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Hello I am a Shia male Muslim and I have recently been talking to a Sunni female Muslim in the hopes of getting married. We have a strong connection and really like each other. We do not care about the different sects that we are in, instead we are happy that we are both Muslim and follow the 5 pillars. We talked about the differences and came to an understanding of how we will approach them. I told my parents about her and that she is Sunni so they wanted a Mualana to do an istikhara. I am not that familiar with istkhara, but I allowed my mom to proceed to make her happy. I said okay and it came out negative 4 times. I told my parents I would like to keep talking to her and this got them really upset not because she is Sunni, but because of the outcome from the istikhara. My mother has been sad and crying a lot, because she is afraid something bad would happen. I really like this girl and I'm really happy when I am with her, however I do not want to make my parents upset or not take the istikhara seriously. I'm just conflicted in where I found a good practicing Muslim girl that I see as a partner, but now I can’t be with her because of the istikhara. In my heart I feel that she is right for me and we would have a good future. Should I follow the istikhara and stop upsetting my mom? Am I being selfish? I don't want her to feel more stress, anxiety, and sadness if I decided to be with the girl. I care about my parents feelings and also the girl I want to be with. What should I do? End it or keep talking to her? I just don' want to hurt my parents or the girl.

Salam all :) I need some help. I am a sunni girl who is with a shia boy. I have learnt so much about Shiism, and believe that many of the teachings are the correct way. We both want to get married, his family has no problems but I am afraid mine will due to culture clash and now the differences of our sects. What am I to do? He has good deen and character and I believe is leading me to the straight path of the deen, if my parents say no does this not fall under un-islamic grounds? I do not want to disobey my parents but I am very happy with this person. I've heard many people say your marriage is invalid without your fathers consent etc? Thank you!

Salam brother and sisters, i was a sunni muslim like 2 years ago, before my marriage, married to sunni, and converted to Shia Islam after my marriage. and when i announced my shia faith to my family, my wife, my relationship with my wife not going so well. as my wife acts like a typical sunni/bakri, she laughs at me always, laughs at my faith, laugh at my belief. we fight so much on this shia/sunni issue. and looks like, our future is not heading anywhere. and i dont know what to do. i have a daughter. shez 1 year old. and i dont feel like divorcing my wife cuz if i divorce her, it will ruin my daughter's life, i think it will have a very bad effect on my daughter. and i dont know what to do now, i need advice. please reply ASAP Note: only Shia Muslims with good knowledge should reply in this thread. No Sunni Muslims please... and sorry for my bad english, english is not my first language..