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Assalamualaikum. Ya Ali (عليه السلام) Madad. I hope this message finds you well. I would like to share a deeply personal experience that I have undergone, seeking clarity and guidance from an Islamic perspective. About five years ago, I had the pleasure of meeting a remarkable girl online. She is a zakira, devoted to reciting majalis throughout the year. We developed a strong connection over time, nurturing our relationship despite the physical distance between us. We've met sometimes tho. Unfortunately, our journey together took an unexpected turn when faced with a challenging situation. Before delving into this, allow me to provide some context. I have an elder sister who remains unmarried. The girl I was in love with and I aspired to marry one another. However, I held the belief that my sister's marriage should take precedence, delaying our own plans until she found a suitable partner. Despite our sincere intentions, we struggled to find a suitable match for my sister, leading to a prolonged wait. As time went on, the girl I cared for started receiving marriage proposals from other suitors. She expressed her concern to me, emphasizing the urgency of addressing our own relationship's future. She insisted that I approach my family about our desire to marry, or she would have no choice but to consider other proposals. Taking her words to heart, I initiated a conversation with my mother about our intentions. It is important to note that my father had passed away a few years prior, leaving me with the responsibility of communicating our intentions to my mother alone. To my dismay, my mother's initial response was one of rejection and unwarranted criticism against the girl's character. This reaction deeply pained me. This was the first instance I had witnessed such behavior from my mother, as she had always been kind and understanding. I found it difficult to reconcile the fact that the person I held in high regard could harbor such prejudice against someone I deeply loved. I embarked on a mission to convince my mother, invoking the significance of compassion and fairness emphasized in Islamic teachings. I reminded her that hasty judgments and character defamation were strictly prohibited, especially without sufficient knowledge about the person in question. I beseeched my mother to consider the qualities of the girl I loved, and to view our relationship with an open heart. I implored her to evaluate the situation fairly, placing trust in the values she had instilled in me over the years. The ensuing weeks were challenging as I balanced my deep affection for the girl I loved and my commitment to respect and honor my mother's wishes. Eventually, the emotional strain led to a point where my mother urged me to leave the house, coupled with the threat of being disinherited. In that moment of despair, I confided in my sister, who assured me that she would manage the situation and find a solution. Trusting her, I shared the girl's contact details with my sister, who took the initiative to speak with her father. Tragically, my sister's actions were contrary to what I had hoped for. She approached the girl's father and persuaded him to distance his daughter from me. This revelation shattered me completely, leaving me in a state of emotional turmoil. I felt utterly isolated, with thoughts of suicide clouding my mind as I believed I had lost everything dear to me. In the aftermath of these events, I found myself grappling with overwhelming emotions and a deep sense of loss. The girl I had envisioned a future with was now united with another, my relationship with my mother and sister had suffered irreparable damage, and the trust I once held for my loved ones was shattered. For the past two years, I have tried to mend the broken ties with my mother and sister. While some semblance of normalcy has returned to our interactions, it is undeniable that the dynamics have forever changed. Their actions have left scars that continue to affect our relationship, leaving me feeling conflicted about the love and respect I once held for them. Their insistence that I seek forgiveness for a transgression I fail to comprehend only deepens my internal struggle. As I reflect on my journey, one question remains at the forefront of my mind: What guidance does Islam provide for individuals facing such intricate and emotionally charged situations? I yearn for clarity on how to navigate this turmoil in a way that aligns with my faith. My earnest aspiration is to eventually establish financial stability, enabling me to make the difficult choice of parting ways with my family and seeking a life of my own. I am genuinely appreciative of any insights or wisdom you might be able to offer, grounded in Islamic teachings and values. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for considering my plea for guidance.

Umm Salama This article is about the Prophet Muhammad's (s) wife. For other people named Umm Salama, see Umm Salama (disambiguation). Umm Salama Wife of the Prophet (s) Al-Baqi' cemetery Full Name :Hind bt. Abu Umayya b. Mughira al-Makhzumi Hind bt. Abu Umayya b. Mughira al-Makhzumi Kunya Umm Salama Epithet Umm al-Mu'minin Religious Affiliation Islam Well-known Relatives Prophet Muhammad (s)(spouse) Place of Birth Mecca Places of Residence Mecca, Medina Death/Martyrdom 62/681-682 Burial Place Baqi' cemetery Era Early Islam Activities Migration to Abyssinia and Medina, Participation in battles of Khaybar, Khandaq, Hunaynand ..., Supporting Imam Ali (a)in the Battle of Jamal, and ... Wives of the Prophet (s) Name Khadija Sawda Aisha Hafsa Zaynab (bt. Khuzayma) Umm Salama Zaynab (bt. Jahsh) Juwayriyya Umm Habiba Mariya Safiyya Maymuna Date of Marriage (27 BH/595) (before Hijra/before 622) (1,2, or 4/622, 623, or 625) (3/624) (3/624) (4/625) (5/626) (5 or 6/626 or 627) (6 or 7/627 or 628) (7/628) (7/628) (7/628) v t e Ḥind bt. ʾAbū ʾUmayya (Arabic: هند بنت أبو أمیة), known as Umm Salama (Arabic: أُمّ سَلَمه), was a wife of the Prophet (s) and one of the persons who were called Umm al-Mu'minin. She immigrated to Abyssinia together with Muslims and was the first person who immigrated to Medina. She loved Imam al-Husayn (a) very much and after his martyrdom, mourned for him. She accepted Islam in the first years of the Bi'tha and immigrated to Abyssinia with a group of Muslims led by Ja'far b. Abi Talib following the order of the Prophet (s). In 4/625, after her husband died, she married the Prophet (s). Most historians have mentioned that she passed away after the Event of 'Ashura. Relation with the Ahl al-Bayt (a) Umm Salama always tried to be with the Ahl al-Bayt (a). According to reports, after the Prophet (s) passed away, Umm Salama was one of the defenders of the Ahl al-Bayt (a), so that she defended Lady Fatima (a) against Abu Bakr regarding the Prophet's (s) inheritance for Lady Fatima (a) and that year she was deprived of it. Trustworthiness When Imam al-Husayn (a) went out of Medina towards Mecca, he (a) trusted the Trusts of Imamate to Umm Salama. After Imam al-Sajjad (a) returned from Karbala, Umm Salama gave Imam Ali's (a) books of knowledge, Signs and possessions of Imams (a) trusted to her to Imam al-Sajjad (a) and this is a good proof of her trustworthiness of Umm Salama before Imams (a). Musnad of Umm Salama The cause of revelation of the Verse of Taṭhir Hadith al-Kisa' The Prophet's (s) hadith regarding the events of Karbala and the martyrdom of Imam al-Husayn (a) http://en.wikishia.net/view/Umm_Salama