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Recently Person A offered to take the dua of Person B on their Umrah. Person B hesitated due to some differing views. For example: Person A: -Emphasis on mercy, forgiveness and charity. -Questionable actions/lack of actions in job role. -Questionable integrity regarding empathy in major life changes; using sensitive information to make "joking" remarks that are hurtful. Person B: -Stubborn, good natured struggling to maintain work/life balance. -Emphasis on work ethic, sacrificing personal desires to secure a better future. -Expectations and standards for self projected onto others (too high). Of note that this takes place in the Way West. Person B makes prayers and believes that this dua is a bit more sacred due to its being recited at the sacred site, as they believe the intentions of Person B to be pure, despite all else. The dua is informally written in a poetic verse with the penultimate and final words altering in placement and order for the emphasis of meaning. The dua was enclosed in a blank sealed envelope. When Person B hands the envelope over to Person A, they state "Please do not open it or read it until you arrive at your destination." Person A laughed and began to tear the corner of the envelope and opened it. Person A read it silently right in front of Person B. Person A said nothing more to Person B nor asked questions. It is my suspicion that Person A: -did not understand dua of Person B -will show the dua of Person B to others. What can be understood by the interaction of these two individuals, when something that is universally understood to be sacred is responded to in this manner? Do you think there is a chance that Person A does not comprehend the dua? Feel free to ask any supporting questions regarding the observation of the two subjects in this scenario. Many Thanks In Adv.

As-salamunalaikum, 1. How does a person do tawakkul? 2. How does your dua work with tawakkul? Like when you want to have something or someone, you ask Allah for it. But how does tawakkul come into play here? Do I trust in Allah that I'll get what I asked for, or do I completely leave the matter in his hands trusting his whole plan? Wa-assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah

Assalamu 3aleykom I hope someone can give me advice on what to do This is my situation: Ive been married for almost 2,5yrs and have a 1yr old son. A few months ago, just days before our 2nd wedding anniversary I looked through my husbands phone when he was asleep as I saw something strange during the day. That is when I found out he had a secret fb account and was talking to a married woman with a child, there were some inappropriate parts where he would ask for nude pictures and flirt with her, she would call him pet names and flirt back but mostly they were sharing pics of the kids and asking how things were. I felt totally betrayed and cheated on and I confronted him the next morning in the car. He apologized, got angry at himself and smashed his phone on the driving stick. I had to calm him down so he wouldnt make an accident and I let it go at that moment. Afterwards we talked about it but I had to drag every bit of information out of him. In his eyes it was: I did something wrong, I said I was sorry and won’t do it again and now the conversation is over. Over the next couple of days I went all fbi on him and found out about him adding women to his fb account (he has his friends on private so id never saw who his friends were). I deleted his secret fb account and blocked and deleted that woman on all social media and changed his passwords. From then on til now Ive tried to move on but I find myself still not trusting him and check his accounts regularly on which I don’t find anything special. I do not have access to his phone now which drives me crazy as I do not know if he has any new accounts or not. Ever since this happened I can’t get passed the idea that he is not attracted to me, and that he does not love me as he claims he does, I feel used as I did and do everything for him (from paying bills, getting his green card, wash his clothes, make food,...) And when I look at old pictures, I feel like every picture we are on together is a lie, it also deeply hurt me that he shared our son with that woman, which is what probably hurt me the most since its so personal and means that it was more than just a physical thing. I want advice on how to move on from this. I have no one I can talk to about this, since I do not want to involve our families or mosque. And also because I am pregnant with my second child. My pregnancy should be a happy period, but all I can think about is how hurt I am and I feel myself slipping away in depression and cry almost everyday My husband does not know I feel like this right now as I try to hide it from him because he gets angry whenever I bring up what he did (as for him it is a thing in the past and we moved on). My parents are leaving on holiday next week and I’m thinking of sleeping at their house for a week to take a break. But I do not want to mess up my marriage, I want to work through this and have my children being raised by 2parents In sha Allah someone can give me some good advice and thank you for reading my story choukran

Salam aleykum my brothers and sisters in religion and my equals in humanity, What is everyone's most trusted news source? Who do you trust to give you a non bias account of current events and politics happening around the globe?

(Quote from The Orbital Perspective, by Ron Garan.) It's common sense, but sometimes common sense benefits from elucidation. In any relationship, friendship, marriage, business partnership, whatever, success requires understanding and commitment from both sides. Only through commitment and striving to understand can mutual trust develop. When there is mutual trust, hardship strengthens rather than weakens the bond.

(salam) InshAllah you benefit.

Salaams Brothers and Sisters, My question relates to istekhara for marriage Is it permissible for a man to do an istekhara for marrying a woman without informing her or asking her? I ask this because I have read that going against an istekhara is not allowed, so if the istekhara comes good, isn't it obligatory on BOTH of them to get married? Also, I hear istekhara can change with time. Is this true? Is it even allowed to do istekhara anymore because nowadays it's being used as a reason for not making a big decision and just relying on istekhara? When should istekhara for marriage be done? Both the people think they are good and decent people, yet if someone is not 100% sure, should they resort to istekhara? And if istekhara comes bad, can one still consider marriage with the same person after a certain amount of time, when circumstances have changed? Lastly, is our partner destined for us, or is there any way that we can make dua to Allah for Him to grant us the person we wish to marry but can't at the moment? Duas can change destiny. Allah accepts all duas that are legitimate. Isn't dua for marrying a specific person a legitimate desire? Thanks a lot in advance for your responses.

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