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I am writing to get answers to about the validity of my mutah marriage inshAllah. I am 18 years old, my partner is 23. We decided to make it halal and do temporary marriage since permanent marriage is not an option for us at the moment due to some factors in our lives. We assumed it was valid because my father does not involve himself in my life and my paternal grandfather is deceased. (Meaning I have no wali) I had absolutely no contact with my father at the time of our marriage. My parents are separated and my father does not financially support my family in any way. At the time of my husband and I’s marriage, my father had me and my siblings blocked and had not contacted us for months. My father has many qualities to make me believe that he would not be considered a wali. These qualities include: not financially supportive, does not pray or fast, has no involvement or care with the family and is very negligent (he didn't reach out when he heard my brother got into a biking accident and cut his leg open down to the bone). He does not have good akhlaq and has wished sickness and death on my mother. He steals money from his roommate. And he is addicted to medication. He recently overdosed and fell into a 3 day long coma in his apartment and did not go to the hospital. He does not take care of himself whatsoever. It is one of the main causes of my parents divorce and he has driven under the influence which caused him to get his license taken away and put on house arrest. He has also threatened my mother with suicide and even hurt himself in front of her to manipulate her. I have no other male figure in my life that could possibly be my wali. I looked through the requirements and I believe that my father is the only possible option. But judging by his character, I don't this he is qualified. My husband and I have already consummated our marriage and we have been together since November 1st 2024. If it is invalid, we have to go separate ways until we are able to have permanent marriage. Which could be anywhere from 2-4 years from now. The main reasons why we are unable to do permanent marriage is because my mother wants me to wait until I’m a bit older, my husband wants to complete university first and and get a job. And I also want to complete a few more years of university. I also want to include (but not sure where it is fitting) — that I was raped when I was 15 years old. I am aware now that Islamically I was still considered a virgin up until my husband and I’s consummation. Is our marriage valid? If not, what steps should I take from here? Who can validate my marriage? I have already sent a message to Syed Sistani but it has been months without a response. I am hoping to find one here. Thank you.
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am i allowed to do mutah but agree with no intercourse? and can i do this without my fathers permission
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I want to get married or do mutah but i have no finaces and no job.Someone told me the maulana said i would have to pay for women, i dont know any shia in my city, any advice? -
https://www.academia.edu/7599989/Compassionate_Islam_and_Ma_malakat_aymanukum_Right_hand_holds_ And this : Sheikh Imran Hosein, a sunni, implies they are not only slaves, but women which are bound to you as wives but with a different status and rights, meaning you do not have to provide for them as much as you should for a wife. He does not give shari`i instructions in order for it to be halal because he admits not having the knowledge. It reminds me of mut`a though.
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Chapter 5 aya 6- The changing of `wipe' وَامْسَحُوا to 'wash' your feet and ankles: O believers! When you rise up for prayer, wash your faces and your hands up to the elbows, wipe your heads, and wash your feet to the ankles (5:6) https://quran.com/5/6 Chapter 4 aya 24 - The changing of 'muta' اسْتَمْتَعْتُم to 'consummated marriage' with their due dowries: Also ˹forbidden are˺ married women—except ˹female˺ captives in your possession.1 This is Allah’s commandment to you. Lawful to you are all beyond these—as long as you seek them with your wealth in a legal marriage, not in fornication. Give those you have consummated marriage with their due dowries (4:24) https://quran.com/4/24 This is misleading to non-Arabic speakers and converts. Quran.com is the most popular website to pop up on Google when searching for verses in the Quran, but as you can see they mistranslate to suite their agenda. When am debating with non-Shia's it becomes very difficult as I am forced to use Shia websites, which then they accuse me of being biased and deceiving for using something that is Shia. Debating becomes a very lengthy process because I first have to explain what the real translation is, which then they have to double check and do their own research on etc etc. understandably the opponent is very dubious. Also, these are obvious words. There is no way that wipe in Arabic should translate to wash in English. I understand that there are (Sunni) traditions that say for example that the Prophet (عليه السلام) washed his feet, but how can a tradition/hadith have more significance that the Holy Quran? These are clear orders and words, nothing ambiguous about them. So if a tradition contradicts the Quran then it should be thrown out. Or at least it should be taken with a grain of salt. We shouldn't resort to hadiths when we have the Quran - with clear verses. Can someone please explain, what are the reasons behind this, and what is their justifications? -
Selam brothers and Sisters Is a temporary marriage valid without the permission of my father? And is the permissionnecessary even if my father is not a practicing Muslim? Thanks
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Salam respected brothers and sisters. I have been seriously struggling with my own desires for years now and it is very difficult (amongst the worst things I have had to go through) and I don’t even do things which increases desire like looking at non-mahram (I do occasionally get thoughts which I try to not to occupy me) and so I really think as one of the last resorts to come out to this forum and ask for help from anyone who might know a person or a friend who in turn knows a friend that is willing to do temporary marriage (I am a guy). I will deeply appreciate the help from any brother or sister and keep you in my daus inshallah.
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Salaam everyone, I was actually wondering about a Shi'a girls stance on marriage. I mean, I was wondering if say a Shi'a girl says her consent to the marriage 3 times to the niqah, but her niyyah isn't for it, meaning she doesn't actually want to get married to this person, does the marriage still count? If she says yes outwardly, but no niyyah inside to say yes, and doesn't want to, but is being forced to say yes? Especially in the case that the girl does not plan to have any "relations" with this person after the forced marriage anyway. Btw, for that, say if the marriage is valid, is it necessary for the girl to do acts of marriage with this person? Or if she doesn't want to she doesn't have to? I would appreciate any rulings or any information that could be found on this. Jazakallah & FiAmanAllah
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Assalam alaikum, Seeking the guidance from you guys, it’s a matter of my 3 young kids (boy 15 - girl 12 - girl -9). Obviously I love my wife ... I made a blunder made a mistake that cannot be undone and I think I have already paid heavy price for it... I did Mu’tah with a Muslim woman, had a child out of it who is 2 years old now... and I am in contact with her once in a year... it was two years ago, my wife came to know about it and left the home since then I am living alone ... my wife lives in his cousin home, I have done everything she demanded, sell the home and gave her maximum money, paying expenses for children every month... she was melting a bit as I continuously pleasing her .. she hasn’t ceased having conjugal relationship... she too loves me and was understanding that my mistake was big but she is ready to move back to me, but the problem is her brother who are not letting her come back to me as they are demanding to bring my second wife and in front of them I should give talaq saying that she was my mistake... for which I do not want to do, I cannot humiliate a woman. now her brothers threatened me that my wife would take a qula if I don’t do that... how can she take qula when she was having physical and loving relationship with me? What are the basis that she can get qula? I was providing her with home and other necessities and more over requesting her to comeback home so that I can talk to my second wife and settle things... what do I do? I’m in a very complicated situation... I love my kids and my wife very much and do not want to loose them.. on other hand I have responsibility of my other wife and child... can I let marja to contact her brothers and convince if I’m on haq. your help and advise would be appreciated and inshallah will dua for you in Karbala as I will be doing arbayeen there. p.s: I live in Australia and my other wife live in India along with the child.
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I honestly never understood why twelvers make Nikah Mutah. 7 of the eight madhabs forbid it. With only twelvers being the exception. Zaydis also forbid. We have narrations from Ali (r.a) that the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w.s) forbid mutah after Khaybar, now you can argument that Omar (r.a) enforced it as Haram, but you can't make argumentation that Abu Bakr (r.a) didn't do it and only Omar do it if you think that Abu Bakr (r.a) was wrong in a number of issues. Obs - Omar was closer to Ali.
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Salam everyone. ive been with my partner for 2 years and we haven’t done anything yet. My parents know of him but are delaying the conversation of marriage due to him being a different nationality. we both are getting impatient and recently he has been told that we could do mutah without sexual intercourse? Apparently if I am a virgin, you need to ask for a fathers permission but if I am not then I don’t need to? I am 22 living with my parents, however I consider myself cable of financially supporting myself. (I pay for everything for myself, I give my dad rent money every 2 weeks). I follow sayed sistani and so does he. Thank you in advance
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As we know in al kafi it says that the number of mut'a marriages one can have is like that of slaves (meaning there is no limit). However, in Al-Istibsar (p. 693), from the path of Ibn Abi Nasr that he asked Al-Redha: I asked him about a man that is married to a woman and if it is possible to marry her sister as mutah. He said: No. I said: Zurarah narrates from Abi Ja’afar – peace be upon him – that they (mutah wives) are like slave girls and one can marry as much as one likes. He said: No, they are from the four. Al-Tusi also narrates from Mohammad bin Hasan Al-Saffar from Mu’awiyah bin Hakeem from Ali bin Al-Hasan bin Ribat from Abdullah bin Muskan from Ammar Al-Sabati from Abi Abdullah (that he was asked) about mutah, so he said: They are from the four. How can we reconcile these ahadith
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In Shia Islam we have this significant practice known as Muta which is to keep us away from sins like fornication, pornography, and masturbation. However the intricate laws of Muta (chosen by Maraja in non-western Islamic countries) and the societal circumstances are absolutely opposed to practicing this act. Within a Shia community, a man or woman cannot do muta with each other because they will be looked at in a negative way in the community. Shia Men cannot do Muta with Christian and Jewish Woman because let’s be honest: Western women will freak out when you mention marriage and then you try to make them repeat some Arabic verses. I’m a Shia Man who wants to do Muta but I’ve come to realize that it’s almost impossible due to the impractical rulings which cannot be applied in a Western country.
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Why Shias perform Mutah??? Please don't mind sorry to say, isn't it Disgusting??? Men having Muta with different Women and Women having Muta with different men.
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Hi, The guy that I want to marry is shia and we have around ten years of age apart. He is a very good guy, he is religious and we love each other. However, I started being more aware of his past and the fact that he has been with many girls before he met me. It did make me uncomfortable, jealous and a bit angry although I do know that given his age it is understandable that he has a past. He did tell me that he never met the right person and he said that it was mostly flings it did not mean much to him. I do still sometimes think about it and find it unfair that guys can date many girls and still marry a virgin girl, but they would not marry a girl who has been around. I am also a very jealous person and even though I try to control it, I do think and wonder about the things that he has done with other girls and it bothers me. But I hope that my jealousy and anger will be over for good, because I do really love him and he treats me good. Also, even though I wish he was also a virgin so that it is new to both of us, I do know that maybe it is better that he did whatever he did and he is over it and knows what he wants. I would like to know, what people think about marrying a guy who is not virgin and has done muta? If there are any of you who felt the same way?
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Salaams, I was reading some forums and i came across this verse from the Quran, 4:24: "And all married women except those whom your right hands possess (this is) Allah's ordinance to you, and lawful for you are (all women) besides those, provided that you seek (them) with your property, taking (them) in marriage not committing fornication. Then as to those whom you profit by, give them their dowries as appointed; and there is no blame on you about what you mutually agree after what is appointed; surely Allah is Knowing, Wise". Im having trouble understanding this verse. 1) can the "right hand possesses" still have a husband while under her master? 2) what happens to the husband? 3) what happens to the children of the woman and her first husband? 4) Also, this verse refers to the marrying of the slaves (right hand), does that mean that if the captive is married she is still halaal for the owner? Please help me understand this verse because if the slave is already married then gets married to the owner, isnt that polygamy and zina? does it make the last marriage void? and taking away the rights of the husband and the slave wife?
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in todays trouble world when marriage is very dificultt to marry at a good time. people are vulnerable to fall for sin so i n this time I think the suna of Mutah is good for us to get temp marr and gain some experience of responsibilities. what do u think guys tell me
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Salamalekum, I see a lot of people here giving advice to youths, if they are unable to do nikah temporarily or permanent than to do fasting. So i would like to ask those people that are giving such advices to someone to practice fasting in order to control their desires. That have you yourself practice this method, if so for how long. I am not talking about for couple of days, but i want to know if you tried fasting for long periods of time like months and years, until you were able to get married. Therefore, if you have practice this technique, can you please tell me how was your experience and are you still fasting?
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Aoa, What is mut'taa? is this true that mut'taa is permissible in shia islam? this is very controversial topic and i have always wanted to discuss it with some, though it is a bit embarrasing, but i just want to know about it's history. this is a question which meakes me speechless in discussions. why is mut'ta allowed in shia'ism? this can lean to prostitution? have this ever been used for prostitution? i dont wanna hurt anyone's feelingS, just discussion.thanks
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can married man who live or work in another country and his wife is not with him marry muta behind his wife back ? -
I'm a 20 year old girl living in the United states. I've never been married but I am not a virgin. In my younger years I have made mistakes. However, I now want to do things as they are acceptable in Islam. I wanted to ask if muta'a was an option for me considering I'm already not a virgin, is my father's permission needed? I've searched for an answer to this question for a while and have yet to find an answer with proof.
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Salam everyone, long time no post :) Enjoy!! ثقافة الجنس | فيلم وثائقي للبالغين
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salam can you explain to me the types of mahr and whether it can be paid after or before ? or are there different mahrs where one is paid before and one after ? wassalam
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Dear sisters and brothers, I read many posts about muta but they are all about intercourse. I have met a girl and I want to enter in a muta marriage with her, but not for sex. As she is not mahram to me at this moment and I want to hold her hands and kiss her in halaal. Does she need her father's permission for this? We don't want to have intercourse, but only that I can touch her in halaal. Thank you in advance brothers and sisters. Kind regards
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