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I'm an 18 year old female, and in the future I might be living away from home for university and then maybe a job. One of my friends (also Shia) says that after a certain age of maturity we should be able to live our own life without asking our parents for permission and burdening them. That we should get a job and move elsewhere (even during university or for university). I don't have an issue personally (neither do my parents) on that part, but they believe that if only I'm going abroad for my studies it would be fine. And I know alot of you are going to say that that's not allowed for a girl either, okay I get it. But that's not the topic at hand right now. I don't know how to answer her. Like is it allowed to live independently? Does it have to include your parents permission? If the guys can do it, why can't the women? (I'm not saying this out of "EQUALITY FOR ALL", because I know why there can't be complete equality and it's ridiculous to believe so. It's more of a "why" the difference) Also, what if you come from an abusive household and leaving there is better for you to keep your sanity. Should the girl still stay? And no, no family member is willing to help, no community people, no marja. Just you. So what then? Just endure it, like they've endured it for the rest of their life, until marriage? (I'm so against the enduring part, the "have patience" part. I've seen so many women in my life suffer for no reason. Literally they could get out, but there's no support other than themselves. So I'm really hoping no one says that)
Hello friends,its Ali here,let me just start by saying that this all began three months back,when me and brother planned to go to a foreign country seeking for dream jobs, and pay that we won't get in our own country,we decided Malaysia,so we came to Malaysia two pass half months back,we had struggled for accommodation and lived in wooden room with all the bed bugs,nevertheless coming on tourist visa made our job search more difficult,i got the job in a trading company its a small family business of Indian Tamils who are settled in Malaysia,considering our financial circumstances i had to take up this job for sake but my bro ended up going back having no choice left,as my commitment with company am on job for more 45 days now and have no idea whats going around because my desk computer has no stock control software,my manager yells at me if i take this issue to him,company had provided the accommodation where already a worker from our warehouse is living, and am asked to share room with him or either sleep in the hall of quarters,i lost my appetite,my pay very less,plus my boss is deducting amount from the salary for the visa expenditures,i call my mom everyday and she ask me if everything is alright,when nothing is right,i can't pray properly here,like you all know we pray Namaz unfolding hands,i use to pray Namaz-e-Tahajut and Namaz-e-Imam-e-Zamana,Now the moment the get to know that am shia muslim they will start counting on me,Needless to say things are very difficult for me to compromise at work place,quarters and situation back their in India....i follow out tears and feel helpless to ask for the guidance of Imam as i can't pray among this people......what should i do now?.........sympathetic replies will cure my wounds....but suggestions will endure my future,thank you to all.
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