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I was in a relationship with a muslim guy for only about 6 months. Im not a muslim myself. We ended the relationship 2 months ago and I found out shortly after that I am pregnant. We have a age gap of 12 years, and he has always known that Im was not on any birthcontrol. He was okay with it. I was always thinking about the age difference, because I am the older one, and wasnt sure how we could make this Work, mostly because of he being muslim and Im not. But he was always positive and said we would fix it somehow. I cared a lot about him. But it ended because it could not work. And now I am pregnant. And he does not want me to keep the baby, saying I will ruin his whole life. Not sure where Im toing with this but I need advice. How much will I damage him and his family. What should I do?

Are shias more likly to accept converts from sunni or converts from non muslims? I read a threat on here about marriage too! is this a factor?

I'm having a bit of a problem. I was in a relationship with an Arabic shia Muslim for a year. I'm a white american woman who was never made to follow any religion but I am highly spiritual and open minded to many courses of faith. The two of us were/are in love and both talked actively about our future together. I didn't realize his parents wouldn't be accepting at all, but I think he hoped they would be regardless of previous struggles in the family regarding this issue. Within the last couple weeks, he finally told them about me and they reacted badly--said some things he wouldn't repeat to me and threatened to disown him if he continued on. They are still angry with him and have shortened their leash by a lot. He obeyed them and broke up with me, but we both still have feelings for each other and I know he would have married me had they been accepting. He is worried about their health and doesn't want to further anger them or cause rifts in the family by pushing this issue. I am hardworking, in school, in a great position at my job, and he and I both encourage each other's goals. I know I would make a great wife and good daughter to them. I find his respect and love for his family extremely admirable and is part of what makes me love him like I do. I love the culture and am interested in the faith and said I would be willing to convert. He said his parents weren't upset just because I'm not Muslim, but also because I'm white and because I come from a white family with divorced parents. He says nothing will ever change their mind. I am willing to be patient, understanding, and withstand the negativity to get through to them but he says they won't change. I know the religion permits a man marry a converted woman and that racism is frowned upon (because Allah created us all from the same man and woman) but he says they are set in their ways. I still want to attempt to reach out to them, and bridge this gap, with love, respect, and patience in my heart. I also know that dating is haram and that my boyfriend/ex boyfriend never should have pursued it in the first place, but we're past that now and that's part of the reason why I want his parents' respect to continue forward the correct way. I would never ask him to choose--I want to be PART of the family. Does anyone have any advice on how to reach out to them? Thank you, peace and blessings be upon you all

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