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Eveytime i go to Shia something create confusion in my mind, It makes me want to try Malik fiqh and Sufism, is this thi whispers of shaytan? I try to stay shia but something trys to convince meothersiwse, what should i do?

Even if I do have to do khums, what money would I have to do it on. Birthday money, eid money, money from doing work?

Salaam, I hope everyone is keeping well and healthy amidst COVID. As stated in the title, this is going to be a personal post. I’m currently in my 20’s/female, when I was younger I was groomed by a female authoritative figure. I come from an abusive household, (my father), I’m still vulnerable not sure if that’s relevant. She is also a Shia too. I never understood what it was or meant but all I knew was I felt it deep in my heart I was meant to be with her. It left a massive scar in my heart and I think I’m unable to ever understand why it even happened but alhamdillah, it could’ve been much worse. I even prayed to get over the heart break and find someone new or at peace. Here comes the part none of you will like, I’ve got a girlfriend of almost a year now. She’s been so patient with everything. She’s so strong hanging on whilst I make the choice. Fully take her out of my life for my sake in the next life or risk it all, given how merciful Allah is. Im currently keeping back on track with prayers and trying to closer myself to God inshAllah. I know this sounds so stupid, but I just want to know are my prayers valid at all whilst being with a girl or am I just being a bad person while continuing to pray ? I don’t understand why I can’t have both and it’s really hurting me. I’m not carrying out any sexual acts with her or myself. Ive recently just had a major freak out about how The End will come, like is it painful ? What will it look like, will the Blast of the trumpet deafen me ? I’m just so scared about dying and ending up in Hell. I understand Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) is so so so merciful! This is why i’m so confused about being with a girl whilst I continue to pray. I am aware of homosexuality being haram in every religion. Thank you for reading my dilemma, any advice is always useful. Please don’t hate on me, I’m crying myself to sleep every night and making dua that things will work out for the best. If anyone could pass this onto a scholar, I would really appreciate that inshAllah. Stay safe everyone!

Aoa, i heard a shia scholar saying that every time a mother feeds her baby, she can ask for money from her husband, i later discussed that with my father and he said that it is not true. i just wanna know what does islam say about this.

as salaam alakim!! I followed the advice of bros/sis on here before, but it seems im not accepted as a shia im my community! I heard some one say im not shia im treated like an outcast, my shia community is small and the center is far south and out of the way, I have no shia friends or bros to interact with. Im takin as a joke, I don't feel accepted, I feel like im being ignored. What should I do?

as salaam alakim! Shia bros and Sis, I'm in a dilemma, I converted to shia,but I'm still thinking about sunni. There was once a shia center here, but its closing, its far from me too, and a man I know wants me to go to jumah,hes encouraging me and even gave me money for bus fare, he doesn't kno I'm shia, and I don't plan on telling him,he wants me to go to a sunni mosque,im so scared and confused,i took the money and put it on my bus card,i tried to go to the shia center for Friday prayer but I was too late,its way across town, he wants me to go to sunni mosques,thats why I made the thread,can I go to a sunni mosque for jumah,(most masjids here are salafi!) I'm thinking about taking a shafi-sunni, class, but I'm still hanging on to shia,im so confused, what should I do?

i am intrested in a guy but i am not sure whether he is shia or sunni. i need help

SalamAlaykum Brothers and sisters. I hope you are all well in shaa Allah. Basically I had a question regarding this Ayat. It's 4:163 Surah An-Nisa, Verse 163: إِنَّا أَوْحَيْنَا إِلَيْكَ كَمَا أَوْحَيْنَا إِلَىٰ نُوحٍ وَالنَّبِيِّينَ مِن بَعْدِهِ وَأَوْحَيْنَا إِلَىٰ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَإِسْمَاعِيلَ وَإِسْحَاقَ وَيَعْقُوبَ وَالْأَسْبَاطِ وَعِيسَىٰ وَأَيُّوبَ وَيُونُسَ وَهَارُونَ وَسُلَيْمَانَ وَآتَيْنَا دَاوُودَ زَبُورًا Surely We have revealed to you as We revealed to Nuh, and the prophets after him, and We revealed to Ibrahim and Ismail and Ishaq and Yaqoub and the tribes, and Isa and Ayub and Yunus and Haroun and Sulaiman and We gave to Dawood Zabuur (English - Shakir) via iQuran --------____________======___________ Why are the Prophets in such a order in this Ayat. I mean Noah Abraham Isaac Ishmael and Jacob make sense because of the Genealogy but the rest of those Prophets in the Ayat I have no clue. Has any of you come across this Ayat and maybe asked the same Question. Why being in such a Order. And for those who will say that it isn't important etc. I will reply to say that there is always a reason why Allah reveales the Ayat in a specific way. I wanna know in shaa Allah. Cant wait for the replies!!!

I am a proud Shia, but I've come across a bump. Almost all the muslims I know are Sunni and I know that Shiaism is correct. I'm just not sure why anymore. Help please? I'm really young, not going to state my age, but under 15.

I'm a young Muslim girl who knows my wrong and rights, Alhamdulillah I don't drink smoke or anything. My brother brought a Bundaberg pineapple and coconut sparkling drink, I checked the ingredients it dosnt show any alcohol ingredient, as I was drinking it one of my friends tell me that it has alcohol in it, I searched it up online and found out that they have 0.5% alcohol in their drinks. I'm confused, am I nejes? Do I have to make ghussul or is their anything I could do? Do I throw away the drinks? Is 0.5% something that is haram? Someone help please?

I don't think I understand. Are the Shia being targeted? And, if so, for what reason?

Salaam brothers and sisters I am new to all this and I would love your help I did istikhara through the Quran and this was what i got (31:31) Do you not see that ships sail in the sea by Allah's Grace that He may show you some of His Signs?55 Surely there are Signs in this for everyone who is steadfast, thankful I really don't know if this is a positive meaning or negative. i feel like its positive because it is saying the word "thankful" so is Allah swt trying to tell me I should be thankful for the brother asking for my hand? Please can you help me JazakAllah Khair

Salam Alaikum Everyone, Okay sooooo I know it is our islamic duty to respect our parents at all times, in all situations etc. but, but. My mother is an emotionally/verbally abusive person who has anger management issues. I know I sound like a whiny child but every since I was very young she treated me as if I had the mental capacity to understand certain issues that a child doesn't at that age. This could be related to the fact that she was single and probably craving adult understanding. She is extremely explosive and never admits to making any sort of mistake. She blames me constantly for her mistakes and when I defend myself, tells me that I am being disgustingly rude and ungrateful. I appreciate everything she has done for me (raised me as a single mother while juggling a full time career) but the way she treats me contributed to so many mental health problems that she again, became angry with me for. All this changed slightly when she remarried another man but anyway, How much do I have to respect her? and am I obliged to respect her husband as a "father"?

Can someone please give me the reason and tafseer behind this ayah: نِسَآؤُكُمۡ حَرۡثٌ لَّـكُمۡ فَاۡتُوۡا حَرۡثَكُمۡ اَنّٰى شِئۡتُمۡ Your wives are your tilth; go, then, into your tilth as you wish

(bismillah) Salam. I've been introspecting for a while and I have found some aspects about myself that I really want to change. I feel really lost. I'm in my last year of school and I really regret some of the decisions I've made in the past two years. I study in the British system(O and A levels, basically). The first mistake I think I made is not going with my gut and studying economics. Because everyone in my family has a science based career, they wanted me to follow in their footsteps. I never liked science to be perfectly honest(sorry) but I didn't mind focusing on it during my O levels. Alhamdulillah, I did well and thought that the tough part was behind me. It wasn't. I thought I could finally study economics during A levels, but that didn't happen. I let myself be swayed to study science again...not the best decision I've made in my life. By the end of the second quarter of the school year, I was completely depressed. What was I doing? It was too late to shift courses. I've always been a good student, but knowing that I cant pursue what I really want to made me apathetic. I mean, what was the point? Blindly following family tradition? I didn't want that. I wanted to study economics, reach out to people, affect lives. I'm a social person, I want to have large scale social impact. Maybe, that's why I sorta like biology a little bit..who knows. The point is that this hit me really hard, and I sort of...stopped caring. I stopped attending after school classes(which is a must in Bangladesh, since teachers slack off in class so they can make extra cash outside school. It's illegal but no one does anything about it, and all the students sort of go along with it). My grades started to fall. Meanwhile, i read economics text books, books on political theory, eastern history. I started a few campaigns to try and impose censorship on pornography in Bangladesh. I got some positive results in this department. But my grades were taking a nose dive. And I didn't care. I couldn't motivate myself to sit down and study. Nothing. Even when I sat down and read a text book on physics, I couldn't remember anything the next day. My parents say I'm lazy...maybe they're right. But they could wrong too. i mean, I'm all over the place to be honest. I go to the gym daily, spend time in the library, have loads of other stuff to do that I always get done... I don't know what to do. Some of my grades are beyond repair. The only thing I was motivated to study for was the SAT, and I did really well there( i scored 2340 :D). Aside from that, nothing. I don't know what to do. My report card has turned into an ugly thing--but my teachers have nothing but good things to say about me. I contacted the best economics school here in Bangladesh, and they were willing to waive the entrance exam for me because of my SAT score. I dont know what to do. Am I being lazy, or is it something more? I don't think i'm lazy..I just kind of think it's..I dont even have words for it. Some advice would be helpful. Salam. Shahreem,

(salam) Hi, everyone. It looks like I'll have to go to salat al Jummah with my Dad this Friday. Now, I obviously can't pray like a Jafari in front of him, nor can I get an excuse to sit somewhere else. Am I allowed to pray like a Hanafi--under taqiyyah--and make up for it by praying Dhur-Asr in the usual way when I get back home?(I can pray with my door closed). Salam.

(bismillah) (salam) Okay, so to get this straight, betting on horse racing is allowed as long as you are not a random onlooker or an owner of the horse. Wat? Who else is even involved? I live near a horse racing track and betting goes on quite frequently. The owners of the horses and the onlookers bet on who will win. Who is betting if it's not onlookers or owners? Why is it halal for them but not for the rest of us? :dry: (wasalam)

Assalamualaikum everyone. I couldn't fit my entire issue in the topic title. Honestly, I have more than one issue. I'll start with the first. As the title says, I am a sunni girl from Pakistan who is of marrying age, and is interested in marrying a man I have known since I was probably 11 or 12 years old. He also wants to marry me, but as the title shows, he is Shia. Both of us are invested deeply in our faith, and both of our parents know that we are interested in each other. But because of the Shia Sunni conflict, they don't agree. And his parents seem to have more of a problem with me than mine do with his. In all honesty, my parents don't have that much of an issue with him, they have an issue with his parents. So I'm stuck there. Next issue: Not because of this, but a long time ago, I started doing research about the Sunni Shia split, why it happened, etc etc. I had another friend who is Shia teach me a lot as he was more knowledgeable. A lot of what was said made so much more sense to me than my own sunni history. The history behind the ahlul-bayt and everything, it just made more sense. I debated reverting to Shiasm but I know my parents would not approve of it. I also feel that since I only learned from a Shia side of things, it may be a little biased. Basically I am asking for reasons to stay with sunnism or revert. As I said, the history makes sense, but I don't know. Maybe it just doesn't feel right. I am very conflicted. Just for the record, as stated earlier, I am a very practicing muslim. I wear a hijab, pray, read quran, etc my faith is very important to me. I just don't understand what to do. Jazakallah Khair

Salam, So basically right now i have a decision to make of what to do with my life, im going to keep it a bit vague since people on the internet do not need to know the details of my personal life. So option 1 is to follow my deen to the best of my ability and do what I want with my life and still respect my family option 2 is to selectively follow my deen and do what i want with my life and option 3 is to not follow my deen and listen to my parents (they are sunni and would love to choose my future, career, etc.) Option 3 is easiest but most unhappy outcome, but geniunely having a hard time deciding between the three. I know option 1 is right but i really change my mind like every day because I cant decide and I dont know what i want, like I seriously dont know. I know whats right but what would be your guys advice in helping me come to a decision? Yes i pray and make dua but i still find myself at some point in the day thinking about option 2 or 3 seriously because they are easier. Its upsetting to me because usually I can make a decision and stick with it and follow it through but i find myself unsure right now... Im just wasting time not making a decision. Like ive never felt it be so difficult to just follow the right option, I mean i started wearing hijab even when people told me not too and I became shia despite being surrounded by sunnis who thought it was wrong. I feel like I dont know whats wrong with me and why I cant just make the right decision and follow through and I find myself mostly just avoiding thinking about this problem... and the ways i avoid thinking about it cause me to become further from my deen (ie listening to music, wasting money, going out a lot with friends and wasting money, wasting time etc.) Any advice is greatly appreciated. ws

Salam All :) Okay I know this question has been asked 100000000000000000000000000000000...times but is music haraam ?? Let me finish lol :P Like are all time of music haraam..even the ones that dont keep you " away" from Allah ?? For an example..Islamic music :/ It has some drums beats and pianos and such..Would that too also be consider haram ? Ws :) Thanks in Advance :D