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  1. I am aware that there are certain boundaries that are forbidden to be crossed in terms of marriage. And since I am unable to get a clear answer from other sources, I am looking here for the same. Is it permitted to marry your mom's aunt's daughter?
  2. I am trying to become religious, but I manage for a couple of days and then fail, by missing a salah. I need some advice. I have bought an English translation of the Quran which I am reading.
  3. Assalamu alaykum everyone, Insha’Allah you are in the best of health. I was reluctant to make this topic because I feel quite ashamed that I’m unable to shed any tears for the Ahlulbayt and Imam Hussain (عليه السلام). I’ve tried to solve this issue on my own but it seems so far I haven’t succeeded. For brief context as some may already know I’m a revert from Ahlul-Sunnah to the Ahlulbayt school of thought. This is my first Muharram actually acknowledging what took place during the tragic events leading up to the 10th of Muharram and Ashura. I don’t know why but whenever I watch lectures, although inside I deeply feel pain, I cannot shed any tears. I don’t know if this is because over the years I have become numb due to life circumstances, or, Allah forbid, my heart has become hard. My feeling instead is anger. Anger at myself for previously being ignorant, anger at those who lied and hid the story of Ashura etc. Instead of being able to cry I’m filled with the urge to do action, any form to make sure I don’t let down the Imam of our time (عليه السلام) like Imam Hussain (عليه السلام) was let down by people. Because I have to hide my faith in my house I cannot openly participate in Muharram in lamenting the events, which also discourages me from expressing my emotions out of fear being questioned etc. I’m scared this will affect my iman. My family aren’t practicing so of course there is the added temptations with the pressure to conform to their way of life. Any advice is welcome. Jazak’Allah, from your sister in Islam.
  4. Bismillah i Rahman i Raheem Assalaam o 'Alaikum Wa Rahmatullah i Wa Barakaatuh I am currently a student in high school. I've had an interest in mathematics and physics, but I may not be able to pursue that interest due to some past incidents where some cruel people sabotaged my academics and due to some other financial issues. My life plan was to initially study these two subjects and then after that attend the Hawza at Najaf and study the faith there. However, it seems unlikely for this to be the case, so I have been thinking about turning the plan on its head, such that I study at Hawza e Najaf instead first, and if I live long enough, study physics and mathematics at some institution separately. I am aware of how different life will be if I choose to live in Najaf and how I'll need to make a living there, especially due to language issues considering I am from Pakistan, and my understanding of arabic/farsi is essentially absolutely zero, but I have heard it isn't impossible to live there even with these issues. I write this post in seeking guidance as to how to apply to the Hawza, how to essentially get admitted there, and study there. I would sincerely appreciate this help. JazakAllah Wa 'Alaikum Assalaam Wa Rahmatullah i Wa Barakaatuh
  5. Salaam The users on here who are married have given some solid and logical advice on marriage. Stuff like, make sure you find a partner you can tolerate, look past the initial charm, and don't ignore red flags. A question for those married users: what would you say is an important area for a young person to become mature in (knowledge-wise, personality-wise, mentality-wise, etc.) before getting married? And is there a certain amount of religious knowledge muslims should have before getting married? Someone who has never held a job before, lives with their parents, continuously tries to learn about their religion.....<-- is a pretty average scenario for muslims around me that I know. But those people have never lived with a stranger, might not know much about personal finance........they might want to get married, but what advice would you give to them before they start looking for a spouse? In what ways should they work on "self-improvement" before marriage?
  6. On Reddit, I’ve come across a self-proclaimed “ex-Muslim,” who even happens to be an Iraqi Shia residing in the USA. Most of his claims are based on misinterpretations of the Quran, and I have duly refuted them. But he seems to know nothing about Shiism other than “some guy named Ali wanted to be leader.” (Astaghfirallah, his words not mine) Meaning that his “reasons” for leaving Islam had nothing to do with the Jaafari school of thought and had to do with Islam in general. I’ve told him that there is a tremendous difference between Shiism and Sunnism, but how can I bring him back to the deen without overwhelming him? I’ve shown him some of the scientific miracles in the Quran, but he merely shrugs them off. Any advice?
  7. My English and Arabic are comparatively equal, however, I oftentimes find myself within a conundrum. For example there are many works Islamic or otherwise which are accessible in both languages, and I don’t know which to choose the Arabic version or the English version. Should I read the text as it was originally written? (This seems self-explanatory unless someone would like to kindly add on) The main issue I am having is a book written in a different language such as Greek and then translated to both languages, for example The Republic. Which language should I choose to read when it comes to translated works? I am not in favor of reading the same book in both languages as it is a bit time consuming and I seek the gist of things, unless it’s a major work such as Tafsir Al-Mizan, would it be a good idea to interchangeably read for example a book in Arabic the next in English? I would highly appreciate any advice that I can receive and the most viable approach in your respective opinions. Also when it comes to Islamic works even if they are written in Farsi should I always choose the Arabic translation over the English? Such as the works of Ali Shariati, Martyr Muttahari, etc.
  8. I have a great problem with procrastination its making me very lazy and putting me down heavily; I aspire to do so many things, read all the books on my shelf, go to the gym consistently, study assiduously, write, meditate, I can just go on and on. I could really use some advice that can help me beat this issue.
  9. Hi there, Today I am writing this blog for advice and help on how I, a 20-year old white girl, can become a 'better' Muslim. I was raised in a white family; none of whom believe in God. Whilst they are usually very understanding, due to the way that media is here, my immediate family are somewhat scared and intimidated by Islam. But I don't want to argue with them, or confront them. I really wish to educate them and let them watch through my own evolution that Islam is not something to fear. I have nobody around me that is Muslim, and I am not really sure where I can find information to educate myself that isn't biased (not to be rude, just a general thought based on my experience with the internet). I am very new to Islam, so I would like to learn as much as possible before I then try to educate those around me. What can I do, and what would you recommend for me to do that would enable to me to learn more about Islam and how to include it into my every day life? Thank you for your time, I really appreciate any feedback you can give me. This is something very close to my heart.
  10. Salam! After being with my Shia friends, as well as researching both Sunni and Shia doctrines, I've converted into a Shia Muslim ( I was a Sunni before). It's been three weeks as of today, and its been difficult since I live with my Sunni family. The thing is, I haven't told my family yet. They don't depsie Shias, they are just very pro-Sunni. I know that if I do, I will be disowned and I will get kicked out of my house. What should I do? I know I have to tell them soon, and the truth will come out, because it'll create a lot of problems in the future. There were times were I almost got caught/questioned, and I got to see their reaction to it. Please, any advice would be help. Jazakallah Khair.
  11. Salmon Alaykum, I am looking for seminal books on marriage, divorce and child raring in Shia Islam. Recommendations would be highly appreciated. I am also looking for advice in regard to the purchase of Shia books online or offline anywhere in the United Kingdom. Is there a platform like Kindle and Amazon for Shia books? If not is there a place that has a comprehensive selection from which people can purchase books, books like الزواج في القران و السنة للشهيد السيد عز الدين بحر العلوم Thank you in advance for your answers.
  12. Salams Everyone, first time poster here! This has been on my mind for almost 10 years now and I have joined Shiachat with the intention of getting some advice. To summarise, about 10 years ago, I was diagnosed with a terminal condition. I didn't tell my family (and still haven't) as they would be devastated and I couldn't put them through that and I would still never tell them to save them the pain. Instead, I kept it to myself and I turned to Allah (سُبْحَانَهُ وَ تَعَالَى) and I prayed, and prayed hard - vowing to go to visit the Imam (عليه السلام) in either Iraq or Iran - wherever I could go. All I needed was a sign. Whether or not I was right, I believe received that sign soon after - I dreamt one night that I was in a jamaat salaat, and as I was about to go into Sajda, A man very tenderly kissed the side of my neck exactly where the 'condition' was diagnosed. It was SO real that I woke up. I felt it, I actually heard it and I could feel it even after I was wide awake and sitting up in bed. I even considered the possibility that my father was in the room. I got the feeling straight away that this was Imam Reza ((عليه السلام)). I should add that this dream was particularly odd for me as I had never regular at prayers, let alone in a Jamaat. Miracle / Sign or not, It felt real enough for me to jump on the next Ziyarat Trip to Iran and visit the Imam ((عليه السلام)) personally. In Iran, I really felt connected with the Imam ((عليه السلام)), and begged him that I wouldn't leave empty handed (those were my specific words). Randomly one evening, an average, normal looking man (who I can only think must have worked there) approached me very directly near the Zari of Imam and handed me a handful of petals. I had no idea what this was so I asked him, and he pointed at the Zari. I still didn't know what this was for, so I asked another Ziareen and he said something like 'Make a dua and put in the Zari'. Not knowing better, I did exactly that, but ended up keeping one single petal. Only later did I realise that these were the petals from the top of the Zari of Imam Reza, and this may have been the gift I begged for. For the last 10 years I have kept that petal safely and very, very carefully, not knowing what to do with it. But I inherently feel like I'm meant to do something with it. Life, career etc have all kept moving (Alhumdulilah) but I'm not cured and can't help but wonder if it's because I haven't done what I'm supposed to do with this gift. I'm curious to get my fellow brother / sisters take on the following: 1. What should I do with this? I've considered everything from eating it to putting it in water and drinking the water. 2. Could this have been the gift I was asking for, which I haven't benefitted from? 3. If this is, in fact, a gift from Imam ((عليه السلام)) with shifa then I desperately want to share it first with my family who are also suffering in other ways - how should I do this? I'm known to be pretty bright, intelligent and a very rational person - and very open to the possibility that all of this is my imagination or a random series of coincidences. However, if this is a gift that I haven't realised, I feel I MUST do it in the right way. There may be shifa given to me that I haven't benefited from. Anyway, as I said this has been on my mind for a decade. Any advice / insight / thoughts / knowledge anyone can share? Jazakallah Brothers / Sisters
  13. Hi everyone! I need your advice. I`ve been thinhing about divorce. It will be my first divorce and I don`t know which method of divorce will be more convenient and cheap. I have heard a lot about online services and colleagues said about one of this named DivorceFiller . Or I shoud divorce through standart procedure of divorce ? Give me advice , please!
  14. Hello all, I am a female going to Karbala and Najaf for the first time from the USA. I was wondering if someone would be able to answer some of my questions. It will greatly be appreciated. Thanks: 1) I know that makeup is not allowed. But what about eyelash extensions? These are fake individual lashes that are placed on your real lashes. They look natural. I just don't want anyone giving me a hard time for having them. 2) I am going to be on my menstrual cycle. Is there any advice regarding this? 3) Any other advice will greatly be appreciated. Thank-you.
  15. Asalamalakum Brothers and Sister, I was married to a Sunni man in my very early 20's however we did separate two years after due to a variety of issues. I am happy to say i have spent a number of years happily single raising my two children. I have had offers for marriage but i was not interested therefore declined all of them. However I did meet someone by chance and we are engaged and i am very much in love and very excited to spend our lives together. This being my second marriage I want to make my own conditions for the Nikah contract, my previous contract was done via my father and it took me 2 years in court to actually be able to Divorce because the way the contract was drawn up and i received no Mahr at all and still receive no financial help for my two children because I am raising them Shia and he does not approve or support this. Mahr for me isn't very important, this is a real love thing, but i do want to be smart about the conditions, My future husband is from Qatif, Saudi Arabia. He has never been married before, and he does plan to eventually move us all from Canada (where i was born and raised) to Saudi Arabia to live and manage businesses. I want to make sure i am protected and am still able to attend university again if i wish or work. I do not accept a second wife so i want to include that as well, and i want to make sure i am still able to travel freely with my two children and any children he and i have with out having to receive his "permission" (as far as i know i would require that) in order to fly from Saudi Arabia. I am asking you all to help me make conditions you might think are important or beneficial for my Nikah contract. Thanks
  16. As-Salaam-Alaikum I was wondering if it is haram to get a nose job to fix my crooked nose as i got into a car accident in the past. It's making me very self conscious and anxious.
  17. Salaam. I am a Syed Shia girl. I have met a very pious Syed man, but he is from the Ahmadiyya community. He does not agree with all their views and he accepts, understands and is leaning towards Shiism. However he is officially ahmadi and takes part in all their activities. When I explain about Shiism to him, he respects it and even wishes to take part in Majalis, Azadari etc. He is a very kind person, and respects me very much and is exactly what I'd want in a future partner and I'm afraid I won't find it again. I believe he would convert if it was not for family pressure and fear of hurting his parents. I understand that their views are completely against ours, but what would your religious opinion be on this. And what if he converts to Shiism? Would it be wrong as it may seem he chose it for me and not for the right path? Please advise. Kind regards.
  18. Need advice. I'm a 20 year old girl from Pennsylvania. Currently working on my Poli Sci degree, I have about 2 years left but I dont think Ill make it that long. I dont think I cant handle living with my family anymore. I am really sick and tired of my life style here. They disrespect me constantly, dislike me, think im a [Edited Out] (mind you ive never done anything behind their backs or been with any guy), their always fighting even for the simplest thing. This lifestyle is so toxic, I am literally so exhausted from my life they make me HATE it. I understand they been through alot of [Edited Out], but that doesn't give them the right to make my life a living hell and make my life horrible just because theirs was. They are tempered and angry and I cant even have a civilized conversation with them because of how tempered and disrespectful they are. There is absolutely no trust between us, mostly because I have an older sister who made some mistakes when she was younger and now my parents dislike/distrust me because of her. I cant do anything they are so strict and im getting fed up. I literally cant even study in a library on campus to long. One time I got accused of not being a virgin because I was hanging with my two friends ( there was no guys, we were just chillin by the river) in the forest of our campus. I have tried alot with them but at this point I dont give a damn about anyone in my family anymore. This year I really distanced myself from my parents, I understand islam teaches us to love and keep contact with our parents, but I cannot see a future with such toxic disgusting hateful people. If they were respectful, and treated me better, and trusted me I would do anything for them and stay. But my younger brother who is 4 years old, gets more respect than me. its unbelievable. This is not a life worth living, constantly being told what to do and im 20, no trust no respect nothing and I am SICK and tired of being called a [Edited Out] and [Edited Out] they tried to mentally [Edited Out] with my mind and try to make me believe im crazy and im a [Edited Out] finally after all this time i realized its THEM they are toxic and just like cancer I need to cut them out before it kills me. I want to completely leave and start a new life, leave behind all the bad memories. Do you think it will eventually backfire on me if I just up and leave suddenly one day without telling them? I hate saying it but its come to the point where I literally cannot stand them, I spend almost every night crying for hours wishing for death- literally thats all Ive been praying for since I was younger. The only thing that stopped me from leaving years ago was my baby brothers I love them so much. I dont understand my "parents", what hurts me most is they dont even realize how much pain they caused, not once do they own up to problems or admit their wrong. They dont act their age and take responsibility for problems instead they blame it on us just like how they blamed my sisters mistake on me when i was only 14. And another thing that hurts me is how my mother goes against me when I stand up for her when my dad gets angry, because I am a girl, they are soooooooooo sexist constantly cursing girls saying we should die. So what do I do, I havent gotten any sleep these past few weeks, they literally, LITERALLY make me so sad sometimes I cant even function. Should I leave now or should I wait till I graduate. Should I just up and leave one day or should I attempt to leave on good terms. As I said before, I love my family but I cant live like this anymore they are like a cancer.
  19. I FEEL THE NEED TO CONTACT A SOOTHSAYER IS IT BAD? WHAT ARE ITS CONSEQUENCES?
  20. I am at an important juncture of my life and need advice regarding which way to go. As Imams (a.s.) have told us to consult our momins brothers in moments of confusion, so um here. I am 28 and doing a good prestigious job in a muslim country. After a lot of thinking I realized if I want real price for my life and if something is really worth achieving in life and if I want to live with the best people after the Imams, then I should join a Hauza Ilmia. In my country I have the option of appearing in competitive exams and I am confident I can get a really powerful govt.administrative job. This job is not only full of glamour of power but I perhaps may be able to help someone. But then I fear that I shall become and shall be forced to become the part of the corrupt system. I shall start taking bribes and live luxorios life. Even if I remain honest, and say I am responsible for the administration of an area, shall I be able to check all the haram being done under my authority without my knowledge.Shall I be questioned about it on the day of judgement. Summary: Should I go to Hauza for spiritual life or Take a powerfull administrative job in a muslim country that really corrupt and run by a system that is not fully Islamic.
  21. Salaam, I was fortunate enough to have a mentor when I started my professional life. I went to him a couple of times with some work problems and he said, "(ShiaMan) - don't come to me with problems; come to me with solutions. When you come to me with problems, after a couple of times I will cringe every time I see you because I will automatically think you have a problem. But you come to me with a solutions to problem, all of a sudden you become the answer guy or the guy who solves problems, not creates them" This was the best, professional advice I received and it really works. What's the best business/professional advice you've received?
  22. As salaam alaikum. I know of some women that apply henna to their nails. I was wondering is it haram? Can you still pray/ make wudhu with henna on your nails? I've had a browse online about this matter but haven't really found anything on this topic. Any advice/ knowledge would be much appreciated as I'd like to apply some to my nails but I want to make sure it's permissible first. JazakAllah in advance.
  23. Salaam all, All the women on ShiaChat - what would be the one advice you would give to a BROTHER who is about to get married? All the men on ShiaChat - what would be the one advice you would give to a SISTER who is about to get married? Advice can be related to religion or not.
  24. My boy would be marry soon in next few months. Could shiachat members give an advice about marriage's advice to both the bride (man and woman), both of each of their parents, brothers/sisters, uncles/aunty (Books/articles/fatwa or anything which is about advice/tawashaw/nasihat is ok). And also the tradition of the prophet when he (sawa) marry his (sawa) daughter to Imam Ali a.s. I am pursuing from al-islam.org and got some of pdf file. Thank you in advance.
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