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Assalam-o-Alaikum! I hope you people are in the best of your health and emaan. there is one thing regarding which I need an advice of my fellow brothers and sisters for which I think I lack the experience. I am a 19 yr old girl from Pakistan. during my salat, I'm used to praying that oh Allah! let me be of some help to your Makhlooq. a few days back I've started tutoring 2 kids because I needed money. I think that this is my prayer getting accepted because the kids are really in a miserable situation and need someone's help/counselling. they have a physically abusing father who gets irked at the smallest things and beats the kids. their mother is also in a great misery a) because of this kind of a husband b) a mentally challenged child (they're 3 in total, the one coming to me are fine). so, she understandably is not in a mood to pamper the children or make them feel loved. the children are really bad at studies, they suck at maths. the girl is a sixth grader and the boy is in fourth grade. they are not rude or misbehave with me rather very sweet, the girl even brought me bangles as a gift. but, the boy does not do the homework I give to him. when I told their mother about this she was about in tears, told me that the children don't listen to her, always fighting and especially the boy, misbehaves with her. they boy even slapped her back when she first slapped her. their mother has asked me to physically punish the children if they do not do their work. but guys I don't know what to do. like I'm sooooo against physically abusing the child ( i have been beaten up by my parent too for the smallest things and I know this scars you for the rest of your lives, but it's kinda normal in Pakistan). I think the children are really damaged because of the environment of their home, they are not the misbehaving kind of children. I just want them to get good grades and respect their mother because I believe otherwise the fee their mother gave me for tutoring them would be haram and i'd be not fulfilling the purpose. i told the boy regarding mother's status in Islam and took promise from him that he'd never do such a thing again. i want to counsel them and you know, make them feel worthy of love because the age gap between me and them is not big like i'm kind of a big sister to them so i think they'd understand what i say better as compared to their parents. so please guys pour in suggestions on how can I make these children do their work and teach a thing or two without hitting, slapping or shouting at them? I'd be really obliged. jzakAllah.