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As-salamunalaikum, I was wondering what people think about the moral traits, behaviour, akhlaq, of a person (male and female) towards other people in general life, IN THIS GENERATION. How do you think one should be with other people (Muslim and non-Muslim)? What moral traits and characteristics do you think are a MUST in this generation towards other people, and why? What kind of a person are you when you are alone, and what kind of a person are you when you are around other people? If there is a difference, then why is that so? How do you react when people judge you based on your traits? What traits and lessons have you adopted from the teachings of Islam and the Ahlulbayt? What do you do when you see someone constantly scared from judgement from others? How would you help them? How would you help a depressed person? - OR - How do you deal with your own depression? How do you deal with anxiety and nervousness? Especially, when around other people? What keeps you grounded to your roots? What is your idea of tawakkul? What is your idea of a happy and satisfying life? What are things that give you happiness? What satisfies you? What advice would you give to your fellow people about these traits and life in general? I'm really hoping to get some answers for these questions, since I think they'll be beneficial for others as much as for me. So kindly try your best to answer at least a few or all of them, if possible. Jazakallah Khair Wa-assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah

Social media, a world of responsibility with enormous numbers of irresponsibles... Let's not just become a forwarding machine ... When we just forward: At least what we can do is to check the source of a matter popped up on our screens. There are number of appealing messages floating everywhere on social media but we do no good by just forwarding these, we fulfill the sole purpose of its sender by passing it on. Knowledge is always a result of the efforts of only the knowledgeable people, not just everyone. Therefore least we can do is to check out traceable source if mentioned in any message. Expensive researches, crafted work and hard yearned produced materials with efforts naturally have its owner/creator's name unlike otherwise. We will be held accountable: We should strive to build a culture of admiration of those who worked hard not those doing plagiarism, a clean atmosphere of accountability not just promoting brain malware and publishing tormented facts, building a sense of responsibility but not a hidden world of tarnishing characters and images of persons or entities. Another area of exercizing extreme care rests with the sender of any message. If he/she has understood it well and capable enough to respond to further questions of audience or at least able to refer the audience easily to the source. Extreme care is also needed to verify if the article, media clip or content would not be harmful to some or any recipient of the message. If there is a chance of misinterpretation that exists due to the level of audience or possibility of message carrying multiple meanings that cannot be achieved without active dialogues, then better hold it and don’t send it to the texting world. Refrain from sending it by exercising your self control. Else we might equally be responsible for any deviation of one's faith for a period of time or forever, which is far worst than taking one's physical life.!!! Acceptance of specialist only: Another area of extra care is a to let message be decoded, understood and sent only by the experts of that field e.g. debates of religion by scholars or least the students of that decipline, medical, engineering, technology or finanicial related matters by their respective specialists. Imagine if financial derivative market impacts during meltdown are explained by a medical doctor; ib contrary you can imagine what happens to poor specialist of medical sciences when someone says cancer or diabetes is a myth or can be cured merely by taking hot showers etc. Above mentioned careless attitude of us being master and responsible for all and everything has driven us to a verge where finding true specialist, truth itself and the respect of righteous people has been severely damaged by our both hands so that so now you can either find marajaeen (where everyone thinks as a mufti) in every corner of a street or the vision has got so blurred that many of us do not know who a Marje Alam is, hence the lack of respect to this highly respected position which is like aforementioned specialists is not a profession, instead a highly divine decreed station by deputy of Almighty. The evidence: Examples are simple and can easily be seen in our or every society by just observing messages being relayed on social media on per nano second rate. Let us change our daily attitude towards knowledge and show a consistent sense of responsibility successfully handed over to next generation. Media industry, a poison for all: Above all we know credibility of main stream media and the strings of social media lie in the hands of those opinion makers who have invested billions into it, who constantly manipulate it else it would have not existed. The basis and worth of the other half of the floated content is to make things viral. This attitude is far much poisonous, widely accepted and infected all societies more than the impact of Covid19 itself. Time to change: The change lies into our hands and how responsible we are. Blaming those giving statements against respected marajaeen uzaam, those not doing taqleed while at the same time we fall prey to same basic principle in our daily lives by overriding specialist is so commonly found in our societies. Its like a huge noise created by clueless people while the specialist in the very room are not consulted or even respected at all. It would remain a grave concern, a matter of collective attitude and a big question mark we all are answerable and ultimately accountable to. The message: This message is not meant for general distribution just simply share it with those who you can engage with over the topic or refer to myself for a constructive discussion. Thanks for reading till the end.

The aim of this book is to present the perfect morals of the Holy Imams. Topics include their knowledge, worship, bravery, justice, chastity, humility and contentment. Akhlaq al-A’imma, Morals & Manners of the Holy Imams https://www.al-islam.org/akhlaq-al-aimma-morals-manners-holy-imams-maulana-sayyid-zafar-hasan-amrohi

Salam alaikum I'm putting together a list of very concrete rules for living in any society. I'm not looking for religious rules or abstract ideas like "be kind". I'm looking for quantifiable absolute things like "don't take things that aren't yours". This is for my son who has autism. 1. Don't take things that aren't yours. 2. Don't look through people's things without their permission. 3. Don't hit people who are weaker than you. 4. Don't hit people who are stronger than you unless they hit you first. 5. Tell people "thank you" when they do something nice for you. 6. Do not shout unless it is an emergency. 7. Choose your words appropriately. 8. Keep yourself healthy with the right food and exercise and enough sleep. 9. If you see someone who looks like they need help, offer help without being asked. Is there anything else I should add, or can I word anything more clearly? What are the rules that are essential in ANY society?

Salamualkum wa rahmatallahi wa baraktu. I am wondering if any brother or sisters know of any books or sources where I can learn to perfect my Deen. I am talking about more than a rasallah. A book or source that will list every( or as much that would reasonably fit in a book) makrooh action and every mustahab action. Basically to teach you the social conduct of the ahlul bayt, their manners and even very minor things that they avoided because they are makrooh such as blowing on your food because it shows impatience(just an example I don't know of its truth). As I am living in the west I need as many reminders and acts as worship as possible to keep me away from the haram that is everywhere. Thank you very much for your time I really appreciate it. Salamualkum.

I used to think that there should never be a moment of silence when sitting with friends and so I was always a fool who had to say something. Now I am someone who speaks when he has something to say. Too much words can be harmful and anti-social. Too much talking can lead to mistakes. One should speak when one has something to say. When sitting with other people now a days, I only speak when I have something good to say or I have an appropriate response. However not everyone is like this, there are those who sit next to me and I feel like they are constantly uncomfortable because I am not saying anything. What I am doing now, not talking to much, talking only when necessary and useful or fits in with the social requirement, such as expressing an emotion through a few words or greetings. Is this right? Tell me how I should behave around other people, I have never learnt anything on this, all I have learned and practice is now is from experience and mistakes.

(salam) I've posted this before but I'll repost it here as this is the more appropriate section (and in case any one missed it you can read it). http://ahlulakhlaq.w...taining-akhlaq/ --------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- The Holy Prophet (pbuh) and his Ahlulbayt (as), the pinnacle of creation, were sent down to complete the infallible religion of Islam. To do this they themselves must be infallible so that no flaws arise. So what does this have to do with Akhlaq/Mannerisms? To first attempt to even improve our Akhlaq we must have something to compare it against so that we know what level we're at and what needs to be done for this improvement to happen, in practical terms. What better comparison than our beloved ma'soom? Because they do not sin, they are perfect in every way. They are our set examples, like our fathers we must obey them but also make it so that we try to be like them in every aspect. We know that they are perfect and therefore the level of Akhlaq shown by them is second to none. So by accepting their perfection in all aspects is the first step to improving our selves. Qu'ran & Hadith Allah (SWT) speaks about the importance of good conduct in the holy Qu'ran: 'And say to My servants (that) they speak that which is best.' (17:53) 'Worship Allah, and do not associate partners with him. And be good to your parents, and the relatives, and to the orphans, and to the poor people, and the neighbor that is close to you and the neighbor that is not close to you, and your companion on the journey.' (4:36) These verses remind us that we must show good conduct and morals especially to others e.g. Parents, neighbors, orphans, relatives, friends and even enemies. If akhlaq wasn't important it wouldn't be highlited in the Qu'ran. There are also numerous Hadith about Akhlaq, I will post a few that highlight that this is no small matter but rather Akhlaq is VITAL to our religion, as I will explain. The Holy Prophet (pbuh) has said: 'I have been sent by Allah to teach people good manners.' Imam Ali (as) said, 'O Believer! This knowledge and good manners are the value of your soul so strive to learn them, for however much your knowledge and good manners increase, so will your value and worth accordingly.' Sulayman-ibn-Mahran said that he visited Imam Sadiq (as) while some of the followers (Shi'a) were attending him (as) and he heard that the Imam (as), addressing them, said,'(Behave) to be as ornaments for us and not to be against us as shame. Tell people of goodness, and protect your tongues and hold it from excessive talk and offensive speech.' Just by using a few hadith to back up what is in the Qu'ran and we find akhlaq is a 'must' and not to be taken lightly. As well as looking at the example set by our beloved (as). Lets go back and take a look at the time the Prophet (pbuh) had not yet announced prophethood. You'll find that their akhlaq was perfect, they became known as the honest & trustworthy and this was shown through their actions. If the Prophet (pbuh) had bad Akhlaq, nausubilah, then people would have doubted the Prophet (pbuh) at a later date. This example is perfect as it shows akhlaq, in fact, is everything.. If a 'religous' man/female has no akhlaq then people would be turned off, not just by you but Islam as well. So please for the sake of your lord and his chosen faithful servants keep good Akhlaq in everything you do and everyone you meet..Including... SHIACHAT (wasalam)