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I’ve been married for coming up to 3 years. I live with my MIL & FIL and most the time my SIL & her daughter live here too. I cook dinner every day, sometimes even cook afternoon food too. I’m from a different culture, my in laws are Indian and they eat curry everyday for lunch. I’ve learnt how to cook lots of Indian food! I help out around the house, I do majority of the cleaning every other day eg hoover, keep kitchen clean & the 2 bathrooms once a week. I wash everyone’s clothes every Saturday morning, normally do 3 loads. My SILs daughter is very close to me she always wants me and wants to go everywhere with me that ppl think she’s my daughter. If me and my husband go shopping ( just me and him ) it’s an issue with my MIL, she will call my other SIL and start moaning about it, being all upset and angry. MIL doesn’t like us going anywhere without her basically. MIL always back bites about me saying I don’t do anything around the house, I don’t cook or clean. I just sit all day doing nothing and tells my SIL to tell my husband about this. Her attitude; it’s really starting to make me resent her. She’s all nice and smiles to my face but to my SIL she complains about me too much. she expects me to not go out with my friends, and when I do she complains asking why I even go and I go out too much. I go out once a week if that? Seriously. And complaining about me not cleaning and cooking when I do it everyday? . I go to my mums house every Friday and MIL doesn’t like it, and when I come back she always gives me dirty looks. Even when me and hubby want to go upstairs and just watch a movie together and chill, just have our own space together, it’s an issue we have to take SILs daughter upstairs with us! All of this makes me feel so annoyed. I’ve spoken to my husband about this before but he is adamant to stay living with his mum and dad. We were so close to breaking up before about this exact same issue, we had such a big bust up. He will NOT live separate, he would rather divorce me. I’m not happy living here anymore because of the way my MIL is. Really don’t know what to do. I’m trying to conceive as-well but I’m thinking twice about that now due to the way things are and I think they’ll get even worse if I had a baby whilst living here! Which makes me feel really sad as I desperately would love to have a child..

My husband said he's ok with me going on holiday with my best friend. Instead of going on holiday I said we would rather stay in the UK and just go out of town for a few days. He was also ok with this and said I should go. So I'm going tomorrow to London for 2 nights with my friend. Her husband also said he's fine with me and her going. I live with my mother in law and she was not happy when my husband told her. She made all kinds of comments and was basicly saying women can't do things like this only with their husbands. I shouldn't go it's really bad etc. Then this caused an argument with me and my husband as he then was saying he don't want me to go now and has mixed feelings about it ( I assume because of his mothers cultural thinking) Everything is booked so how can I not go, that's also unfair on me and my friend as we have been looking forward to going and just having a girly break together. Is it really wrong for a married women to go away for a few days with her friend. Also we both don't have children at the moment, so we using this time as an advantage. If my husband agreed and the other persons husband agreed then I don't see how it has anything to do with anyone else? Should my mother in law be able to have a say in what I can and can't do? ..I'm just feeling really upset about this situation I'm in. She has commented before on other occasions, even with me just going out for dinner with my friend. She don't like me going out much. Then questions my husband about me... Any advice would be appreciated