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Assalamallikum, My question is from the 23rd Sura. Ayat 23:57 the word khashiyati which has the tri-literal root kha shin ya and means "fear". Ayat 23:60 the word wajilatun which has the tri-literal root waw jim lam and means "fear". Question: What is the difference in these two synonymice words; and what do they reveal about fear? Shukran @Cooland other knowledgeable bros.

In the past couple of days I have decided to become closer to Allah and went back to praying and making dua, and doing research about Islam. But honestly I don’t know why this has just made me more miserable and scared. I feel like im doomed in hell forever, im so scared of sinning and making mistakes that I sometimes wish I can die as fast as possible so I avoid drifting from the right path. I still don’t know much about Islam cause I spent al my life avoiding it cause I knew the more I learnt the more I will havw fear grow in my heart instead of iman and happiness One of the main things im struggling with is not understanding why certain things are haram and have big punishments to them, for example I can’t seem to understand why listening to music will cause someone to suffer in hell for eternity?? people say it makes people not remember Allah but can’t that be said about other things like reading,watching movies,hanging out with friends, doing sports?? as long as im not harming myself or anyone around me and im still praying,fasting,reading Qur'an and remembering Allah then why would Allah who is most merciful cause me such severe punishment. Im just so scared of being a bad Muslim and ending up in hell, im even scared of having kids in the future because im scared I might accidentally lead them on the wrong path. please help me get over this anxiety, its causing me to just cry and pity myself instead of studying and helping my parents and hanging out with my friends

Salam, The famous Islamic rule, so often repeated on ShiaChat is that "if there is fear of falling into sin, it becomes obligatory to get married". Well, I'm already married...but nevertheless I find this law vague and unclear. How do you define "fear" in this law? How do you really know whether you have fear of falling into sin or not? Does one need to have a guarantee of sexual infallibility to make sure that marriage is not obligatory on him? Can marriage become obligatory instantaneously? For example, if a young unmarried person wants to go the supermarket, but he has fear that he wont be able to lower his gaze, does it become wajib on him to get married immediately- before he goes to the market? That would be highly impracticable. But if this is not how it is meant to be, then how does one clearly define what "fear" makes marriage wajib...and when it does become wajib, what time period is allowed to fulfil this wajib act?

Asalamalekum, I am having anxieties that someone will harm my wife. If she goes out of the house wearing hijab, because of the current political situation. I want my wife to do proper hijab, but at the same time i fear for her safety. I read all the time muslims specially "womans" who wear hijabs being attacked and discriminated in America. What should i do in this situation? do you feel the same way about your loved ones, when they go out wearing hijab? W.salam

So recently I'm not being able to sleep cause I had 3 rough past years with my conversion, had to pass through a lot, work and education altogether. I started having 2 weeks ago some very slight anxiety attacks at night that were keeping me from sleep. My heart starts bumping fast as soon as I'm falling asleep and my mind wakes up all of a sudden. My heart is fine now I was able to control it, but i caught a very bad habit along the way, and a very bad sleeping pattern. This was really draining. Until my friend who's an expert in psychology and a medical analyst told me that i should face my fears so i can by pass this problem and start sleeping like before. I had two fears a minor claustrophobia which i got rid of when i entered a really tight tunnel that leads to a cave 2 years ago and now i still have this height issue which scares me. I reserved today at 6 pm to go and do it but im really Freaking Out. Few thoughts that I'm thinking of to get ready and do it (because i really wanna start sleeping at night and fast Ramadan insha'Allah) is that I'm a shia of Ali(as), and that we're the companions of Imam al mahdi! He's our protector and guider. If i will have such ireasonable fear then what do i worth really. And of course that Allah(swt) is protecting me and that fear is illogical produced by our own mind. I really need all the motivation that i can get!

Salam guys !!! I hope you all are fine and enjoying your life very well. Thanks to Allah almighty who gave me a very healthy life but I can't enjoy my life like you guys. I am 17 years old and the previous years of my life were passed very well but now 4 months ago I didn't even enjoyed a single moment of my life and the reason is Fear which has become very strong and making my life like hell and I have the fear of getting diseases, injuries and brain damage or similar to these things. I don't scared of death but I fear slowly or painful death which caused by diseases. I hope you guys will understand me. This causes anxiety which makes my day hell I don't know what I do ??? My father is searching for a phsycotherapist but I don't think he will help me because I am loosing my hope even I don't enjoy my favourite things I am loosing my dreams even it doesn't even let me study my exams are ahead I don't know for how long I have to live like this or I don't know will I ever be free from this or not ? I am not getting answers of my prayers by Allah and I am not feeling satisfied even I regularly offer prayers and I am feeling like a misguided one because I am loosing my trust on Allah which I don't want my parents are also worried because I m the only child even I also give the sake of ahlulbayt a.s at the end of my prayer and recite durood but nothing is working my mom is saying me that I should visit roza-e-Imam Hussain a.s and you will be fine completely ? This is an only hope for me but still there is a fear my fear was started when I got a hit on the back of my head and there was no blood came out and people say that it's not good if blood doesn't comes out it makes me fear that It will kill me or there is something happened in my head or brain thank god I didn't faced any bad thing but lower eyesight and constant worries and Its look like that this fear will never go away even it's getting stronger and somedays I don't even sleep properly. Whenever I listen something about brain my fear get triggered and makes me panic I can't see my future I have lot of goals but...... I don't wana loose my hope and trust on Allah and ahlulbayt but I am not getting any answer or relief help me guys ?? ( ignore grammar mistakes)

Salam all, I just wanted to have some insight from an Islamic and social perspective on self confidence and arrogance. Of course, it is imaan to have confidence in Allah. However, confidence in my self has ALWAYS been an issue in everything! It is concerning! anyhow, I met someone with alot of experience in the social services field. I asked her to "read" me to see what she finds. She said self-doubt, self esteem issues and you want to be successful but there is something stopping you. My whole life, no one understood me like that. She was a Muslim aswell, I feel that Allah helped me through her. Anyhow,I lack so much confidence, I realised what the cause was. I am scared of being arrogant... Is there a thin line between the two? How can it be distinguished? please help! It will be much appreciated!

Salams, Everyone. Hey guys, how have you all been? So, it's been two weeks since I became Shia(I was a Naqshbandi Sunni before), and boy has it been spiritually rewarding. Today, however, I had to resort to something that I had hoped to avoid. Nevertheless, it has helped me understand the troubles faced by the Shia communities elsewhere. If you've had similar taqiyyah experiences, please share them. I belong to the elite of Bangladesh, and therefore have rarely experienced real fear. I attend Jum'a at the local mosque--which as you might've guessed is Sunni--and prayed nafila of dhur while others prayed salat'al jum'a. Now, I already knew that praying according to the Jafari method was going to draw attention, but I didn't think much of it. I used to pray like the malikis before, and people never bugged me at all. Today, however was different. After I finished Dhuhur-'Asr--before I even had time to breathe--an entire herd of madrassah students in their twenties surrounded me. This alone scared me, for indeed, attracting an alim's attention was akin to being called a heretic--or even worse in the Shia's case, a kafir. These young men unleashed a barrage of questions in my direction. My initial response ,of course, was to simply identify myself as a maliki. That wasn't enough for them. They went on to ask me the intricacies of Maliki Fiqh. It was a bit difficult making up genuine lies on the spot, especially lying about why "Malikis" prostrate on a small piece of wood( i don't have a mohr). Throughout the exchange, however, I was genuinely afraid. All it would take for them to know I'm a rafidha, was to spot a chink in my armor of lies. I knew about the financial background of these madrassah students(it's a sorrowful tale for the most part) and have witnessed for myself that they can resort to violent zealotry to feel good about themselves. Mentally, I kept asking Alllah(swt) to grant me Imam Ali's courage. Thankfully, they believed me and in turn gave me an entire lecture on the Hanafi fiqh. After I mentally heaved a huge sigh of relief, I decided to milk a little a information out of them. Plastering a dumb expression on my face, I asked them about this Masjid's attitude towards Sufism, Wahabism and the Deobandi school I'd heard so much about. They took a midway stance between sufism and wahabism, saying that there have been genuine saints(haqqani pirs) but most of them are charlatans. They even went on to say that Muhammad ibn Abdul Wahhab wasn't too bad of a person(subhanAllah!). They promptly informed me that this masjid( which is also an Islamic research centre) was Deobandi. Images of the Taliban flashed through my mind. We went on to talk about Bissho Iztema--the second largest congregation of Muslims in the world(after Hajj)--which takes place twice every year in Bangladesh. I tactfully asked if the Shia attend it. One of them sniffed and said, "Naaaaaaaa, Shia ra toh Kafir!" which translates to "Noooooooo waaaaay, those Shias are kafirs!". I giggled mentally and soon realized that this masjid was a breeding ground for sunni extremism. They also believed that all Shias share the same belief as the Ghorabiyyah(that Jibreel made a mistake). As the conversation neared its end, one of them grew attached to me. He insisted on giving me an entire tour of the Madrassah(it's a pretty big place) and I complied. He asked me to have lunch with him, but I politely refused. This man, had he known my true aqeeda, would have unleashed a mob of zealots on me. Of that, I have no doubt. Anyways, practicing taqiyyah for the first time actually allowed me to see the wisdom behind Imam Jafar as-Sadiq's(a.s) statement: Taqiyyah is 9/10 of the religion. I also acquired useful information about the masjid and its alims. When I told my mum about this incident, she nearly had a fit. Again she mocked me for leaving sunnism, and asked me to start praying like hanafis again. I've given up on my parents entirely--they want to follow the fatwas of Lady Fatima Zahra's(a.s.) killer, they're free to do so. I only wish to serve my Imams. For now, I'll bare the brunt of their insults and mockery. Please pray so that I have the strength to go through social hardships that are part-and-parcel of being Shia. Also, what should i do if I fear physical harassment on Jum'a day, ie if I pray like a Jafari? And am I obligated to obey my parents regarding something that is OK in sunni law but is prohibited by the scholars of the School of Ahlul Bayt? If I have offended anyone, I apologize. That was not my intention. If you've ever been through something similar, please share them here. la fata illa 'Ali wa la saif illa Dhulfiqar.

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bismilah (salam) after a chat session in the chatroom today it became clear to me that one way to help my fellow brothers and sisters in faith would be to address the issue of fear. we were discussing the topic of Jinn, and many people got scared and left. we were also talking a bit about magic as well. i would like to stress that fearing any other than Allah is haram we have a surah about jinn in the quran so it should not get anybody scared to talk about them humans are potentially superior to jinn, proved by iblis who was ordered to prostrate to our grandfather our purpose in life is identical to that of the jinn: And I (Allah) created not the jinn and mankind except that they should worship Me (Alone). 51:56 the last surah in the quran is "Of jinn and men." 114:6 there are good jinn and bad jinn, just as there are good humans and bad humans. the aim of the bad jinn such as iblis is to prove that we are worse than him, and when we fear them, they win. they win because it shows that we do not fear Allah, but His creatures. so if for any reason this post helps to overcome fears that are haram, then i will be grateful to Allah. duas to you all, اللَّهُمَّ صَلِّ عَلَى مُحَمَّدٍ وآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ وعَجِّلْ فَرَجَهُمْ (wasalam)