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Assalamualaikum Wa Rahmatullah, Firstly, I am a 21yr old Twelver Shia muslim, and SHE is a 22yr old Dawoodi Bohra muslim. (age does NOT matter to either of us, we're just 5 months apart) I met her in January 2019, and at that time, i was not religious at all. I was just looking for new friends and i met her. Obviously, we got close, and i had no lustful feelings or any bad intention towards her (i am VERY SURE of this). Everything was PERFECT. Six months after meeting her, i became religious. SHE told me and motivated me to become religious, and eventually my curiosity increased, and i dived into research and i fell in love with my religion. On the other hand, after a year of knowing her, i realized that i had developed feelings for this girl in December 2019. I did not want to lead the friendship based on false feelings, so i confessed it to her. She never said no, she never said yes. The reason for that is, she still has not moved on from her ex. It is VERY difficult for her. She said "maybe" she would have dated me if her mental state was fine and if she would've moved on. And this is all fine, but i am so much in love with this girl, regardless of getting that love back. I am constantly worried and scared for her, because she does not even trust anyone (because of her past) so she does not have anyone to talk to. Things between me and her are not as good as before. Probably because she is not in the right mental state (because of her breakup) and the fact that i fell in love with her. I have also made her a promise to stick with her no matter what happens. So according to Islam, I'm bound to her anyways. I cannot leave her and i don't even want to, neither does she. On the other hand, she is not so religious. And this is THE ONLY thing that i do not like about her. Apart from this, she is SIMPLY PERFECT. EVERYTHING ABOUT HER IS JUST PERFECT. She makes me want to be a better man, she makes me want to be more religious, she makes me happy and i enjoy every second with her. Now, i really do not know what i am supposed to do? Do i continue talking to her like before as if things are fine or do i give her a break (i don't think she would like the latter) ? I really do not want to hurt her or break her heart. I'm really confused. All i can do is sincerely pray for her and trust god. There is hadith from the prophet that says, "Tie your camel and trust god". But what if i don't know how to tie my camel? Please feel free to ask me any elaborations or questions or insights if you want to. Please guide me to stay on the right path. Waassalamunalaikum Wa Rahhmatullah

Salaam I’m an 18 year old Shi’a Syeda and am looking to get married soon as Islam has encouraged the virtues of marriage and the Ahlul Bayt have emphasised the blessings of marriage especially that at a young age. But I’m a disabled person in a wheelchair and I often wonder if anyone would want to marry a girl like me. Whether I would add anything of value to my husband’s life. Whether Islam has said anything about this? Any advice would be appreciated JazakAllah

Salam ! I want to ask that what will happen in my future and when I will meet my soul mate ? In what year or month ?