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S/w, I was looking if someone could help me! I am preparing for Pre-med exam(NEET) in India and I have an exam in my coaching institute on the 10th of Muharram. My mother wants me to give that exam but I'm VERY confused what to do! Can anyone help me?

Salam Brothers and Sisters, I am a 24 year old girl I have a job and currently living with my parents, obviously my parents wants me to get married to someone of their own choice, but I am interested in marrying a person who is 26 years old, is married and already has two children. I don't mind his first wife or his dear children and I am aware of all the rights she has over him. His current wife and children lives with his family in another city while he is currently living in the same city as me for 6 months now. He has good relationship with his wife and provide everything his wife ask for, but according to him he needs attention and respect from his life partner, also they got married young so that level of understanding which every couple should have has failed to develop between the two. Unfortunately or fortunately whatever you call it, that understanding, respect and attention has developed between him and me in a very short while and we got interested in each other and now wants to get married. The problem is that, my parents will never allow me to get married to him because of our society, his parents and wife will also not allow him, he has suggested that we should marry secretly then tell my parents about it, and then after about 2 years or after I bear his child he will inform his parents and wife so that my position is equal to his first wife. Islam has allowed 4 marriages and he has the right to get married to any woman without his wife's consent , until he provide all of his wives equally. I have no such intentions that he leaves his first wife, I have no issue that he gives time to his first wife, continue his sexual relationship with his wife , spend time with his children but his first wife can't and maybe she will want to leave him, and just to avoid that he wants to keep our marriage a secret for sometime. I know its a selfish move for us , but sometimes we just have to live for our self and nikah is the only thing which requires strong consent of the bride and groom. I want you to offer some advice in The light of Islam, am I doing right? I know our society will never accept our marriage but I have to answer My Allah not this society , I want to make sure that I am not sabotaging the rights of his first wife and according to Islam, further planning to commit any kind of sin which I have to answer to Allah. According to Islam can I marry such person? Is my decision of nikah first and telling my parents after will be the right move? Please offer your advice , thanks in advance.

Alsalam Alaykum! So...sometime ago I got a marriage proposal from a very nice guy. We have talked four times in total, and to be honest, I really like him. I think he's a very nice guy (so far), and we have the same sense of humor. We have talked about education and about ideas for the future, and I know that he has plans and knows what he wants in life. He has finished his education, while I am in my last year of "high school". There is a six- almost seven-year age gap between us, but I don't think that's an issue (I am 20, and he is 26). I am just giving you some information so you know what I know. The thing is, I want to ask him questions about the future and about now and just things in general, but every time he asks me if I have a question, I forget. I guess my question is; do you have any questions that could be helpful to know the answer to, for someone in my place? Maybe you could write some of the questions that you have asked your spouse or fiance, that helped you make your final decision. Thanks and Jazakum Allah Khair in advance!

(bismillah) Salam. I've been introspecting for a while and I have found some aspects about myself that I really want to change. I feel really lost. I'm in my last year of school and I really regret some of the decisions I've made in the past two years. I study in the British system(O and A levels, basically). The first mistake I think I made is not going with my gut and studying economics. Because everyone in my family has a science based career, they wanted me to follow in their footsteps. I never liked science to be perfectly honest(sorry) but I didn't mind focusing on it during my O levels. Alhamdulillah, I did well and thought that the tough part was behind me. It wasn't. I thought I could finally study economics during A levels, but that didn't happen. I let myself be swayed to study science again...not the best decision I've made in my life. By the end of the second quarter of the school year, I was completely depressed. What was I doing? It was too late to shift courses. I've always been a good student, but knowing that I cant pursue what I really want to made me apathetic. I mean, what was the point? Blindly following family tradition? I didn't want that. I wanted to study economics, reach out to people, affect lives. I'm a social person, I want to have large scale social impact. Maybe, that's why I sorta like biology a little bit..who knows. The point is that this hit me really hard, and I sort of...stopped caring. I stopped attending after school classes(which is a must in Bangladesh, since teachers slack off in class so they can make extra cash outside school. It's illegal but no one does anything about it, and all the students sort of go along with it). My grades started to fall. Meanwhile, i read economics text books, books on political theory, eastern history. I started a few campaigns to try and impose censorship on pornography in Bangladesh. I got some positive results in this department. But my grades were taking a nose dive. And I didn't care. I couldn't motivate myself to sit down and study. Nothing. Even when I sat down and read a text book on physics, I couldn't remember anything the next day. My parents say I'm lazy...maybe they're right. But they could wrong too. i mean, I'm all over the place to be honest. I go to the gym daily, spend time in the library, have loads of other stuff to do that I always get done... I don't know what to do. Some of my grades are beyond repair. The only thing I was motivated to study for was the SAT, and I did really well there( i scored 2340 :D). Aside from that, nothing. I don't know what to do. My report card has turned into an ugly thing--but my teachers have nothing but good things to say about me. I contacted the best economics school here in Bangladesh, and they were willing to waive the entrance exam for me because of my SAT score. I dont know what to do. Am I being lazy, or is it something more? I don't think i'm lazy..I just kind of think it's..I dont even have words for it. Some advice would be helpful. Salam. Shahreem,

Salam, everyone! I hope Allah swt has kept all of you safe and happy. Hello, my name is Shahreem and I'm 18 years old. I had been researching Shia Islam since last year and I wanted nothing more than to declare allegiance to Imam Ali(as). However, i was still in doubt and so I took the best thing on the table. I joined a sufi order--the Ottoman Naksibendi Sufi Order. However, I was deeply distressed. I did not feel spiritually connected at all. A few days ago i finally made the decision. I declared the true Shahada and embraced Shia Islam. I have never been happier in my entire life. Shia Islam has provided me with a solution to all of my problems. It is as if I can feel the blessings of Aal Muhammad pouring down on me. There were two instances during which I asked for help from Imam Reza(as) and it immediately came, Subhanallah! However, my parents are not aware of this reversion. My father--despite living in another country--would disown me if he ever found out. My mother is sympathetic towards the Shias but is unsure of converting( I dont think she ever will, unfortunately). I am unsure how to go about this whole situation if my dad ever calls me to lead the prayer when he visits( he's somewhat of a Zakir Naik follower, however he started disliking him since he learned that Mr.Naik praised Yazid). I'd love to know how i can handle this situation from you guys. Overall, I am just so happy now to be part of the Shia family. I'm nothing less than excited to learn of all the rituals part of Shi'sm--Ashura, Hajj, Arbaeen, Mutah, and so much more! I've finally found the role models I can look to for any thing in my life, Alhamdulillah. I'd love to get to know all of you--this is the first time I'll be interacting with other Shia Muslims, as there no other Shias in my city. Salam!

As Salamu aleykum! What is the Islamic position on surrogate motherhood? Please someone help me with this question, I have Religion exam on monday 17th.