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I have to be honest here, I tend to backbite quite a lot. But having said that, a lot of the things I say about people, if not everything, is said without an evil intention. I'll try to give a couple of examples without naming names to give you an idea of the context in which I backbite, and to ask you if it is still unacceptable, or if it can be overlooked: 1) Let's suppose I support a football team and a player leaves the club I support. Would me insulting him be considered backbiting? 2) Sticking to the same context of football, if a player from a club I support misses a penalty, or misses an open goal, would insulting that player be considered back biting, bearing in mind what I said above about me not meaning what I say? 3) Again sticking to football, what if a player performs poorly and I mention his poor performance, is that backbiting. To expand on this, sometimes you find in newspapers or online, players are rated based on their performance. If they are given a low score and it's said that they were not at their best, or where no good, is that backbiting? 4) I understand I'm going on quite a bit so I'll make this my last example. What if I am talking behind the back of a friend. Not insulting them, nor disrespecting them, maybe just joking about them in the same way I would if they in front of me anyway. So I'm not saying anything I wouldn't say if they were present, is that backbiting? I understand that there will be a difference of opinion, which is why I have forwarded a similar question to Sistani but nevertheless having a variety of opinions may help me understand the situation a bit more, so thank you for any replies :D