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I feel very heartbroken often when traditionally I've been told several times that men are greater than women in Islam just because they are PROVIDERS or BREADWINNERS. I understand that men work exceptionally hard to provide for the family & I truly respect that & that they are physically stronger than women but just because their position is questionable in Islam. she is a grown woman but can't leave the house without the permission of her husband (other than in exceptional cases), there is no discussion about sexual consent in marriage just that she has to sexually please her husband, women have to wear veil YET men can take off their shirt for matam, men can HIT women according to one ayah in Quran yet women can't hit them BACK, heritage is not equally distributed cause of brothers, men can marry non-Muslim women & women can't, men are not obligated to fulfill his duties if wife persists in sexual activities but women ARE. I am extremely disappointed due to these ~MiNoR~ things that make me feel like it's hidden patriarchy in Islam which is unjust. It's impacting my relationship with Allah. mentors I need your guidance because I don't want to ruin my relationship with Allah. jazakallah

Fill this form I have to conduct a psychology research for my final exams. I need Orthodox religious people who follow traditional roles to fill up this form. It only takes about 5- 10 minutes at most. Be honest and answer the test according to how you really behave and what you believe in. Your identity isn't recorded so you can be sure nobody knows what you have answered. it is confidential. Thanks.

Firstly , i want to discuss something , that many people are abusing. I hear people saying things like 1- a man doesn't need consent to Marry a second wife (temporary or permanently) 2- a man can pressurise his wife/force her to have intercourse with him I just want to point out that just because there are some females out there wanting a sisterly wife , allowing a polygamous marriage to occur , not all do. And this can creat UNBELIEVABLE a fitna. If you force a female to accept that sort of marriage, jealousy & hate is bound to take place. You may selfishly say that jealousy and envy is HARRAM, but what is more harram than being the culprit of that jealousy? It's haram to make your wife jealous. It's painful for us females. In the Quran it says you may marry 4, but you have to treat them equally. However you won't even if you tried. Now what does that show? A man does have the ability to create equality financially amongst two wives , but never share that fair love. That's what the Quran is referring to. It's crazy how some people can be so oppressive to women. We cook . Clean. Our physical appearance starts to diminish , and you think that you can go away & get another wife , like we're some light bulbs that you replace when we wane This isn't justicious . It's very oppressive. What person wants to live this life . How can a person go & marry a second with a stupid intention of being fair, when he wasn't even fair to his first wife by not asking her for consent ?! & another thing. How can someone go and think that it's okay for him to rape his wife ! His wife ! We are taught to live peacefully & securely by wearing hijab . But then you turn around once you're married to a female & pressurise her or force her to have sex with you. I can't emphasise on how rape can traumatise ones life . One's psychology. If the penalty of raping a random girl is death, how can marital rape ever be justified? May Allah protect you women & men. That is all I have to say. I am disgusted by this. We are to disunited and it's so easy to become victims . I hear clerics TRYING to justify that sort of behaviour by saying , a man goes out for months to fight for his country, well it's sad because the females in that country are being mentally/verbally & physically abused. Imam Jafar Al Sadiq says- do not cheat the one's that trust you. Just because men are maintainers of women it doesn't mean you're the boss and were youre slave. It just means you're that physically built figure that can protect us and provide for us. Nothing more, nothing less. I just want you to think about that a really. Contemplate about the females that you've hurt with your spiteful words or actions. Why would you want to hurt the one who carried you or your child for 9 months, where heaven lies under feet? Why would you want to hurt the one that opened the doors of heaven for your father or her father? I am really ashamed of this website , & inshallah I'll be leaving it. I can't believe rape culture still exists . We don't need sources to validate our rights when we see hijab symbolising our freedom & enables credibility... It's crazy. I don't want to be a part of any culture, the arab or whatever there is . - I have so much to say, but it just chokes me up , as I totally give up .

Dear Thinkers - in less than 300 words. (verses not included) A human being is a product of his/her genetics and environment. A human being however has little to no input on either of these factors upon birth. One may ask: where is the justice in this, for the majority of humans are born to non Muslim parents, in non Muslim environments. Why then are there some who are "Chosen" to be born into Muslim families. A Muslim may observe that he has been given a huge advantage with his birth into a Muslim family when compared to a person born to a non Muslim family. This notion however is a superficial understanding of the truth, the following is an attempt to delineate what may be a deeper truth. A universal notion holds that each person is accountable based on the knowledge that he/she is given (think mentally ill in Islam, think child in Islam, think Job position etc). For those of us that have been born into a Muslim family, take a pause and consider this: Is it not possible that we are to be held by Allah to a higher degree of accountability when compared to non Muslims. For if he has facilitated for a path so easy to him via our birth to a Muslim family and our environment (that of Islam), then this may in fact be a double edged sword as we are held to a higher level of accountability. A different mindset must take hold in that Muslim- that is, that those who are born to an Islamic family must ultimately hold themselves to a higher global standard in all aspects of their lives, be it spiritual, economic or social. 2 relevant verses that apply to this topic: Verse 33:30 - O wives of the Prophet, whoever of you should commit a clear immorality - for her the punishment would be doubled two fold, and ever is that, for Allah , easy. Verse 7:43- and they will say: "All the praises and thanks be to Allah, Who has guided us to this, and never could we have found guidance, were it not that Allah had guided us! Indeed, the Messengers of our Lord came with the truth. والسلام عليكم جميعاً ورحمت الله و بركاته

Hi if anyone has anymore info on this topic, share it puhleazzzzz http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=anJ9651KwwE Women's Liberation through Islam Today people think that women are liberated in the West and that the women's liberation movement began in the 20th century. Actually, the women's liberation movement was not begun by women but was revealed by God to a man in the seventh century by the name of Muhammad (peace be upon him), who is known as the last Prophet of Islam. The Qur'an and the Traditions of the Prophet (Hadith or Sunnah) are the sources from which every Muslim woman derives her rights and duties. The complete list: http://al-shia.org/html/eng/page.php?id=633&page=1

I really admire this women. She speaks out with courage and intelligence, there isn't one thing she said wrong. Her attitude towards reform is correct and it really needs implementation. She even advocates the right for non-muslims to enter mekkah, the right for other places of worship to be built in cities, other than that of Mekkah and Medina, and that the sheikhs of the haram mosque shouldn't only have to be from the hanbali sect, but they should have sheikhs from all sects of Islam (including Shia) and there should be sheikhs from different nationalities, not only Saudis. Amazing Lady. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5gBhh2AyxRI