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Salam aleikum, I have a question regarding the validity of adding conditions in a marriage contract. From my understanding, having conditions is permissible if the rights of both parties are respected. However, I was in the process of getting engaged to someone after two years together but he did not know this was permissible and viewed it as a breach of trust. He has since terminated the relationship as he believed that I did not trust him whereas I viewed having conditions as a source of protection and accountability. My question is, is having stipulations in a marriage contract a cultural norm or does it have religious validity. If it is based in Islam, would it be possible to receive concrete facts on its validity from the Qu'ran or the Hadiths? Thank you very much for your help and insights!

Asalamalakum Brothers and Sister, I was married to a Sunni man in my very early 20's however we did separate two years after due to a variety of issues. I am happy to say i have spent a number of years happily single raising my two children. I have had offers for marriage but i was not interested therefore declined all of them. However I did meet someone by chance and we are engaged and i am very much in love and very excited to spend our lives together. This being my second marriage I want to make my own conditions for the Nikah contract, my previous contract was done via my father and it took me 2 years in court to actually be able to Divorce because the way the contract was drawn up and i received no Mahr at all and still receive no financial help for my two children because I am raising them Shia and he does not approve or support this. Mahr for me isn't very important, this is a real love thing, but i do want to be smart about the conditions, My future husband is from Qatif, Saudi Arabia. He has never been married before, and he does plan to eventually move us all from Canada (where i was born and raised) to Saudi Arabia to live and manage businesses. I want to make sure i am protected and am still able to attend university again if i wish or work. I do not accept a second wife so i want to include that as well, and i want to make sure i am still able to travel freely with my two children and any children he and i have with out having to receive his "permission" (as far as i know i would require that) in order to fly from Saudi Arabia. I am asking you all to help me make conditions you might think are important or beneficial for my Nikah contract. Thanks