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Salam. So I did istikhara on a personal matter. One bead was left. Thats a positive sign. But then came another thought that is the bead divider of tasbeeh or rosary be counted as a bead during istikhara?

Hello I am a Shia male Muslim and I have recently been talking to a Sunni female Muslim in the hopes of getting married. We have a strong connection and really like each other. We do not care about the different sects that we are in, instead we are happy that we are both Muslim and follow the 5 pillars. We talked about the differences and came to an understanding of how we will approach them. I told my parents about her and that she is Sunni so they wanted a Mualana to do an istikhara. I am not that familiar with istkhara, but I allowed my mom to proceed to make her happy. I said okay and it came out negative 4 times. I told my parents I would like to keep talking to her and this got them really upset not because she is Sunni, but because of the outcome from the istikhara. My mother has been sad and crying a lot, because she is afraid something bad would happen. I really like this girl and I'm really happy when I am with her, however I do not want to make my parents upset or not take the istikhara seriously. I'm just conflicted in where I found a good practicing Muslim girl that I see as a partner, but now I can’t be with her because of the istikhara. In my heart I feel that she is right for me and we would have a good future. Should I follow the istikhara and stop upsetting my mom? Am I being selfish? I don't want her to feel more stress, anxiety, and sadness if I decided to be with the girl. I care about my parents feelings and also the girl I want to be with. What should I do? End it or keep talking to her? I just don' want to hurt my parents or the girl.

Assalamu 3alikum, I am talking with this girl that I intend to marry but there are many complications preventing this. She is Asian and I am Arab but and so there is a culture difference between the families, but we get on really well. After research and asking many people we were still unsure and so decided to do an istikhara. I used this website : http://alkawthar.com/estekhara and the istikhara came out really good. The ayat said that you are on a straight path and although there will be many against you, you should continue with this good deed. My question was is choosing an ayah through a website a correct istikharah? Wasalam

Salam Alykum brothers and sisters, I apologize that this is a repeated topic, but my situation is a bit different and I seek your advice. About 10 months ago, my mother suggested to me her friend's daughter who lives in Canada (We live in New York, 8 hours away from them). I agreed. I met the girl and we sat down and discussed many things regarding marriage. I believe she's compatible with me. Her condition was that I move to Canada which I discussed with my parents and they accepted. We went for the proposal and they accepted. Now that we are discussing dates for engagement and stuff, both parents have had disagreements regarding big or small. It has turned toxic between them, mostly from my mother. She's bringing up the past that her friend didn't treat her right 10 years ago or she doesnt want me to move and stuff. Reasonable enough for me because we are only 4 people family and her family is 14 in total. Now she's doing istikhara... after 10 months... after the proposal. The girl's family is confused and they disagree with isthikhara in this case. According to my mother, it came out bad. I also disagree with istikhara in this case because I weighted the pros/cons and she's a nice girl. Also, I believe my mother should've done isthikhara before proposal .. 10 months ago. I dont believe istikhara was necessary in this case. We both(the girl) have got really attached to each other after 10 months of talking and stuff. Any advice, what should I do ? Can I go against istikhara with sadaqa? Any videos/hadiths to tell my mom that istikhara wasnt necessary here ? Thank you for reading my big problem. Appreciate your advice. May Allah bless you. JA.

Salam alaykum sisters and brothers and Ramadan Kareem! Yesterday I found out methods of Istikhara and how to perform it by doing tasbeeh (counting beads with a rosary). I performed the same night the same method given out by imam Al Mahdi (A.S) and the first time I got an answer telling me to do it (what is on my mind). I performed again (the same method) after and it instead said to not do it. I then a few minutes after performed another method given out by another imam (A.S) which I forgot whom it was and my answer came out to be to do it. And now a day later i performed istikhara a few times with the different methods by different imams and some of the answers were to not do it while others were to do it. I then performed the istikhara given out by prophet Muhammad (A.S) which you get an answer from by opening the Quran after following some other steps and then seeing which sentence you get. I don’t remember which sentence/verse I got but if I would translate it to an answer I would say the answer were to not do it or like to not do something without Allah allowing it. I’m now very confused, shall I do the thing in my mind or not. I don’t remember if I got “do it” most or “do not do it” most. But I think I got “do it” maybe one or two times more than to not do it. Please if anyone knows what you shall do (based on knowledges) can you please advise me? And please brothers and sisters avoiding telling me to not do it only to be on the safe zone because I really want to make my decision but of course seek Allah the almighty’s knowledge and permission first. Jazakhum Allah Khayr o3alaykum alsalam o rahmat Allah o barakato! Here is the link to where all the methods that I performed are: http://www.duas.org/istikhara.htm

Salam aleikum! I need advice here. Firstly I want to say sorry for writing maybe little bit wrong some words, english is not my native language. So here it goes. I am married alhamdulillah for 6 months now. My husband is mashAllah practising muslim. He fullfills his duties as husband fully (provides food, home, money and intimacy etc..) We dont have any children or pregnancy yet since we have been married only for about 6 months. So it is just the two of us living together. Both our families are faraway. For the last one month I have not been feeling happy with him. I even sometimes feel quilty for not feeling happy with him since he is practising muslim and provides me money and all that. But all this unhappiness of mine started about month ago. We had fight that time. Now its good time to say that i have been married before him one time. So our fight was about this that my husband found in my phone contacts my ex husbands phone number. I have not been in any contact with him or anything but I just had forgotten to remove his number from my phone. I told my husband that I just forgot to delete it. I really dont use phone so much to call anyone, I use it more for internet exploring and facebook. Very rarely I call or message anyone in “normal” phone number, I rather use facebook messenger. So thats why I forgot to delete ex husbands number. I told this to my husband but our fight only got bigger. Then I panicked. I really had panic attack and started to cry and hyperventilate. I couldnt breathe. My husband saw this and I told him I cant breath and I want to go in front of our door in our yard (where nobody can see or come) to calm and have some fresh air. My husband didnt let me go. He carried me to bedroom and pushed me to bed. I tried again to get up but he didnt let me. He sat on top of me and started to strangle me. All this time I was crying and hyperventilating and couldnt breath. I ended up holding Quran in my hands end swearing that I had nothing to do with my ex husband. Then I ran to toilet and locked the room. I just wanted to be alone.That night I didnt want to sleep with my husband in same bed. He went to sleep in salon and i slept in our bedroom. About two weeks after that I started to make istikhara about our marriage, should I divorce or what. I made it for two days. Then I stopped. Again about week after that I saw a dream. In that dream I got married to someone else. In dream I even met his family and we went to hajj with him as married couple. I even remember his full name in that dream. In reality i dont know anyone by that name, nor does my husband. I told my husband about that dream. He didnt say anything but that he also doesnt know anyone by that name. In dream I was so happy and full of joy. I was so sad to wake up from it and see that I was sleeping next to my (real current) husband. Could that dream be answer to my istikhara? I know that I am not happy with my husband at all. I am not over that event that we had with him when i had panic attack. After that I dont see my husband the same way anymore. Now I see him as really bad person and I hate to have intimacy with him. I dont like him to touch me but still I met him since its my duty as his wife to be availeble to him when he wants. I hate it all and I dont enjoy it. I sleep with him, i Cook and clean for him. I beautify myself for him. I am housewife for him. I even stopped working since he doesnt want me to work. All that kissing and sleeping with him is disgusting to me and I only do it because it is my duty. Now I had again few nights ago dream. In that dream I was escaping prison. Gould that mean anything? So please, advice me. What should I do? is that dream of mine answer to my istikhara to divorce my husband? I am always so scared that I fall pregnant for him because then it would be much harder to leave. I feel very bad and I even think my husband deserves a wife who really loves him, same way as he loves me. I just dont love him anymore. I really have trauma of our event and that changed everything I had towards him. I want to leave but it will be hard. I have talked about all this with him but he doesnt understand. He tells me that he will never give me divorce, even if I just left. Everytime i try to talk about this my trauma he just tries to quite me down by kissing me and holding me. He doesnt understand that by doing this i only feel more bad and want to run far from him. I need help and advice. I so badly want to leave but I am scared of Allah and my husband to do that. I am really desperate here.

Assalam o Alaikum, I am deeply in love with a guy I met exactly one year ago. After a few months of talking to him we decided we wanted to get married. He sent his mother over to my house, it went well. His mother then said that she is just waiting for his dad (he lives abroad) to come back and she will then take the talk further. When his dad came they invited us over to their place. My parents were very reluctant as they somehow didn’t like his family. So they thought doing an istakhara would be the right thing to do. They did it through a Molana sahab. And it came out negative. What should I do now? I am deeply in love with him and getting over it seems impossible. My parents have told me to move on as it is Allah’s verdict. What should I do? The guy’s parents are still willing to marry us.

Salam Alaykum to all, I have recently graduated from uni with a Bachelors of Engineering. I've applied for a Masters and it is a specialisation on a subject I am very keen on. It has been for months that I have been considering my options and I can't come to a decision. I'm not sure if my future would be beter with the Masters I choose. I did two istikhara's with an alim. The first one was for the Masters and my niyyah was if I would have a good future and good job opportunities with this degree. The result came out as 'good'. Now in the second isitkhara, I had a similar niyyah and the answer was 'very good'. I've discussed this with the alim and he explained to me that maybe doing a Masters will have good benefits albeit with some difficulties on the way to achieving the degree. Analysing the second istikhara, he said that the possibility exists that I would find a job very quick and would also have a good future with it. For doing the Masters I have to borrow an additional loan from the government of about 10000 pounds in addition to a similar amount of savings. If doing the Masters, my debt will increase to nearly 50000 pounds. Ofcourse with a Masters I could end up with a much better pay. I am really confused as what to decide in this situation. I hope someone can help me in this tricky decision.

We knew each other since long time and find it compatible for each other, Few months back I told this to my parents and they did a background check and found it alright. We perform Istikhara after this which came "Bad" and we have decided to close the discussion. I have also read that Istikhara is taken in certain condition and many Ullema ask to use it very carefully. One view from ayatullah-khomeini on Istikhara on this available in below link: https://www.al-islam.org/istikhara-seeking-the-best-from-Allah-muhammad-baqir-haideri/section-8-views-maraja-taqlid-and "Or; Who answers the distressed one when he calls upon Him and removes the evil?1However, there are examples that people who are against Istikhara mention, such as the incident in which there was a girl who liked a young boy and in all ways, were compatible with each other, but after talking with one another, the Istikhara was performed and it came out 'bad' and the discussion ended there. Another example is about a person who wanted to purchase a house. Everything was fine and in all ways, the house was ideal ‑ he performed an Istikhara and it came out bad, so he decided not to purchase the house.It is clear that the reply to them and thousands of people like these regarding the Istikhara (and the proper use of it), is that in instances such as these, only one who has no intelligence, who is defiant, and who does not have a correct understanding of the Istikhara would perform it in these instances. " Looking for your kind guidance/Masferah if this is the right decision. Thank you.

If istikhara comes bad for marriage but the person still wants to marry. Can they sacrifice sheep as sadaqah? Or is there any other way? Guys please help me on this with reference. Thanks

Hi, my questions are the following: 1) do you know any shia website, or book, that explains Quran verse by verse (in English); 2) is it acceptable, for someone who is not Arab, to perform Istikhara by using a translated version of the Holy Book? Thanks to you all.

salam aleikum beloved brothers and sisters... i have a question. i made istikhara where my niya was if i should keep having sabr and wait for a guy when he is ready for marriage. right now he isn't ready neither with me or any girl. he stopped talking/writing to me, so now we no longer have contact with each other (he doesn't respond to my texts). he wants to finish college before he thinks about marriage. i made istikhara by using imam ali (as) method as in this one: you tube.com/watch?v=JG-r4sgxrVs (remove the space between u and t to watch the video). I got ف (Allah reunites him after separation). so what does that mean? is it positive? to me it sounds positive that i think it means that i will be with him after the "break" or something like that. i hope for some answers. shukran for your time.

Salam My friend said that he would do dua istikhara on wether sunni or shia islam is right. Is his dua going to have the right answer. If yes, then doesnt that prove once and for all which sect of Islam is on Haqq

Salaam brothers and sisters. Me and my family are in a dire situation and we need help. I'm new on this site so I don't know if I'm allowed to say this. But we need to make an urgunt istikhara. Does anyone have any person who can help us out? Are they reliable? I just hope I'm allowed to post this on here. Our future is on the line and we don't know what to do next. Thank you and the moderators if this is allowed to be posted and to anyone who can help us.

salaam alaikum, as the title says , what is best time to make Istikhara du'a ??? i going through an issue & i cannot solve on my own i need Allah's (s.w.t.) guidance to tell me what to do. but i once heard someone say there are best times throughout the day or week to make Istikhara (like Friday), what else is there ?? what about during the day ??? i need to know as soon as possible , so if someone know please reply. thank u all & ws

Salaam, I am needing to undertake Istikhara and went to duas.org to look up the proper method but have a question that needs clarified. http://www.duas.org/istikhara.htm Above is the link I am talking about. In many of the methods it mentions moving the tasbeeh beads two at a time, but to the dividing beads count? Or should they just be skipped. Any other insight that can be given overall about Istikhara would also be welcome.

I urgently require someone to do for me ISTIKHARA .. CAn someone help me plz ? I know I can do it personally, but due to some reasons...am not comfortable to do it myself ! Can plz someone help me ? Its just a 5mins work.. Jazakallah and may Allah bless you if u can help me !

Hello brothers and sisters. I just purchased this iphone application from apple app store named istikhara with the link below https://itunes.apple.com/us/app/istikhara/id579011865?ls=1&mt=8 It performs an istikhara with iphone. I believe in Istikhara but I wanted to know that is it right to do and istikhara with and iphone? Thanks

assalam u alaikum Maira sawal ye hai k kya tasbeeh say faalnama nikalna theek hai? main nay logon ko daikha hai k wo tasbeeh Bibi Fatima zahra ko uper say pakar ker dua parh k bibi say sawal poochtay hain k kya aisa ho ga ya nahi?? ager to tasbeeh daain-baain jhoolna shuru ho jae to jawab 'nahi' tasawwur kiya jaata hai.. ager aagay peechay jhoolna shuru ho jae to 'haan]' hota hai.. kya is ka kisi aaimma a.s ya kisi puranay mustanad waaqiyay main ziker aaya hai?? kya aisee koi cheese hotee b hai?? ager hotee hai to humaray aaimma ka is baray main kya hukum hai??? jawab k liyay bahut shuker guzaar honga! shukriya

Al salamo 3alaykom, I was engaged to a guy for about 2 years and we were supposed to get married really soon. sUddenly I dont know what happened to him he stopped answering me. its been a few months no sign of him other than him ignoring my msgs. I want an istikhara to know if I should keep waiting or if Allah thinks its best that I forget him? and also what should I do and whats happening. Thank you

Assalamu alaikum brothers and sisters, I really need to know how istikhara is performed as I need an answer from Allah as soon as possible. How exactly is it performed? What are the best times to perform istikhara? How long does it usually take for an answer? What duas and prayers are used whilst praying istikhara? If I could find out the easiest way of performing this prayer it would be much appreciated, also I would like to know how the shia perform this. Thank you.

Salaam, I would like some advice on the relationship between dream interpretation and Istikhara prayers. I want to ask about marriage proposals and Istikhara. My friend was offered a marriage proposal last year and she and her mom were doing Istikhara prayers almost every week. At first she didn't like this man and she was against the idea of marrying him. When she first started doing Istikhara she had bad dreams and was very uncertain about the whole matter. Then she started to become close to this man and to know more and more about him and slowly she realised that she was becoming to grow fond of him. He had told her that he was becoming fond of her too and enjoying getting close to her. During this time she was still doing Istikhara and then started having very very good dreams about her marriage with him. Dreams that are interpreted to mean a union of two people. But unfortunately, the marriage proposal didn't work out between them because of him, he left her all of a sudden with no valid explanation. So is there a connection between dreams and Istikhara?? When we do Istikhara and have dreams, is Allah speaking through them to us? Or dreams so not count when we do Istikhara?? If my friend was having good dreams about her matter with this man, why did something tragic happen all of a sudden? I want to know because now I feel that I lost all hope in doing Istikhara prayers and I dont feel they will really lead me in the right path anymore. Are dreams really part of our Istikhara, or just our conscious thinking about what's going on in our lives???