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Salam alaikum, inshaAllah all are well. So from an Islamic point of view, bibi Fatima sa did housework and Imam Ali as and bibi Fizzah helped her. Nowadays, men from different cultures have said "women belong in the kitchen"! This is one of things I wrote in relation to this absurd belief. I'm neither a feminist nor pro men. I am in the middle. It is NOT compulsory for a women to slave away doing all the housework, being stuck in the kitchen all day and being expected to look after all the children. Yes if a man works its understandable she should help too. But a woman deserves freedom, love and equal share in the housework! she can work if she likes and its her money! heck, she can hire a maid and Islam wouldn't have a problem with it. I just hate this ideology especially in some cultures that "women belong in the kitchen!" then men making fun of her food or chucking it out when not cooked to their standards! ugh makes my blood boil! Ive just come to a point in my life where I just feel like many men in my culture have this thinking. Like in my marriage I worked full-time 5-6 days a week, so hard. Yet there were complaints that I wasnt doing housework/cooking etc. Yet he was at home all day. If he managed some cleaning he would make a big deal about it and say actually why did I have to do that. Id come home from a 9 hour shift to "whats for dinner?" We are separated now due to many other reasons but this was his main complaint against me. At times he would throw the whole pot of food out on the floor for making my first pot wrong. Im just so put off with this ideology. ugh. Thoughts?