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Salaam all, may Allah and AhlulBayt AS keep you all in their protection. For context, I'm an 18 year old male, almost 19, and I live in a main UK city. I was wondering if anybody knew an easy and non-awkward way to find a Shia girl of my age to become friends with, and hopefully marry if things work out. My main aim is to find a Shia matchmaking event somewhere that I can attend and hopefully find her there, but nobody seems to be hosting any. Dating apps and websites aren't of much use because everybody's older than me, and I'd prefer to get to know my future spouse in-person rather than over text. Before you say, I'm fully aware and conscious of the fact that Islam doesn't allow dating, or any inappropriate contact or conversation. I'm not after any of that. I'm just a simple guy who doesn't have many female friends, and no Shia friends, who's looking to connect with someone who could become my wife at some point- and is also a Shia. Does anybody know any services that are actually reliable, or any ways I could help open the doors to meeting someone? As you can imagine it's not like I can go matchmaking at a mosque, particularly after a majlis, or go announcing to everyone over the microphone that I'm seeking a wife haha. Similarly, asking of such a thing from the mosque Imam is too awkward for me, especially with the massive gap in our generations and norms. I understand my situation may look helpless with everything I've mentioned, and apologies if it sounds like a mess. Life would be so much easier if I'd just ended up having a female Shia friend during school. I'm just getting a little more desperate since I want to get married around 22, 23 and I'd value these few years to get to become her best friend before I ask for her hand in marriage. Any and all advice is warmly welcome, though I may not get around to replying too often. I just figured I'd sort of 'vent' my desperate call for guidance into the big online Shia community and see what advice I could get back. Jazakallah khair, may we all find our true soulmates in good time and avoid straying from the right path, ameen

Bismillah i Rahman i Raheem Assalaam o 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah i Wa Barakaatuh So I have been starting to frequent this forum more than I did a few years ago, and I have always seen an ad for ShiaMatch. I'm genuinely curious, I'm aware the service claims to be successful, but is it even that active and is it really successful in recent terms? Also I recently came across a service called ShiaCafe through Twitter follow recommendations after I followed an account related to Shi'as. Is that also even active and successful in recent times? I'm curious since for some reason I doubt either of these services are that active and recently successful at the back of my head. JazakAllah Wa 'Alaikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullah i Wa Barakaatuh

Salam Alaykum brothers/sisters, 　 I am a single father in my late 30's, indo/pak background, hindi/urdu speaking, and i m trying to get remarried and looking for single mothers similar to me in Canada/USA. I live myself with my kids in Canada. I have two questions if anyone have ever been through this before me:　 1- Would you recommend getting married outside north america and sponsor your spouse from India, Pakistan.... UAE or other countries in the world? My concern are .... cultural difference with America...close mindedness, long waiting time and application to sponsor, .. mainly compatibility with my upbringing I am very open-minded Canadian and raised here but same time balanced with my desi culture and religion.. i m not sure if i will be able to share my life and relate to a person from another part of the world rather than USA/Canada.. what been your experience? I ma getting sometimes proposal from UAE or UK...but too long to call them here...Second, the education...the degrees done in other parts of the world such as indo-pak are not recognized here...and my spouse will struggle and i need someone to support me as a team and not someone who wouldnt be able to work professionally like me here...meaning if degree not equivalent it means basically she has no degree here....and she has to work odd jobs.. and financially supporting as two people in decent jobs is a must here especially in blended family.. 2- How do i find someone like me? my mosque doesnt have a good matrimonial service especially for divorced single mothers... it seems there arent as many.. which i doubt..plus.. i have tried all matrimonial website, shia site, muslims, phone apps, and have contacted randomly people in usa and canada.. i feel ashamed doing this like a desperate job seeker.!! I dont get time to go to social like when i was young life is busy i am older and have kids responsibilities everyday...people knowing each other may help each other but i dont have lot of friends...and my family is useless in this matter very ignorant and not skilled....Anybody knows how they have managed to get married a second time and find single shia mothers ? I am tired of all this.. now...too complicated..and wont find someone compatible.. and we have lot of muslims in our countries.. i may as well as end up marrying a decent good sunni.. I really dont know how to find a spouse in usa and canada and spouse of indian/pak citizenship worry me due to all the sponsorship and distance.. and cultural unknown to me...back home vs my mindset and culture here...

The Birmingham Khoja Shia Ithnaasheri Matchmaking Committee announces a Matchmaking Event on 28th April (2018) in Birmingham, UK. (Not in the US!) There are only 100 spaces and its over half full. More brothers need to sign up and it is now open to Shias only of all ethnicities. Participants must be either UK/EU citizens, have a valid work permit visa or have an indefinite visa. At the event you must bring your passport with you (as an ID check) in order to enter the venue. More details about registering are at the link: https://www.eventbrite.co.uk/e/shia-matchmaking-event-tickets-44284316583

A Thought: What is wrong Muslim Men? l was reading about a new marriage app or some such nonsense. When will Men realize they are going to be unhappy with whomever they talk themselves into marrying? For example, Men have to write a profile of themselves. l'd be honest about mine. Decrepit Dotard. What interest will a cute, rich girl want with that?

Salaams Everyone, I am new to this forum and am joining to gain some insight into my "feelings". I have been divorced for approx 4 years now. I was fairly young when I got married and for one reason or other my marriage didn't work out. I am now at a place where I am looking to settle down and have a family. I have used the last four years to study and become independent so Allhm in that regard I am blessed. Moving forward (swiftly) my need for settling down is proving very difficult and I am hopeful someone on here can help? I have tried all (and I mean all) match making websites for single shia's and khojas (yes I am khoja)!! Matchmakers cant seem to find me anyone either.... Does anyone else have any suggestions? I am also doing amaal's as found on Duas.org Any help will be very much appreciated. Duas A

http://www.muslimfamilymatters.com/matchmaking/searchteam I came across this site. Before you jump to accusing, it appeared on my facebook suggestions for some reason then I opened their website and there. They do match making for you, cool eh. Its the whole complete marriage package for you people having a hard time. I don't know if it is Sunni or Shia run, so check it out yourselves.