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Is it prohibited/haram to attend a wedding of a non-muslim friend during the first ten days of moharram or even on ashura?
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Me and my finance wants to do the nikah but our parents wants to delay it to next year. We both are 24. We boht are scared of falling in any kind of sin, even though we live in diffrent countries (we talk on videocall). So we would like to the nikah as soon as possible. But our parents are unwilling to understand this and they aren't scared of us falling in any sin. They don't give much attention to this, even though they know we contact each other through video calls. So Is it permissible for us to do the nikah secretly now and then do it again next year infront of our parents when we have the wedding? (Our wedding is planned for next year) I'm a follower of Ayatollah Syed Ali Sistani.
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Aslamun Alaiykum brothers and sisters I am wondering what is happening to the shias these days, especially in India. The weddings are full of haram. All rules are being relaxed. No one caring about hijab, music playing, extravagance. Our weddings are also full of hindu inspired customs (like shoe stealing etc. ). On top of this the parents force us to attend such gatherings. And if you try to protest you are dragged into fruitless arguments. Concept of na mehram has dissappeared. Mixed interactions in name of 'family'. High expenditures are a norm. The only Islamic thing left about weddings is the haditn e kisa, nikah and a few mankabat. If you try to follow rules , you are seen as extremist 'mullah' . WLot of food is being wasted while there are so many starving Muslims in the world. I don't know where we are going. At this rate we would end up becoming like christians and jews . I am feeling very guilty of being involved in such sinful activities. Any thoughts about this?
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Why do people think it’s okay to 1- have a mixed wedding 2- have women wearing makeup in front of non mahrams Is there a Hadith somewhere that says we can commit haram on the day of our weddings? If someone has a reference please share it with me, because I’m not sure how people can call themselves Muslims and still blatantly violate Allah’s command
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Salaam everyone, I was actually wondering about a Shi'a girls stance on marriage. I mean, I was wondering if say a Shi'a girl says her consent to the marriage 3 times to the niqah, but her niyyah isn't for it, meaning she doesn't actually want to get married to this person, does the marriage still count? If she says yes outwardly, but no niyyah inside to say yes, and doesn't want to, but is being forced to say yes? Especially in the case that the girl does not plan to have any "relations" with this person after the forced marriage anyway. Btw, for that, say if the marriage is valid, is it necessary for the girl to do acts of marriage with this person? Or if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to? I would appreciate any rulings or any information that could be found on this. Jazakallah & FiAmanAllah
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Salam. I’m being forced to have a haram walima. The walima will not be partitioned or segregated and this is a obviously a big issue. I’m the groom and I’m feeling trapped. On the one hand, the right thing to do is not attend but on the other hand I will be cutting off my parents and obviously any family we’ve invited. My wife is on my side obviously but she has decided to be quiet now as she does not want anymore issues. I got into a fight with my parents over this and here I am on the night of qadr feeling like none of my amaal mean anything because I’m upset with them. I’m trying very hard to forgive them but how can I when I’m being forced into a haram situation. It would be one thing if they did something in the past but this is something they’re planning to do. The whole idea of segregating by gender is so “strange” to them since all Pakistani weddings are usually mixed. It’s also about saving face for all the guests. I feel I can’t do anything. How do I cope? Will I be liable on the day of judgment for being part of this? Do I continue to fight this or shut up so my family can have “peace”? I wish I had access to a maulana for this issue but I have to resort to this forum.- 2 replies
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Using Muslim (Shia) matrimonial website
ArifHussainRajabali posted a topic in Social/Family/Personal
(Bismillah) Salaam Alaykum I am in a dilemma with using online matrimonial website and I am not sure what to do. Recently, I was getting to know someone for marriage. I saw her picture but she hadn't had seen mine yet. The conversation went really well and we were hitting it off. After about an hour or two of talking, I showed her my picture and she suddenly changes her mind and says essentially (paraphrasing) that I am an amazing person but attraction is important for her too and she wasn't feeling that and just like that, she ended it. Earlier in the conversation she was really impressed and "mind blown" with how I converted to Islam, asking me about my ziyarat experience, hawsa and so on. But it seems like none that about me mattered anymore because of the attraction. Its happened before too. One girl after seeing my full length picture declined (I am not fat or obese, I am a regular at gym and sports), another had similar issues. I am starting to draw the conclusion that it really does not matter how "amazing" and "mind blowing" someone is, its means zilch, if you don't like their face? I guess my questions are: 1) How much importance should attraction hold? 2) From now onwards, should I just get a picture swap done straight away to avoid a repeat? Having said all this, I do agree that there can be a nervousness about speaking to someone who hasn't shown you their picture yet (for whatever reason) and you're slightly worried that what if you just don't feel any chemistry when you do see their picture and how do you break that too them. So from one perspective, I am glad these girls were just honest. As you can see, I am confused. What's the moral/right way of going about all this? -
Salam Alakum Brothers and sisters while living in the West do you feel that there is a requirement of Halal Catering solution for majalis, wedding parties, Milad and other get togethers. I and my friends are working on this solution and willing to find your answers and your opinions? Halal Catering solution will enable a user to choose the best deal for catering meals for any big occasion. Please share your opinion.
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wronged WATCH SHARE- Muslim couple denied wedding venue!
shouzan posted a topic in Social/Family/Personal
Watch this share it is important that all muslims have their basic human rights to practice their religion. http://ctv.news/IAkDkzTN.S. woman claims potential wedding venue violated her religious freedoms A Dartmouth woman claims a local hotel is infringing on her freedom of religion by not offering appropriate food for her wedding reception. -
I am a shia girl and I have been very close to a sunni man for about 4 years now. We share an amazing bond together. He’s everything I have ever wanted in a husband. But I’m an Indian and he’s a pakistani and also he’s sunni and I’m shia which is the biggest issue here when it comes to our marriage. His family has agreed for this proposal and in my family everybody agrees but we are too afraid to inform my father as he disaproves marriages of such kind. If anyone can please help me out to give me a dua that can melt My father’s heart for this proposal. I’ll be very thankful to you and will always remember you in prayers. thank you
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Why is my link to YouTube and website are dead?? can anyone help??
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So as many of you are aware, it is unheard of today to have a wedding without music and dancing even with relatively conservative muslim families, so how does the groom play around this when both his 'conservative' family and his fiancee's 'liberal' family strongly want a wedding (segregated) with music & dance? Is there any form of permissibility?
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سلامٌ عليكم It has been ages since I posted or took part in any discussion here. This particular subject has been discussed before here but thought someone may have something to add or suggest. One of my friend, mother of two kindergarten children filed divorce last year under the US law but is still under the marriage contract in accordance with Islam and we all know the reason - he won't divorce her!! Married for 10 years, working mother with a major portion of share in income from her (almost 100%) unfortunately found her husband indulged in a haram and an inappropriate act. Concerned for her own safety & dignity and of her daughter's she immediately requested her husband to leave the house. As was expected he did not return, did not for months ask for the well-being of their children and finally she filed divorce. He does not have a steady income so couldn't pay towards the childcare and was even sent letters by child support agency. My friend approached scholars and their offices for help so that she can get Khula but seems like she is left with no choice but to wait like so many other women who go through the same situation. Scholors are unable to help since the man and his family are in no mood to respond to the calls or even when someone tries to talk to them in person. They are not willing to let her go while supporting their son/brother's actions. My questions are; 1. Why so difficult for women and easy for men? I have gone through topics here and also the rulings but someone asking the same question after 5 years tells me something is either wrong or someone is not doing his job properly while sitting in the office of various Maraji across the countries. 2. Do you know any scholar in Dallas or in Houstan who actually wants to help women have their right given to them of living a good life with their children? Thank you all in advance! Ma salama
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Asalamu Alaikum. I will be getting married in a few months and I had a few questions regarding weddings. The wedding will be segregated and in a hall. 1. Is dancing completely haraam? are men not allowed to dance just among the men? Does this depend on the type of music? I would like to play some background music if dancing is completely forbidden. 2. I find the type of music that is halal or haram very confusing in the fatwas. Things like " As for the music, it would be allowed, if it is not suitable for entertainment and amusement gatherings". What does that mean exactly? So is instrumental music haraam? What about songs that have a good meaning?, e.g. sami yusuf, maher zain or similiar iranian, afghan songs. The main help I need is a clear interpretation of some of the fatwas, I've always found them a bit confusing when deciding what is exactly halal or haram music. Please note I am only interested in what would be deemed acceptable by the scholars, so let's stick to this point :). I do taqlid of Khamenei but it would be useful to know the opinion of other marja too, not all my family members do taqlid of him.
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@GreyMatter Salam Alaikum, Aight guys, real talk, get in here and advise please. I want to see logic in wedding expenses. Now every single thing in my life that I do, I always research lots before hand and commit to it when I see rationale and logic behind it. And for the love of God, I can't justify wedding costs. I am Pakistani if its relevant and my future to be in-laws are kinda elite and would like a good wedding. Good wedding is pretty $$$. Wedding is where I live here in Canada. Now profile time, when it comes to personal finance, I am responsible. I always pay my bills on time, I never incur interest on credit cards at all, and (try to) max my my RSP (retirement fund) and TFSA (tax-free planning) in investments. I work for financial markets/investments for a big bank, so I know all about the financial markets, trends and all the stock stuff. (I have asked all investment questions in personal meetings with Maulanas, so lets not diverge on the legality of it here) So I know finance. Now I spend a lot of money on leisure, sporting events, food, limited edition clothes, hype celebrity sneakers, I like fashion for some crazy reason and ship limited editions from all over the world - now I do save decent amounts. So I do spend on leisure, my leisure! Kinda living the good life within my financial limits, but living MY life, not for anyone. Also the millennial question, we are getting priced out from owning property in a major metropolitan city, student debts, times are hard compared to those our under 30 age in 70s, 80s, mid-90s .. etc, economically speaking. So while I put this out here, I can't justify spending on weddings. What's an event? $15-20k? or more? Like c'mon man, I cannot feed well-to-do family friends/cousins, do decor on the hall, give gifts to family and stuff when I am a relatively a new graduate in a decent working job. Mashallah my work and investments are doing decent, but I can't upfront all this money on a wedding, it doesn't benefit me, it benefits guests who I just meet once a year tops. Who cares about them? I rather buy a fun-driving car for that money, or down-payment some condo (still a stretch) for my long-term benefit than spend 15-20k on ONE NIGHT! Q1) How much was your wedding out of your or your parents pocket? What is considered or below-averge a normal wedding? Please tell me what the costs are? Q2) People will talk, who cares, not me, I would rather have a decent bank account than to spend that no guests, as you know, today's economical climate doesn't justify spending 20k for anyone under 30 unless someone's parents are ballers. So tell me, is my rationale correct, what should i do? Any advice is good advice. -
Salam guys, According to Sayyed Al Sistani, what kind of Music is allowed to be used in a wedding, Is it allowed if it was kind of Music-y type of thing, i know some Maraje3 don't allow it. Like, we want to turn this on in a wedding. Skip the first video to 0:53 & start listening to from 0:53 you're gonna get the idea how it sounds like, what do you guys think? & that one as well, start listening to it from 0:58 just so you can get a good idea, & you don't have to listen to all of it, but until you get a full idea how it really sounds like, & give me your thoughts, & will Sayyed Sistani allow this, Music- type of thing? if you know anything, or read about it, link me to it please. Also, obviously it's a wedding, so we're all gonna be dressing up & everything, & there's gonna be people taking pictures & filming there, & we don't know everyone, & we aren't gonna cover up, wear jeans & long sleeves etc.., it's a wedding so, so wear something like dresses, make up etc.. so what's the ruling? Does Sayyed Sistani have ruling for that.. We're gonna be in other people's phones we might be in it when they film/take pictures, & we don't know them or trust them, & what if non muhram from their side sees the pictures, or accidentally goes in someones hands & everything will just be exposed, there's chances these could happen, what will we have to do then? Am i just gonna have to walk around looking at everyone just in case they take pictures or start filming & i might be in it, so i'm gonna have to keep making a 360 U-turn & walk away everytime i see someone filming/taking pics, that's gonna be pretty hard & annoying -_-
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Salwan al-Taee, a young army conscript from the bomb disposal unit died just days before his wedding. His family and friends decided to sing wedding songs at his funeral. Extremely heartbreaking, I couldn't go past when his mom brings a white wedding shirt. RIP P. S. Also for the squeamish ones, the videos contains dancing music... https://facebook.com/saif.alkhayat.9/posts/10152750674438716 From the tittle of the video by his best friend: O bridegroom we just had your wedding, but you haven't shown up. Brother, didn't we agree to dance together at your wedding? Where are you, come back my brother...
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(salam) So a big wedding of a cousin is headed my way in our house in the week between 15th Jan. and 21st Jan. Every. Single. Day. I am being "reminded" by all my aunts, uncles and cousins that I must dance on this wedding. How can I politely refuse them without lying and without appearing self-righteous??????? Seriously guys... I need some suggestions here because I'm literally being cornered! I AIN'T GONNA DANCE IN A STUPID DESI-STYLE LUCRATIVE WEDDING. NO. HELL NO. (sorry, this is the only place I can vent...)
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Salam As you know I am trying to find someone, Inshallah will find someone soon, I have a search party looking out for me :D I want to know what you sisters/brothers think about delaying weddings. I am a student and so I am unable to give a flashy wedding, so I was thinking of asking the girl to do the Nikah and have the wedding later if she wants a flashy wedding I can't yet afford. If not a flashy wedding then a cheap one I can do. Would it be a good idea to ask this? I can imagine a few ways in which this might go wrong.
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Since all music which is played during weddings are haram. How do you have a wedding without doing haram. People will think you are crazy if you hold a silent wedding with no music. I am against music, I would prefer a quite wedding but this will never happen. So what can you play which isn't haram?
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Hello everyone, I'm new here and hope someone would be kind enough to help me as I was recommended this is the place to come. I am getting married and wish to have a poem by Rumi as part of the ceremony. I want it read in both English and Farsi as my fiancé is from Iranian background and I thought it would be really nice to have both the original script and the translation (so everyone else who isn't Farsi speaking understands). I want the poem 'The most alive moment'. I can't find it anywhere is Farsi and I really want the original not simply a Google translate that I can easily do myself. I'd be so grateful for any help. If my search for this particular poem is futile, do any of you have any other suggestions for poems by Persian poets that are suitable for a wedding or about love? Thank you. The poem is below. The most living moment comes when those who love each other meet each other’s eyes and in what flows between them then. To see your face in a crowd of others, or alone on a frightening street, I weep for that. Our tears improve the earth. The time you scolded me, your gratitude, your laughing, always your qualities increase the soul. Seeing you is a wine that does not muddle or numb. We sit inside the cypress shadow where amazment and clear thought twine its growth into it. - Rumi
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Can someone please help me interpret this dream? Around 8:00 this morning (right before I woke up) I had a dream that I was at my Islamic Center and my sister was getting married there (at night). The center looked like a party hall. I stepped outside of the center into the dark night and I saw a white man lying on the ground. I ignored him and talked to an acquaintance of mine who told me the man on the ground was running a marathon but needed help taping his hand (I work in a sports medicine facility so I tape people's hands all the time). I looked to the ground and the tape I needed for his hand magically appeared. I picked up the tapes and ran towards him. I tapped him a few times telling him I could help him when he suddenly got up and began chasing me with a knife. I ran away from him while he chased me, and thought about where I should run. I ran to the highway so cars could help me but then I ran back to the center. As soon as I got to the door of the center, the man stabbed me in the back repeatedly and I died. Immediately after I died the center looked like it usually did and I was sitting in a court with a man at a table with a few molanas with white turbans sitting behind him. I was being judged. After that moment I woke up from my dream and saw it was about 8:30 AM. Can someone please help me interpret this? Thank you. Also, dream interpretation links are appreciated.
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Are Tungsten rings for men halal or haram? Jazakallah Khairan for your answers! (wasalam)
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Salam Alaykom brothers and sisters! I´m a guy who is really looking forward tp the day I´m getting married. I dont have anybody right now, and have no interests in anybody either...I think...not really sure... :S But I sometimes think about how me and my future wife could arrange a wedding that is not haram in any way but still not boring. What is allowed and not allowed? Wassalam!
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