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Does race,nationality or culture play an im portant role in finding a spouse?

Salam Alaikom! Marhaba! Hej på er! Hi all! I've encountered some nationality problems! I'm fine with being mixed but what I'm not fine with is how people react because of it. Here are few examples:: 2 months ago I went to an arabic speaking husseiniye close to my home and alhamdollilah was met with much respect. Although I told people there I was mixed but they refused to believe me. They said (la inti mo 3ajmiyeh!!!! Stop saying that! You speak Arabic perfectly, you look like us, you're 100% Arab and you should be proud of your origin... come here more often....) Well, I thought I should try another husseiniye! Because I like meeting people from all around the world. This time I went to a Farsi/Persian speaking one, and to my surprise they told me exactly the same thing. (Baba to ke Irani hasti! Arabaro vel kon, hamishe beya inja.... Hamvatane aziz) After those events I started 3 weeks practice in the largest hospital in my town and most patients (muslim and non-muslim) kept asking me the same question.... Dr, where are u originally from? Even my mentor said (on the 1st day):: When I read your name I thought this is another foreign doctor who can't speak Swedish well! But to my surprise you speak it fluently... next time don't highlight in your CV that you're a mix. If you want to become successful, talk only in Swedish and no other language..... you're after all a swede who happened to have a multi-national background. But honestly, why is it so important where I'm originally from? I don't feel like I belong to a certain nationality. All that really matters for me is that I'm a good Muslim and I respect people from all different nationalities, racial backgrounds, religions. Why don't they approve when I say I'm proud about being mixed.