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Hi, I'm in need of some advice please. Please do not judge me. I understand that my situation is my fault and I accept this. I'm happy with my choice of going ahead with my pregnancy, however im really undecided on what to do next. I'm not a bad person and I dont want to break a family apart but I am feeling very sad for my unborn child. I met a shia Muslim man 3 years ago (Im not muslim). Things between us never really worked out and I was always kept a secret whilst he was living two different lives. Hes not married and lives with his parents still. Since being pregnant he has expressed that he wants nothing to do with me or his baby. I'm trying to accept this and move on for my baby, however it is becoming very difficult. He has not told any of his family and I dont think that he has any intention in doing so. I have promised I would not tell his family also. He has offered to help financially but said he will not be present in the babys life because he "cant". I dont know much about his family, all I know is that his father is a maulana. I'm asking for advice as to what I should do next. Is the right thing to do by telling his parents that they are going to have a grandchild? Will they understand or will they want this kept a secret also? Or do I simply move on and face the day my child asks me about his father and his family? The last thing I want to do is tear a family apart but I also feel so bad on my unborn child. He is going to miss out on a family who could love him just as much as I do. Thank you

Salaam Alaikum wrwb, I am non Muslim girl from Canada, What Is Shia?, why is there conflict between Sunni and Shia?. How are the Shia Muslim if they curse the prophet?, i respect Muslims and Islam, I am unorthadox Sikh

Why we should not eat food of non muslim ( Mushrik) ? Till Wich Limit It is advisable

Sayyid al khoei: 107. An infidel i.e. a person who denies Allah or the Day of judgement, or associates anyone else with Allah, is impure. Similarly Ghulat (i.e. those who believe one of the holy twelve Imams to be God or say that God has penetrated into him) and khawarij and Nawasib (i.e. those who are enemies of the holy Imams) are also impure. And similar is the case with one who denies Prophethood or one of the necessities of religion i,e. a thing like prayers, and fasting, which are considered by the Muslims to be a part of the religion of Islam when he knows at thing is a necessity of religion. As regards the people of the Book (i.e. the Jews and the Christians) who do not accept the Prophethood of the last of the Prophet Muhammad bin Abdullah (Peace be upon him and his progeny), they, too, are impure according to well-known narrations and this remark is as a precautionary measure. Hence, it is necessary to avoid them also. Then : 2406. A Muslim woman cannot marry an infidel and a male Muslim cannot also many a non Muslim woman except the (People of the Scriptures i.e. Ahle Kitab). However, there is no harm in contracting fixed time marriage with women like Jews and Christians and the recommended precaution is that one should not take them in permanent marriage. There are certain sects like Khawarij, Ghulat and Nawasib who claim to be Muslims, but are considered to be infidels. Muslim men and women cannot, therefore, contract permanent or fixed time marriage with them. There are many of our scholars who argue that all non muslim are Najis. if I'm not mistaken, there was consensus for a certain period. But now we see that nearly all scholars believe that ahlu khetab is tahir. If I'm not mistaken there are still scholars like sadiqs Shirazi and Shirazi makerem who see them as najis. Same rule as sayyid al khoei. Thought that they believe you can only marry them in mutah. Sayyid al khoei just say that is based on recommended precaution to avoid marry them permanently. we must not forget that there are today at least 4 marja who think non muslim are tahir. Seyed Reza Hosseini Nassab: Question: Are Non-Muslims clean? Answer: Non-Muslims, whether followers of divine religions or else, are all intrinsically clean, unless [like any other being] they become unclean because of touching something unclean, i.e. alcoholic beverage, blood, etc. But how can you marry someone who is Najis. fatwa from acholars like al khoei, and living scholars like aya. Shirazi ( Sayyid khomeini has the same view) is not logical at all. Do they suddenly become pak/tahir when you marry them?

Can Muslim say SALAAM to non Muslim? By Khurshid imam 1. Introduction One of the issues that are of much discomfort for our Hindu brethren is the issue of Salaam. Many Hindus complain that when they greet Muslims with Salaam or AsSalaam o alaikum then Muslims don’t say walaikum asSalaam . Our Hindu brethren expect walaikum asSalaam from Muslims. “Why Muslims don’t say Walaikum AsSalaam to us”? - is one of the questions very often asked by non Muslims to Muslims. On the other hand most of Muslims are of the idea that a Muslim can not say Salaam or AsSalaam o alikum or walaikum asSalaam to any non Muslims. One can find lot of fatwas (religious verdict) against saying Salaam to non Muslim. The same group of Muslims is also of the idea that it is prohibited to seek forgiveness or do dua of maghfirat to any non Muslims. What is the reality if this issue? Can a Muslim say Salaam to non Muslim? Can a Muslim do dua (prayer or supplication) of forgiveness for non Muslim / mushrik / kafir? Let’s understand this issue with unbiased and open mind. * Salaam means ‘Peace’. AsSalaam o alaikum means ‘Peace be upon you’. walaikum asSalaam means ‘Peace be upon you too’. * Mushrik means one who associates partner with God. In simple words one who worship something else as God. 2. Claim of some Muslims and the misunderstanding Some Muslims claim that Prophet Muhammad (Peace be upon him) has asked to not to initiate Salaam to non Muslims. Also people say that Prophet told us to say only walaikum when greeted by a non Muslim. This wrong conclusion is the result of failing to derive correct guidance from hadees. Claim of such people is based on following ahadees mainly: A> Narrated AbuHurayrah Allah's Messenger file:///C:/Users/faisal/AppData/Local/Temp/msohtml1/01/clip_image001.gif said: Do not greet the Jews and the Christians before they greet you and when you meet any one of them on the roads force him to go to the narrowest part of it. (Hadith - Sahih Muslim, Book 026, Number 5389) B> 'A'isha reported that some Jews came to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him) and they said: Abu'l-Qasim (the Kunya of the Holy Prophet), as-Sam-u-'Alaikum (Death be upon you), whereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Wa 'Alaikum (On you too). A'isha reported: In response to these words of theirs, I said: But let there be death upon you and disgrace also, whereupon Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) said: 'A'isha, do not use harsh words. She said: Did you hear what they said? Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Did I not respond to them when they said that; I said to them: Wa'Alaikum (let it be upon you). (Hadith - Sahih Muslim, Book 026, Number 5386) By quoting these types of ahadees people arrive at the conclusion that: a. A muslim should only say WALAIKUM when greeted by non Muslims. b. A muslim should not initiate Salaam to non Muslims. 3. Reason for the misunderstanding Again: the most commonly repeated mistake of the majority of Muslim. Not understanding an issue UNDER THE PRINCIPLE OF QURAN. When people don’t look at Quran, don’t analyze what Allah has revealed, don’t ponder over how Quran has guided and directly try to reach at conclusion just by looking at hadees in isolation then they are bound to make mistake. Based on mainly above ahadees people conclude that it’s not allowed to say Salaam to ALL non Muslims. This erroneous and false understanding is due to: a> Not understanding an issue under the guidance of Quran. b> Not considering Quran as the ultimate guidance and final criteria from almighty God. c> Taking the meaning of hadees by completely ignoring the context, background of issue. d> Also people don’t try to find out if the ruling was only for certain people and for certain time or for all people till the day of qiyamah. 4. Ahadees under consideration As far as above ahadees are concerned then following points should be very clear to all: 1. “Do not initiate Salaam with them….” - It is not difficult to understand that this injunction was specifically when Muslims were going to Banu Quraizah - who were in hostile terms with Muslims. And these Jews were the open enemy of Islam who has rejected the prophet hood of Prophet Muhammad even though prophet was alive among them. People who rejected Prophet Muhammad as Prophet were much severe in kufr (denying) compared to today’s non Muslims – as far as rejecting prophet hood is concerned because that time Prophet was alive among them. 2. “……this hadîth relates to “a state of hostilities” which had erupted at that time against the Muslims. It was, in fact, at the time of the campaign against Banû Qurayzah. This is established by another authentic hadîth where the Prophet [peace be upon him] said: “…We are going forth in the morning against a group of Jews, so do not initiate the greeting of Peace with them….” [ Musnad Ahmad 26695 and Mu’jam al-Tabarani al-Kabir 22 / 291. See also Musnad Ahmad 16844 and.17584.]. Ibn Hajar al-`Asqalani relates the same from al-Bukhari’s al-Adab al-Mufrad and from Sunan.al-Nasa’I while.discussing.this.topic.in.“Fath.al-Bari”.[.11./.39.] 3. The second hadees is very clearly mentioning why Prophet told walaikum. It says that since Jews wished death to prophet by saying "as-Sam-u-'Alaikum" i.e. death be on you so he replied Walaikum i.e. same to you. Is it difficult to understand why prophet said ONLY walaikum? Do non Muslims around you wish you by saying Death be on you? Obviously not. So this commandment of prophet was specific to a particular situation and not a general commandment for all non Muslims till the day of qiyamah. 4. If someone is hell bend on taking these ahadees without context, situation and background and argues - "No No! Since ahadees tells us not to initiate Salaam to Jews and Christians so one should not greet ANY non Muslims " - then my argument is - "OK, so using your understanding it can be said that hadees speaks about not initiating Salaam to Jews and Christians; it does not prohibit initiating Salaam to Hindus, jainis, Buddhist, Sikh etc - So it means one can say Salaam to Hindus and all other non Muslims except Jews and Christian - do you agree???" Can you get me fatwa from any scholar that saying Salaam to jews and Christians is prohibited by it is allowed for other faith people like Hindus, Buddhist, Sikh etc? It is very obvious you will not get such fatwa. Also the first hadees also mentions that “when you meet any one of them on the roads force him to go to the narrowest part of it” – if you believe that this hadees injunction was for you also today then will you force your Christian friends or teachers to narrow path when you meet them in road? No! This instruction was temporary in nature for a specific case. 5. Also if you consider this commandment of Prophet to be generic in nature and for all non Muslims till the day of qiyamah then you should realize that this judgment contradicts Quran. Wait!!!! Don't open your fatwa bank. Have patience. Kindly read complete article to find out what ruling Almighty God has given to us in this matter. If Almighty God has guided us that we can say Salaam to non Muslims (Not each and every non Muslim) and seek forgiveness for them (Not each and every non Muslim) then can prophet go against the rulings of God? No! Never! Impossible. 6. The commandment of Prophet not to initiate greetings to SOME of non Muslims is in perfect harmony with the guidance of Quran (It is explained later). To what kind of non Muslims we should not initiate Salaam ? For what kind of non Muslims we can not do dua of forgiveness? Read these in later part of article. 5. Revisiting basics A. Quran is NOT the book of history or story but it’s the book of guidance Though Muslims day and night swear that “Quran is the word of Almighty God, we should follow the teachings of Quran into our life, we should rule by Quran” - but when it comes to seeking guidance then first thing people do is set aside Quran and look at other sources. Remember: Though quran contains science, history, mathematics, logic etc - its MAIN purpose is guidance of mankind. When it tells you events of past prophet and past community then it is not for only for information but it is for giving guidance. When Quran tells the crime of past community then you should not think that - "Ok! This was the crime of past community. thats it!!". No No! This incidence is mentioned in quran to warn you, so that you don’t commit error committed by past community, you should take guidance from these events. So the purpose of revelation for Quran is to get guidance and then rule your life by that. " The month of Ramadhan in which was revealed the Quran, a guidance for the people and clear proofs of guidance and criterion ……." [Quran, Surah Baqrah 2: 185] Please mark the purpose of Quran. It is for whole mankind. Quran is not exclusive property of any particular sect, religion, group of race. Quran contains clear proofs. The proofs given by Quran are self explanatory. Quran is for guidance purpose. We MUST seek guidance from Quran. Quran is the criterion – it means in any matter Quran will have the last say; what is right and what is wrong. B. Those who don’t follow rulings from Quran are kafir and fasiq and zalim Quran is word of Almighty God. Quran is word of Almighty God. Quran is word of Almighty God. No wonder Muslims claim Quran to be word of God loudly but when it comes to ACTUALLY believing and practicing it they fail miserably. Quran says that one MUST judge as per the revelation of Almighty God. It was we who revealed the law (to Moses): therein was guidance and light. By its standard have been judged the Jews, by the prophets who bowed (as in Islam) to Allah’s will, by the rabbis and the doctors of law: for to them was entrusted the protection of Allah’s book, and they were witnesses thereto: therefore fear not men, but fear me, and sell not my signs for a miserable price. If any do fail to judge by what Allah hath revealed, they are Unbelievers (kaferoon). [Quran, Surah Maida 5:44] We ordained therein for them: "Life for life, eye for eye, nose or nose, ear for ear, tooth for tooth, and wounds equal for equal." But if any one remits the retaliation by way of charity, it is an act of atonement for him. And if any fail to judge by what Allah hath revealed, they are wrong-doers (Zalemoon). [Quran, Surah Maida 5:45] Let the people of the Gospel judge by what Allah hath revealed therein. If any do fail to judge by what Allah hath revealed, they are those who rebel (Faseqoon). [Quran, Surah Maida 5:47] To you We sent the Scripture in truth, confirming the scripture that came before it, and guarding it in safety: so judge between them by what Allah hath revealed, and follow not their vain desires, diverging from the Truth that hath come to thee…….;[Quran, Surah Maida 5:48] And this (He commands): you judge between them by what Allah hath revealed, and follow not their vain desires, but beware of them lest they beguile thee from any of that (teaching) which Allah hath sent down to thee. And if they turn away, be assured that for some of their crime it is Allah’s purpose to punish them. And truly most men are rebellious. [Quran, Surah Maida 5:49] Above ayah of Quran make very clear that if we judge against the guidance of Quran then it is kufr / zulm / fisq / absolutely wrong. See how much emphasis Allah has given on judging from what he has revealed. C. Quran permits saying Salaam to non Muslims. It prohibits only for a certain types of non muslims I know very well that i have taken much time before arriving at the crux of the article - the reason is: to remind Muslims about the basics of Islam. Muslims - by large- have abandoned Quran and that is what will be complain of Prophet on the Day of Judgment. "Oh my Lord! My people have abandoned this Quran" Quran, Surah Furqan (25) - Ayah 30 Let’s see What Almighty God has told us about the greetings or saying Salaam or seeking forgiveness for non Muslims. A. “When you are greeted with a greeting, greet in return with what is better than it, or (at least) return it equally” [Quran – Surah al-Nisa’ 4:86] In the above ayah Allah mentions a generic rule regarding greeting – that when anyone wishes you with a greeting then you should respond with better greeting. B. “And the servants of (Allah) Most Gracious are those who walk on the earth in humility, and when the ignorant address them, they say, ‘Salaam !’ (Peace).” [Al-Qur’an, Surah Furqan 25:63] Here also Allah instructs us that as a good believer we should be humble and when dealing with jahil or ignorant (they may be Muslim or non muslim) we should say Salaam. C. “And when they hear vain talk, they turn away there from and say: ‘to us our deeds, and to you yours; Salaam u alaikum (peace be to you): we Seek not the ignorant.’ ” [Al-Qur’an, Surah Qasas 28:55] Here again Almighty God instructs us that when vain talk or useless talk is going on then turn away from such group (they may be Muslims or non muslims) by saying AsSalaam u alaikum. Here also Quran proves that it’s allowed to say Salaam to non Muslims. D. Then Allah makes crystal clear in the matter of saying Salaam to non Muslim or kafir or mushrik and also about doing dua of maghfirat for them i.e. seeking forgiveness for them. And mention in the Book (the Qur'an) Ibrahim (Abraham). Verily he was a man of truth, a Prophet. When he said to his father: "O my father! Why do you worship that which hears not, sees not and cannot avail you in anything? "O my father! Verily there has come to me of the knowledge that which came not unto you. So follow me, I will guide you to the Straight Path. "O my father! Worship not Shaitan (Satan). Verily Shaitan (Satan) has been a rebel against the Most Gracious (Allah). "O my father! Verily I fear lest a torment from the Most Gracious (Allah) should overtake you, so that you become a companion of Shaitan" He (the father) said: "Do you reject my gods, O Ibrahim (Abraham)? If you stop not (this), I will indeed stone you. So get away from me safely (before I punish you)." ÞóÇáó ÓóáóÇãñ Úóáóíúßó ۖ ÓóÃóÓúÊóÛúÝöÑõ áóßó ÑóÈöøí ۖ Åöäóøåõ ßóÇäó Èöí ÍóÝöíðøÇ Ibrahim (Abraham) said: "Peace be on you! (AsSalaam u alikum) I will ask Forgiveness of my Lord for you. Verily He is unto me Ever Most Gracious. [Quran – Surah Maryam 19:41-47] E. Finally Almighty God describes the universal principal regarding saying Salaam and seeking forgiveness for non Muslims. It is not (proper) for the Prophet and those who believe to ask Allah's Forgiveness for the Mushrikun, even though they be of kin, after it has become clear to them that they are the dwellers of the Fire. And Ibrahim's (Abraham) invoking (of Allah) for his father's forgiveness was only because of a promise he [ibrahim (Abraham)] had made to him (his father). But when it became clear to him [ibrahim (Abraham)] that he (his father) is an enemy of Allah, he dissociated himself from him. Verily Ibrahim (Abraham) was Awwah (one who invokes Allah with humility, glorifies Him and remembers Him much) and was forbearing. [Quran – Surah Tauba 9:113-114] Here is the key to the whole issue. Few important points from above two references i.e Surah maryam 19:41-47 and Surah Tauba 9:113-114 1. Prophet Abraham invited his father to monotheism. His father was a mushrik who was committing shirk (Associating partner with Almighty God) knowingly. We know father of Prophet Abraham used to make idol for worship purpose. 2. His father rejected the invitation and got angry at Abraham. He threatened Prophet Abraham with stoning-to-death and asked him to leave. Thus in simple words – Prophet Abraham invited his father to the religion of God and his father rejected it thus becoming kafir. 3. But even then Prophet Abraham said Assalam u alaikum i.e Peace be upon you. Not only this, but also Prophet Abraham told that he will seek forgiveness for his father from Allah i.e he would do dua of maghfirat for his father. Imagine! 4. And afterwards when he became dead sure (After continuous and strong rejection of Islam by his father) that his father will never return to truth that he stopped praying for his father. 5. Allah gives a principal here that if you are dead sure that a person will never return to the truth then you should not seek his forgiveness or do dua of maghfirat or say SALAM.. Before this one CAN do dua of maghfirat or seek forgiveness from God or say Salam. 6. So in layman’s language one can say: No Salam category> You feel that this person has constantly rejected the truth of God after being explained about Islam many times and he will never ever return to deen of almighty God then you can NOT say Salam to him. If it is not the case < No Salam category> then you CAN do Salam or seek his forgiveness from God. How many non Muslims around you fall under category < No Salam category >??? Hardly a few!!!! D. Prophet’s instruction is as per quran I hope now it is clear that which category of people were there for whom Prophet advised Muslims to not to say Salaam. Of course they were those people who fall under < No Salam category > Prophet prohibited Muslims from saying Salam to those non Muslims who fell under the category mentioned by Quran in Surah Tauba 9:113-114 The prohibition of saying Salam to non Muslims will apply to ONLY this category of people about whom one is sure that he is going to be in hell. 6. Conclusion 1. Saying Salaam means “AsSalaam -o-alaikum” i.e. May peace of Almighty God be upon you. 2. Some Muslims have misconception that Islam does not allow saying Salaam to all non Muslims. 3. Almighty God instructs us that one can NOT say Salaam or do dua of forgiveness for those mushriks (mushrik means one who associate partner with Almighty God) about whom you are dead sure that they are going to be in hell because of their constant rejection of truth. Under this category those people will come who have been very open and continuous rejecter of truth. 4. To rest of non Muslims one can say Salaam or reply walaikum asSalaam . * If you don't agree with the mail then instead of giving fatwa of deviation / kufr / shirk / biddat - have faith in Allah and leave it to him to judge. * Author: Khurshid Imam is software engineer at Bangalore. For any criticism / feedback / suggestion feel free to mail – serviceforhumanity@gmail.com The article can be found at: www.khurshidimam.blogspot.com