir tum loog itni possessive minded kuon ho.(Indian Dramay kam dhekha karo)...........Ab aap hi bataye kay meri friend in batoon ka kya jawaab dey ............I know her she is very innocent.Hope to hear from you soon guys.Allah Hafiz.

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Seema Bibi

1.Aimmah Allah kay chunay huway loug thay, Allah nay unique khusiyaat 'ataa kee theen

2. Aimmah qaem ul layl hotay thay yaani raat bahrr ibadat karrtay thay

3. Aimmah saem an nahaar hotay thay yaani dinoun mein rousay rakhtay tay

4. Aimmah kou Allah nay 'adl kay demonstrator banaa kay bhaija thaa

Aap apnee dost say kahiye, apnay mian say poochay yeh chaar khusiyaat hain uss mein?

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^Rawshni aapne jo bhi likha such hoga, laiken baat to yeh hay ke un sahiba ke shohar ka sawal aur misal bilkul haq bajanib hay.

Aimmah nay wohi kia jo woh apne perokar sey chahte thay. Aur khair, aik say zayid shadi karna to khair mustahab hay waisey bhi (aaj ke ulama ki nazar me bhi).

I will ofcourse totally agree with the answer his wife gave (which makes all the natural, sentimental and logical sense), however, Islam says what the husband said.

Yaad hay woh hadees ke jalan aurto ki buraio me say hay kiunke is jalan ki waja say woh dosri aurat bardasht nahi kar sakti.

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^Rawshni aapne jo bhi likha such hoga, laiken baat to yeh hay ke un sahiba ke shohar ka sawal aur misal bilkul haq bajanib hay.

Aimmah nay wohi kia jo woh apne perokar sey chahte thay. Aur khair, aik say zayid shadi karna to khair mustahab hay waisey bhi (aaj ke ulama ki nazar me bhi).

I will ofcourse totally agree with the answer his wife gave (which makes all the natural, sentimental and logical sense), however, Islam says what the husband said.

Yaad hay woh hadees ke jalan aurto ki buraio me say hay kiunke is jalan ki waja say woh dosri aurat bardasht nahi kar sakti.

Baiatay jee kis Imam nay chaaha keh payrokaar wahee kuchch karein jo Imam khud kartay thay

Pehlee baat tou yeh keh Aimmah jaantay thay payroukaaroun mein itnaa tapparr naheen hai

Doosree 'ahm guzarish yeh hai keh Karbala mein, Imaam apnee jaan kaa nazraana day rahay thay, payroukaaroun [ashaab ] parr say b'eyat uthaa lee keh jahaan chaaho chalay jaao

jaao, apnee jaanein bachaa lo

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^Lo jee, ajeeb baat kardi aapne yeh to?

Yanein ke aimmah nay nahi chaha ke unke perokar unhein follow karein? :blink:

Talqeen karnaa keh hamaaray raastay peh chalo, aur yeh ilm honaa keh jaisey hamm shariyat kay t'aabeh ho kay zindah hain, yeh naheen ho sakktay, mutually exclusive naheen hai

Doosree baat yeh: Aimmah kay itteb'a mein mard selective kyuon hotay hain?

Teesre baat: Charroun kay liye, pehaly eik tou karr kau bhugat lo, phir doosre, teesre chauthee sochchcnaa

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Talqeen karnaa keh hamaaray raastay peh chalo, aur yeh ilm honaa keh jaisey hamm shariyat kay t'aabeh ho kay zindah hain, yeh naheen ho sakktay, mutually exclusive naheen hai

Doosree baat yeh: Aimmah kay itteb'a mein mard selective kyuon hotay hain?

Teesre baat: Charroun kay liye, pehaly eik tou karr kau bhugat lo, phir doosre, teesre chauthee sochchcnaa

dosri aur teesri baat bilkul relevent nahi hay un aadmi ke sawal say.

Baat yeh hay ke us aadmi nay jo bola woh sahi hay ya nahi. aur jo aapke pehle jumle me likha hay woh aik alag baat hay, mere khayal sey me nay usko ghalat piraye me samjha.

Laiken janab baat yeh hay ke Islam is me wohi kehta hay jo us aadmi nay kaha hay. Sahi hay Islam nay kuch sharait rakhi hain.

Kia agar woh aadmi apna sawal is tarha karta ke "Agar me tum mein aur us dosri aurat me adal karta houn to kia tumko qubool hoga" to kia us aurat ke jawab me koi tabdeeli ajati? usne phir bhi wohi kehna tha.

Baat seedhi si hay, jab woh aurat sirf aur sirf us ke sath reh rahi hay, to us mard ko bhi sirf aur sirf us aurat ke sath he rehna chahiye..

Laiken agar ab sharai' lehaaz sey dekhein to yeh us aurat ki BURAI hay keh woh apne shohar ke baray me possessive hay, aur yeh shohar ki ACHAI hay (mustahab hay) ke woh dosri shadi karay.

Baat to such hay magar baat hay ruswai ki :squeez:

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(bismillah) Salam to all respected members.Mei sawal karna chahti hoon (khaas kar shaadi shuda khawateen say) ............kuch din pehlay aik mehfil mei shareeq honay ka moqa mila wahan meri aik bohat purani friend say mulaqaat hui ............woh bata rahi thi kay husband bohat achay hain .........mera aur bachoon ka bohat khayaal rakhtay hain .......lekin aik din woh mujh say kehnay lagay .............kay agar meri zindgi mei koi aur aurat aa jaye to tumhara reaction kya ho ga???(.Although he is very nice person as far as i know).Meri nay friend nay jawaab diya agar aap such sunnaa chahtay hain .........to mujhay bilkul bhi acha nahi lagay ga.Shohar sahab nay apni begum ko jawad diya ...................Baaaas Yehi hai tumhara pyaar ...............tum loog sirf aur sirf apna hi apna chahtti ho ....................actually tum saab selfish ho.Mei nay sirf tumhain Aazmaaya hai Tum iss mei bilkul CLEAN BOWLED ho gai.Phir Farmanay lagay kay hamaray AIMAA (a,s) nay Aik say ziyada shaadian nahi ki?????? Phir tum loog itni possessive minded kuon ho.(Indian Dramay kam dhekha karo)...........Ab aap hi bataye kay meri friend in batoon ka kya jawaab dey ............I know her she is very innocent.Hope to hear from you soon guys.Allah Hafiz.

M'aaqooliyyat kee roo say, agar waqe'attan doosree shaadi kaa iradeh naheen tou biwi kou iss tareh kee azmaaesh aur zehnee azziyyat mein daalnaa b'zaat-e-khud zulm hai

dosri aur teesri baat bilkul relevent nahi hay un aadmi ke sawal say.

Baat yeh hay ke us aadmi nay jo bola woh sahi hay ya nahi. aur jo aapke pehle jumle me likha hay woh aik alag baat hay, mere khayal sey me nay usko ghalat piraye me samjha.

Laiken janab baat yeh hay ke Islam is me wohi kehta hay jo us aadmi nay kaha hay. Sahi hay Islam nay kuch sharait rakhi hain.

Kia agar woh aadmi apna sawal is tarha karta ke "Agar me tum mein aur us dosri aurat me adal karta houn to kia tumko qubool hoga" to kia us aurat ke jawab me koi tabdeeli ajati? usne phir bhi wohi kehna tha.

Baat seedhi si hay, jab woh aurat sirf aur sirf us ke sath reh rahi hay, to us mard ko bhi sirf aur sirf us aurat ke sath he rehna chahiye..

Laiken agar ab sharai' lehaaz sey dekhein to yeh us aurat ki BURAI hay keh woh apne shohar ke baray me possessive hay, aur yeh shohar ki ACHAI hay (mustahab hay) ke woh dosri shadi karay.

Baat to such hay magar baat hay ruswai ki :squeez:

Charya samjahtay ho? Woh banda charya hai. Uss kee yeh harkat kisee bhee hisaab say shaistegee mein naheeen ginee jaa sakktee. Mental torture karrnay, aur biwi kay zehen mein apnee zaat kay mutaliq wahan aur shakk kay beej boney waaali bat hai.

Rahi eik say ziyadeh shaadi kee ijazat, to woh yeh hai . . .

(bismillah)

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SHAKIR: And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.

Abb agar hukm-e-Khoda kay khilaf jaana mustahab banaa diya hai maulviyoun nay tou unn kaa Allah hee hafez hai

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Ya Allah Log kahnay ko Bara Nahjul Balagha Partay hain Lakin jub koi Amal ki baat ati hai Tau Apni hi tamak Toyon main Lagay rahtay hain... Ab in say koi kiya bahas karay..... Nahaj Ul Balagha Kay fatway samnay rakho Ya Quran ka Hukum ya Aurtain Apni hi Mantiq main lagi rahain gi.... Aik majlis main Moulana Sadiq Hassan nay parha tha Kay jub Rasool Mairaj say Wapas aai tau Aurton ko daikh kar bohat Afsurda ho rahay thay. tau kisi nay pooch liya kiya hua tau Rasool nay bataya kay Jehanum main sub say ziada aurtain hi dikhin..... Baqi aap log khud tahqeeq kar lain kyun

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Ya Allah Log kahnay ko Bara Nahjul Balagha Partay hain Lakin jub koi Amal ki baat ati hai Tau Apni hi tamak Toyon main Lagay rahtay hain... Ab in say koi kiya bahas karay..... Nahaj Ul Balagha Kay fatway samnay rakho Ya Quran ka Hukum ya Aurtain Apni hi Mantiq main lagi rahain gi.... Aik majlis main Moulana Sadiq Hassan nay parha tha Kay jub Rasool Mairaj say Wapas aai tau Aurton ko daikh kar bohat Afsurda ho rahay thay. tau kisi nay pooch liya kiya hua tau Rasool nay bataya kay Jehanum main sub say ziada aurtain hi dikhin..... Baqi aap log khud tahqeeq kar lain kyun
Abb agar hukm-e-Khoda kay khilaf jaana mustahab banaa diya hai maulviyoun nay tou unn kaa Allah hee hafez hai
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(bismillah) Salam to all.Hmmmmmmmmm..........Rawshni ji tusi great oo.I really like your posts ......aur saath mei uss bewakoof(meri friend)ko bhi batati ja rahi hoon.,sub ki opinions.Array.......... ye meri baqi sab behnay kahan hain?? App bhi to kuch likhye na.

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The bottom line...

Shoher/bv nay private mein aik dialogue kiya,Bv nay forun apni sahaili ko bata diya aur sahaili nay saaray jahaan ko bata diya. :D

Privacy destroyed...

Jahan tak aurat kay apni saut(saukan) say jealous honay ka sawaal hai tou yay aurat ki nature hai aur shoher is ka gilaa kar kay apna waqt aur energy barbaad kar raha hai. shoher ka itni si baat ko issue banana bhi qatayee tor par ghalat hai.Mein aajkal kay shohron aur bvion kay aik doosray kay khilaaf jumlay-baazi ki aadat say sakht tang hoon.lagta hai kay life-partner nahi chuna balkay kisi dushman fauj say nabard-aazma hain. :P

Bibi ayesha nay khud sahih bukhari mein bibi khadija say apni jalan ka aetraf kiya hai.

Hadees # 3563 aur chapter # 58 hai.

Bibi Ayesha ka Aetraf-e-Jalan

[Ayesha narrated," I did not feel jealous of any wives of the prophet as much as i did of khadija because(although) she died before he married me,for i often heard him mentioning her,and Allah had told him to give her the good tidings that she would have a palace of Qasab(ie pipes of precious stones and pearls in paradise),and whenever he slaughtered a sheep,he would send her women-friends a good share of it."]

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(salam)

May I reply in English plz...

I wish to reply to the original post.

First of all why did the husband want to ask for another wife??

Is he not happy with his first wife?

Is the first wife not satisfying him?

Is she not capable of giving him children?

Is she bad-charactered?

Is she not listening to her husband's commands?

Is she doing anything against her husband?

What makes him want another wife?

A man can marry another wife if the first one has any of the above errors..

Otherwise, this is just his lust or you may say, his wish to have more than one wife.

Of course women have been created in such way that she has some jealousy in her naturally..otherwise all men would take advantge of her soft nature. But jealousy in this way to protect her husband is not bad..in all other matters jealousy is bad.

Yes our Aimmah (a.s.) had more than one wife..but do we really know why?

Because they wished to help those ladies who were divorcees, widows, or had any financial or family problems.

Means..Imam were supporting those kind of women whom they thought would otherwise not be able to survive on their own.

We should not compare ourselves with the Imams in such matters. I think if we really need to compare, then better think how they led their lives in the true Islamic ways, understand the concept behind their preachings and acts..not just blindly follow what they did and start arguing...

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(bismillah) Salam to all.Aap nay farmaya PRIVACY DESTROYED...........Hargiz aise koi baat nahi ............ye hum auroatoon kay maslay hain .............ye sulajhay hi rahay to ziyada acha hai na kay ulaajh jaye.............apni bohat si behnain............jin ko zindagi mei experiences ho chukay hain un ki baat bhi sunn leynay chahiye............in batoon ko apaas mei discuss karna mei bura nahi samajhti.Ho sakta hai jahan hum loog ghalat hoon ......dosaray sab logoon ki opinions say ,un kay tajarbaat say bohat kuch sikhnay ka moqah milay............Mard hazraat say meri guzarish hai .......kay iss baat ko mazaq mei mat banaye

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(bismillah) Salam to all.Aap nay farmaya PRIVACY DESTROYED...........Hargiz aise koi baat nahi

Bibi ! aurton kay ghar ki batein bahar nikalnay ki aadat ki wajah say bohat si pachedgiyan paida hoti hain.maslan yay kay aap khud declare kar chuki hain aap ki sahaili ka shoher khaasa caring hai tou agar us ki tamam tar care kay bawajood us ki aik baat ko bv bator burayee kay bayan karay gi tou shoher ka impression tou kharab hi ho ga na? silsila aap ko batanay say shruu hua aur na janay kahan khatam ho ga !

Shoher aur bv aik doosray ka libaas hain islam ki ruu say.choti choti baaton ko ignore karna azdawaji zindagi mein stablity laata hai nakay un ko issue banana !

Doosri baat yay hai kay mard ki doosri shaadi " Adl " say mashroot hai.agar woh is kay taqazay nibha sakay tou chaar shadiyan bhi kar sakta hai,laiken aksar mard is maeyaar par poora nahi utartay.aur kyunkay adl mapnay ka qazi-e-waqt kay paas koi paymana mojood nahi hai tou is liye aksar mard is option ka ghalat istemaal kartay hain.

Mard hazraat say meri guzarish hai .......kay iss baat ko mazaq mei mat banaye

Mazaq koi nahi bana raha,mein nay aapki sahaili kay aik samaji rawayye ki nishandehi ki thi.agar aapko yay topic sirf aurton hi say discuss karna hai to report option use kar kay isay sisters forum mein shift karwa lijiye ! :)

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M'aaqooliyyat kee roo say, agar waqe'attan doosree shaadi kaa iradeh naheen tou biwi kou iss tareh kee azmaaesh aur zehnee azziyyat mein daalnaa b'zaat-e-khud zulm hai

Charya samjahtay ho? Woh banda charya hai. Uss kee yeh harkat kisee bhee hisaab say shaistegee mein naheeen ginee jaa sakktee. Mental torture karrnay, aur biwi kay zehen mein apnee zaat kay mutaliq wahan aur shakk kay beej boney waaali bat hai.

Rahi eik say ziyadeh shaadi kee ijazat, to woh yeh hai . . .

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SHAKIR: And if you fear that you cannot act equitably towards orphans, then marry such women as seem good to you, two and three and four; but if you fear that you will not do justice (between them), then (marry) only one or what your right hands possess; this is more proper, that you may not deviate from the right course.

Abb agar hukm-e-Khoda kay khilaf jaana mustahab banaa diya hai maulviyoun nay tou unn kaa Allah hee hafez hai

LOL chorein, hum dairay me ghoom rahay hain :D

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^Rawshni aapne jo bhi likha such hoga, laiken baat to yeh hay ke un sahiba ke shohar ka sawal aur misal bilkul haq bajanib hay.

Aimmah nay wohi kia jo woh apne perokar sey chahte thay. Aur khair, aik say zayid shadi karna to khair mustahab hay waisey bhi (aaj ke ulama ki nazar me bhi).

I will ofcourse totally agree with the answer his wife gave (which makes all the natural, sentimental and logical sense), however, Islam says what the husband said.

Yaad hay woh hadees ke jalan aurto ki buraio me say hay kiunke is jalan ki waja say woh dosri aurat bardasht nahi kar sakti.

(salam)

Lagta hai PEER bhai ka future main 2 ka irada hai, actually CHOKA marne ka irada lagta hai :P.

The bottom line...

Shoher/bv nay private mein aik dialogue kiya,Bv nay forun apni sahaili ko bata diya aur sahaili nay saaray jahaan ko bata diya. :D

Privacy destroyed...

Aap ghalat hain. Privacy abhi bhi hai. Enhon ne kia unka naam lekar kahi hai yeh baat? Agar kisi ko pata hai keh yeh kis ke bare main baat kar rahi hain phir privacy kharab hogi, generally sawal karne se privacy kharab hone ka kia masla hai?

Agar mard etna he naik hai tou kisi divorcee aur 3 bachon ki maa' se shadi karle, unko support karne ke liye. Phir dekhta hoon. Aur bewi se es tarha poochna, as khaala already said, theek nahi hai. Yeh tareeka nahi hai es tarha ke sawaal puchne ka. Hehe. Ek baat hai. Bewi ko naraz hone ki bajae koi ukka sa jawab dekar shouhar sahab ko khamosh karna chahiye tha. @)

Wa'Salam.

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Lagta hai PEER bhai ka future main 2 ka irada hai, actually CHOKA marne ka irada lagta hai :P.

Kaheen in ki begum inhi ko Clean-bowled na kar dain ! :P

Aap ghalat hain. Privacy abhi bhi hai. Enhon ne kia unka naam lekar kahi hai yeh baat? Agar kisi ko pata hai keh yeh kis ke bare main baat kar rahi hain phir privacy kharab hogi, generally sawal karne se privacy kharab hone ka kia masla hai?

Aik martaba chand logo`n mein jhoot bolnay ka muqabla hua.har kisi nay barh charh kar hissa liya.jis shakhs nay first prize liya us ka jhoot kuch yun tha..

" 15 aurtain aik hi kamray mein bilkul khamosh bethi theen "

Kuch aaya samajh shareef mein?

Agar mard etna he naik hai tou kisi divorcee aur 3 bachon ki maa' se shadi karle, unko support karne ke liye. Phir dekhta hoon.

Chaar shadiyon ki ijazat adl say mashroot hai nakay bevah say nikah karnay say(agarchay is mein bhi koi harj nahi).

agar bevah say nikah na karay to uski naiki gunah mein kaisay badal gayee?

Aur bewi se es tarha poochna, as khaala already said, theek nahi hai.

meray khayal mein tou itni choti si baat bv ko apni sahaili say karna hi nahi chahiyay thi.meray khayal say tou shoher(jaisay kay aajkal yay beemari aam hai) apni bv ko thorra tease kar kay situation create karna chah raha tha.bv aala hazrat ki umeedon par pura utri aur fori tor par expert opinions kay liye rujuu karna shruu kar diya..isay kehtay hain choti baat ka barra tamasha !

Hehe. Ek baat hai. Bewi ko naraz hone ki bajae koi ukka sa jawab dekar shouhar sahab ko khamosh karna chahiye tha. @)

Aur agar niray jawab say baat na banay tou doyee/chimtay ya phir bailun ka intemaal bhi kiya jaaa sakta hai. :D

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Mayra khyal thaa aap ko pata ho gaa. Chalein, kisee aur say puch lun gee

jub aap ko pata chul jai tau mujhay bhi bata dijiya ga

Mujhe aise aadmiyoun se sakht nafrat hai :mad:

Agar usski biwi nay same sawaal poocha hota tho uska reaction kya hota

Agar us ki biwi ya sawal karti tau simple sa jawab tha.... Allah nay Aurat ko Sirf aik mard kay sath rahnay ki ijazat di hai. Agar tum Allah ki Khilaf warzi karna chati ho tau dozaqi honay kay liya tiyar ho jao ya dosra tareeqa hai kisi aur mard say shadi karnay ka kay pahlay mard say talaq lay lo

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Salam, sorry to interrupt here..i was just trying to see how much urdu I can undertand.

am i translating this right?

Mera Aik Sawal Hai Kay..: I have one question that..

Agar us ki biwi ya sawal karti tau simple sa jawab tha: if you ask a question the answer is simple ??

is that right? :unsure:

could you please let me know my mistakes. I love urdu and am trying to learn it.

peace, wassalam :)

ps. if people who don't speak urdu aren't welcome here just let me know. ^_^

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chahay koi yaqeen karay ya nahi main un khatoon ki jaga hoti toa ijazat day dayti aur kehti k agar aap ki zindagi main koi aur aey toa mujhay hargiz acha na lgnay k bawujood aap ko azaadee say usay apnanay doon gi kyun k for me being tolerated is more hurting than being left.

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chahay koi yaqeen karay ya nahi main un khatoon ki jaga hoti toa ijazat day dayti aur kehti k agar aap ki zindagi main koi aur aey toa mujhay hargiz acha na lgnay k bawujood aap ko azaadee say usay apnanay doon gi kyun k for me being tolerated is more hurting than being left.

Kaneez

Zindagee mein issues itnay saaday naheen hotay.

Ethically, agar uss mard kaa fil haqiqat doosree shaadi karrnay kaa iradeh naheen tha tou yeh biwi kou bila wajwh zehni aziyat mein mubtila karrnay waali baat hai.

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chahay koi yaqeen karay ya nahi main un khatoon ki jaga hoti toa ijazat day dayti aur kehti k agar aap ki zindagi main koi aur aey toa mujhay hargiz acha na lgnay k bawujood aap ko azaadee say usay apnanay doon gi kyun k for me being tolerated is more hurting than being left.

Tu nay kasam me-kashi ki khayee hay ghalib

Teri kasam ka kuch e'tabaaar nahen hay

:D

Waisay mazaak say hat ker, main kahun ga keh is sabr, dur andeshi, quwat e Imaani, aur be los faislay say main kaafi mutaasir huwa hun. Nick name janab nay apna sahi rakha hay. Jachta hay. Allah keray kal ko in values ki kadr kernay wala husband milay. Bolo Ameeen. Zore say bolo Sum-Ameeen.

(salam)

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(bismillah) Salam to all respected members.Mei sawal karna chahti hoon (khaas kar shaadi shuda khawateen say) ............kuch din pehlay aik mehfil mei shareeq honay ka moqa mila wahan meri aik bohat purani friend say mulaqaat hui ............woh bata rahi thi kay husband bohat achay hain .........mera aur bachoon ka bohat khayaal rakhtay hain .......lekin aik din woh mujh say kehnay lagay .............kay agar meri zindgi mei koi aur aurat aa jaye to tumhara reaction kya ho ga???(.Although he is very nice person as far as i know).Meri nay friend nay jawaab diya agar aap such sunnaa chahtay hain .........to mujhay bilkul bhi acha nahi lagay ga.Shohar sahab nay apni begum ko jawad diya ...................Baaaas Yehi hai tumhara pyaar...............tum loog sirf aur sirf apna hi apna chahtti ho ....................actually tum saab selfish ho.Mei nay sirf tumhain Aazmaaya hai Tum iss mei bilkul CLEAN BOWLED ho gai.Phir Farmanay lagay kay hamaray AIMAA (a,s) nay Aik say ziyada shaadian nahi ki??????Phir tum loog itni possessive minded kuon ho.(Indian Dramay kam dhekha karo)...........Ab aap hi bataye kay meri friend in batoon ka kya jawaab dey ............I know her she is very innocent.Hope to hear from you soon guys.Allah Hafiz.

4 shadion ka hukm nahin hai, 4 shadion takk ki gunjaesh hey, 'adl ki shart ke sath. Agar 'adl nahin karr sakkta to 4 kya 2 b bhi nahin karr sakkta.

Akhlaqan, jab tak koi mard yeh faisla na kar chuka ho keh uss ne dusri shadi karni hi hai, usay apni biwi sey yeh sawal nahin karna chahiye

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Yahan Aik sawal paida hota hai... Adl ka maqsad kiya hai? Agar aik Biwi nay us shakhs ka Demagh kharab kar rakha hai hai dusri biwi us ko sukoon pohnchati hai tau kis kay sath kaisa adl hoga?

Sawal kar kay at least us insan ko apni biwi ki feelings ka pata tau chala. Ab woh dosri shadi karnay say pahlay kai baar sochay ga zaroor doosri shadi kay consequences.

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Yahan Aik sawal paida hota hai... Adl ka maqsad kiya hai? Agar aik Biwi nay us shakhs ka Demagh kharab kar rakha hai hai dusri biwi us ko sukoon pohnchati hai tau kis kay sath kaisa adl hoga?

Sawal kar kay at least us insan ko apni biwi ki feelings ka pata tau chala. Ab woh dosri shadi karnay say pahlay kai baar sochay ga zaroor doosri shadi kay consequences.

Shariat mein aisa kuch nahin keh mard zauja say puchay ya ijazat kay.

Shariat ney sirf ye shart rakhi hai keh agar eik sey ziyada azwaaj hein to un mein 'adl karey.

'Adl ki taareef mehal-e-istimal sey badal jaati hai. Jabb humm kehtay hein Baari T'aala 'Adl-e-'Ayn hai to matlab kuch aur hota hai, jabb humm yeh kehtay hein keh haalim reaaya sey 'adl karey tou baat aur hoti hai.

Issee tareh biwiyoun kay darmyaan 'adl ki taareef aur hai.

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Logon ney yahaan kafi khyaalaat kaa izhar kiya hai. Apni apni jgha shayd sab hi durust houn. Aurat honay kay natey, aur wakil hoey kay baes mein yeh kahungi keh iss trah key swal aisey boards peh bey m'aani ho jatey hain.

Yeh masael theoretical nahin hain, practical hain aur inn kou nimtaanay ka maydan zindagee hai,

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Shariat mein aisa kuch nahin keh mard zauja say puchay ya ijazat kay.

Shariat ney sirf ye shart rakhi hai keh agar eik sey ziyada azwaaj hein to un mein 'adl karey.

'Adl ki taareef mehal-e-istimal sey badal jaati hai. Jabb humm kehtay hein Baari T'aala 'Adl-e-'Ayn hai to matlab kuch aur hota hai, jabb humm yeh kehtay hein keh haalim reaaya sey 'adl karey tou baat aur hoti hai.

Issee tareh biwiyoun kay darmyaan 'adl ki taareef aur hai.

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Logon ney yahaan kafi khyaalaat kaa izhar kiya hai. Apni apni jgha shayd sab hi durust houn. Aurat honay kay natey, aur wakil hoey kay baes mein yeh kahungi keh iss trah key swal aisey boards peh bey m'aani ho jatey hain.

Yeh masael theoretical nahin hain, practical hain aur inn kou nimtaanay ka maydan zindagee hai,

Saheeh kehtee hou . . . aur iss say Topic bhee ghatarbood ho gyaa

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