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Salam My friend said that he would do dua istikhara on wether sunni or shia islam is right. Is his dua going to have the right answer. If yes, then doesnt that prove once and for all which sect of Islam is on Haqq

Salam I want to know if having more than one motive/Niyyat can be counted as good and for the sake of Allah. For example: Let's say I help a poor person by giving him some money, I have 3 motives behind doing this, 1. because I think God will increase my wealth if I give charity 2. Because God will be pleased with me if I give money this poor person and 3. because I feel it is a good act, therefore I am obliged to do it for the sake of its goodness. What is the status of having such motives? I know that we are supposed to do everything for the sake of God, and I accept that but sometimes it is impossible for me to restrict my thoughts to 1 motive. For example: I see a poor person, immediately I think God will be pleased with me if I help him, and so as I approach to help this person , in the mean time, different motives/thoughts appear in my mind which seem selfish and contractual e.g. God will reward me for this. Or I see a poor person and I feel sad for him because of his poverty and I help him because he is poor and I can help him, so I help him because he is poor and I do this good act only for the sake of its goodness, but then I remember God later on and remember that he is also pleased with me for such an act. Would such a Niyyat/intention/motive be counted as a righteous and "for God" type of Niyyat? I hope you understand what I am trying to say, I am not good at explaining my thoughts.

Sisters are free to join in, I posted this here because it may not be suitable, due to its explicit nature, in the family and social forums. I know there is nothing wrong if a man marries because of his basic need for sex. I still cannot see this from a girl's point of view. There will obviously be problems if you choose a spouse simply because she looks good and I know spouse selection and marriage is much more than that. This thread is about why Men/Women see it as deviant for a person to enter a marriage because of his sexual needs? Often I see people advising young men that they should not marry because of sex but what I think they fail to realise is that sex and lust is what motivates men to get married, you could act all sisterly on me about this point but those natural desires are there for a reason and purpose, so I do not think buying groceries is the main reason why men get married, I think lust is what drives men to marry. Also please don't misread this, when I say sex is what drives men I am not saying that is the only motivation but it is one of the many reasons why men get married. So what is wrong with marrying to fulfil one's needs? I keep hearing people discouraging other people away from marriage because of many reasons like money and "marriage is more than lust". No wonder why people are not marrying early. Being a young man trying to marry today is like pushing through several walls of discouragement from everyone, I wonder how many other young men are wanting marriage but their efforts are in vain because people simply don't understand what 'enjoining good' is. Also if you could list a few other reasons/motivations for why men get married other than sex would be helpful.

Also, if you are doing good randomly, without thinking of it and without remembering Allah, will Allah still reward you for that good act which is done at random? And, if you do a good act for the sake of pleasing Allah and helping someone, and you don't have any worldly benefits of that good act in mind and then you remember that this good act will please Allah and also benefit you in the future, is that still done for Allah or is it done for worldly benefits? For example, I am kind to my parents because I want to please Allah, then I also think that being kind to parents not only pleases Allah but also benefits me, and I do this good act, will it still be something I did for Allah or would it be that I did it for worldly gains? So I am nice to parents because of Sillah Rahm, and because they will help me in the future when I have financial problems, and I be nice with both of these in mind, does this mean I have done it for pleasing Allah? So please help answer if those niyyats (intentions) are counted for this world or Allah or both.