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Syed Sistani mentions how a husband can't refrain from having intimacy with his young wife for more than 4 months. I was wondering if there is a similar timeline for women where they can refrain from intimacy for x amount of days? Also, another question that I have is that what would be valid reasons for a wife to refuse intimacy from her husband without her refusal being counted as a sin? From what I understand (so far) is if a wife has any of the 3 reasons to refuse intimacy then she won't get any sins for refusing. But if a wife says that "she is simply not in the mood" then the wife will be committing a sinful act?

Salaam brothers and sisters my name's Habib and I have a question can i wear silver colored watch that has gold inside the mechanism or is it haram ?

Salaam all. A good friend of mine has a wife who confessed to having kissed a lesbian couple with passion which included lustful bodily contact as well as lustful gazes on each others' bodies. Of course he is devastated, but he was curious about what is the legal ruling on something like this, but didn't feel well enough to ask on a forum on his own so he asked me to look for some answers. Does this come under adultery? Yes or no? If yes, why and if no then why not? If no then what does this come under and legally what is the punishment (given the conditions are fulfilled such as for adultery which requires 4 confessions on separate occasions) Apart from that, although he didn't ask this, I wanted to ask so I can advise him: What should he do now? He is obviously depressed and frustrated with anger but also said he loved her, but feels very betrayed and broken. She confessed because she saw a bad dream reminding her of what she did so she woke up crying and later confessed to him about her actions. What should he do? Answers are welcome from both Shia brothers and sisters

I know the method of doing Istibra after relieving myself. It might sound gross but I'll describe it anyway. First after urinating, one pulls upwards thrice from the anus to the scrotum with the middle finger of the left hand. Then by placing the left forefinger on the top and the thumb below the penis, squeeze from the root to the tip. And then press the tip thrice. But here's the problem. The first part where we pull upwards thrice from anus to scrotum, it is hard for me to do somehow and as a result it has become an obsession and I end up taking more than half an hour in the washroom. Can I just skip this part and do the squeezing part??? I have OCD by the way.

In the tasleem we say Assalaamu Alaika Ayyuhan Nabiyyu Wa Rahmat Ullahi Wa Barkaat Hu, Assalaamu Alaina Wa Ala Ibaad Illahis Saalihiin, Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmat Ullahi Wa Barkaat, so are we allowed to add another Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmat Ullahi Wa Barkaat, pls provide proofs or fatwas with answer, jazakum Allah khair.

What do we say between sujood is it permessible to say rabi ghfirli? Pls provide evidence and proofs in reply, jazakum Allah.

Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) says in the Glorious Qur'an: [2:187] and eat and drink, until the white thread of dawn appears to you distinct from its black thread; then complete your fast Till the night appears. I like many others have always began my fast ten to fifteen minutes before the Fajir Adhan, however, in consideration of the above verse wouldn't the time for imsaak (refraining from eating/drinking) began at the twilight which is where I live starts at 6:13 whereas the Adhan is called at 5:26. In this case would it be safe to conclude that even after the Fajir Adhan by a couple minutes an individual could continue eating/drinking and if not what am I missing from what the Qur'an is saying. As it appears to be very clear, and the dawn is after the morning prayer, in regards to precaution wouldn't it be excessive to take it nearly an hour before its due time. I am not inquiring in hopes of sparing myself a couple of extra minutes, however, I seek to understand why many of us desist from eating/drinking at the time for the morning prayer where according to the verse above the prescribed time for imsaak is an hour or so after. Simply telling me to refer to my Marj3 without an explanation consistent with the Qur'an/Hadith is not something which interests me as I see that as blind faith or flawed reasoning

I've seen so many posts on insects and such in households but I'm wondering what are the laws and rulings on Muslims for house pests like insects (flies, rats, geckos, moths, spiders, cockroaches etc.)? should one kill them or just take them out of your home without harming them? And what about if they're outside of your home (not necessarily right around your house). This has been a problem for years now but what has been our commends on this matter?

I'm an 18 year old female, and in the future I might be living away from home for university and then maybe a job. One of my friends (also Shia) says that after a certain age of maturity we should be able to live our own life without asking our parents for permission and burdening them. That we should get a job and move elsewhere (even during university or for university). I don't have an issue personally (neither do my parents) on that part, but they believe that if only I'm going abroad for my studies it would be fine. And I know alot of you are going to say that that's not allowed for a girl either, okay I get it. But that's not the topic at hand right now. I don't know how to answer her. Like is it allowed to live independently? Does it have to include your parents permission? If the guys can do it, why can't the women? (I'm not saying this out of "EQUALITY FOR ALL", because I know why there can't be complete equality and it's ridiculous to believe so. It's more of a "why" the difference) Also, what if you come from an abusive household and leaving there is better for you to keep your sanity. Should the girl still stay? And no, no family member is willing to help, no community people, no marja. Just you. So what then? Just endure it, like they've endured it for the rest of their life, until marriage? (I'm so against the enduring part, the "have patience" part. I've seen so many women in my life suffer for no reason. Literally they could get out, but there's no support other than themselves. So I'm really hoping no one says that)

I know someone closely who practices Shi’a Islam. I am still seeking. He desires to leave the world and all his possessions and live in isolation (maybe with his wife only if he finds one). My perspective is that he would better serve the world in the world, creating community, fighting for justice, and giving back to the community. The idea of living alone (or with just his wife) away from everyone seems quite selfish when he has gifts to offer the world that could create more good in the world. Do you agree that giving back to community is better than living in isolation? Are there any verses of the Quran or Imam Ali’s teachings to support your view? In the Christian religion (which I was raised) it is generally known that you should give to your community and use the gifts you have to continue adding love to the world. I am hoping there is a similar view in Islam and some documentation to support it.

Asalamalekum, We hear that if a marja is expert in a particular field, one must follow them and that issue. But i have never heard of any such mujtahid. I think they all have to take same courses, in able to become a marja. Therefore, there is always a confusion on who is the most learned, because non of them are studying one field.

Hello I'd like to know if there are any laws concerning to travelling, I heard that the quran can't be carried from one place to another, if that is true, one should buy it in the place of destination? as muslims should relate mostly with muslims, maybe the place where a muslim go is another muslim home, and there will be a quran, thus there wouldn't be need of carry one. But what if a muslim go to a hotel? I read that women shouldn't travel alone too; but I want to know if there are other laws for travelling or if someone knows a web page that answer this properly. For example, what if my flight last 12 hours in a plane, how a muslim would pray? maybe in this case wouldn't pray at the specific times. Thank you if any can answer this.

Salaam Alaikum dear brothers and sisters, I am writing a post/topic today regarding employment, specifically within the United States (trying to narrow it down so I do not confuse other members). I am a relatively recent convert (2 years or), and I wear hijab. Now, I usually work during the summers and winters when I am on break from university; however, I wished to get a part time job during the school months so that I had a little financial cushion. I usually work at Macy's and this company has zero problem with wearing the hijab (usually the uniform is all black, but I can even wear a different hijab color if I desire), I truly love the company for this. But this post is not about this company. This is a rather specific scenario so I will try to cover this in as much depth and brevity as humanely possible. I didn't know which forum would be suitable so I just went for general. Before I converted, I used to work for Panera Bread for almost four years, and decided, since a local one was hiring I might as well give it a go (since I have experience overall and generally like the company). I recently had an interview, and everything went swell, with the manager planning my orientation. Near the end of my interview, however, I asked the manager if I would wear the visor (you have to wear a visor) over my scarf and she replied "I don't even know if you can wear the scarf." As you would imagine I became very quiet after hearing this. She told me she would speak with the general manager, whom would further ask the company on this matter. I went in for another interview (with the general manager, as the previous one made it apparent that I would be provided with the necessary information during this particular interview). The interview went great again, but I learned they are still asking the corporation if I can wear the hijab. Previously they discussed that it might conflict with Massachusetts health standards. This seems odd to me as the whole purpose of wearing the visor is to prevent hair from falling into the food; additionally, Panera contains no machinery that would risk me of becoming possibly strangled or caught. I wish to know if any one has any opinions on this matter/legal information. Recently the U.S. had a court case where a Muslim woman was prevented from working at Abercrombie (a clothing store) on account of her hijab conflicting with the so called "style" of the particular store. She won her case and the Supreme Court (highest courts of law) of the U.S. declared that one cannot discriminate on the basis of religious wear. The company seems to intend to wish to hire me, and they stated they will be calling me later in the week when they hear from the higher ups. My question is, can they even contemplate this? What reasons, if any, would they be allowed to say I cannot wear hijab. Here is also a copy of their employee manual, stating the dress code for the company. Note the particular bolded section: Dress Code: All associates working in Panera Bread locations are required to follow the below- outlined dress codes. Managers reserve the right to determine the appropriateness of any associates’ grooming or attire. Associate Shirts: Clean, pressed, solid colored (except black), collared, polo style, good repair, and tucked in. Sport logos/emblems, neon colors, flannel (plaids); sweaters or sweatshirts are not permitted. Catering Coordinators: Clean, pressed, Panera Bread issued colored button up, good repair, and tucked in. Sweaters or sweatshirts are not permitted. Baker Shirts: Clean, pressed, Panera Bread issued colored polo, good repair, and tucked in. Sweaters or sweatshirts are not permitted. Manager Shirts: Clean, pressed, Panera Bread issued colored button up style, good repair, and tucked in. Sweaters or sweatshirts are not permitted. Associates Aprons, Hats: & Name Tags: Provided at no cost to each associate. Aprons are to be left in Café’s and hats must fit properly and be worn with the logo facing the front. Name Tags must be worn at all times and must remain in the stores. Baker Hats: Provided at no cost to each baker. Hats must be worn at all times. Associate Slacks: Clean, pressed, good repair, khaki colored “Docker” style. Jeans, cargo pants, baggie pants, and shorts are not permitted. Slacks are to be worn with a plain black belt and not below the waist. Baker Slacks: Clean, pressed, good repair, khaki “Docker” style. Jeans, cargo pants, baggie pants, and shorts are not permitted. Slacks are to be worn with a belt and not below the waist. Catering Coordinator Slacks: Clean, pressed, good repair, khaki or black colored “Docker” style. Jeans, cargo pants, baggie pants, and shorts are not permitted. Slacks are to be worn with a belt and not below the waist. Manager Slacks: Clean, pressed, good repair, neutral colored (Black, khaki, gray, etc.) dress or “Docker” style slacks. Jeans, cargo pants, baggie pants, and shorts are not permitted. Slacks are to be worn with a belt and not below the waist. Shoes: Clean black closed-toe shoes, black sneakers or black loafers with a non-slip sole. Pumps, clogs, converse style, open-toe shoes, or sandals are not permitted. Nylons and/or socks must be worn at all times. Hair & Facial Hair: Hair must be neat, clean and appropriately maintained with no extreme styles, colors, and shaved/cut designs. - 16 - Females must pull back long hair and hair longer than the shoulder must be pulled back into a bun. Male employees must maintain a short haircut and the hair must not go below the top of the ear. Men are not permitted to have long hair regardless of intent to pull back. Facial hair/Goatees and Beards are not permitted and sideburns are not to extend below the bottom of the ear. Jewelry & Nail Polish: Women are permitted no more than one earring per ear. Earrings must be small posts. Men are not permitted to wear earrings. Both Men and Women: No more than one (1) ring in total and it must be solid. Bracelets, watches, and neck chains are not permitted. No visible tattoos and absolutely no other visible piercing jewelry are permitted-including tongue. Nail polish is permitted as long as it is neutral colored or clear and not chipped. Religious Exceptions: An employee is to be afforded a reasonable accommodation or exception to these rules if their religious beliefs necessitate adhering to certain standards. Do their general managers do not even read their own handbooks??? Obviously, I will not work at the company if they do not permit the hijab, but is this even legal?

Salaam alaikum brothers and sisters! I had a question regarding the reasoning behind women standing behind men in prayers (for both married couples and in congregations). I am currently conducting research regarding the Symbolism of Salat for my symbolism class in the university. I was wondering the reasoning behind this positioning. I know from a logical standpoint it makes complete sense (I would never want to do sujood in front of man) but I want to know what is the Islamic reasoning. If possible include hadiths or any other form of justification. My professor is interested in the reasoning so I would like some evidence to support this. I wasn't sure if there are jurisdiction regarding this or hadiths. Thank you! Salaam

(salam) I have a few questions pertaining to Jama'at Namaz. i) If there are only 2 people participating in Jama'at, where does the 2nd person stand in relation to the Imam? Please answer the following relating to each namaz specifically: ii) Which parts does the Imam recite aloud and which parts silently? iii) Which parts does the follower recite aloud and which parts silently? (wasalam)

Salaam Alaikum brothers and sisters, I have a relatively simple question (at least I believe so). My question regards the status of smoking hookah/shisha, and whether or not such act is haram/makrooh/permissible. If you have an answer, can you please provide any scholarly insight, jurisdiction, laws, explanations, etc. Thank you.

Salam 3aleykom Is music haram? I cannot understand why it is haram. After reading much about it, I am not convinced. here are my arguments on why music is not haram. 1. Nothing in the Quran says anything about music being haram. I am aware that people have translated "vain talk" into music, but that is not a strong translation at all. I don't thing God(swt) would leave such a matter ambiguous if it was haram. Fornication, alcohol, and gambling are clearly mentioned as being haram. I dont know what else is haram, that is not mentioned in the Quran, but I feel that if music was haram, God would have stated it clearly. 2.How many people have watched "the message" or the series "Prophet Yousef". Can we agree that they are positive? They both contain music in them. 3."Ghina is haram". and ghina means the prolonging of a voice in different pitches or notes. isn't that exactly the adan? 4.when it rains and a there is a steady beat of rain drops on your window sill or patio, and the wind blows through your pipes, is that not a form of music? and is that not a natural music? I will agree that some music is haram because of bad lyrics, but overall i'm not convinced a classical piano piece or drum beat is haram. please if you want to reply - do not use the argument "music is haram because he(anyone) said so", and not clarify on why or how he came to the that conclusion. I want to know the philosophy behind the decisions and not the people behind them. If you cannot follow this one rule, please refrain from replying.