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Assalamualaikum. Ya Ali (عليه السلام) Madad. I hope this message finds you well. I would like to share a deeply personal experience that I have undergone, seeking clarity and guidance from an Islamic perspective. About five years ago, I had the pleasure of meeting a remarkable girl online. She is a zakira, devoted to reciting majalis throughout the year. We developed a strong connection over time, nurturing our relationship despite the physical distance between us. We've met sometimes tho. Unfortunately, our journey together took an unexpected turn when faced with a challenging situation. Before delving into this, allow me to provide some context. I have an elder sister who remains unmarried. The girl I was in love with and I aspired to marry one another. However, I held the belief that my sister's marriage should take precedence, delaying our own plans until she found a suitable partner. Despite our sincere intentions, we struggled to find a suitable match for my sister, leading to a prolonged wait. As time went on, the girl I cared for started receiving marriage proposals from other suitors. She expressed her concern to me, emphasizing the urgency of addressing our own relationship's future. She insisted that I approach my family about our desire to marry, or she would have no choice but to consider other proposals. Taking her words to heart, I initiated a conversation with my mother about our intentions. It is important to note that my father had passed away a few years prior, leaving me with the responsibility of communicating our intentions to my mother alone. To my dismay, my mother's initial response was one of rejection and unwarranted criticism against the girl's character. This reaction deeply pained me. This was the first instance I had witnessed such behavior from my mother, as she had always been kind and understanding. I found it difficult to reconcile the fact that the person I held in high regard could harbor such prejudice against someone I deeply loved. I embarked on a mission to convince my mother, invoking the significance of compassion and fairness emphasized in Islamic teachings. I reminded her that hasty judgments and character defamation were strictly prohibited, especially without sufficient knowledge about the person in question. I beseeched my mother to consider the qualities of the girl I loved, and to view our relationship with an open heart. I implored her to evaluate the situation fairly, placing trust in the values she had instilled in me over the years. The ensuing weeks were challenging as I balanced my deep affection for the girl I loved and my commitment to respect and honor my mother's wishes. Eventually, the emotional strain led to a point where my mother urged me to leave the house, coupled with the threat of being disinherited. In that moment of despair, I confided in my sister, who assured me that she would manage the situation and find a solution. Trusting her, I shared the girl's contact details with my sister, who took the initiative to speak with her father. Tragically, my sister's actions were contrary to what I had hoped for. She approached the girl's father and persuaded him to distance his daughter from me. This revelation shattered me completely, leaving me in a state of emotional turmoil. I felt utterly isolated, with thoughts of suicide clouding my mind as I believed I had lost everything dear to me. In the aftermath of these events, I found myself grappling with overwhelming emotions and a deep sense of loss. The girl I had envisioned a future with was now united with another, my relationship with my mother and sister had suffered irreparable damage, and the trust I once held for my loved ones was shattered. For the past two years, I have tried to mend the broken ties with my mother and sister. While some semblance of normalcy has returned to our interactions, it is undeniable that the dynamics have forever changed. Their actions have left scars that continue to affect our relationship, leaving me feeling conflicted about the love and respect I once held for them. Their insistence that I seek forgiveness for a transgression I fail to comprehend only deepens my internal struggle. As I reflect on my journey, one question remains at the forefront of my mind: What guidance does Islam provide for individuals facing such intricate and emotionally charged situations? I yearn for clarity on how to navigate this turmoil in a way that aligns with my faith. My earnest aspiration is to eventually establish financial stability, enabling me to make the difficult choice of parting ways with my family and seeking a life of my own. I am genuinely appreciative of any insights or wisdom you might be able to offer, grounded in Islamic teachings and values. Thank you for taking the time to read my story and for considering my plea for guidance.
Hi brothers and sisters Salam . I need help to choose how I should react to this. I go to a mostly Muslim school and I'm generally peaceful but this kid in my class whose also a Muslim brethen, always annoys me and does it on purpose, he spits on me and my stuff and I don't do anything back I just go and wash my stuff and my hair. He also lies to try and get me trouble, he's always lying to the teachers to get me trouble. Also mocks me and makes fun of me. Also sometimes puts a napkin in his nose to get boogers on it then he puts it on me. Once I was asking my friend for a pencil and he came to spit on me, and my teacher yelled at me for trying to avoid his spit and he doesn't get in trouble for such things only I get yelled at. He always asks me to forgive him and if I don't he tries to spit on me. I try ignoring him as much as I can but he always tries to do something to me. He says wallah he won't do it again but an hour later he breaks his wallah, he's done this many times. But one day I was soooo fed up he spit on my binder and got it all wet and nasty, so I took everything he had and emptied it onto the floor and he did the same to my binder after so then I cursed at him, i was really angry and he asked me for forgiveness while mocking me at the same time , but I forgave and I feel I will get to the point where he angers me so much I will punch him in the face. But I know he's going to continue to disrespect and dishonor me, it's been going on for 3 months. I want to know how to approach this situation without anyone getting degraded and me not getting spit on and make fun of? How do I make him stop even though I tell him a Muslim shouldn't act like this?
Salaam, I need dua. My grandfather (a christian) has been hurting for years. He has RA, pinched nerves, and a twisted spine, He hurts so badly and we found a new doctor who may be able to help. Pray for him, pray that his pain goes away and that his new doctor soon can heal him permanately.
I am a huge advocate for Palestine. I have family from there. I am Shia. This is a problem apparently. I got publicly called out today, the first day of Eid, on all days...and was personally blamed, me, and all Shia, as the #1 reason why the Ummah will never come back. Yes that's right. We, WE ARE TO BLAME, for the entire whole of the Muslim world not being united. I .... I am speechless. But I will not abandon Ahlul Bayt. :)
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